FabSwingers.com forum: What's too young ??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right"

Being mid 30s and being 18 there is a difference. Not to mention the level of maturity. A girl who is 18 and a woman in her 30s are two different people. There is plenty of young men out there.

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton

When I was swinging with my wife and could accommodate, we were contacted by an 18 year old. She seemed mature enough in her messages and I talked with her through the age difference. It was a difficult one, she was old enough and I did not want to deny her anything because of this but the fact she still lived with her parents was a little unsettling. I had visions of an angry protective father hammering on our door. In the end I suggested she find others closer to her age range and she agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

Being mid 30s and being 18 there is a difference. Not to mention the level of maturity. A girl who is 18 and a woman in her 30s are two different people. There is plenty of young men out there.

Depends on the person, my brother is 13 years older then me. I am way more mature then him and have alot more in terms of (house,car,kids) then he does... i know some pretty immature 30 years old to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Surely they are doing just that experiencing life ? They might descide after they try it that it's not for them but at least they would have tried it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you just gotta give them a chance. They may be more mature than first anticipated..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes you just gotta give them a chance. They may be more mature than first anticipated..

You definitely are an exception.

You aren't 18 though. In your 20s.

Over 20s yeah go for it.

Under 20s. I cringe. Sorry that's just me. Maybe if I wasn't a mother. The thought of my kid being on here when 18. HEll no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was 17 most guys my age weren't that good in bed. it was really easy to meet guys for sex but the sex was not what i wanted.

i did go for older guys for some time in my teens. wasn't hard to mee them irl either though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes you just gotta give them a chance. They may be more mature than first anticipated..

You definitely are an exception.

You aren't 18 though. In your 20s.

Over 20s yeah go for it.

Under 20s. I cringe. Sorry that's just me. Maybe if I wasn't a mother. The thought of my kid being on here when 18. HEll no.

Well yeah, that I can understand. I guess I wouldn't like to imagine any kid I'd have swinging at 18..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Swinging *is* experiencing life

A lot of the very young members use the age bracket filters anyway to meet with peers. People think online is some place where you meet sexual predators and axe murderers but in fact for a young woman it is at least as safe, possibly more, meeting prospective sexual partners online than on a night out - there is much greater opportunity to vet. For a generation who grew up with online social networking this must feel right at home. Lastly the people drawn to sites like this tend to want MORE from sex than mainstream culture allows. Where do you go to get this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"when i was 17 most guys my age weren't that good in bed. it was really easy to meet guys for sex but the sex was not what i wanted.

i did go for older guys for some time in my teens. wasn't hard to mee them irl either though."

I was the same.

Being on a swingers site is a different ball game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes you just gotta give them a chance. They may be more mature than first anticipated..

You definitely are an exception.

You aren't 18 though. In your 20s.

Over 20s yeah go for it.

Under 20s. I cringe. Sorry that's just me. Maybe if I wasn't a mother. The thought of my kid being on here when 18. HEll no.

What do you expect your child's sex life to be like when they are 18? How old were you when you became sexually active? When I was 18 I desperately wanted a bi ffm but my boyfriend didn't want hear about it. I was as much into this as I am now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no problem with young swingers using the site, visiting the clubs, being part of the lifestyle - but our preference is to play with people similar age to ourselves - we have had some lovely conversations with the younger members of a club we frequently attend, always interested to hear their perspective but never tempted to play with them -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes you just gotta give them a chance. They may be more mature than first anticipated..

You definitely are an exception.

You aren't 18 though. In your 20s.

Over 20s yeah go for it.

Under 20s. I cringe. Sorry that's just me. Maybe if I wasn't a mother. The thought of my kid being on here when 18. HEll no.

An 18 year olds sex life should be just starting. Go to college experiment there. Have Threesomes have crazy sex. But not on a swingers site where there are Alot of people who are fakes as Alot of fabbers complain. Social media is part of this generations life. Doesn't mean it's healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when i was 17 most guys my age weren't that good in bed. it was really easy to meet guys for sex but the sex was not what i wanted.

i did go for older guys for some time in my teens. wasn't hard to mee them irl either though.

