FabSwingers.com forum: Women's profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I want to ask this stupid question it bugs me. Why do women have massive essays in the profile saying "read profile first" and "update" I don't want to spend 15 minutes reading your profile to find out if I can message you or not I'd rather just message you and find out about you because what's the point in send a message after all that I know everything about you near enough apart from what school you went to

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to ask this stupid question it bugs me. Why do women have massive essays in the profile saying "read profile first" and "update" I don't want to spend 15 minutes reading your profile to find out if I can message you or not I'd rather just message you and find out about you because what's the point in send a message after all that I know everything about you near enough apart from what school you went to

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

and then moan when all ther receive is a message saying 'hi' because the essay covered pretty much everything lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

and then moan when all ther receive is a message saying 'hi' because the essay covered pretty much everything lol"

I know fucks me off what you meant to say let me fuck you silly for it to get deleted

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

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You have a lot to learn. It's all in the details some even have keywords to use. They don't like the idea of men just spamming women on here the same copy and paste messages they want to feel special etc. You are young you will realise patience is a virtue.

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By *uriousc88Woman
over a year ago

Reading

If reading my profile is too much effort for someone, it doesn't bode well for them having the patience it takes to actually get me off...

It's handy as a filter that way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile isn't an essay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally for me because I am only after a lady . I've put in my preferences women only, my bio said "only looking to explore my big curious side " but I still got loads of messages off single guys asking to meet , they would then get annoyed if I politely say no and why and a couple where really rude about it .

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

You have a lot to learn. It's all in the details some even have keywords to use. They don't like the idea of men just spamming women on here the same copy and paste messages they want to feel special etc. You are young you will realise patience is a virtue. "

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From someone who had a single fems profile...

You are right... single women get bombarded with messages.Realistically they are never going to be able to reply to every one. My profile was an essay. It was an essay that explained what I was looking for. Before considering meeting anyone.. I would always take the time to read their profile.When reading messages, If it was obvious that the person who had messaged me hadn't read my profile then I would simply hit next. If people couldn't take the time to read a profile to find out what I was looking for then I couldn't be bothered to reply to tell them what I was looking for again ... or that you weren't what i was looking for. It just saves time.I'm not saying that all single men are the same. That they all think any hole is a goal.People who see a profile pic and message without reading the profile or see a single fem profile with no profile pic and message without reading the profile would tell me you weren't fussy. I wouldn't want to meet with someone that wasn't fussy about where they were sticking it ... just my opinion ...

Good luck in whayever you're looking for. ( i'm not sure what that is because I haven't read your profile )

Mrs Nice x

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

It's worth reading profiles to find out if you'll be wasting your time by messaging that person when you're not what they're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

and then moan when all ther receive is a message saying 'hi' because the essay covered pretty much everything lol

I know fucks me off what you meant to say let me fuck you silly for it to get deleted "

so true give them a hi it's not enough tell them what you want to do to them it's too rude lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally for me because I am only after a lady . I've put in my preferences women only, my bio said "only looking to explore my big curious side " but I still got loads of messages off single guys asking to meet , they would then get annoyed if I politely say no and why and a couple where really rude about it .

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

I read most profiles but some are too long and by the time I've read it all I know everything you like and what you want to do and try so what do you message someone after you've read all that apart from "hi" and then in the profile it says don't put hi can't win

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If reading my profile is too much effort for someone, it doesn't bode well for them having the patience it takes to actually get me off...

It's handy as a filter that way..."
yours if fine but I'm saying some people are telling everything so what do you message them after you've read all they is to know about them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

Ahh now that I understand to a extent . Mine isn't a essay but says what I am after and no single guys basically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

I understand that and I have seen the keys words I sit at my computer all day at work reading and answering emails I don't want to come on here and read essays some aren't to bad but some are taking the mick "
If you really want to meet them though you would make time, women with essays are actually giving you more information to go on. Try to use this to your advantage with messages referencing there profile to separate yourself from the rest of the single guys with generic messages.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

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I've read your profile it isn't too bad but some are crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not gender specific there's men with them too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft."
yours isn't an essay to be honest it's simple says what you want and looking for abit about you and that's it I think that enough you message someone to get to know them surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not gender specific there's men with them too "

And often those men have a ton of verifications go figure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not gender specific there's men with them too "
well I don't read men's ones so I wouldn't know that to be honest but I wasn't on about gender specific I was just saying what I've seen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My profile isn't an essay"
I know yours isn't I read yours last night haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not gender specific there's men with them too well I don't read men's ones so I wouldn't know that to be honest but I wasn't on about gender specific I was just saying what I've seen

I figured that so I was pointing it out a balance that both sex's do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are no essays and lists of do' and don'ts on my profile but I will still block you if you send me a fancy a fuck message, cos I'm nice like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not gender specific there's men with them too well I don't read men's ones so I wouldn't know that to be honest but I wasn't on about gender specific I was just saying what I've seen

If you go on a to specific sex site that people pay, even those profiles can be long stating what they'll do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

I understand that and I have seen the keys words I sit at my computer all day at work reading and answering emails I don't want to come on here and read essays some aren't to bad but some are taking the mick If you really want to meet them though you would make time, women with essays are actually giving you more information to go on. Try to use this to your advantage with messages referencing there profile to separate yourself from the rest of the single guys with generic messages."

