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By *ours Blanc OP   Man
over a year ago

east mids

right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Yikes. Think you'll be on your own with this one!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Do you mean the pics were not to your liking but they were to someone elses.

Of course it goes without saying that there are ladies of different looks & size, but everyone will appeal to someone on here.

If not for you, be honest, nice and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks"

I just hope you've had the decency to tell the lady in question she's 'not your cup of tea' before she chanced upon this thread because she's bound to know it's about her.

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By *ours Blanc OP   Man
over a year ago

east mids


"Do you mean the pics were not to your liking but they were to someone elses.

Of course it goes without saying that there are ladies of different looks & size, but everyone will appeal to someone on here.

If not for you, be honest, nice and move on."

totally on my wavelength with this one! im nothing but polite and honest! and yeah everyone likes different things i go for the mature woman myself! but just sometimes i am left scratching my head thinking really?? and im sure it goes for the same with woman on here aswell if im honest!!

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By *ours Blanc OP   Man
over a year ago

east mids


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks

I just hope you've had the decency to tell the lady in question she's 'not your cup of tea' before she chanced upon this thread because she's bound to know it's about her.

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haha now that would make an intesting thread lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for letting me know!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ours Blanc OP   Man
over a year ago

east mids


"Thanks for letting me know!!! lol "

present company not included

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what the OP is saying is that the glowing verifications don't appear to live upto the pics. There is an old saying that springs to mind -beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks"

Ha ha ha ha. Now I know Im not a single guy .... lol but I do have an opinion on this.... I agree completely. Im remembering meeting three single fems at a club and afterwards reading their verifications in disbelief. lol We did have a giggle. Its like I have said before, verifications mean nothing other than they turned up.

Mistress x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

While not a single guy, do know where you are coming from....but one persons idea of sexy or gorgeous will be different to someone else.

Would be boring if we were all attracted to the same people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks"

Seen profiles and pics of folks and when u meet them u wonder how old they were in the pics, never understand why folks put pics up to ten years old on profile coz when u meet them its really obvious, as for verifications , other than how often they meet i have absolutely no interest in them , they only prove someone met them they dont necessarily paint the same picture about someone that reflects what u think , judge people for yourself is my motto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i can get a shag on here, anybody can

each to their own - taste is personal

i get 6/7 new people contacting me for meets each day.

i am far from being conventionally good looking and more importantly i literally fill a very small pocket of interest on this site (ie bi guys looking for other men)

so i do feel sorry for the guys n gals out there who are more conventional swingers coz they must just be bombarded !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading posts from some people I'm surprised they meet at all, and it's nothing to do with their looks, just their ugly attitude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not only single guys that seem to over egg the pudding.

Lots of people feel obliged to leave an over the top verification. May be it's done with more than a little hope of going there again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best not to give it or show it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is as someone said above "beauty is in the ey of the beholder" what one person finds sexy or attractive isnt someone elses cup of tea...each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I am not everybodies cup of tea, dont like tea as I am a curvy bbw but none of my veries are false as they all read pretty much the same. I love sex I really do and I go out to have fun and my personality comes out. Never had a bad meet and every one of my veries I have met more than once. Like the lovely Iconic said with her theory some guys come on here thinking they will score with a 1, 2 or a 3 but her expectations are higher as she feels a 7, 8, 9 or a ten and the ladies will never be an easy lay or sloppy second best.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

The thing is.... we are all very different and if we meet someone and its great then we are going to give a positive verification. For some they are more reserved and others just gush about it (pun intended maybe...). Clearly the people who meet all have different tastes and standards which are individual to them and so cant really be interpreted accurately by others. Therefore if a giggle escapes when reading a somewhat over the top verification so be it! I really think some people should stop taking every word people say on Forums so seriously and constantly post stroppy retorts to everyone in a superior manner.Obviously our _iews are all relative but surely we can have a little giggle at times on line? God forbid anyone should find something mildly amusing and express it. Humour is a huge part of my life and as long as its not a personal attack on anyone or deliberately hurting someones feelings I really cant see the harm. I dont actually know anyone who isnt like this and quite frankly wouldnt want to. I think sometimes life can be taken too seriously.

Mistress x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks"

I assure you the same things happens to single ladies, and probably couples too! If they don't do anything for you, move on.

But you don't have to be good looking to be a good lay. Just saying!

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By *ours Blanc OP   Man
over a year ago

east mids

sceret couple (mistress)

bang on the money there and could not agree with you more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a cracking question.

From a single fems point of _iew, n my opinion only, I do read verifications n check the verifiers profile to compare opinions. It amazes me when single lads have verrified young fit single fems (early 20s) n then fucked a mature lady (late 40s), perhaps not as fit, larger in size n gravity taking a hold, with similar complimentary words...WTF???

Ok, so before I piss peeps off n get judged, my point is why not write a verification that is honest to the individual? The mature lady probably has a few more tricks up her sleeve - result! The young las has better body n pert tits - result. Dont bullshit on the verifications guys, n plz dont feel obliged either. As one poster said earlier they are really about whether someone turned up or not.

I find a big turn off when verifications are misleading...for me it raises questions about ple's standards "well I drove 2 hours so was going to fuck it no matter what" Really????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? ..."