I was the same.

Being on a swingers site is a different ball game.

i suppose if all the older people are online and not off line then it'd be hard to meet anyone older now as well?

i don't really go out much so wouldn't know what it's like any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us younger ones are always judged, I think judged a little too much, I can probably say some of us younger ones on here are more mature than some other the older generation. But it's down to personal opinion.everyone is out there to have a good time that's the main thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Us younger ones are always judged, I think judged a little too much, I can probably say some of us younger ones on here are more mature than some other the older generation. But it's down to personal opinion.everyone is out there to have a good time that's the main thing.

We were judged when we were young. That's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I agree with you there you are correct, it's about getting out there and exploring the different aspects of life, we either experience it young or experience it later in our life. Everyone is different.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I would of been to immature to be on here in my late teens early 20s, But I know people that age who are mature for their age and people older then me who still act like kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

We have to remember that it's different for 18 year-olds now than when we were that age. Times move on. When I was 18, no one used online dating, it was still PO Box and putting an ad in the paper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I said it's all down to personal opinion, like for example going a little off the subject, I've been with a few late 30's to early 40's and I've always asked what's the fasinacition with the younger generation and a lot of them say more fun and exciting and it's weird because some older women get on better with younger lads than they do men there age. But then younger women you ask them they prefer older men so it's one of them really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a community of people who have been stigmatised we do a marvellous job of stigmatising ourselves.

I've read about girls going to uni and literally sleeping with hundreds of guys in their first year. I haven't been on PoF but I'm told their isn't much difference.

Personally I'd prefer to imagine my 18 year old daughter have sex on a bed in a sex club than in a dirty alleyway outside a nightclub.

I'm not too sure our youth is quite so innocent at 18 as we think....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was absolutely useless at sex when I was 18! Kind of puts me off meeting a young'un now to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was absolutely useless at sex when I was 18! Kind of puts me off meeting a young'un now to be honest

Which begs the question... would you prefer to learn about sex from someone experienced or someone just as ignorant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

I agree, I'm not comfortable at all with teenagers being on here or messaging me for that matter. Age limit on here should be at least in the late twenties or over.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't think it's too young an age to be on here, I think it depends on the maturity.

I think citing societal expectations about what they should be doing is judgemental and unnecessary - people are free to do what they like. For all you know they could be exploring a kink or desire on here in a far safer manner.

As mentioned earlier, times have changed a bit since you were younger and people have far more knowledge and understanding of themselves than given credit for.

I came on here quite young (whilst still doing my undergrad);and I can safely say it was one of my better sexual decisions.

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By *lectricSensationMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

I agree, I'm not comfortable at all with teenagers being on here or messaging me for that matter. Age limit on here should be at least in the late twenties or over. "

I'm only 22 but consider myself quite mature for my age, I've past the stage of going out, pulling girls and having one night stands. I'm nearly 7 years above the lawful age of consent so why should I be banned from sites like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that young people who choose to use this site are given an unrealistic expectation regarding their chances of finding anyone to have sex with them..

Most of the young ones I have come across aren't looking for people their own age but for older women, and there is also a lot more rejection as they just don't know how to interact with others ..

Yes, some can come across as mature but at the end of the day their young age will always be a minus rather than a plus point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right"

I disagree with you there , teenagers and adults in there early twenties still need to develop mentally. I strongly believe youngsters on here would be wide open to abuse on so many levels. They neither have the experience or conditioning to deal with such things.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I younger Man will find it much harder(excuse the pun) on here then a younger Woman for obvious reasons

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By *lectricSensationMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I think that young people who choose to use this site are given an unrealistic expectation regarding their chances of finding anyone to have sex with them..

Most of the young ones I have come across aren't looking for people their own age but for older women, and there is also a lot more rejection as they just don't know how to interact with others ..

