FabSwingers.com forum: a threesome quandary !

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i like to have 3sums with my partner but we have found it difficult to meet people that we both fancy

i am bi-sexual, he is totally men only.

he likes big guys only, i like basically anyone apart from big guys (unless they're young with a cute face)

secondly, when we do find someone that we agree on, the next hurdle is them fancying both of us (we are both hairy but whereas i am a 'big lad' he is a tattooed 5 times a week gym bunny).

when we have had 3sums, we have bothe found them really horny but when we have tried swinging in the same place seperately neither of us was comfy with seeing the other having 'relations' if we weren't both involved as a 3 or a 4.

it didn't cause problems but we both agreed we found it 'difficult' and have left it alone since.

so what we're left with is an open relat where we are both aware that we meet other people for sex seperately and the times, dates, details are simply not discussed.

so the question is, can any of you professional swingers suggest ways of what moves you might make to 'integrate' things ?

don't get me wrong, we are both happy with the deal we have and know we have no need to fix it when it works for us but it'd be nice to have more meets where we were both involved !

so answers on a postcard please