Thanks for the advice you have got a really good point and have done that before I just think some of them bang on about the same thing all the time as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If reading my profile is too much effort for someone, it doesn't bode well for them having the patience it takes to actually get me off...

It's handy as a filter that way..."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft."

its common sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"there are no essays and lists of do' and don'ts on my profile but I will still block you if you send me a fancy a fuck message, cos I'm nice like that

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haha no no I would never message a women saying that I just like to have a normal conversation get to know someone and see where it goes that's it if it leads to that good if not it's ok we can be friends

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If those profiles bug you then skip them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

Exception to the rule

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I've read your profile it isn't too bad but some are crazy "

Not too bad? Thanks you flatterer you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I've read your profile it isn't too bad but some are crazy

Not too bad? Thanks you flatterer you!

Lmfao I mean it's fine I can handle reading that and your pictures are pretty just like you said haha

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I've read your profile it isn't too bad but some are crazy

Not too bad? Thanks you flatterer you!

Lmfao I mean it's fine I can handle reading that and your pictures are pretty just like you said haha "

It's cool! I knew what you meant!

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

Well , then surely if it's a long profile with lots of info; that's good; now you have a clue about something interesting to say about something in it?

If you can't think of anything interesting to say, then the profile has proved that you don't have the capacity to be interesting to the woman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

Exception to the rule

xx"

See your profile is simple I know what you want and are looking for but don't know everything about you surely you message someone to get to know them am I right please tell me if not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not gender specific there's men with them too

And often those men have a ton of verifications go figure "
mine is like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I don't mind reading long ones as long as they're interesting. If its a list of NO's or a rant profile I don't read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really bother by long profiles. I just wish people would put no blacks , only meeting at clubs , and not meeting anyone at the moment.

At the very top of their profiles. It saves so much time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think mines an essay and I've been told it's a good one.

I've got what I'm looking for, I'll happily chat to people but I'd rather hear from guys that I may be compatible with, so my profile gives some helpful hints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What gets me is that a woman will say on her profile "no cock pics just face pics" yet all her profile has is pics of her pussy!! How does that work?

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I think it's very kind of you to offer pictures for those who haven't mastered the art of reading! I only say that because those who can read also get to have a peek!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"What gets me is that a woman will say on her profile "no cock pics just face pics" yet all her profile has is pics of her pussy!! How does that work?"

Pussies are different to cocks so she finds one aesthetically pleasing and not the other? Just maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, I don't mind reading long ones as long as they're interesting. If its a list of NO's or a rant profile I don't read it."
and if you read 10 about 4 are interesting the rest are ranting and moaning don't message me if this this and this it's hard to work out that they actually want

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"What gets me is that a woman will say on her profile "no cock pics just face pics" yet all her profile has is pics of her pussy!! How does that work?"

I hope you're not asking how a pussy works?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"What gets me is that a woman will say on her profile "no cock pics just face pics" yet all her profile has is pics of her pussy!! How does that work?"

It's easy! She's a hypocrite! But she's also a woman on a site inundated with men - so she can be as hypocritical and demanding as she likes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I think it's very kind of you to offer pictures for those who haven't mastered the art of reading! I only say that because those who can read also get to have a peek!

Im sure people can read fine just think I'd like to get to know them by messaging them and not by reading their profile

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I think it's very kind of you to offer pictures for those who haven't mastered the art of reading! I only say that because those who can read also get to have a peek!

Im sure people can read fine just think I'd like to get to know them by messaging them and not by reading their profile "

Unfortunately there are many that don't think like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What gets me is that a woman will say on her profile "no cock pics just face pics" yet all her profile has is pics of her pussy!! How does that work?

It's easy! She's a hypocrite! But she's also a woman on a site inundated with men - so she can be as hypocritical and demanding as she likes!

This is very true I get women get a lot of messages but just tell me on your profile a few things about what you're looking for and not looking for surely that would be easier instead of reading paragraphs and paragraphs about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I don't mind reading long ones as long as they're interesting. If its a list of NO's or a rant profile I don't read it."

Those ones are design to put people off messaging so it work for them then

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

Exception to the rule

See your profile is simple I know what you want and are looking for but don't know everything about you surely you message someone to get to know them am I right please tell me if not? "

You could waste your time exchanging 20 messages finding out the same info that can be written in a profile. If you had to do that with everyone who messages you, you'd never get anything else done. If the profile is too long for you to read then you could just message women with short profiles. I started off with quite a short profile but found that I was repeating myself over and over again. I find that really boring. This works for me. You should do what works for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, I don't mind reading long ones as long as they're interesting. If its a list of NO's or a rant profile I don't read it.