Yes, some can come across as mature but at the end of the day their young age will always be a minus rather than a plus point "

why would their young age always be a minus, surely it depends on the person, they might be more attractive to young people!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at my own experience - I was still a virgin at the age of 18, and in a very vulnerable position - I'd say I was too young. However, some 18 & 19 year olds may be more savvy and better prepared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but I'd say 21 upwards is reasonable...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that young people who choose to use this site are given an unrealistic expectation regarding their chances of finding anyone to have sex with them..

Most of the young ones I have come across aren't looking for people their own age but for older women, and there is also a lot more rejection as they just don't know how to interact with others ..

Yes, some can come across as mature but at the end of the day their young age will always be a minus rather than a plus point

why would their young age always be a minus, surely it depends on the person, they might be more attractive to young people!?"

If you think that then why is your upper age limit 60?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

I think you will find teenagers and adults in genral are more open to abuse in the vanilla world then on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex-girlfriend wanted to swing at 17

She'd known from a young age she wanted a more interesting sex life.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

It does come down to mental maturity in the end, and the youngest person I have met was (in October 2016) 24 years old, but that was really only because her hubby (27) contacted me. My age search range starts at 25, which is still pretty young to be in the swing lifestyle, but old enough that they know what they are doing

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By *lectricSensationMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I think that young people who choose to use this site are given an unrealistic expectation regarding their chances of finding anyone to have sex with them..

Most of the young ones I have come across aren't looking for people their own age but for older women, and there is also a lot more rejection as they just don't know how to interact with others ..

Yes, some can come across as mature but at the end of the day their young age will always be a minus rather than a plus point

why would their young age always be a minus, surely it depends on the person, they might be more attractive to young people!?

If you think that then why is your upper age limit 60? "

Same as why yours is 62, personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

It's abit of sex?

Teenages go into the army and are sent to warzones.. that's ok for them to do but not use a sex site? LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since joining the site I've found it extremely difficult to arrange meets due to my age, apparently 20 is still too young for some people ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with the sentiments of another post on here, people are exposed to things alot quicker these days. Gone are the days of a glimpse of a top shelf magazine in your teens. Now all you need is a browser and you can see it all and find out what you like.

It definitely speeds things up from the days of PO Boxes and contact magazines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So at 18 you're mature enough to join the army and be given a firearm, mature enough to drive a vehicle....mature enough to buy alcohol, but not mature enough to swing?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Porn has been so accessible for people the last 20 years there will younger people reading this and saying "listen to these old farts still going on about swinging like its the in thing"

"Group sex parties on the beach is all the rage now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

It's abit of sex?

Teenages go into the army and are sent to warzones.. that's ok for them to do but not use a sex site? LOL"

Teenagers shouldn't be sent into war zones either. My point is this, morally the young need to protected. Gone are the days when you where a man at the age of 13, smoking and working in a mine 20 hours a day. Maybe stricter vetting is the solution?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Legally you are an adult at the age of 18. Some countries 21. Does that mean you are mature ? Some are. There's no disputing that. Yes we all wanted to explore our sexual desires when we were young. Me in boarding school. Others in college. Times have changed. Different generations. Now a days there is porn on tab. With children as young as 13 watching.which gives them an unreliastic view about sex. In my humble opinion you have to make mistakes, be ignorant explore your sexuality, when you are young in the real world. I see soo many young girls exposing themselves to older guys, promiscious and not knowing what they get themselves into.

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

"I disagree with you there , teenagers and adults in there early twenties still need to develop mentally. I strongly believe youngsters on here would be wide open to abuse on so many levels. They neither have the experience or conditioning to deal with such things. "

Rather than close off this world to those legally allowed to participate (I'm talking 18 here because of the picture content) and watching out for those who may use their position to abuse. I believe any community member can choose to be a positive influence on newbies regardless of age.

