FabSwingers.com forum: social meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems like a lot of us enjoy a social meet before taking the next step.

I find it fun, and its less pressure. But I find them more nerve-racking than getting straight down to business meets. I'm not a big drinker so usually just muddle through.

Anyone else have this issue?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it can be nerve wracking but that's part of the excitement, the anticipation of meeting someone new

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I always have a social first time and find them very enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I enjoy them too once I've relaxed. I'm usually confident in other aspects of life!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I enjoy them too once I've relaxed. I'm usually confident in other aspects of life! "

Is there something in particular that bothers you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I enjoy them too once I've relaxed. I'm usually confident in other aspects of life!

Is there something in particular that bothers you?"

I don't know, nerves and excitement of the unknown i guess!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I enjoy them too once I've relaxed. I'm usually confident in other aspects of life!

Is there something in particular that bothers you?

I don't know, nerves and excitement of the unknown i guess!"

I'm just thinking if you could pinpoint something you could work on it.

I remember my first social and all I was worried about was if people listened in. But they don't so I got over that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess there is also an element of 'what if xxxxx doesn't like me in person', so there is a fear of them saying 'sorry not for me' and walking off into the sunset

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I enjoy them too once I've relaxed. I'm usually confident in other aspects of life!

Is there something in particular that bothers you?

I don't know, nerves and excitement of the unknown i guess!

I'm just thinking if you could pinpoint something you could work on it.

I remember my first social and all I was worried about was if people listened in. But they don't so I got over that."

Yeah that could be it. I'm fine once the person I've met is normal and not a wacko. And I guess I'm always easy to spot (very tall) so am conscious ill be spotted. But I know in reality if someone seeing me having a drink with someone they wont think anything. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we love what basically amounts to a job interview and a "we will let you know" social only scenario....NOT

We are happy to meet socially with a view to playing that night if we are all feeling like it, with no pressure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy them too once I've relaxed. I'm usually confident in other aspects of life! "

It's just finding someone who is keen to meet as well

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

I'm very happy to meet socially as althougb it can be a bit nervy, if you hit it off it makes any fun less ackward and more fun.

Trouble is getting a social meet in the first place

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By *ikeywestMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

i always aim for a social meet first

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