Those ones are design to put people off messaging so it work for them then "
why be on here if you don't want people to message you? Doesn't make any sense and that's what I can't get my head around

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Surely it's best to just skip the profiles you don't like? In the same way that you dislike long profiles, some people dislike a message saying "hi" and nothing more. It's all about personal preference... there's no point getting wound up over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

Exception to the rule

See your profile is simple I know what you want and are looking for but don't know everything about you surely you message someone to get to know them am I right please tell me if not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines is plain and simple bit like myself lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely it's best to just skip the profiles you don't like? In the same way that you dislike long profiles, some people dislike a message saying "hi" and nothing more. It's all about personal preference... there's no point getting wound up over it.

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I understand a message just saying hi is boring and anyone that puts just that shouldn't get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I don't mind reading long ones as long as they're interesting. If its a list of NO's or a rant profile I don't read it.

Those ones are design to put people off messaging so it work for them then why be on here if you don't want people to message you? Doesn't make any sense and that's what I can't get my head around "

Experiences, repeated conversation, people trying persuasion, frustration not using their filters.

Just because it put some of it doesn't put everyone of and maybe just maybe they go messaging themselves, people do what works for them.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What's the point of having a profile then not filling it in? It's like a shop window... see if it's worth going in to browse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mines is plain and simple bit like myself lol "
see yours is funny and simple tells you what you type of person you are looking for that's all you need please take note women hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just too easy and obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gorgeous looking lady lucky hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really bother by long profiles. I just wish people would put no blacks , only meeting at clubs , and not meeting anyone at the moment.

At the very top of their profiles. It saves so much time."

See that's another of those no win situations and people start sending abusive messages about racism and being told by others to put it in big capital shouty letters, so they did from then on.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Well , then surely if it's a long profile with lots of info; that's good; now you have a clue about something interesting to say about something in it?

If you can't think of anything interesting to say, then the profile has proved that you don't have the capacity to be interesting to the woman."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wonder if the OPs obviously logical approach has worked for him? Lots of success?

If so then we could maybe all take a leaf out of his book.

Or maybe it doesn't work.....ladies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really bother by long profiles. I just wish people would put no blacks , only meeting at clubs , and not meeting anyone at the moment.

At the very top of their profiles. It saves so much time.

See that's another of those no win situations and people start sending abusive messages about racism and being told by others to put it in big capital shouty letters, so they did from then on."

Not at all. If you put those things in the first sentence, I can stop reading the rest of your profile.

Think of it as a warning label on medication.

Why on earth would someone send abuse?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just wonder if the OPs obviously logical approach has worked for him? Lots of success?

If so then we could maybe all take a leaf out of his book.

Or maybe it doesn't work.....ladies?"

Haha now that would be tell but this post did blow up a bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not really bother by long profiles. I just wish people would put no blacks , only meeting at clubs , and not meeting anyone at the moment.

At the very top of their profiles. It saves so much time.

See that's another of those no win situations and people start sending abusive messages about racism and being told by others to put it in big capital shouty letters, so they did from then on.

Not at all. If you put those things in the first sentence, I can stop reading the rest of your profile.

Think of it as a warning label on medication.

Why on earth would someone send abuse? "

It's the same for white guys and women on looking for black guys you get the the bottom of the profile and it says not white guys only black read all that for nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really bother by long profiles. I just wish people would put no blacks , only meeting at clubs , and not meeting anyone at the moment.

At the very top of their profiles. It saves so much time.

See that's another of those no win situations and people start sending abusive messages about racism and being told by others to put it in big capital shouty letters, so they did from then on.

Not at all. If you put those things in the first sentence, I can stop reading the rest of your profile.

Think of it as a warning label on medication.

Why on earth would someone send abuse?

It's the same for white guys and women on looking for black guys you get the the bottom of the profile and it says not white guys only black read all that for nothing "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Don't think I've come across a profile yet that took 15 minutes to read, so you're either a very slow reader OP or are prone to exagerrating a little!! Either way I'd much prefer to read a well written and interesting long profile, that tells me something about its owner, than a short one that tells me very little.

As others have said from the perspective of the profile owner it is a chance to sell themselves and put across what they're looking for and can offer, and from the perspective of someone reading it, it gives something for them to draw on with a first message.

Simple as really.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

So really what you need OP is a secretary to read all these massive essays and find you suitable women to say 'hi' to?

You should write an advert...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft."

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Far better off using your time to take good pictures, write a good profile and make yourself visible by using the forum, uploading new pics regularly, keeping your status up to date and generally being active around the site.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really bother by long profiles. I just wish people would put no blacks , only meeting at clubs , and not meeting anyone at the moment.

At the very top of their profiles. It saves so much time.

See that's another of those no win situations and people start sending abusive messages about racism and being told by others to put it in big capital shouty letters, so they did from then on.

Not at all. If you put those things in the first sentence, I can stop reading the rest of your profile.

Think of it as a warning label on medication.

Why on earth would someone send abuse? "

Because that's what happens around here.

