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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey lovely people! Looking for any tips on making it more enjoyable for me receiving..

Of course I know the obvious which is lots of lube but I am wondering if there's anything I should know or any tips..

Thanks X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax. And once it's in its alot more comfortable ha

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Like you say lots of.lube. but relax. You will enjoy it more if you dont tense up. . Try smaller things first get yourself used to it most of.all. enjoy.

I do .kaz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its not comfortable why do it in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Relax. And once it's in its alot more comfortable ha"

I try to relax but I know I tense as its all new to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different angles can be better so try some different positions.

Confidence and relaxation are key, so ensuring you are adequately prepped and relaxed is important.

You can maintain control by asking the man to remain still whilst you take control of how fast and how deep you go, once in a comfortable rhythm, he can then start to move xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If its not comfortable why do it in the first place?"

It's not uncomfortable it's just new to me so looking for any tips

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Different angles can be better so try some different positions.

Confidence and relaxation are key, so ensuring you are adequately prepped and relaxed is important.

You can maintain control by asking the man to remain still whilst you take control of how fast and how deep you go, once in a comfortable rhythm, he can then start to move xx"

Thank you very much shall definitely use your advice. X

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By *bandjam91Couple
over a year ago

London

I (pb) always find it's better if you're incredibly turned on and have been teased loads. Makes it more exciting and easier to relax and enjoy it

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I would say apart from the obvious foreplay in the area once he's got his tip in ask him to keep still until you are used to the feeling. Also I find having a toy on my clit helps a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relax. And once it's in its alot more comfortable ha"

Would love the chance to do it with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different angles can be better so try some different positions.

Confidence and relaxation are key, so ensuring you are adequately prepped and relaxed is important.

You can maintain control by asking the man to remain still whilst you take control of how fast and how deep you go, once in a comfortable rhythm, he can then start to move xx"

Have to say that is great advice slow and easy at first.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have always found that it is best when the lady really wants it.

If he licks and plays with it whilst giving you oral...slips fingers into both lanes whilst licking you etc...and generally gives as much pleasure to you even before you have normal sex, then you will be less worried and more desperate to get him in there.

Then, just let him ease into you a little...then keep perfectly still. You can then slide on athe your own pace and that control should ease any fears and release you to do what ever you want.

Don't worry...you will soon be pulling him into you with gusto.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"I would say apart from the obvious foreplay in the area once he's got his tip in ask him to keep still until you are used to the feeling. Also I find having a toy on my clit helps a lot "

Snap. Where did you learn those tips

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some great advice! Thank you all

X

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I have always found that it is best when the lady really wants it.

If he licks and plays with it whilst giving you oral...slips fingers into both lanes whilst licking you etc...and generally gives as much pleasure to you even before you have normal sex, then you will be less worried and more desperate to get him in there.

Then, just let him ease into you a little...then keep perfectly still. You can then slide on athe your own pace and that control should ease any fears and release you to do what ever you want.

Don't worry...you will soon be pulling him into you with gusto.

"

Very eloquently put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Butt plugs are useful to get used to the feeling and open up a little bit before your partner goes in.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Butt plugs are useful to get used to the feeling and open up a little bit before your partner goes in."

I've got one but never used it

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I find it more relaxing when I've douched and also take immodium. A guy did a thread on prepping some time ago, he suggested similar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Butt plugs are useful to get used to the feeling and open up a little bit before your partner goes in."

Definitely agree with that..we have one and an anal dildo which certainly help. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find it more relaxing when I've douched and also take immodium. A guy did a thread on prepping some time ago, he suggested similar. "

Thank you, I was thinking about getting a douche..X

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By *even inchesMan
over a year ago

nottingham

I have a small cock if you wat to use it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

All the above seem to be on the man doing all the work. If you're not used to it - why not get used to anal play yourself either with a small dildo, vib or plug when masturbating, as then you'll at least be used to the feeling of something being in your arse. How deep or how hard would then be up to you. Wearing a plug while doing non sexual things around the house will also get you used to things being in there - then you can go play? People have also not mentioned that anal is often made a whole lot easier after a woman has orgasmed, so that might be something to think about. As much as a anal toys could well help, a simple thing might be duo balls (vaginally), they are great for warming you up and can be worn at any time, they can really reduce the amount of time needed to relax you, just make sure they are well made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that a lot of beginners find that it's painful because they just let him try to push in, and your bum isn't meant to work that way, so it clenches shut!

Go slowly, and "push out" as he's slowly entering you, and your bum should open outwards, naturally and easily..

From then on, it's just pure fun!!!

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By *reative_EdgeMan
over a year ago

Brighton / Hove Area


"Hey lovely people! Looking for any tips on making it more enjoyable for me receiving..

Of course I know the obvious which is lots of lube but I am wondering if there's anything I should know or any tips..

Thanks X "

Start with a small toy and work up to a bigger toy, find out what works for you.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

Try on your own putting various sizes things up you.

Lube lube lube lube lube as a mechanic when doing tyres we always say you can never have too much lube around the rim

And most important when he's in just for a little while both of you stay still so you can acclimatise. As it's been said once it's in its ok but the initial is not comfortable xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Butt plugs are useful to get used to the feeling and open up a little bit before your partner goes in."

This 100% I didn't ever think I would enjoy anal (I do, I love it!). Start of with butt plugs, he used to just pop one in and we would carry on with lots of foreplay, after a few weeks we changed to a bigger one then a vibrating one...soon after I WANTED his cock but would always start with a plug...these days we don't really use any butt plugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep as everyone has said, first time you need gentle and lots of lube in fact twice as much as you think you need!

Spent nearly two hours on a girl on Friday just oral and fingers on vag and ass- get very relaxed, helps if you distract yourself with a vibrator on the clit a bit to, lube up and go in gentle, stop and let the bum relax and move in and out a bit more and from experience it won't be long before you will be begging to feel his balls slapping your clit!

Top tip for when you are really comfy with it all dp with a vibrator in the pussy and your man in your ass will send him nuts lol

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"Hey lovely people! Looking for any tips on making it more enjoyable for me receiving..

Of course I know the obvious which is lots of lube but I am wondering if there's anything I should know or any tips..

Thanks X "

I don't mean to be or sound disgusting and I'm by no means an expert but I find that pushing a little (as you would on the loo) seems to open things up and the 'Ahh's soon turn to 'Ooo's' !

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts


"I find it more relaxing when I've douched and also take immodium. A guy did a thread on prepping some time ago, he suggested similar. "

I agree with this as gives u confidence too. I'd also suggest u explore it urself with fingers and toys. If u gain confidence and sensation this way u will enjoy and have the experience and confidence when someone else is playing with u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with previous comments,

Explore with your fingers first, and the more turned on you are the easier it gets...

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