FabSwingers.com forum: Pictures can be deceiving!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've found over the years that some women and couples on here definitely don't match their amazing pics!! Yet others look 10 times better in the flesh than they do in their pics!! Yet I think a lot of us guys are guilty of seeing a stunning pic of a woman and wanting her!! But I've found that the ones I wasn't initially drawn too at first! They have then become the sexiest meets I've had on here?? I don't know if others have had similar experiences??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i think that putting too much effort into pics can mean they are more about appearance than actually being sexy, that's why a lot of porn looks fake coz it's adding to a fantasy of sorts rather than reality.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not much for pics. As long as the face pic doesn't put me off I'll chat. I like the feel of a body, rather than the look of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've defo had a shock on a few of our meets ....so much so that we actually cancelled one....BTW I'm talking about single guys we have met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

I don't think they would have messaged you if they didn't like how you looked in your pics, but that you were even better looking in the flesh. I think it's a compliment, well at least I hope so, because I get told that a lot too

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've met a few guys who definitely didn't resemble their pics. In the worst way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told I look better in the flesh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

don't know why it makes me feel bad about myself when they say it.

i think some guys who don't fancy me that much would message me but you could be right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been surprised for the worse on meets where the reality wasn't as good as the pic.

Fortunately for anyone meeting me, I'm horribly unphotogenic, so even though I look attractive in my pics (after I've taken and deleted 12,999 gargoyle ones!) I am way more good looking in real life so they should always get a pleasant surprise!

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we've had this but to be fair we didn't notice when the pics were uploaded...over a year old!...that year wasn't to kind

...we get told we're better in the flesh and every meet we've had have always wanted/tried to meet again so we're obviously not that bad haha x

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Like myself most people do not like their own photos and as such most people will only post the most flattering photos of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, no, I've pretty much always been more attracted to people in person than in their photos. Loads of people take shit photos. Probably means I'm the one disappointing people but so long as I get my end away I don't really care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we've had this but to be fair we didn't notice when the pics were uploaded...over a year old!...that year wasn't to kind

...we get told we're better in the flesh and every meet we've had have always wanted/tried to meet again so we're obviously not that bad haha x"

My body can change in a few months, not that I show naked pics, but my face puts on weight too. I try to keep my face pics as current as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know better now than to trust pictures!

I try to portray exactly how I look now so no one is disappointed!

I would rather they were pleasantly surprised.

I have some really flattering pictures - but what's the point!

I'm here to meet not have people like my pictures like facebook!

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By *arfield36Man
over a year ago

bedford

"I know better now than to trust pictures!

I try to portray exactly how I look now so no one is disappointed!

I would rather they were pleasantly surprised.

I have some really flattering pictures - but what's the point!

I'm here to meet not have people like my pictures like facebook!

I'm with you on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been told I look better in person....

However I've met some guys that have been loads better looking in person, but also a few that don't live up to the pictures!

Guess it just depends how photogenic you are... x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm photogenic. So far no-one has seemed disappointed as a result, but I do tell them that in advance just in case. Maybe they're secretly horrified but too polite to say so, who knows? As to others, I've never been disappointed. Most of my meets with both sexes have been with people who don't have loads of pics on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a few guys who definitely didn't resemble their pics. In the worst way.

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met silhouette man once, he didn't look anything like his black shadow picture. He was pink with eyes and was as hairy as a baboon xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that a lot of guys don't smile in face pics lol so I'm always happily surprised!

I make sure my pictures look exactly like me as I think it would be so embarrassing turning up to a meet and knowing you've disappointed them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same thing x

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

"I'm horribly unphotogenic, so even though I look attractive in my pics (after I've taken and deleted 12,999 gargoyle ones!)"

This is me. I'll never know how I made it to page one and it wasn't even a photo I particularly liked! I'll get an idea for a pic and it'll take me over an hour to get right and even then I have to crop it or alter the lighting a bit.

I've been told plenty of times I'm better looking in the flesh and definitely think it's a compliment because I always worry I look like I do in photos and I really don't want to lol

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I'm horribly unphotogenic, so even though I look attractive in my pics (after I've taken and deleted 12,999 gargoyle ones!)

I've been told plenty of times I'm better looking in the flesh and definitely think it's a compliment because I always worry I look like I do in photos and I really don't want to lol

I've never been told I look better in the flesh. The only conclusion I can draw from that based on the OP then is that I am obviously people's non-sexy meet. Mind you I have never made the top photo pages either so maybe I'm simply not sexy in 2 or 3D.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

"I'm horribly unphotogenic, so even though I look attractive in my pics (after I've taken and deleted 12,999 gargoyle ones!)

I've been told plenty of times I'm better looking in the flesh and definitely think it's a compliment because I always worry I look like I do in photos and I really don't want to lol

I really have to disagree you are fucking hot in your pics! So I highly doubt you're the not sexy meet! Those socks!!!! Killer!!! Happy to meet in person and verify the 3D

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my pics! I feel so plain in regular life. However for a meet, I do try to match up to my pics (sadly I can't suck that tummy in forever, or hold the angle and light in such a way that my boobs permanently looks bigger. Photography is a wonderful thing - freezes that moment in time when I managed to look gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spoke to a woman in a bar, asked for her number, added and sent her a message the next day. Her picture was either a few years old or had been on a detox at the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 18 stone in real life

LOL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just took a close up pic of my vag, to see what it looked like from a man's pov.