It may be it's the most important bit to you, but maybe they don't want to start profile of like that, maybe there's other bit's more important to them to get across. I do understand were your coming from though filters would be so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't think I've come across a profile yet that took 15 minutes to read, so you're either a very slow reader OP or are prone to exagerrating a little!! Either way I'd much prefer to read a well written and interesting long profile, that tells me something about its owner, than a short one that tells me very little.

Simple as really.

"
it was more of an exaggeration than anything but I can get most of the info I need from a short profile not one that's got 10 lines of no's and 10 lines of do's just tell me about yourself what you're looking for if I fit I will message you that's what I'm saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing is why do women ask for a photo when it in our profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

"
haha that's a really good idea guys we should follow this why waste the time messaging women why are we putting in all the work? Why can't the message us?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One thing is why do women ask for a photo when it in our profile?"
too lazy to look I guess

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"One thing is why do women ask for a photo when it in our profile?"

(A) Because not everyone has a face pic in their profile

(B) Because they can!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

If you have a face only a mother can love... I'm sorry but you can hang around the forums, go to clubs , go to,socials , and write a excellent profile. You will not get any meets. I'm not trying to be rude I'm just giving facts.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

haha that's a really good idea guys we should follow this why waste the time messaging women why are we putting in all the work? Why can't the message us? "

They do.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

Exactly this. I message the guys I'm interested in, so a decent profile is key IMO.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Simple as really.

it was more of an exaggeration than anything but I can get most of the info I need from a short profile not one that's got 10 lines of no's and 10 lines of do's just tell me about yourself what you're looking for if I fit I will message you that's what I'm saying "

As others have said, if that's working for you and getting you the meets you want then you carry on, no need to moan about it on a forum really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're a couple, but it's me (Mrs) who writes the profile and updates it regularly. One of the reasons i went into a certain amount of lengthy detail in the profile is because I don't wish to waste anybody's time. For example anybody who cares to read our profile will know that we normally only get to know new people in clubs. So anybody who wants a private meet will know not to waste their time messaging us. From reading our profile it's also possible to find out that I dislike cock pics. Again this tells those men who have only cock pic on their profile that we are not for them. There are numerous examples. But the other reason I also went into this amount of detail is to reduce the quantity of unsuitable messages that we often feel obliged to reply to. Men often complain that they don't get replies, and we don't want to reply to messages from people who don't meet our requirements. So it's easier to say exactly what our requirements are, then if those requirements are ignored we don't have to feel guilty about deleting without reply. We do regard it that anybody worth their salt will take their time to read our profile. We read the profiles of people of people we're interested in.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

haha that's a really good idea guys we should follow this why waste the time messaging women why are we putting in all the work? Why can't the message us?

They do.

Yeah but you must message girls more first than what they message you first true or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

"
Will be more tumble in boxes then

being recommended by other couples is good or people seeing verifications. If you can afford to the best way is go to a few clubs or socials get a few veris and build on it so you get more profile views etc it's still not easy for single guys then though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simple as really.

As others have said, if that's working for you and getting you the meets you want then you carry on, no need to moan about it on a forum really

"
wasn't really mining just asking a question if people felt the same way they had been good advice on here so yeah it was really worth it

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

haha that's a really good idea guys we should follow this why waste the time messaging women why are we putting in all the work? Why can't the message us?

They do.

Yeah but you must message girls more first than what they message you first true or not? "

No.

I occasionally message women if I find them interesting, but I haven't sent a first message for several months, and had several meets since

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

Nicely put

Plus a lovely profile might I add!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others have said, if that's working for you and getting you the meets you want then you carry on, no need to moan about it on a forum really

wasn't really mining just asking a question if people felt the same way they had been good advice on here so yeah it was really worth it "

Hey it's good to see someone wanting to understand and looking at how others see things, people are just used so many coming on and moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

Will be more tumble in boxes then

All I can say is its working for me. I do send the odd first message but not that often.

By far the vast majority of my conversations/meets come from when women message first. Yes it's not everyday and it takes patience but at least I'm not wasting my time on people who aren't interested.

I totally agree it's tough going though and you can make it even tougher depending on your approach.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

Fook personality and dad bods

I rather have a good looking young man

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

" As others have said, if that's working for you and getting you the meets you want then you carry on, no need to moan about it on a forum really

wasn't really mining just asking a question if people felt the same way they had been good advice on here so yeah it was really worth it "

Sorry must have been confused by you ending your original post by saying "rant over" and took it to be a moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

Will be more tumble in boxes then

All I can say is its working for me. I do send the odd first message but not that often.

I totally agree it's tough going though and you can make it even tougher depending on your approach. "
yeah good on you, that is more like swinging for novices advice.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

I am so, so tempted to put that on my profile 'looking for mingers with great personality!' ....Would have to PM previous meets first though to explain...it's a joke, honest! Its a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

haha that's a really good idea guys we should follow this why waste the time messaging women why are we putting in all the work? Why can't the message us?

They do.

Yeah but you must message girls more first than what they message you first true or not?

No.

I occasionally message women if I find them interesting, but I haven't sent a first message for several months, and had several meets since "

Glad I'm not the only one with that approach.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft."

