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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was chatting to a Fab female yesterday and we both realised that we do the same thing when we have sex - try to make the other person fall in love with us. Now before anyone says it's not cool to lead people on etc, I'm not talking about literal, head-over-heels, run away and get married love, I'm talking about showing your partner that for the time you're having sex, there is no one else you'd rather be with, that you will go above and beyond to show them exactly how much you're enjoying the moment and that you appreciate them.

I'm talking sensual, passionate kissing, eye contact, constant touching, feeling, licking, whispering and moaning... the kind of intimacy you won't find in most porn!

When it's done and you go your separate ways there are no expectations of coupley stuff, but you both know that when you're together, there's a connection with real intimacy that you think and fantasise about long after the act.

I guess what I'm trying to get across is that we both feel like sex with people from here should be more than just physical fucking. A good hard pounding is good once in a while, but we've discovered we're more into a truly intimate experience with someone. I'm not sure if that's always possible with a site like this, but I just wondered if anyone else feels the same? Sorry for the huge post, I tend to use far too many words when I write here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was chatting to a Fab female yesterday and we both realised that we do the same thing when we have sex - try to make the other person fall in love with us. Now before anyone says it's not cool to lead people on etc, I'm not talking about literal, head-over-heels, run away and get married love, I'm talking about showing your partner that for the time you're having sex, there is no one else you'd rather be with, that you will go above and beyond to show them exactly how much you're enjoying the moment and that you appreciate them.

I'm talking sensual, passionate kissing, eye contact, constant touching, feeling, licking, whispering and moaning... the kind of intimacy you won't find in most porn!

When it's done and you go your separate ways there are no expectations of coupley stuff, but you both know that when you're together, there's a connection with real intimacy that you think and fantasise about long after the act.

I guess what I'm trying to get across is that we both feel like sex with people from here should be more than just physical fucking. A good hard pounding is good once in a while, but we've discovered we're more into a truly intimate experience with someone. I'm not sure if that's always possible with a site like this, but I just wondered if anyone else feels the same? Sorry for the huge post, I tend to use far too many words when I write here! "

Definitely like this...intimacy and connection all the way, without all the other tiresome relationship stuff afterwards! Of course it doesn't have to be a one-off either...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you know how I feel about this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely like this...intimacy and connection all the way, without all the other tiresome relationship stuff afterwards! Of course it doesn't have to be a one-off either..."

It definitely doesn't have to be a one-off - hopefully after an experience like that you would both want to repeat

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

No its just not my thing at all, i get all the love i need and feel i want from mr D,now this is a swinging site so we just swing in our own way, its cock im after not love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No its just not my thing at all, i get all the love i need and feel i want from mr D,now this is a swinging site so we just swing in our own way, its cock im after not love "

Need a trip to xstasia again for a glory hole night I think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No its just not my thing at all, i get all the love i need and feel i want from mr D,now this is a swinging site so we just swing in our own way, its cock im after not love "

It isn't offering love....just the way sex can feel when you love eachother....love how it feels to get totally lost in someone...looking into their eyes...kissing passionately... gently caressing eachother....slow n sensual....as much fun as fucking the hell out of someone is...is nice to find someone ya can be like this with...without actually having any more than that and a good friendship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No its just not my thing at all, i get all the love i need and feel i want from mr D,now this is a swinging site so we just swing in our own way, its cock im after not love

It isn't offering love....just the way sex can feel when you love eachother....love how it feels to get totally lost in someone...looking into their eyes...kissing passionately... gently caressing eachother....slow n sensual....as much fun as fucking the hell out of someone is...is nice to find someone ya can be like this with...without actually having any more than that and a good friendship "

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I dunno about making folk fall in love with ya, but we certainly prefer this type of sex to the cold dispassionate stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly where you are coming from. I'm paraphrasing but where you mention that there is no one who is more important in the world at that moment, definitely struck a chord with me.

It dangerous stuff, because that moment of loving can linger too long, and it's difficult to let go.

But I'd rather than do that than mindless fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's important to feel needed and wanted even though it is for a short time during that meet. If there's no connection then there's no passion for me so I'd rather have a wank. Spooning , stroking and neck kissing in between sessions beats your meet signing into fab to check his mail for his next fuck anyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't refer to it as making the person fall in love with me, for me I'd say it brings more intensity and greater sexual pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we recently had threesome with mate of ours and there was real coneection between missus and my mate was hot to watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a moment of love between to grown ups with intimacy or is it just lust ?......no one wants to be left feeling used and kissing is a natural part of fireplay ...let's be honest there has to be more to it than wham bam see ya next time ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we recently had threesome with mate of ours and there was real coneection between missus and my mate was hot to watch "

Been there and tbh being the extra man isn't easy when there is a connection I lost two good friends because after our night as a threesome she wanted more than he was willing to let her and tbh since then found it safer with aquatances rather than friends ...just my _iew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we recently had threesome with mate of ours and there was real coneection between missus and my mate was hot to watch

