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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I really struggle to arrange meets when I'm working away and staying in a hotel. On numerous occasions I have advertised for these meets and have never had any interest or replies, even if it's for just a social. Most of these meets I have put up days or once weeks in advance.

I would say ok maybe it's just me that doesn't appeal to anyone but locally to where I live I do just fine for meets, even if we end up using a hotel.

So do any other guys find the same thing? And ladies is there any reasons for not wanting hotel meets with guys who aren't locals? I'm just really curious why the disparity I experience and maybe I can do something about it if I know why. Or maybe it's just me?

I'm quite prepared that I've maybe missed something obvious, I'm ill and tired so if I have go easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet some guy in a hotel while he's working here because of two reasons:

1. I suspect he's cheating. I know it's not always the case because my partner works away on business alot and has met people when he's been away round the UK or abroad. But I'm risk averse and so I avoid it.

2. I hope to build on more than a one time thing. If someone is saying in a hotel and only an hour away from home (I'm relatively near the NEC so this happens sometimes) then I might go for it. But if it's going to be just too far for the potential of seeing them again if we get on then I don't really want to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The passing through, one time thing would put me off. I'm looking for a regular (ish) arrangement so it wouldn't be for me and going on other comments in the forums, so are a lot of other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some ladies prefer to have regular meets or at least know that after a social, you'll be available for a second meet to play if wanted. So if you're only in the area on business it's just likely a one off and some don't like that.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I guess it is because I think that he might be a cheater. He may not be, but I'd rather not risk it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often stay in Hotels most of my working week. Usually in one of 4-regions. Hull, Yeovil, Portsmouth and Scotland. I often ask for local friends someone to visit whilst I am there. Not necessarily for sex, just someone who wants to meet, also a Curry buddy. No joy so far.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often stay in Hotels most of my working week. Usually in one of 4-regions. Hull, Yeovil, Portsmouth and Scotland. I often ask for local friends someone to visit whilst I am there. Not necessarily for sex, just someone who wants to meet, also a Curry buddy. No joy so far.....

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I get asked that a fair bit. 'Just a drink'. 'Dinner, nothing else'.

Have you tried joining a local club to make friends if you're regularly going to the same places? My partner joined a running club when he was working somewhere regularly. It didn't cost him anything to join and they had club running sessions four or five nights a week so he could usually make one when he was there. And then on the nights that there wasn't running he'd ask if one of them wanted to go to the pub for dinner or something.

Asking people for 'just friends' on a sex site is a little bit odd. I'd never believe a man in a million years who said that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women above have given reasons why they're not into it. Neither of those things (marital status, wanting a regular) bother me and I've met non-local men in hotels. I've never done it off the back of someone having a meet listed on their profile though, those aren't something I look at or search for - it's been through chatting on messages or the forum initially. It's not so much having notice as in "I'll be here three weeks on Tuesday, I'll message you again on the day", it's more like messaging someone before you're in the area to see if you actually get on and it's worth our while meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often stay in Hotels most of my working week. Usually in one of 4-regions. Hull, Yeovil, Portsmouth and Scotland. I often ask for local friends someone to visit whilst I am there. Not necessarily for sex, just someone who wants to meet, also a Curry buddy. No joy so far.....

I get asked that a fair bit. 'Just a drink'. 'Dinner, nothing else'.

Asking people for 'just friends' on a sex site is a little bit odd. I'd never believe a man in a million years who said that. "

That is probably a trust issue and also stereotyping. Not all single men should be tarred on here or elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of my meets are with non local men who travel to London for work. The difference is I've chatted to them in advance so have a pretty good idea that we will hit it off when we actually meet.

I wouldn't ever respond to a hotel meet request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has worked out for me in the past. Maybe I am lucky that I have long term customers so am in certain areas frequently. I know what the OP means about something sociable as well though. Staying away in hotels is not very glamorous or exciting when on your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I really struggle to arrange meets when I'm working away and staying in a hotel. On numerous occasions I have advertised for these meets and have never had any interest or replies, even if it's for just a social. Most of these meets I have put up days or once weeks in advance.

I would say ok maybe it's just me that doesn't appeal to anyone but locally to where I live I do just fine for meets, even if we end up using a hotel.

So do any other guys find the same thing? And ladies is there any reasons for not wanting hotel meets with guys who aren't locals? I'm just really curious why the disparity I experience and maybe I can do something about it if I know why. Or maybe it's just me?

I'm quite prepared that I've maybe missed something obvious, I'm ill and tired so if I have go easy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often stay in Hotels most of my working week. Usually in one of 4-regions. Hull, Yeovil, Portsmouth and Scotland. I often ask for local friends someone to visit whilst I am there. Not necessarily for sex, just someone who wants to meet, also a Curry buddy. No joy so far.....

I get asked that a fair bit. 'Just a drink'. 'Dinner, nothing else'.

Asking people for 'just friends' on a sex site is a little bit odd. I'd never believe a man in a million years who said that.