For me this works better!

To be honest, a lot of the profile that's go on and on and on actually come across as hard work and high maintenance, traits no sane guy looking for uncomplicated, adult, mature and unadulterated fun is looking for or needs. And in my opinion, a lot of those profiles actually signify something else - a red flag, emotionally damaged women. There are ways of dealing with too many messages and it doesn't excuse the rantings and ravings of some profiles on Fab. It does the perfect job of getting you exactly the opposite of what they seek and attracts the men who are equally damaged as they are, which then becomes a vicious cycle of more rants,

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

Will be more tumble in boxes then

All I can say is its working for me. I do send the odd first message but not that often.

I totally agree it's tough going though and you can make it even tougher depending on your approach. "

This

- think nearly all the people I exchange messages with (some with a view to meeting) have either been them messaging me first, or as a result of forum posts. Think I've sent three unsolicited messages since starting this profile, but have had far more message exchanges from people contacting me first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

"
how did I miss this gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are insecure lol

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That's exactly how I meet people. I've had literally hundreds of messages. I reply to them all. I've never met any. I know what I like. I know what I like when I find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

Shame I'm not I'm not in your age range, I looked at your pictures and I think you have a good body from what i could tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

You might be right and maybe my approach won't work for mingers. It works for me though and that's all I can base my advice on as I've not tried swinging as a minger

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

how did I miss this gem

Exactly

Its on my profile now

I have no chance now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

Is it really so hard to work out?

Hi there, I read your profile and I see you like a, b & c and you are looking for a guy who is x, y & z. Hoped I might fit the bill so thought I would take the chance and message you.

If you had 10, 20, 50, 100 "hi"'s in your inbox would you read every profile to see whether the profilee was what you're looking for or respond to the messages that actually say something?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

For me this works better!

That's quite some conclusion you've drawn there!! A lot of long profiles detailing what the lady is looking for indicates "emotionally damaged women"?!!

Not sure how you work that one out...to me it indicates someone who has thought about what they are looking for and won't settle for just anyone that happens along that doesn't meet their criteria!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

Not true iam a handsome young chap if I do say so myself but have much better luck away from this.

although things are slowly starting to warm up ahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get ignored and blocked now and then I just send a message being polite I never say fuck and go or just ask for pictures I introduce myself but still doesn't work most times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

I am so, so tempted to put that on my profile 'looking for mingers with great personality!' ....Would have to PM previous meets first though to explain...it's a joke, honest! Its a joke

You called?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

Not true iam a handsome young chap if I do say so myself but have much better luck away from this.

although things are slowly starting to warm up ahah

So why come on fab to be a pin in a haystack

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

I am so, so tempted to put that on my profile 'looking for mingers with great personality!' ....Would have to PM previous meets first though to explain...it's a joke, honest! Its a joke

You called?

H aha you#re not a minger Miss Innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

Not true iam a handsome young chap if I do say so myself but have much better luck away from this.

although things are slowly starting to warm up ahah

So why come on fab to be a pin in a haystack

What are you on about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

Yes me to hunni I only meet women and put filters on as single men still message If you don't have filters the way I look at it is its my profile il write what I want and I don't feel mine is an essay I like to know about a woman before I message so I feel it is important to have a profile that describes them and their interests xx

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

For me this works better!

That's quite some conclusion you've drawn there!! A lot of long profiles detailing what the lady is looking for indicates "emotionally damaged women"?!!

Not sure how you work that one out...to me it indicates someone who has thought about what they are looking for and won't settle for just anyone that happens along that doesn't meet their criteria!!"

You obviously didn't see the bit about rantings and ravings in the post.

Let's agree to differ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get ignored and blocked now and then I just send a message being polite I never say fuck and go or just ask for pictures I introduce myself but still doesn't work most times "

look at it as though they are saving you time from wasted chats and know your not alone other men are exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

It may seem boring to you.... but you have to understand how many messages us ladies get on here. At present I have 1500 in my inbox..... I joined here 4 years ago and said nothing in my profile at all. You could say I have proved that a long profile just goes to show men don't read instructions!!! Haha, but that said.... this is a sex site yes....... there are some but by no means all women who will just say yes to every offer of sex...... many if us are limited to free time.... commitments mean we can't meet at the drop of a hat..... and we seek a man who can seduce our mind before meeting...... it will only lead to the toe curling sex some of us desire........ we are not stuck up prima donnas..... we know what we want........ nsa sex doesn't mean turn up, fuck and go....... you can quite easily turn it into a delicious evening of fun, laughter and mind blowing sex....

If you are after just fuck and go I think you will also find plenty of profiles on here willing to accommodate that. Those who have put some thought into it.... with their desires.... preferences..... ideal scenarios etc are doing that because they don't want to waste your precious time or theirs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to read the full profile. It lets me know more if the lady is likely to want to meet me and helps me decide if I want to meet her. It gives me a chance to comment on what she likes and can help strike up a conversation by asking about something I havent tried.