You wouldn't be the first to say my girl wasn't mentally developed enough to deal with the emotional strains of swinging / kink. Admittedly you'd be the first to say it before she'd rejected them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe we should have a "I'll be your wiser buddy on fab, help you along "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was 17 going to pubs underage I noticed I always got attention from older women and never anyone my own age and loved chatting to them as I've always had a muture head on me and can have intellectual conversations with people..I know some people older than me with the personality of a ham sandwich without butter and some younger than me that can be really diverse..I think it's down to mentality rather than age but everybody has their own opinions and I'm not here to judge

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By *rs DreamweaverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Met a 20 year old, and he acted more maturely and respectfully than about 80% of the single guys on here 30+

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

You see that's it, Most people can workout who is mature enough to be on here and who isn't by their profiles, Messages or by having a social, If you can't you probably aren't mature enough yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If an 18 year old is curious about swinging they are going to do it one way or another. It can be on a site that has no verification system or it can be on here. It can be in a club with a no drugs policy or somewhere where she might be exposed to a lot more than swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that young people who choose to use this site are given an unrealistic expectation regarding their chances of finding anyone to have sex with them..

Most of the young ones I have come across aren't looking for people their own age but for older women, and there is also a lot more rejection as they just don't know how to interact with others ..

Yes, some can come across as mature but at the end of the day their young age will always be a minus rather than a plus point

why would their young age always be a minus, surely it depends on the person, they might be more attractive to young people!?

If you think that then why is your upper age limit 60?

Same as why yours is 62, personal preference

But I'm 51 and you are 22..which proves my point about younger people looking for much older people ..

And then they find they can't converse with someone from a different generation so bring it to the forums complaining that they can't get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that young people who choose to use this site are given an unrealistic expectation regarding their chances of finding anyone to have sex with them..

Most of the young ones I have come across aren't looking for people their own age but for older women, and there is also a lot more rejection as they just don't know how to interact with others ..

Yes, some can come across as mature but at the end of the day their young age will always be a minus rather than a plus point

why would their young age always be a minus, surely it depends on the person, they might be more attractive to young people!?

If you think that then why is your upper age limit 60?

Same as why yours is 62, personal preference

But I'm 51 and you are 22..which proves my point about younger people looking for much older people ..

And then they find they can't converse with someone from a different generation so bring it to the forums complaining that they can't get a meet

The day we limit people on their ability to converse fab will lose 90% of their membership...

Innit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

They are experiencing life.

Is this not life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

Being mid 30s and being 18 there is a difference. Not to mention the level of maturity. A girl who is 18 and a woman in her 30s are two different people. There is plenty of young men out there.

Plenty of immature 30 year olds in the world.

I've met 18 year olds with more emotional maturity than some 50 year olds that I've met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

Have you been on a dating site recently!? The amount of rejection that everyone has to deal with is pretty apparent.

Sex is far more widely discussed now than when we were younger. Porn is more readily available, giving young people a distorted view on sex. I think maybe it's a good thing that they're finding sites like this and seeing that actually, for the most part, you still have to be respectful to get someone into bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, some of the most respectful and level headed guys that I've chatted to on here have been under 25...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is swinging not part of enjoying life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was absolutely useless at sex when I was 18! Kind of puts me off meeting a young'un now to be honest

Which begs the question... would you prefer to learn about sex from someone experienced or someone just as ignorant?"

I learned from someone more experienced, who was the same age as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was absolutely useless at sex when I was 18! Kind of puts me off meeting a young'un now to be honest

Which begs the question... would you prefer to learn about sex from someone experienced or someone just as ignorant?

I learned from someone more experienced, who was the same age as me"

I learned from someone who was 15 years older than me at the time I was 20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

Have you been on a dating site recently!? The amount of rejection that everyone has to deal with is pretty apparent.

good points, especially the last paragraph.

plenty of older guys need to learn this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

Have you been on a dating site recently!? The amount of rejection that everyone has to deal with is pretty apparent.

good points, especially the last paragraph.

plenty of older guys need to learn this too."

They really do!

Like I said, some of the most respectful guys I've spoken to have been under 25!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you sit your teenage daughter down and say "The time has come for us to have a discussion about sex" and she says "Sure dad what do you want to know"....

