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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've never been to a club before, and would be nervous, gets me nervous just thinking about it, any tips or recommendations a club that would make me feel welcome, and should i go alone or arrange a meet with a women so i wouldn't be sat alone ?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"I've never been to a club before, and would be nervous, gets me nervous just thinking about it, any tips or recommendations a club that would make me feel welcome, and should i go alone or arrange a meet with a women so i wouldn't be sat alone ?

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put your big boy pants on op and go on your own. Speak to the club before you go and they will give you a tour which most clubs do for newbies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never been to a club before, and would be nervous, gets me nervous just thinking about it, any tips or recommendations a club that would make me feel welcome, and should i go alone or arrange a meet with a women so i wouldn't be sat alone ?

put your big boy pants on op and go on your own. Speak to the club before you go and they will give you a tour which most clubs do for newbies "

Thanks but I forgot to mention that I have a stutter and can hardly speak when I'm nervous or just end up talking really fast and people have to ask me 3/4 times what I said

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Keep a eye out for a fab social at a club as at least you might recognize someone from the forums,

Just treat it as a night out on your own in a normal club, Don't drink to much and don't be to full on with Women/couples, Oh and keep smiling even if you think no one is looking as someone is always looking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Keep a eye out for a fab social at a club as at least you might recognize someone from the forums,

Just treat it as a night out on your own in a normal club, Don't drink to much and don't be to full on with Women/couples, Oh and keep smiling even if you think no one is looking as someone is always looking "

Thanks a lot for the advice

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I've been to a few clubs when I was a single guy. Yes it can be nerve wracking but once you get there you'll soon realise there is no need to be. Just sit and have a drink, chat to the staff and they will usually introduce you to people. I understand what you are saying about your stutter but please try to stay calm and relax. Treat it as a night in the pub. Be friendly and chatty and go with no expectations to play but to meet new people. Good luck and enjoy it. Jack.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been to a few clubs when I was a single guy. Yes it can be nerve wracking but once you get there you'll soon realise there is no need to be. Just sit and have a drink, chat to the staff and they will usually introduce you to people. I understand what you are saying about your stutter but please try to stay calm and relax. Treat it as a night in the pub. Be friendly and chatty and go with no expectations to play but to meet new people. Good luck and enjoy it. Jack."

Thank you, when I get a night off from team training I shall go to one I've been told no3 do a social night Thursdays

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Yes don't underestimate how helpful and friendly most staff are, Take a seat by the bar area and explain to the person serving you that it is your first time at a club, They will explain the do's and don'ts and probably introduce you to some regulars, Oh and depending what club you go to you don't have to dress down or play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh okay once again thanks a lot I shall look into this and venture out into the world of swingers clubs

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I attend Cupids regularly (and work behind the bar too) and will happily take you on a tour of the club and sit n chat to you if I am around when you are looking at coming. I know it can be daunting but all clubs are friendly to new peeps as we all remember our first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun. "
Spend like a 100 quid for nothing fuck that :-do your homework on the club, choose single guy friendly nights or events. See if people are advertising on here that they are going and try set something up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun. "

yeah i can only attend clubs at night due to work, but thanks for the advice i'm not expecting to walk in and shag every women in the room at least i have common sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I attend Cupids regularly (and work behind the bar too) and will happily take you on a tour of the club and sit n chat to you if I am around when you are looking at coming. I know it can be daunting but all clubs are friendly to new peeps as we all remember our first time "

thank you very much, i shall visit one time

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By *allyandJonCouple
over a year ago

manchester

You've got a six pack and a big cock you will be made very welcome ha ha.

Control your nerves and treat it like a normal night out smile be friendly and you will have a rave.

You may prefer some clubs to others so give a few a try and see what suits you, we all have different favourites.

Good luck happy days

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've got a six pack and a big cock you will be made very welcome ha ha.

Control your nerves and treat it like a normal night out smile be friendly and you will have a rave.

