FabSwingers.com forum: Question about Sex for the first time.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Reason I'm asking this question is... well because I've never had sex and want to ask a few questions. I was in a relationship but my gf would refuse sex :/. As I'm 26 now i feel a little embarrassed about it

I'm meeting up with a girl I know ( not on this site as I'm finding it hard to get a meet) she knows I'm a virgin but I'm so scared. Can anyone offer my some advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reason I'm asking this question is... well because I've never had sex and want to ask a few questions. I was in a relationship but my gf would refuse sex :/. As I'm 26 now i feel a little embarrassed about it

I'm meeting up with a girl I know ( not on this site as I'm finding it hard to get a meet) she knows I'm a virgin but I'm so scared. Can anyone offer my some advice "

Don't do it, sex is something sacred to be shared between two people who love each other very much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh is it, so you don't think i should do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring crisps and something to drink for a mid fuck snack.

That way if it's shit then at least you both get to have crisps.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Let her take the lead and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex the first time is usually shit. Just get it over with and work on improving your experience after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think ye should take the lad seriously

Its a big thing if he's serious, but I'm not gonna be the one to give advice seeing as I lost my virginity in a ditch

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Can I ask why it is taken you so long? I'm just curious that is all.

Don't overthink things, is the best I can advice, be as relaxed as possible and don't overthink it but good luck x

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I would suggest that you don't aim for full sex. Just enjoy kissing and caressing initially. Discover what type of touch she enjoys and enjoy spending time naked and cuddling. Discuss what her previous experience is and just take things steady. Don't rush it. Have you had experience of foreplay ? Just relax and have fun.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Just enjoy it and let it happen naturally.

FOREPLAY is good... enjoy it and dont be afraid to cum... you will soon be hard again.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's actually not that unusual to still be a virgin in your mid to late twenties despite what the media and pub culture says.

Don't put pressure on yourself and don't expect too much first time round.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Don't worry about penetrative sex so early. My advice is to aim for enjoyable mutual masturbation and getting comfortable with each other for a while first. Once you're both able to help each other to come, then maybe progress onwards. Then when you do, there's a good chance it will be fantastic as you're both used to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do what you see on porn!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It's actually not that unusual to still be a virgin in your mid to late twenties despite what the media and pub culture says.

Don't put pressure on yourself and don't expect too much first time round.

This is perfect

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

liking the replies so far. just take the pressure of and enjoy exploring! and whatever happens at the end happens!

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

You will know when it's the right time for you..Everything will flow..

Good luck & keep us posted

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Take condoms and have the right size to fit your cock properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost mine when I was 22 to a friend, we were both sick of being virgins! Bad mistake.Unless its someone you really care about, hold on for the right time

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Don't worry about your performance beforehand and if you cum quickly explain to her that it's a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex the first time is usually shit. Just get it over with and work on improving your experience after that."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Took long because i think it's me being scared . Thanks for the advice
"Can I ask why it is taken you so long? I'm just curious that is all.

Don't overthink things, is the best I can advice, be as relaxed as possible and don't overthink it but good luck x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers for all the advice guys. . The deed is happening tomorrow night but I'm so nervous

I'm looking forward to it but scared at the same time. My friend suggested this site but have to say I'm finding it so hard to get a meet as I'm not verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would suggest that you don't aim for full sex. Just enjoy kissing and caressing initially. Discover what type of touch she enjoys and enjoy spending time naked and cuddling. Discuss what her previous experience is and just take things steady. Don't rush it. Have you had experience of foreplay ? Just relax and have fun. "

Or just get it In, move it about a bit and have the best thirty seconds of your life before it falls off!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Sex the first time is usually shit. Just get it over with and work on improving your experience after that."

Miss

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By *rownskinmaleMan
over a year ago

Essex

I'm meeting up with a girl I know ( not on this site as I'm finding it hard to get a meet) she knows I'm a virgin but I'm so scared. Can anyone offer my some advice "

Bullshit you can't be 26 n be a Virgin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm meeting up with a girl I know ( not on this site as I'm finding it hard to get a meet) she knows I'm a virgin but I'm so scared. Can anyone offer my some advice

Bullshit you can't be 26 n be a Virgin. "

Yes he can. I know people who were older and virgins. I had sex with one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am, I'm being 100% serious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have any expectations and don't feel you have to perform.

Enjoy being naked with someone you like and savour every touch.

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By *rownskinmaleMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I am, I'm being 100% serious. "

Wow I'm dumbfounded.

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By *rownskinmaleMan
over a year ago

Essex

I'm meeting up with a girl I know ( not on this site as I'm finding it hard to get a meet) she knows I'm a virgin but I'm so scared. Can anyone offer my some advice

Bullshit you can't be 26 n be a Virgin.

Yes he can. I know people who were older and virgins. I had sex with one. "

Lol how did you know he was a virgin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think ye should take the lad seriously

Its a big thing if he's serious, but I'm not gonna be the one to give advice seeing as I lost my virginity in a ditch

As above op...Very few first times are great due to nerves but relax and chat and who knows...You may get to have a first second time too. Best of luck

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

I'm meeting up with a girl I know ( not on this site as I'm finding it hard to get a meet) she knows I'm a virgin but I'm so scared. Can anyone offer my some advice "

Get married then do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think ye should take the lad seriously

Its a big thing if he's serious, but I'm not gonna be the one to give advice seeing as I lost my virginity in a ditch

I haven't laughed this hard in a long time!!

OP, assuming this is a genuine post, and your friend knows the situation, just take your time and don't have any expectations. You really can't do anything 'wrong' just take your time. It's the first step on a great journey

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I lost my virginity at 19 and married the first man I fucked at 23. Divorced at 26 at which time my net sexual experience was 1 person. Story has changed dramatically ever since and that's a long story. Bottom line is that you'll be fine, agree with focusing on foreplay first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she asks you to take precautions, take your watch off and fasten a plank of wood to your arse...just incase you fall in !!!

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