It's just a joke. No its not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. The world's a different place now to when i was 18, if there was something like fab back then I would've been eaten alive, i was naïve and inexperienced. But if i was an 18 year old in today's world, with tinder and pof and everything else, why the hell not? If you know what you want and that's nsa or kink, then go for it. As the young'uns say, YOLO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

Have you been on a dating site recently!? The amount of rejection that everyone has to deal with is pretty apparent.

good points, especially the last paragraph.

plenty of older guys need to learn this too.

They really do!

Like I said, some of the most respectful guys I've spoken to have been under 25! "

i've hardly spoken to, or met, any but obviously the ones i have have been alright.

i always tend to look forward to seeing them again more than older guys as well, and i'm not a cougar lol, just the overall experience was good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post I'd insulting to women/men who love to shag people under 20.

Your next post will probably be why are people over 60 on here...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This post I'd insulting to women/men who love to shag people under 20.

Your next post will probably be why are people over 60 on here...

I am not trying to insult anyone.

Only here to see what people think. Share opinions.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Tbh I kind of agree ... my eldest is 19 and really I don't think she could handle swinging ... not in an overprotective way but I do think you have to have a tough skin ... very easy to mistake sexual attraction to love and at that age emotions and feelings are easily misplaced ... of course there are very mature guys and girls that age but they are a minority .. that's certainly my experience with messages I have received .... enjoy a little teen fun first I think

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over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Impressionable comes to mind here.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

its the modern age, had the net been about when i was under 20 i and many other's would have accessed it if this aspect was of interest..

i get what your saying and would possibly agree if someone was only on here all the time but most user's of any age will mix things up so if that works for them then its all good..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does being on a swing site mean they aren't "experiencing life" OP?

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Not swinging related, however there's an 18 ye old girl in my work who has a 46 yr bf, he lives down south and comes up every other weekend, she says they can't go out because everyone stares, so they sit and watch TV, feels wrong on so many fronts but maybe I'm just getting old?

They have been seeing each other for 2 yrs, after meeting in a chat room, is it wrong?

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Impressionable comes to mind here.

That is very true ... have to say even tho I host an event designed for younger guys and older women and is for over 18's I am very wary of encouraging them to come ... I may be old fashioned but would never want to feel anyone was led into something they were not mentally ready for

Plenty of time for all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

You really think they don't risk the same in the "normal" scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us younger guys are always judged for to much I can probably say some of us younger ones on here are more mature than some other the older generation But it's down to personal opinion everyone is on here to find that naughty person they want

From being young I have all ways been with older woman

18/19 I was seeing 34 year old

20 same with 32 year old

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

You really think they don't risk the same in the "normal" scene?

They probably do but they are more than likely risking it with others of their age that are in the same situation mentally

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over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

You really think they don't risk the same in the "normal" scene?

They probably do but they are more than likely risking it with others of their age that are in the same situation mentally

And?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

Most young people we speak to are really polite and mature and are very kind when we say we aren't interested or something along those lines however we have found at least 70% of men over 30 that we say no to get defensive and rude and insult and belittle you. So you can't assume that your assumptions are true.

I've found its the middle aged people who seem to have no idea how to act on a swinging site saying stuff like "I want to fuck your tight teen cunt." And when I say no they start calling me fat and ugly and saying they wouldn't shag me anyway.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to help any younger females.

I'm a nice guy like that.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia"

Where's mamma Mia

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over a year ago

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia

Where's mamma Mia

Are you asking where my mum is or making a joke about the musical? I'm not sure

~Mia

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia

Where's mamma Mia

Are you asking where my mum is or making a joke about the musical? I'm not sure

~Mia"

Possibly both

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over a year ago

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia

Where's mamma Mia

Are you asking where my mum is or making a joke about the musical? I'm not sure

~Mia

Possibly both

My mum? No idea don't speak to her. Probably minding her own business and letting me live my adult life? And getting on with her own.