You may prefer some clubs to others so give a few a try and see what suits you, we all have different favourites.

Good luck happy days "

thank you very much for the complement, and yeah i shall try a few, maybe I've just over thought about this in my head

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun.

yeah i can only attend clubs at night due to work, but thanks for the advice i'm not expecting to walk in and shag every women in the room at least i have common sense "

I meant so you felt less nervous and you can go midweek evenings.

I didnt mean you were, just to put less pressure on yourself. Was just an idea....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun. Spend like a 100 quid for nothing fuck that :-do your homework on the club, choose single guy friendly nights or events. See if people are advertising on here that they are going and try set something up. "

It's comments like this that makes people think your not really into the social side, and want a guaranteed fuck just buy paying your entrance fee.... well clubs are NOT like that, maybe the OP needs to read up on club etiquette and see for himself.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Spend like a 100 quid for nothing fuck that :-do your homework on the club, choose single guy friendly nights or events. See if people are advertising on here that they are going and try set something up. "

Well maybe half that amount. But why is it 'wasted' if it gets him into the scene and gets over his nerves?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If you were nearer I'd go with you just to hold your hand as it were

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun.

yeah i can only attend clubs at night due to work, but thanks for the advice i'm not expecting to walk in and shag every women in the room at least i have common sense

I meant so you felt less nervous and you can go midweek evenings.

I didnt mean you were, just to put less pressure on yourself. Was just an idea...."

thank you very much and yeah it will be since i do have a tend to over think things when i get nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were nearer I'd go with you just to hold your hand as it were "

well thank you, shame that you live far away and there is distance between us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe say to yourself that you aren't going to play the first couple of visits. Just go on quietish times and relax into it. Then on other times when you might want things to go further you'll already feel more relaxed in your surroundings.

Have fun. Spend like a 100 quid for nothing fuck that :-do your homework on the club, choose single guy friendly nights or events. See if people are advertising on here that they are going and try set something up.

It's comments like this that makes people think your not really into the social side, and want a guaranteed fuck just buy paying your entrance fee.... well clubs are NOT like that, maybe the OP needs to read up on club etiquette and see for himself. "
See I hear this all the time, a single guys goes to a club with the objective to try get sex and anyone that tells you they dont are full of shit. You just need to give yourself the best opportunity it might not always happen depends on how fussy you are aswell or you do some networking with a potential meet in the pipeline. That is reality so telling someone to just go an not try to play is stupid and he would be at a disadvantage to other single guys who are giving themselves the best chance or at least the good 1's are.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


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It's comments like this that makes people think your not really into the social side, and want a guaranteed fuck just buy paying your entrance fee.... well clubs are NOT like that, maybe the OP needs to read up on club etiquette and see for himself. See I hear this all the time, a single guys goes to a club with the objective to try get sex and anyone that tells you they dont are full of shit. You just need to give yourself the best opportunity it might not always happen depends on how fussy you are aswell or you do some networking with a potential meet in the pipeline. That is reality so telling someone to just go an not try to play is stupid and he would be at a disadvantage to other single guys who are giving themselves the best chance or at least the good 1's are."

The thread is by a nervous guy who stammers and gets more nervous still in that situation. Your advice won't help him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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It's comments like this that makes people think your not really into the social side, and want a guaranteed fuck just buy paying your entrance fee.... well clubs are NOT like that, maybe the OP needs to read up on club etiquette and see for himself. See I hear this all the time, a single guys goes to a club with the objective to try get sex and anyone that tells you they dont are full of shit. You just need to give yourself the best opportunity it might not always happen depends on how fussy you are aswell or you do some networking with a potential meet in the pipeline. That is reality so telling someone to just go an not try to play is stupid and he would be at a disadvantage to other single guys who are giving themselves the best chance or at least the good 1's are.

