FabSwingers.com forum: social first or not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it important to you to get to know the people you are looking to play with before you do?

Is a social meet just to make sure they match the profile pics and don't have a face like a bulldog licking a nettle and an odour like shreks fart, or is it to make sure there is a connection before intimacy?

I don't mean knowing their life story and meeting their parents, but just a little insight to the person.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

All of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like to either meet someone in a club and chat there, or private meets on here we start somewhere social, with the option of going back to the bedroom if there's that spark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we meet as a couple we might have a social..of F plays alone its straight to sex hehe

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By *utronicMan
over a year ago

derby

I like to be able to get on with someone on a social level first ...if you dont like the person or you have different agendas these have to be presented.... if this isnt done then i cannot see how it can possibly lead on from there.... for my part women are not pieces of meat.... a little friendlyness and charm only adds to the experience.... this can be very sexy..... and to do that requires a little social time first....

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

If you jump straight into a non social meet theres a lot of pressure and expectation. That puts me off.

That said I have done it many moons ago and it was exciting and turned out great.

Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social meet just in case there's no attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it important to you to get to know the people you are looking to play with before you do?

I don't mean knowing their life story and meeting their parents, but just a little insight to the person.

Mainly to make sure they aren't a complete moron

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had socials recently and it not going at all well, I will always have socials first now! I've done the random meets and they have been amazing but I just knew with them that it would be. I think gut feeling is a good thing to go with, not the pressing horny feel!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Always social first to see if we all click if not it's still an evening out

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Is it important to you to get to know the people you are looking to play with before you do?

I don't mean knowing their life story and meeting their parents, but just a little insight to the person.

Yes.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

social first, but can lead to immediate play if we click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play it by ear depending on circumstances. If they live locally then I like to meet purely for a drink or coffee first with no option of anything else. The purpose of that is to check they're likely to turn up, they are who they say they are and that we don't totally bore each other. If it's someone not local, or I'm away from home, I'd probably meet them for a drink first but with an expectation of going back to hotel later. But I won't pretend I haven't also just met someone for the first time when they opened a hotel room door, because that's what I fancied doing at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree OP. When we were swinging we always arranged a social first, see if we all feel comfortable in each other's company and quite importantly, whether we click.

After all, we might not have been to the other party's taste, or them to ours.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always meet socially,to see if we like the look of them in real life and to make sure we hit it off.If theres no connection we would rather not bother,we like playmates to be friends too,

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always meet socially,to see if we like the look of them in real life and to make sure we hit it off.If theres no connection we would rather not bother,we like playmates to be friends too,

Miss"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i go back to meeting properly again i'm going to go for socials. have enjoyed quite a lot of them recently and find when guys treat me like a sure thing it's a complete turn off so i can't really go for being up for sex from the off now.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Yes would always prefer a social first just to see if any connection/chemistry that may have existed on-line is still there in reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first is always a good idea. My ideal social is in a hotel bar, with the potential for a room booking if all goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always ask for a social first then if we don't like them or no attraction we just don't meet again Andrea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always meet first for a social chat then move on to fun if chemistry. Billy

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Social first, always, if I'm thinking they might be a fwb. If I've been chatting to someone for a while and get a good feeling from them I would play after a quick drink if they aren't local to me. Although that is rare because I'm not looking for one offs atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done both...

Chatted on here then met for sex

Have chatted on here met for a social then met later for sex

Can actually chat too much I think that the 1st initial spark goes

But now...il always meet for a social 1st before anything else...helps build up the sexual tension..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to meet in a social environment first - even if that is just for a cup of coffee before heading to a hotel room.

Although the excitement and spontaneity of a knock on the door and see who is standing there can be very exciting too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be a social first for me personally to see if the chemistry and compatibility is there or not.

I'm not a robot and can't fuck on demand with someone I have no connection with.

Fucking to me means more than just dumping my load into any willing recipient.

Each to their own though.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Has to be a social first for me personally to see if the chemistry and compatibility is there or not.

I'm not a robot and can't fuck on demand with someone I have no connection with.

Fucking to me means more than just dumping my load into any willing recipient.

Each to their own though."
This!

Each to their own? Absolutely!

For me a social is the opportunity to see if there is as much or more of a connection than with my dildo. If so - well, we can move to the next level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah its good to flirt with and get to know someone over a drink first; hell if it's in a hotel bar then all good

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Nope

Just dive straight on in.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Lots of factors.

We have have had 1:1 socials first and followed up with play later / later date.

Clubs are great for this, because you can socialise with people messaged through here / met at the club and see where it goes.

On the other hand at a club, on some occasions a smile and a knowing look from each other is the only pre-cursor.

It all depends on the situation and the people. No cover-all rule for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had far more socials on here than playmates....I think that speaks for itself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us there will be a social aspect to first meet and subsequent meets. In fact not very different from dating (gosh did I dare say that shunned word on Fab), except there are no strings attached. Seriously though, we really enjoy meeting up with friends, having a drink, having a good laugh, a flirt, and then having wild sex. So to us, a social is considerably more than just confirming that there is attraction or that they are what they say they are. To us it's a fundamental necessary part of the whole sexual experience.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer a social first if possible. It is nice for both parties to meet in a neutral environment with no pressure which will hopefully result in a subsequent play meet

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it is to see if there is any zing or spark or chemistry, whatever you want to call it. i have had a couple of socials that turned into naked bodies on my bed

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As we play almost entirely in clubs we are not interested in socials - we have our vanilla friends for that. A club gives you the opportunity of seeing what potential playmates look like and how they behave before we (and they) commit to play - and for us that's enough for nsa sex.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

"As we play almost entirely in clubs we are not interested in socials - we have our vanilla friends for that. A club gives you the opportunity of seeing what potential playmates look like and how they behave before we (and they) commit to play - and for us that's enough for nsa sex."

Pretty much this and we also go to parties but only parties of people we already know, after a while we may end up with people we haven’t met before if the attraction is there. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social first. You never know if there is going to be a mutual spark of attraction/connection until you meet in person. It's also a safety factor for me. That being said, if they were a fair distance away and we'd been chatting away for a while, the social would have a question mark. I would be more willing to play on the first meet if we fancied each other, as who knows when/if we'd meet again?

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"social first, but can lead to immediate play if we click"

Exactly

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