And as for the musical. Far too cheesy for me although there are a few songs I can admit to enjoying. Everyone likes a sing along

~Mia

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over a year ago

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia"

Thank you Mia. You blew the ageist argument out of the water!

Please can some of the more "mature" people on this take a look at their profile and learn how a well written profile is composed....? People whose profile says "fill in later" and whose idea of conversation is "Hi x"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia

Thank you Mia. You blew the ageist argument out of the water!

Why thank you. I do like a good rant or debate.

Ah yes those profiles. Or one liners like "I'm looking for fun"

Some of them just have nothing to offer really. So they just put in generic crap and hope for the best

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also under 20 and I wanna break the stereotype of swinging is for older people! Young people don't always go out and 'pull girls' and I for one don't it's not me, I just want to have some fun and see where it takes me! I have found that some profiles love it and some hate it buts it's preference!

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why they shouldn't be on here, although I wouldn't meet them. They can go to war and get shot dead, so why can't they do swinging? XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How does being on a swing site mean they aren't "experiencing life" OP?"

They certainly are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia"

I wasn't being or trying to be rude.

I was merely wanting to see what other fabbers thought.

This is why we have forums to ask and share opinions.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone under 20 here. Please don't shoot me

Some of the comments here are rather arrogant and based on wide sweeping assumptions based on someones age.

There is no way you can assume someone is immature based on how young or old they are.

So really I think what you are saying is quite rude. We are both respectful and polite and continue to be so even if they said no we just politely reply thanks for replying and leave them to it.

Swinging is an easy way to experience all these new sexual things.

Not every young person wants to go out partying and getting d*unk and picking random strangers at bars. I know I certainly don't.

I'm not too sure what you expect young people to be doing. As I work full time, live in a flat with my other half who I have been with for almost 4 years and am learning to drive and he has a car.

So to assume that all young people go to college and have "wild sex" is not true at all.

~Mia

I wasn't being or trying to be rude.

I was merely wanting to see what other fabbers thought.

This is why we have forums to ask and share opinions.

I know but it came across as rude to make such assumptions on such people which is what I said and that was my opinion.

Meant nothing by it and I also mentioned several of the comments were quite rude.

And I know what the forums are for which is why I gave my opinion.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was about 18 when I was interested in swinging and group sex. I've always bean a swinger it's who I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep saying this on here. We are a community of people who are stigmatised and discriminated against. People lost their jobs for going to Swingfields. We should be the last people to discriminate.

Yet here we are more judgemental and holier than thou than the people judging us.

Come on guys. Let's work together as a community. It's supposed to be about fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why shouldn't younger folk try swinging, whether an older person or couple choose to meet up with someone late teens early 20's is up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant beat a nice firm younger lady before middle age spread

i am going to be hated for that lol

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I was 16 when I got married. He was 23. I knew nothing. However maybe if I'd married someone more broadminded I wouldn't have been on sites like this at 27 trying to figure out what I'd missed . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm seeing a lot of defence here for being a teenager and swinging, and fair enough, but how many of you will actually swing with someone that young? I'm only 22 and have had plenty of turn downs for being too young.

Practice what you preach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm seeing a lot of defence here for being a teenager and swinging, and fair enough, but how many of you will actually swing with someone that young? I'm only 22 and have had plenty of turn downs for being too young.

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Young people want just as much fun as others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

So we can't just say we're ok with it? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

We will he's 23 and I'm 19 so we play with people our age and older.

~Mia

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Too young for me tends to be under 25 - though I've made exceptions for guys I consider to be very mature!

The same applies to my upper age range - exceptions have been made for guys who are in great shape! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 27 and wish I knew about this site when I was 18

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Let them live how they want, you're mid 30s?

Should you not have a house, kids and a husband?

It's all stereotypes and nobody has to do what society thinks is right

It's abit of sex?

Teenages go into the army and are sent to warzones.. that's ok for them to do but not use a sex site? LOL"

Crazy eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for. "

And this doesnt come off as hypocritical to anyone else..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for.