That is probably a trust issue and also stereotyping. Not all single men should be tarred on here or elsewhere. "

Are you saying that it's wrong to stereotype men on a sex site as primarily looking for sex rather than friends?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"So I really struggle to arrange meets when I'm working away and staying in a hotel. On numerous occasions I have advertised for these meets and have never had any interest or replies, even if it's for just a social. Most of these meets I have put up days or once weeks in advance.

I would say ok maybe it's just me that doesn't appeal to anyone but locally to where I live I do just fine for meets, even if we end up using a hotel.

So do any other guys find the same thing? And ladies is there any reasons for not wanting hotel meets with guys who aren't locals? I'm just really curious why the disparity I experience and maybe I can do something about it if I know why. Or maybe it's just me?

I'm quite prepared that I've maybe missed something obvious, I'm ill and tired so if I have go easy. "

Haven't read the rest of the thread and probably won't because I'm lazy!

Op - you look good and you have a good profile. You're someone I'd meet - but that's because we've established a bit of a rapport on the forums and in private!

You do well locally because, presumably, you establish a rapport with them too before you meet!

Going to a new area and putting up a meet is a bit like cold calling! You may get a bite but it's less likely!

Women also (I assume) are less likely to look at the 'meet request ' section. I've done this very occasionally when I've been let down - but found it frustrating as a lot of people post meets then go offline for ages and don't read my message until it's too late. Most frustrating!

If you're in the north west when I'm free I'll happily meet you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally hate getting messages from guys who are just visiting my area for the night. It feels quite impersonal and demanding.

I'm not averse to meeting people who come to town regularly but would need to spend time getting to know them rather than them expecting me to just rock up at their hotel whenever it suits them.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me I have the other end of the issue as I am in Manchester pretty much every other weekend but people are less likely to meet me because it says London on profile

That's why I often go to clubs

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I think some ladies prefer to have regular meets or at least know that after a social, you'll be available for a second meet to play if wanted. So if you're only in the area on business it's just likely a one off and some don't like that. "

Just this

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I don't meet men without having a chat first and that can take however long for me to get a good enough vibe to want to meet them. So no i won't be looking to meet anyone who puts a meet up who I haven't spoken to no matter how fit they look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op if you think you have it bad.... try being a lorry driver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet statuses are of no use to us. Historically we have arranged to meet people that we have got to know first. If we know we are interested we'll exchange mobile numbers and we all get our diaries out and choose a suitable date. If we get to know someone in a club or a party that we would like to meet privately, we'll exchange mobile numbers and get our diaries out in the same way. Meets with regular playmates are all arranged by texting.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, some good answers.

I'm aware many ladies prefer something regular and generally speaking I do too, I just thought there would be enough who don't mind one off's to have at least had some interest but maybe not.

The building a raport thing makes sense as well. I do chat to people including those in other parts of the country that I have little prospect of meeting, problem is I never know where I'm going to be staying so chances of getting to know somebody then actually visit their area is rare, it has happened once though. I guess the cheating thing is also covered a bit by the building a report and some trust along with it.

It just gets pretty lonely when in hotels on your own, some company is nice even if it's just for a drink, When you have a whole evening with nothing to do you kind of want to make the most of it wether in a hotel or not.

I quite often see ladies staying in the same hotel obviously on business too but never plucked up the courage to speak to one yet as feels kind of creepy somehow in that environment.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For me when i got these requests on my old profile,they were usually v short notice ie asking same day for a meet .

Like others have said i couldnt be sure they were single and For safety I wouldnt go to a hotel on my own to meet someone I didn't know.

In addition,my first meets were always socials and usually people asking ecpected to play ,especially if it was a 1 off visit.

Miss

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

You'll always find it's the people that have shagged someone new every week or month according to their shag-wall that always moan they're not meeting enough people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally hate getting messages from guys who are just visiting my area for the night. It feels quite impersonal and demanding.

I'm not averse to meeting people who come to town regularly but would need to spend time getting to know them rather than them expecting me to just rock up at their hotel whenever it suits them."

This! For me personally random hotel encounters doesn't ring my bells. But that's the beauty of this site as it caters for all tastes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'll always find it's the people that have shagged someone new every week or month according to their shag-wall that always moan they're not meeting enough people."

Who was moaning they were not meeting enough people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I quite often see ladies staying in the same hotel obviously on business too but never plucked up the courage to speak to one yet as feels kind of creepy somehow in that environment."

Ask them for a meal or drink? It shouldn't feel creepy to make new friends for the night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""I quite often see ladies staying in the same hotel obviously on business too but never plucked up the courage to speak to one yet as feels kind of creepy somehow in that environment."

Ask them for a meal or drink? It shouldn't feel creepy to make new friends for the night."

I think it's just the fact it's that we are both in a hotel, I would be perfectly happy to have an innocent drink but can't help feel it comes over a bit predatory chatting up a single woman in a hotel bar but maybe that's just me!?