Been there and tbh being the extra man isn't easy when there is a connection I lost two good friends because after our night as a threesome she wanted more than he was willing to let her and tbh since then found it safer with aquatances rather than friends ...just my _iew"

I see what you mean but we are still great freon da and had no problem at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we recently had threesome with mate of ours and there was real coneection between missus and my mate was hot to watch

Been there and tbh being the extra man isn't easy when there is a connection I lost two good friends because after our night as a threesome she wanted more than he was willing to let her and tbh since then found it safer with aquatances rather than friends ...just my _iew

I see what you

mean but we are still great freon da and had no

problem at all "

Just my take on what happened with my friends ,just find it easier with people I'm not social with on everyday basis since then all I can say is enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's important to feel needed and wanted even though it is for a short time during that meet. If there's no connection then there's no passion for me so I'd rather have a wank. Spooning , stroking and neck kissing in between sessions beats your meet signing into fab to check his mail for his next fuck anyday "

Did one of your meets check his Fab mail between sessions?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't refer to it as making the person fall in love with me, for me I'd say it brings more intensity and greater sexual pleasure."

Yes it's hard to describe it exactly, as it isn't love, more intimate lust... or something! Just passionate closeness where you want that person to feel like the centre of your universe while you're together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it a moment of love between to grown ups with intimacy or is it just lust ?......no one wants to be left feeling used and kissing is a natural part of fireplay ...let's be honest there has to be more to it than wham bam see ya next time ..."

Yes I think it is lust, and like you say it's about tenderness and intimacy. I guess it depends on who you're meeting - some people want that closeness, some just want to fuck or be fucked hard and fast! Nothing wrong with either, just different strokes for different folks!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not after love but sex means that I'm giving it 100% to partners, similarly to op - I'm somewhat disappointed if.partners don't.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This is the type of meet/sex I would like to find, just to feel a bit special during the time you are together, as I can't do clinical sex and therefore tend to go months without anything, this does not mean it is not NSA

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

This is one reason I have a social first, to see if there's that initial spark. I love repeat meets because I love the intimacy of sex and how great it can be when you get to know someone. I don't want anyone to fall in love with me or me them but I do want to feel like...I don't even know how to phrase it....want me as much as I want them, perhaps

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is the type of meet/sex I would like to find, just to feel a bit special during the time you are together, as I can't do clinical sex and therefore tend to go months without anything, this does not mean it is not NSA "

Exactly, I think too many people here confuse NSA with cold, emotionless sex. Just because you don't want to be a couple, doesn't mean you wanted to be treated like an unpaid hooker!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is one reason I have a social first, to see if there's that initial spark. I love repeat meets because I love the intimacy of sex and how great it can be when you get to know someone. I don't want anyone to fall in love with me or me them but I do want to feel like...I don't even know how to phrase it....want me as much as I want them, perhaps "

It is hard to put into words isn't it?! You want to desire them and know that they desire you too, and you want your time together to be intimate and electric. And you're right, the more you see someone, the greater your connection and intimacy gets.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater


"No its just not my thing at all, i get all the love i need and feel i want from mr D,now this is a swinging site so we just swing in our own way, its cock im after not love "
think you mis understood op!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"This is the type of meet/sex I would like to find, just to feel a bit special during the time you are together, as I can't do clinical sex and therefore tend to go months without anything, this does not mean it is not NSA

Exactly, I think too many people here confuse NSA with cold, emotionless sex. Just because you don't want to be a couple, doesn't mean you wanted to be treated like an unpaid hooker!"

Exactly why I can and do go months without, I've had my fair share of men that think I am just here to satisfy their needs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had that from Fab, but I have away from the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is different with different people, I really enjoy feeling lost in someone with closeness and intimacy and a connection that is more than physical.

I equally can enjoy a raw animalistic fuck where it is all about the physical gratification.

It really all depends on my partner and the mood. The best sex I have had has been a combination of both.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"I was chatting to a Fab female yesterday and we both realised that we do the same thing when we have sex - try to make the other person fall in love with us. Now before anyone says it's not cool to lead people on etc, I'm not talking about literal, head-over-heels, run away and get married love, I'm talking about showing your partner that for the time you're having sex, there is no one else you'd rather be with, that you will go above and beyond to show them exactly how much you're enjoying the moment and that you appreciate them.

I'm talking sensual, passionate kissing, eye contact, constant touching, feeling, licking, whispering and moaning... the kind of intimacy you won't find in most porn!

When it's done and you go your separate ways there are no expectations of coupley stuff, but you both know that when you're together, there's a connection with real intimacy that you think and fantasise about long after the act.

I guess what I'm trying to get across is that we both feel like sex with people from here should be more than just physical fucking. A good hard pounding is good once in a while, but we've discovered we're more into a truly intimate experience with someone. I'm not sure if that's always possible with a site like this, but I just wondered if anyone else feels the same? Sorry for the huge post, I tend to use far too many words when I write here! "

That is exactly the point fuck your meet brains out so he or she wants more and more.

“Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” ? Oscar

Some truth to the quote.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Good god no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never had that from Fab, but I have away from the site."

I think I've been very lucky in my Fab encounters so far!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is the type of meet/sex I would like to find, just to feel a bit special during the time you are together, as I can't do clinical sex and therefore tend to go months without anything, this does not mean it is not NSA

Exactly, I think too many people here confuse NSA with cold, emotionless sex. Just because you don't want to be a couple, doesn't mean you wanted to be treated like an unpaid hooker!

Exactly why I can and do go months without, I've had my fair share of men that think I am just here to satisfy their needs x "

I've heard this from a few women here, it's a shame some people are so selfish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was chatting to a Fab female yesterday and we both realised that we do the same thing when we have sex - try to make the other person fall in love with us. Now before anyone says it's not cool to lead people on etc, I'm not talking about literal, head-over-heels, run away and get married love, I'm talking about showing your partner that for the time you're having sex, there is no one else you'd rather be with, that you will go above and beyond to show them exactly how much you're enjoying the moment and that you appreciate them.

I'm talking sensual, passionate kissing, eye contact, constant touching, feeling, licking, whispering and moaning... the kind of intimacy you won't find in most porn!

When it's done and you go your separate ways there are no expectations of coupley stuff, but you both know that when you're together, there's a connection with real intimacy that you think and fantasise about long after the act.

I guess what I'm trying to get across is that we both feel like sex with people from here should be more than just physical fucking. A good hard pounding is good once in a while, but we've discovered we're more into a truly intimate experience with someone. I'm not sure if that's always possible with a site like this, but I just wondered if anyone else feels the same? Sorry for the huge post, I tend to use far too many words when I write here! "

I wouldn't call it love.

Instant attraction. Passion. Lust.The kind that makes you want more and more.fulfills you physically and mentally. The kind that satisfies your sexual need and desire. And you dont need to be with anyone for a while.You live in that moment with the person. You consume eachother. Bounce off each others sexual desires and need for one another. The kind of attraction you meet for the first time and you instantly want more. Rare but you can find it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Good god no"

Lol, this. I'm here for fun, and I'm afraid that if someone started whispering sweet nothings, stroking and caressing me I'd probably laugh.

I'm not a lover of 'wham bam' sex, but I am also not a fan of lovey dovey sex no matter how short the session. I like a man who will do to me what I want him to do to me. They are rarer than hens teeth.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

My motto is zip up and f,,,off after,next cock plz

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes please OP

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By *adeDragonMan
over a year ago

Guildford


"Good god no

Lol, this. I'm here for fun, and I'm afraid that if someone started whispering sweet nothings, stroking and caressing me I'd probably laugh.

I'm not a lover of 'wham bam' sex, but I am also not a fan of lovey dovey sex no matter how short the session. I like a man who will do to me what I want him to do to me. They are rarer than hens teeth."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not necessarily a fan of lovey-dovey sex, but find that a strong connection with my partner makes for a much better experience. Using a man just as a cock strikes me as a sad, empty experience (not to mention extremely disrespectful to the man).

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By *ony HardcockMan
over a year ago

Shepperton


"I'm not necessarily a fan of lovey-dovey sex, but find that a strong connection with my partner makes for a much better experience. Using a man just as a cock strikes me as a sad, empty experience (not to mention extremely disrespectful to the man)."

I am in love

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By *ewbyABCWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham and Peterborough

I had a meet like the OP described, I called it 'fab love' it was so intimate and passionate. Just awesome. Loved it.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"I'm not necessarily a fan of lovey-dovey sex, but find that a strong connection with my partner makes for a much better experience. Using a man just as a cock strikes me as a sad, empty experience (not to mention extremely disrespectful to the man)."

Whilst I am happy to be used as just a cock I hope she enjoys me and my cock. I do agree that the extra shared intamacy is more than welcomed and heightens the enjoyment -knowing they are getting great and sharing the pleasure from what your doing. After all if your not enjoying it with the other person, why do it. Although I've known it to induce unwanted reactions in the others partners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a meet like the OP described, I called it 'fab love' it was so intimate and passionate. Just awesome. Loved it. "

"Fab Love" - awesome, that's what it's now known as!

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By *icefella69Man
over a year ago

bristol

Fab-Love! Thanks a million you folks for the word/phrase to describe the unique feeling I get when I'm in a threesum with a couple I really connect with. Not there to "fall in love" but neither to have "cold clinical sex" - yes there is an emotional feeling in between when a couple and me decide we fancy each other and decide to share intimate fun together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's possible to find this. Its only happened a couple of times. I think you have to be totally on the same wavelength sexually and be responsive. You have to be a giver and to really feel intense satisfaction when giving pleasure to the partner. When I'm in that zone I know it's possible to fall in love with that person but I haven't allowed it... Yet

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