The thread is by a nervous guy who stammers and gets more nervous still in that situation. Your advice won't help him."
How would trying to set up a meet in a club from here not help him so he could already break the ice

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


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The thread is by a nervous guy who stammers and gets more nervous still in that situation. Your advice won't help him. How would trying to set up a meet in a club from here not help him so he could already break the ice "

Lots of people stress pre-meet and over think what will/wont happen.

Its fine if you dont and we dont, but sometimes you have to put yourself in the shoes of someone who isnt the same.

My advice is still just go and relax and socialise. Zero pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The thread is by a nervous guy who stammers and gets more nervous still in that situation. Your advice won't help him. How would trying to set up a meet in a club from here not help him so he could already break the ice

Lots of people stress pre-meet and over think what will/wont happen.

Its fine if you dont and we dont, but sometimes you have to put yourself in the shoes of someone who isnt the same.

My advice is still just go and relax and socialise. Zero pressure."
You have a couple's perspective so your advice isn't the best for the op. Costs etc and the dynamic is different. You have each other it is very different on your own.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"I attend Cupids regularly (and work behind the bar too) and will happily take you on a tour of the club and sit n chat to you if I am around when you are looking at coming. I know it can be daunting but all clubs are friendly to new peeps as we all remember our first time

thank you very much, i shall visit one time "

Make sure you gimme a shout if you do - happy to ease you in gently with a tour and chat - and if I am not about the other staff will always look after you well x

I also agree with something said by another - read the reviews on the clubs you are considering on the fab clubs section. Written by customers giving their opinions - any club goers all have their favourite clubs, but its good to hear opinions still

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I've never been to a club before, and would be nervous, gets me nervous just thinking about it, any tips or recommendations a club that would make me feel welcome, and should i go alone or arrange a meet with a women so i wouldn't be sat alone ?

put your big boy pants on op and go on your own. Speak to the club before you go and they will give you a tour which most clubs do for newbies

Thanks but I forgot to mention that I have a stutter and can hardly speak when I'm nervous or just end up talking really fast and people have to ask me 3/4 times what I said "

If you stutter have you tried tapping a beat on your hand and talking in rhythm with that?

Clubs are very welcoming, we all get nervous.. Try not to worry too much x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never been to a club before, and would be nervous, gets me nervous just thinking about it, any tips or recommendations a club that would make me feel welcome, and should i go alone or arrange a meet with a women so i wouldn't be sat alone ?

put your big boy pants on op and go on your own. Speak to the club before you go and they will give you a tour which most clubs do for newbies

Thanks but I forgot to mention that I have a stutter and can hardly speak when I'm nervous or just end up talking really fast and people have to ask me 3/4 times what I said

If you stutter have you tried tapping a beat on your hand and talking in rhythm with that?

Clubs are very welcoming, we all get nervous.. Try not to worry too much x

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well thanks for the advice, i will try to not worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to my first club last Saturday, and was nothing like I expected.

It was like going to the pub in your underwear. The bar area was just chilled out and relaxing, music playing, and people socialising.

Walking around the club there was plenty going on to have a look at. Whether it's different for a woman vs man, but I found the whole night relaxed, fun and no where near as intimidating as I thought it would be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I went to my first club last Saturday, and was nothing like I expected.

It was like going to the pub in your underwear. The bar area was just chilled out and relaxing, music playing, and people socialising.

Walking around the club there was plenty going on to have a look at. Whether it's different for a woman vs man, but I found the whole night relaxed, fun and no where near as intimidating as I thought it would be."

Well thank you for sharing that with me , I have thought about what people have said and to try different clubs and nights etc, I think a social night is on the cards first

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

OP I attended my first club event on Wed and went through similar thoughts and worries as yourself.

Once I had decided I was going I posted in the club event thread and even put a thread up myself asking if anyone else was going.

I was lucky enough to talk to a few people online before going.

When I got there I found the hardest part was getting out the car and through the door. Once I was in there I started talking to some people and treated it like a normal pub/club. I also spent a bit of time talking to the bar lady (who was friendly and chatty).

I thoroughly enjoyed myself and will be going again!

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