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By *arymore1Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I got lucky with my first ever meet on here when away from home, it suited both of us at the time and after a brief chat and a bite to eat we both wanted fun. It has never happened since when out of town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have an issue meeting guys staying in a local hotel - and I wouldn't be bothered about the possibility of them being married either - but I don't check the meets section, I don't arrange short notice liaisons, and I would only meet after prolonged chatting (and with the proviso that it could well be nothing more than a social).

When I travel and arrange meets in my hotel, it's only ever with guys I've either played with before or those I've been planning to meet for some time. The majority become regular playmates which is my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I quite often see ladies staying in the same hotel obviously on business too but never plucked up the courage to speak to one yet as feels kind of creepy somehow in that environment."

Ask them for a meal or drink? It shouldn't feel creepy to make new friends for the night.

I think it's just the fact it's that we are both in a hotel, I would be perfectly happy to have an innocent drink but can't help feel it comes over a bit predatory chatting up a single woman in a hotel bar but maybe that's just me!? "

I am frequently approached by men in my hotel when I'm staying away on business, and I have to say that I'm not interested in anyone's company in the slightest - I always politely decline and excuse myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""I quite often see ladies staying in the same hotel obviously on business too but never plucked up the courage to speak to one yet as feels kind of creepy somehow in that environment."

Ask them for a meal or drink? It shouldn't feel creepy to make new friends for the night.

I think it's just the fact it's that we are both in a hotel, I would be perfectly happy to have an innocent drink but can't help feel it comes over a bit predatory chatting up a single woman in a hotel bar but maybe that's just me!?

I am frequently approached by men in my hotel when I'm staying away on business, and I have to say that I'm not interested in anyone's company in the slightest - I always politely decline and excuse myself. "

Exactly and that's how I presume most women would feel in that situation so I don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I quite often see ladies staying in the same hotel obviously on business too but never plucked up the courage to speak to one yet as feels kind of creepy somehow in that environment."

Ask them for a meal or drink? It shouldn't feel creepy to make new friends for the night.

I think it's just the fact it's that we are both in a hotel, I would be perfectly happy to have an innocent drink but can't help feel it comes over a bit predatory chatting up a single woman in a hotel bar but maybe that's just me!? "

Yes, well it's not just you but, it kind of is.

Only make your motivations company for the night and nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I really struggle to arrange meets when I'm working away and staying in a hotel. On numerous occasions I have advertised for these meets and have never had any interest or replies, even if it's for just a social. Most of these meets I have put up days or once weeks in advance.

I would say ok maybe it's just me that doesn't appeal to anyone but locally to where I live I do just fine for meets, even if we end up using a hotel.

So do any other guys find the same thing? And ladies is there any reasons for not wanting hotel meets with guys who aren't locals? I'm just really curious why the disparity I experience and maybe I can do something about it if I know why. Or maybe it's just me?

I'm quite prepared that I've maybe missed something obvious, I'm ill and tired so if I have go easy. "

I've had the same, many times in the past mate. I generally tend to find that people want a meet which can be returnable at a later date.

It is after all personal preference and each to their own.

I guess the thought is, just because you have a hotel room you're killing time to satisfy your own needs. Even though that may not be the case!

Chin up, it may happen - if not, find out where the local club may be and head on down!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I really struggle to arrange meets when I'm working away and staying in a hotel. On numerous occasions I have advertised for these meets and have never had any interest or replies, even if it's for just a social. Most of these meets I have put up days or once weeks in advance.

I would say ok maybe it's just me that doesn't appeal to anyone but locally to where I live I do just fine for meets, even if we end up using a hotel.

So do any other guys find the same thing? And ladies is there any reasons for not wanting hotel meets with guys who aren't locals? I'm just really curious why the disparity I experience and maybe I can do something about it if I know why. Or maybe it's just me?

I'm quite prepared that I've maybe missed something obvious, I'm ill and tired so if I have go easy.

I've had the same, many times in the past mate. I generally tend to find that people want a meet which can be returnable at a later date.

It is after all personal preference and each to their own.

I guess the thought is, just because you have a hotel room you're killing time to satisfy your own needs. Even though that may not be the case!

Chin up, it may happen - if not, find out where the local club may be and head on down! "

Yeah I have done that once actually, I usually travel during the week when there isn't so much on but I'll probably do it again in the future. Might end up with a dozen different club memberships though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often stay in Hotels most of my working week. Usually in one of 4-regions. Hull, Yeovil, Portsmouth and Scotland. I often ask for local friends someone to visit whilst I am there. Not necessarily for sex, just someone who wants to meet, also a Curry buddy. No joy so far.....

I get asked that a fair bit. 'Just a drink'. 'Dinner, nothing else'.

Asking people for 'just friends' on a sex site is a little bit odd. I'd never believe a man in a million years who said that.

That is probably a trust issue and also stereotyping. Not all single men should be tarred on here or elsewhere.

Are you saying that it's wrong to stereotype men on a sex site as primarily looking for sex rather than friends?"

Stereotyping in any format is wrong. You are prejudging, that often ends up with an incorrect outcome. This is one of the area,s I work in. Unconscious bias. Very dangerous.

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