And this doesnt come off as hypocritical to anyone else..?

We have to shag 18 year olds just to "prove" we're ok with them swinging?

Lmfao

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Ok, Our own experience is that everyone grows up at different speeds being interested in different things.

I met H when she was 21, she lost her cherry at 17, by the time we got together when she was 22 she'd investigated the London Fetish scene, visited the Barcelona show & was clubbing with a girlfriend quite regularly. Meanwhile I was 40 married twice and apart from being busy with girls & one random mff in my ywenties had done nothing but vanilla sex.

Basically age is not a fit all criterior.. Ok you feel uneasy because you have family that "age" but experience is just as important a factor.

Just our thoughts on it.

S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for.

And this doesnt come off as hypocritical to anyone else..?

We have to shag 18 year olds just to "prove" we're ok with them swinging?

Lmfao"

I have no problem with any adult swinging - their body, their choice.

However it's also my body and my choice who i fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for.

And this doesnt come off as hypocritical to anyone else..?

Apparently not. Just you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post ! Good to see everyone opinions, age is the number one rejection on this site... would be good to find people who don't mind a younger guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lie about their ages. When your getting on a bit, you want to be younger, some state they are. When your young, you want to be older. I have found through working in pubs many years ago that young people lie to get served drinks hence the requirements for ID. Social media has no such stipulations other than in the case if facebook, min age of 13 but it lies with the patents to police this.

Whose to say that a young person/young adult signs up to fab, lies about their age, when in essence they may be under 18. We have no way of policing the age limit other than imposing other restrictions. It's down to an individual's own moral compass to accept the consequence if they are found to be consorting with minors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for.

And this doesnt come off as hypocritical to anyone else..?

Apparently not. Just you."

I guess so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Practice what you preach.

Thinking there's nothing wrong with it and having your own preferences aren't the same thing. If young people want to be on here, good for them, but it doesn't mean they're what I'm looking for.

And this doesnt come off as hypocritical to anyone else..?

No it isn't hypocritical. Hypocrisy would be saying its wrong but doing it yourself.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

What an interesting thread! I personally would not want to play with a younger swinger. The main reason is I would feel very conscious of my lumps and bumps, and am able to relax better with men closer my own age.

However, I have no objection about people aged over 18 being on a swingers site or attending swingers clubs. At least at a club, you know their ID has been checked and their age verified in a decent, membership only club.

One thing to consider is that people do mature at different rates. At the age of 20 I lived in my own house, had a mortgage and had a good job. My husband was killed in a motorway accident and so I was a widow. I had experienced threesomes, sextoys etc. I didn't get into swinging until I was in my 40s, BUT I can assure you that at 20 I was more than capable of exploring the fun of swinging if that had interested me. Not all people under 25 are niave numpties.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Age is just a nr .... right??

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd encourage people to use a variety of channels for sex, unless just one could satisfy your peculiar needs. Real life, internet, clubs, whatever - a bigger catchment area and range of people. Site rules have the age right - guys can find some things here that are harder elsewhere

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Really depend on the maturity but I understand where you are coming from. I myself was confuse at that age haven't said that I know a few 18-25 with much more sexual experience then the average 55 years old person.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

"Age is just a nr .... right?? "

Age is experience, knowledge, demographic, similarity, fashion, fitness and the list can go on of course not absolute.

But age is not a number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

If they can fight for the country they're welcome to the cuntree (see what I did there)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

If they can fight for the country they're welcome to the cuntree (see what I did there)"

Yes I do

I see everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a young 20 year old couple at a club of Friday, they were great fun, mature for their age, so we had no problem going to a room with them, tbf it was a wicked night and we are staying in contact, i suppose it depends on the person really.