I think if you cant be bothered to read a profile then you shouldnt be messaging them anyway as you are clearly not interested in them as a person - you just think of them as a piece of meat to satisfu you. You are unlikely to give anything back.

What I dislike the most are profiles with just one or two words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

So, so true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft."

That is just brilliant!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm- Erm

Don't think mines TOO long - it just says what I'm looking for and what I offer in return- hopefully in a nice way!

There are pretty pictures too if you're not good with words?

I don't think I've ever read your profile, i got distracted by the pictures :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are insecure lol"

You are obviously clueless when it comes to women!! Most ridiculous comment I have read in ages!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

For me this works better!

That is total bollocks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

For me this works better!

That is total bollocks haha"

He has a point. Just look at yours 6 paragraphs of nothing really.

Only thing i learned about you is you like white men.

The rest is just a rant about how many messages you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

For me this works better!

That is total bollocks haha

He has a point. Just look at yours 6 paragraphs of nothing really.

Only thing i learned about you is you like white men.

The rest is just a rant about how many messages you get.

I only like white men should be at the top

It would have saved me reading the whole profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If reading my profile is too much effort for someone, it doesn't bode well for them having the patience it takes to actually get me off...

It's handy as a filter that way..."

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"From someone who had a single fems profile...

Good luck in whayever you're looking for. ( i'm not sure what that is because I haven't read your profile )

Mrs Nice x"

I couldn't have said this better

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

But I bet if they had 150 horny photos you'd find time to look at every last one

And then go straight to "message" after only reading the "Looking for" section of their profile..

Tell me i'm wrong, dare you

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

But I bet if they had 150 horny photos you'd find time to look at every last one

And then go straight to "message" after only reading the "Looking for" section of their profile..

Tell me i'm wrong, dare you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dearest OP and similarly outraged young men. If you can't be arsed to read, try tinder, a simple swipe takes much less effort in your quest for an easy lay; you're in the wrong place.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Dearest OP and similarly outraged young men. If you can't be arsed to read, try tinder, a simple swipe takes much less effort in your quest for an easy lay; you're in the wrong place. "

I can't thumb this enough. There really has been an influx of them recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

TL;DR Version

Hi, I'd like to duck you, but I'm not prepared to make any effort to achieve that aim...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to put "please read the profile " ... Well because people don't at all

Or just block men and couples from messaging you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of points to ponder. Why would you respond to what you call an essay type profile without reading it. Instead, just ignore and let it pass you buy. It does not matter how long a profile someone has there will be some things contained in the profile that they do not want to do at a sexual meeting. If your profile is not compatible it just makes the sender out to be an absolute moron who would appear to ignore the fact that they do not like something that you do. I thought one of the first commandments of swinging was, No means No. Consequently what does this indicate to a person. It indicates to them that you are prepared to ignore their doo's and donts. They do not know that you have not read their profile. Apologies if this appears to be an essay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of points to ponder. Why would you respond to what you call an essay type profile without reading it. Instead, just ignore and let it pass you buy. It does not matter how long a profile someone has there will be some things contained in the profile that they do not want to do at a sexual meeting. If your profile is not compatible it just makes the sender out to be an absolute moron who would appear to ignore the fact that they do not like something that you do. I thought one of the first commandments of swinging was, No means No. Consequently what does this indicate to a person. It indicates to them that you are prepared to ignore their doo's and donts. They do not know that you have not read their profile. Apologies if this appears to be an essay

Because they frequently are just huge essays about not sending cock pics or fancy a fuck messages.

So they can be safely ignored if that wasnt your intention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I didn't mean for this post to get anyones back up about it. I was just asking why they are so long I'm sure they can say it all in a few paragraphs and not bang on about the same thing over and over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dearest OP and similarly outraged young men. If you can't be arsed to read, try tinder, a simple swipe takes much less effort in your quest for an easy lay; you're in the wrong place. "
I don't mind reading them but if I have scroll down 5 times on my phone to get to the bottom and all you've done is bang on about the same thing that's what bugs me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im happy if they read the first bits on our profile but clearly most never do. As we get lots of guys that clearly arent for cali messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dearest OP and similarly outraged young men. If you can't be arsed to read, try tinder, a simple swipe takes much less effort in your quest for an easy lay; you're in the wrong place. I don't mind reading them but if I have scroll down 5 times on my phone to get to the bottom and all you've done is bang on about the same thing that's what bugs me "

Ah you see when writing profiles people don't take into account phone users

Looks so much on a pc screen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it works for you OP stick with it. Sure you will be knee deep in veris very soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it works for you OP stick with it. Sure you will be knee deep in veris very soon."

You mean that veris from women are some sort of validation of our masculinity? Wow. Get over yourself pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it works for you OP stick with it. Sure you will be knee deep in veris very soon."
that's another thing women say don't talk to me if you haven't got veris yet if them women won't talk to you and you can only to to women who haven't then how you meant to get them because 2 people who haven't got them can't give each other them

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I save them the bother. They can't message me. I message them and if they read my profile they can decide if they're interested enough to reply. It's witchcraft.