I can't believe men actually enjoy themselves down there *shudders*

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By *anther and gothic angelCouple
over a year ago

fairy land

This is why we only go to clubs now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just kidnap good looking people we find in the street and force them to pose for our pictures. Folk get a shock when they meet us but surely that's all part of the fun?

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By *eythergazMan
over a year ago

Tyldesley

It's so true - in real life I look like George Clooney, but in my pics I look like a right minger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

I couldn't say, you seem to have hidden your profile

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

My pics are real, that must make a change lol

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I ended had it go both ways. I met one lady night who was NOTHING like his pics and worse still I had seen him on cam in chat too several times - proves it's not infallible.

Felt awful when he said I looked better and younger than on cam and in pics cause I certainly couldn't respond positively about him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always worries me that someone will meet me and think I'm not like my pics as I do put effort in to them. I draw the line at using filters and cropping as anything more I think is misleading. It's not happened yet so I hope I've got the balance right.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I love all my pics but do worry that when people meet me I'm not what they expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look better in real life. The body is about par but facially I am not photogenic

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By *eythergazMan
over a year ago

Tyldesley

"I look better in real life. The body is about par but facially I am not photogenic"

Don't put yourself down, dude. Some good pics on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look better in real life. The body is about par but facially I am not photogenic

Don't put yourself down, dude. Some good pics on your profile

Thanks, but they're not of my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my pictures are deceiving ... I'm a lot fatter in person (can't use angles in reality to hide wobbly bits) plus I think my face pics are better than what you get face to face..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know my pictures are deceiving ... I'm a lot fatter in person (can't use angles in reality to hide wobbly bits) plus I think my face pics are better than what you get face to face.. "

I think your pics look great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know my pictures are deceiving ... I'm a lot fatter in person (can't use angles in reality to hide wobbly bits) plus I think my face pics are better than what you get face to face.. "

Shut up, you had no complaints from me did you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

I couldn't say, you seem to have hidden your profile

won't be for long, just until my messages delete themselves then i'll reopen it. i have 669 messages and it is amusing me for longer than it should.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I put a huge amount of effort into my profile pictures, getting the focus right, camera angle, pale blue lighting with an amber spotlight etc

Sometimes it's difficult on a meet because the spontaneity is ruined by the time I've lugged the lights upstairs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell myself I'm unphotogenic, but maybe the truth is that I'm just fugly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't photograph well. But while I might find a more forgiving angle I never use filters, I always try to use the normal camera and not the selfie camera (it softens the finish result) and I try and make sure they're up to date. I don't see the point of false advertising

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Thankfully when people have recognised me at the club they say I look just the same as in my pics...whether that's good or bad I don't care....I'm just me

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I've found over the years that some women and couples on here definitely don't match their amazing pics!! Yet others look 10 times better in the flesh than they do in their pics!! Yet I think a lot of us guys are guilty of seeing a stunning pic of a woman and wanting her!! But I've found that the ones I wasn't initially drawn too at first! They have then become the sexiest meets I've had on here?? I don't know if others have had similar experiences??"

OP, which one are you? An order of magnitude better than your 'piccies' or a carbon copy of Quasimodo's cousin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures are definitely deceiving, I always use flattering angles and lighting to make me look warmer as I'm quite pale in colour. They do make me look slimmer than I am.

When I receive face pictures, I often find that people usually look even better in the flesh, apart from the man whose photo was about 15 years out of date !

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Same here. I am always told on meets that I look better in the flesh. I take it as a compliment.

Didn't take my pics myself and didn't pose for them. In fact most of them I wasn't even aware they were being taken at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

Im starting to get a complex over my looks. Everyone who actually knows me says how good looking I am. Yet, my photos seem to put people off on here. Perplexing to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the opposite, I'm very unphotogenic but look a lot better in the flesh (I'm no oil painting but my reflection and a photograph of me look completely different!) hence the no verifications! (Get the violins out)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a guy for a social and are so glad we did,because he looked nothing like his pictures on the site we were on, plus he was about 20-25 years older than his profile age.

Not good. Thank goodness for socials!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OP, which one are you? An order of magnitude better than your 'piccies' or a carbon copy of Quasimodo's cousin?

Somewhere in the middle between Quasimodo's cousin and my pics lol!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

OP, which one are you? An order of magnitude better than your 'piccies' or a carbon copy of Quasimodo's cousin?

Somewhere in the middle between Quasimodo's cousin and my pics lol!!"

In that case, you are good-looking

Quasimodo was just not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im actually black lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems a bit pointless using photo trickery .Thankfully those I have met have equalled or surpassed their photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only filter I use is the black and white filter but I am guilty of taking a few of my pics at the right angle

But I do not hid the fact that I am on the large size and I do have face pics of my face with and without makeup on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't photograph well. But while I might find a more forgiving angle I never use filters, I always try to use the normal camera and not the selfie camera (it softens the finish result) and I try and make sure they're up to date. I don't see the point of false advertising "

At least you can find a forgiving angle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really, no, I've pretty much always been more attracted to people in person than in their photos. Loads of people take shit photos. Probably means I'm the one disappointing people but so long as I get my end away I don't really care. "

Your pics are pretty amazing! It's a lot to live up to really...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same.

the guys whose pics didn't attract me tended to be the best meets i've had.

i've had veris saying i look better than my pics and that upsets me a bit, like i know i'm not gorgeous but do i look that bad in my pics?

This is a very, very good point

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