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By *ikeywestMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Behind one bike shed at school people are smoking

Behind another bike shed....guys are queueing up to be sucked off by a 6th former

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Behind one bike shed at school people are smoking

Behind another bike shed....guys are queueing up to be sucked off by a 6th former"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh who wouldn't want a subtle pair of 18 year old's,would defo make you feel younger,but you would have to ask yourself "why would they want too"i mean they should be exploring each others bodies at that age not trying the swinging scene x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Surely this counts as experiencing life?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've seen some profiles of fabbers under 20. Isn't that a bit too young ?? Shouldn't they be out there being young experiencing life instead of being on a swingers site ?? Maybe it's just me.

Surely this counts as experiencing life?"

This is the burning question.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Was the age I started.

I was always very mature for my age so I never found it too much of an obstacle. You came across the odd attitude similar to the OP, but as long as you're over the legal age why shouldn't you be spit roasted if you want to be and like it?

I don't regret my decision, it gave me life experiences, that most people in their 30s are only getting round to exploring or could even dream of.

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over a year ago

"Was the age I started.

I don't regret my decision, it gave me life experiences, that most people in their 30s are only getting round to exploring or could even dream of. "

Attitude ??

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over a year ago

I wonder what the average 18 year old would think of their middle-aged parents being on a swing site.

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over a year ago

When the time comes for my kid, it will be a private personal thing. I won't share. Like my kid won't be sharing their sexual life with me. As long as safe sex is practised, may the force be with them.

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over a year ago

"When the time comes for my kid, it will be a private personal thing. I won't share. Like my kid won't be sharing their sexual life with me. As long as safe sex is practised, may the force be with them.

So maybe it's their own business where the 18 year olds who aren't your kids are concerned too?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Was the age I started.

I don't regret my decision, it gave me life experiences, that most people in their 30s are only getting round to exploring or could even dream of.

Attitude ??

Would the word sentiment have served you better?

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over a year ago

So maybe it's their own business where the 18 year olds who aren't your kids are concerned too?"

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over a year ago

I am not a keyboard warrior.

I am definitely not rude or telling people what they should or shouldn't do.

I was only asking for opinions.

If this is taken the wrong way, then I apologise, next time I will spell out better.

Not here to piss anyone off.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I am not a keyboard warrior.

I am definitely not rude or telling people what they should or shouldn't do.

I was only asking for opinions.

If this is taken the wrong way, then I apologise, next time I will spell out better.

Not here to piss anyone off.

Caused me no offence what so ever the word attitude was used as a turn of phrase

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over a year ago

Male here. I would say under 20 is too young but depends on their own life experience. I myself didn't really explore til I was about 24ish when I met a older women who taught me a lot and that's when I started to explore more. Just depends on the male and what they have experienced to date.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

I have been with 2 19 year olds off of here...both lovely guys and great playmates! Have spoken to and been with guys in their late 20s/ early 30s that were not so great, in bed nor their maturity levels...is all down to the individual...there are quite a few people that probably shouldn't be on here but age is not always a factor!

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over a year ago

I have no objection to them being here using the site, but I can imagine few things less sexually enticing than a teenager so it's not somewhere I will ever be going. I would have struggled to cope with it when I was that age, but we can't judge other people by our own standards of maturity.

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over a year ago

"I have no objection to them being here using the site, but I can imagine few things less sexually enticing than a teenager so it's not somewhere I will ever be going. I would have struggled to cope with it when I was that age, but we can't judge other people by our own standards of maturity. "

Same here.

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over a year ago

"I am not a keyboard warrior.

I am definitely not rude or telling people what they should or shouldn't do.

I was only asking for opinions.

If this is taken the wrong way, then I apologise, next time I will spell out better.

Not here to piss anyone off.

It's a forum and everyone has the right to express their opinion. Sometimes you will upset people but thats to be expected,not everyone will share your views.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am not a keyboard warrior.

I am definitely not rude or telling people what they should or shouldn't do.

I was only asking for opinions.

If this is taken the wrong way, then I apologise, next time I will spell out better.

Not here to piss anyone off.

It's a forum and everyone has the right to express their opinion. Sometimes you will upset people but thats to be expected,not everyone will share your views."

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