This

Generally speaking don't bother messaging women first, there's very little point.

Even if you write well thought out considered messages it's not the most efficient use of your time.

Believe it or not there are women on here looking for men to fuck and they will find you, if you are what they are looking for they may even message you.

I much prefer this approach to spamming out messages willy nilly and getting frustrated when I don't get a reply.

Remember there is more than one way to skin a cat

I would have to disagree with you.... the good looking guys do very well on here and in real life. Women as much as they say they love personality and dad bodies. They pick the good looking guys.

I have not read on the forums, I'm looking for a mingers with a great personality

You might be right and maybe my approach won't work for mingers. It works for me though and that's all I can base my advice on as I've not tried swinging as a minger

I think you're right in lots of ways.

I've probably sent less new messages to women in nearly six years here than many send in a month.

I think Fab works for guys when they just take their time, have a decent profile and just try to contribute to the Fab community. Obviously socials etc help too (I've only been to two, and should do more).

Like it our not, it is a kind a community - a daft, frustrating, dysfunctional one in some ways, but that's part of the deal.

I'm older, uglier and more prone to waffle than you. I'm hardly Mr Fab legend, but have found the above approach a nice way to go about it

I think lots of younger, buffer guys would find it helpful trying that way. I've even noticed a few (of all ages) who started out "who wants to suck my 15" c**k?", but realised and months later are valued contributors forging good connections and having lots of fun

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I am.looking for people i connect with and local. If they don't read my profile they won't know that therefore wasting their time in messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am.looking for people i connect with and local. If they don't read my profile they won't know that therefore wasting their time in messaging me. "
they is nothing wrong with your profile you aren't banging on about the same thing,isn't long,interesting to read, tells you what you want.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I like my profile, I think it gives a few ideas for guys to use in their first mail

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"I am.looking for people i connect with and local. If they don't read my profile they won't know that therefore wasting their time in messaging me. they is nothing wrong with your profile you aren't banging on about the same thing,isn't long,interesting to read, tells you what you want. "

Thanks u

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like my profile, I think it gives a few ideas for guys to use in their first mail

"
yours is fine as well not too long says everything someone needs to know

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I don't mind if people don't want to read my profile I just wish they wouldn't bother to send a message because yeah if they can't be arsed to read it I can't be arse to read they message, it works both ways.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Oh and I will answer to hi messages if they have a decent profile which if cause many bloody don't.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I don't mind if people don't want to read my profile I just wish they wouldn't bother to send a message because yeah if they can't be arsed to read it I can't be arse to read they message, it works both ways.

This

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh and I will answer to hi messages if they have a decent profile which if cause many bloody don't."
cool

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

To do with (usually) ladies profiles there is one thing I am yet to understand and that is that many singles/couples like us are happy to travel.

Yet a female that interests us will have "Local only" "Can't meet at the drop of a hat"..

If we message it'll get binned out of hand as "Not local, sorry".

Surely if you cannot meet at short notice or spontaneously why give a monkeys where your prospective playmate comes from??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To do with (usually) ladies profiles there is one thing I am yet to understand and that is that many singles/couples like us are happy to travel.

Yet a female that interests us will have "Local only" "Can't meet at the drop of a hat"..

If we message it'll get binned out of hand as "Not local, sorry".

Surely if you cannot meet at short notice or spontaneously why give a monkeys where your prospective playmate comes from??

For me, it's because I prefer regular meets and I'm not a fan of one off meets on the whole so prefer to meet local men that I can see often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

"
then when the woman opens her mail to find your not what she's looking for ..dosnt reply..then you moan you do the receive a reply?

If you read the profile it does actually save you time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

then when the woman opens her mail to find your not what she's looking for ..dosnt reply..then you moan you do the receive a reply?

If you read the profile it does actually save you time "
I don't moan if they don't reply that's up to them everyone likes different things but the thing I'm saying is why you can say you don't like this and that and what you are looking for without it being massive and going on and on about the samething surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it works for you OP stick with it. Sure you will be knee deep in veris very soon.

You mean that veris from women are some sort of validation of our masculinity? Wow. Get over yourself pal.

Oh dear. Yet another post that portrays you as a little ray of sunshine.

Did I say that? Wow you really have some issues going on there.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"To do with (usually) ladies profiles there is one thing I am yet to understand and that is that many singles/couples like us are happy to travel.

Yet a female that interests us will have "Local only" "Can't meet at the drop of a hat"..

If we message it'll get binned out of hand as "Not local, sorry".

Surely if you cannot meet at short notice or spontaneously why give a monkeys where your prospective playmate comes from??

For me, it's because I prefer regular meets and I'm not a fan of one off meets on the whole so prefer to meet local men that I can see often

That's fine, but local & often to you might be a bus ride & twice a week to us it might mean up to a hundred miles and fortnightly..

Horses for courses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

then when the woman opens her mail to find your not what she's looking for ..dosnt reply..then you moan you do the receive a reply?

If you read the profile it does actually save you time I don't moan if they don't reply that's up to them everyone likes different things but the thing I'm saying is why you can say you don't like this and that and what you are looking for without it being massive and going on and on about the samething surely? "
because I can...up to you not to or choose to read a profile...

It's all about personal choice

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

What you fail to understand is that a profile is a shop window. What people are trying to sell is themselves (metaphorically).

True, the female shops may find it easier to sell, but it doesn't mean they have to make any less effort than everyone else. And women are usually more forthcoming and chatty than men. That's probably reflected in the profiles. And frankly if you can't be arsed to read what's been written specifically for you to read, then why should they want to meet you.

So, you've read their entire life story? Does that mean there's nothing left to talk about? How do married/attached people manage then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be bothered with really long profiles either, but I'm looking to meet men so that doesn't tend to be a problem...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't be bothered with really long profiles either, but I'm looking to meet men so that doesn't tend to be a problem..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mine may be an essay but the majority of people who message me read just the first sentence then they'd know they were wasting their time messaging me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would just move on to the next profile, if the profile is boring or tedious then its a bit of a red flag, i would NEVER take orders from a profile, they may think they're worth it....but not to me

this place may look like a circus but jumping through their hoops is demeaning, where's your value as a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To do with (usually) ladies profiles there is one thing I am yet to understand and that is that many singles/couples like us are happy to travel.

Yet a female that interests us will have "Local only" "Can't meet at the drop of a hat"..

If we message it'll get binned out of hand as "Not local, sorry".

Surely if you cannot meet at short notice or spontaneously why give a monkeys where your prospective playmate comes from??

Because we often like to have a no obligation social first having learned the hard way that a sense of obligation because someone has travelled a long way and aren't what they've portrayed themselves to be leads to feeling you can't tell them they're not for you...

and perhaps that's the same for those who only like to meet locally

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

Profiles are there to be read to see if people have the same interests why bother with an endless string of messages if two people are looking for different things?! If profiles were read a lot of time would be saved by both parties. Speaking as a couple if someone messages us we check their profile first if not what we are looking why reply? Also, if it's clear that people haven't had the courtesy to read ours we delete unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile length isn't a problem. I enjoy reading a lady's lengthy profile as it often tells me quite a bit about her and sometimes it can be quite arousing too... Peach's is delicious for example.

The problem is more what is contained within. A long rant in capitals followed by a list of stipulations (understandable as part of a longer informative profile) and nothing else about her (except the stupid legal warning in every single one of it's ridulous forms) tells me that the lady in question either has an attitude I wouldn't enjoy or is a complete imbecile.

I imagine that a male profile with one blurry shot of Billy Bellend, the words "Lookin for a woman to fuk" and yet again that stupid warning (as if anyone would steal that profile pic or indeed plagiarise those words of wisdom) has quite the same impression on a woman viewing it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if you put more effort in you would get some meets?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"One thing is why do women ask for a photo when it in our profile?"

...Why do men do it??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe if you put more effort in you would get some meets? "
I wasn't on about meets

I've got a meet on Saturday I was on about how long profiles are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wondered what should be removed from our profile to make it a more palatable read, but still say the same message? Or should some parts of our profile be removed totally and us not worry about getting certain points across?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profile length isn't a problem. I enjoy reading a lady's lengthy profile as it often tells me quite a bit about her and sometimes it can be quite arousing too... Peach's is delicious for example.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"i would just move on to the next profile, if the profile is boring or tedious then its a bit of a red flag, i would NEVER take orders from a profile, they may think they're worth it....but not to me

this place may look like a circus but jumping through their hoops is demeaning, where's your value as a man?"

Exactly this,

The point is we are all here to have fun in whoever way we chose be it through the forums, sex, whatever. But no one has to treat you like you are less of a human being for doing so. We all hAve value and if we lead our interactions with that in mind, we will find that we gel much better and have amazing experiences than we would.

For instance, I saw a post from a woman yesterday basically shouting at her demands and asking whoever met those demands to meet her now! Now, I don't know who in their right mind would want to meet someone like that. How is that even a precursor to a good atmosphere of kinky fun. The mind just boggles!

But I know some men would though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

and then moan when all ther receive is a message saying 'hi' because the essay covered pretty much everything lol

I know fucks me off what you meant to say let me fuck you silly for it to get deleted "

Women on here think they are above everyone and are so up their own arses it's unbelieveable they actually think they hold the worlds only vaginas ffs and don't get me started on the couples they are usually run by the male and if he feels threatened by a better looking guy it's a straight delete

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

and then moan when all ther receive is a message saying 'hi' because the essay covered pretty much everything lol

I know fucks me off what you meant to say let me fuck you silly for it to get deleted

And breathe. Feel better now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand you get loads of messages but god dam no need to the essay. Does anyone else feel like this??? Pleas comment if you do rant over

and then moan when all ther receive is a message saying 'hi' because the essay covered pretty much everything lol

I know fucks me off what you meant to say let me fuck you silly for it to get deleted

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I didn't actually get to read anything but will do so now. I just wanted to be the last poster so I can add another little smiley face to my chart. Thank you for reading.

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