Solution = don't read the verifications, make your own mind up! Simples!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

You soon learn to take the wording of verifications with a pinch of salt... in fact a few spoonfuls of salt.

Verifications are like advertising but with no regulatory body to stop false claims being made. If swingers could write product advertisements, Mr Kipling would make the best cakes ever and eating them would turn any woman into a super model over night, Durex would make you perform like a raging stud along with transforming your average penis into a mammoth love rod…and using Colgate would not only give you a Hollywood smile, repairing any broken teeth, but also cure cancer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? ...

Solution = don't read the verifications, make your own mind up! Simples!"

thats what i tend to do make my own judgment

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

One mans meat is another mans poison

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

while im pretty pro-veri I understand what people mean by some descriptors of the time...howvever, if the person likes the person enough to leave one so be it, and sometime its realllly nice having that 2nd veriufication as they want to meet u again, ok fair enuff if u meet rather regular theres no need, but going back to previous ideas what veris are...well its a representation of what u liked about the person(s), not a simple checkbox.I like the part wheres theres a dimension to a meet showing ur character that ends up coming thru a veri regardless of its contents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally get this, i am the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits."

Agreee too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits."

What point are you trying to make, are you suggesting that people should be more willing to have sex with people they don't find attractive on the off-chance that the sex might be good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits.

What point are you trying to make, are you suggesting that people should be more willing to have sex with people they don't find attractive on the off-chance that the sex might be good?"

think its about a litlle bit of personality and NOT going for that ideal squad....or the gorgeous elite, most ppl can be realistic nowadays and say that someone is megahot...but does that mean u have to serach and hunt for only one type of swinger?-no way...its about the fun!-I often wanna be the hunky guy in many pictures i see...im not but it never makes me feel like im below the hunkier sort, and of course women shouldnt feel like that either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits.

What point are you trying to make, are you suggesting that people should be more willing to have sex with people they don't find attractive on the off-chance that the sex might be good?"

Its not just that you just go with it some people you just click with and its mind blowing.

Its like black guys dont do much for me preference and dont like players they stand in the corner looking all pretty and thinking they have a big cock and with a big cock cant do many positions I prefer a bit of bump and grind. Stop me if I am digging a hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits.

What point are you trying to make, are you suggesting that people should be more willing to have sex with people they don't find attractive on the off-chance that the sex might be good?

Its not just that you just go with it some people you just click with and its mind blowing.

Its like black guys dont do much for me preference and dont like players they stand in the corner looking all pretty and thinking they have a big cock and with a big cock cant do many positions I prefer a bit of bump and grind. Stop me if I am digging a hole."

its a fuckin tight hole this, theres no way i can get into some other positions!!!

*the hole was the one we climbed into

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

dont really understand it ... everything on my verifications is soooo accurate

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont really understand it ... everything on my verifications is soooo accurate

Mistress x"

dammit when in to check...but anyway i read all the pictures! mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont really understand it ... everything on my verifications is soooo accurate

Mistress x

dammit went in to check...but anyway i read all the pictures! mmmm"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits.

What point are you trying to make, are you suggesting that people should be more willing to have sex with people they don't find attractive on the off-chance that the sex might be good?

Its not just that you just go with it some people you just click with and its mind blowing.

Its like black guys dont do much for me preference and dont like players they stand in the corner looking all pretty and thinking they have a big cock and with a big cock cant do many positions I prefer a bit of bump and grind. Stop me if I am digging a hole."

No your not digging a hole at all, I just wanted to understand your response to the Ops thread.

If I understand the Op correctly he is suggesting some people offer verifications that do not measure up to his perception when he sees the pictures of those verified. He obviously does not find the person or people in question attractive based on pictures.

You seem to be suggesting one should 'go with it' on the off-chance that they may click.

I am in no way advocating any form of eliteism or the search for perfect people (they simply don't exist), but surely there is some desire of an initial attraction? As opposed to looking at pics and thinking 'not so pretty people'......but maybe I'm digging a hole and missing your point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not only single guys that seem to over egg the pudding.

Lots of people feel obliged to leave an over the top verification. May be it's done with more than a little hope of going there again "

wise words sir.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be funny to just put "yeah, wasnt bad i suppose" as a verification

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"dont really understand it ... everything on my verifications is soooo accurate

Mistress x

dammit when in to check...but anyway i read all the pictures! mmmm"

Ha ha sucker! lol

Mistress x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"be funny to just put "yeah, wasnt bad i suppose" as a verification "

I have given a couple of real doozees... mentioning jeremy kyle, minger, wooden leg, speech inpediment and glass eye. Cant believe they arent displaying them.

Mistress x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

So are we saying great sex only comes with fit ppl? The OP has not shagged the ppl in question,but seems to believe that the veris must be overblown or fanciful.

i am 39 ,i have had 2 kids,my bits wobble but i know i am a bloody good fuck,my veris reflect that.i may not be his type but that does not mean others have not had fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is.... we are all very different and if we meet someone and its great then we are going to give a positive verification. For some they are more reserved and others just gush about it (pun intended maybe...). Clearly the people who meet all have different tastes and standards which are individual to them and so cant really be interpreted accurately by others. Therefore if a giggle escapes when reading a somewhat over the top verification so be it! I really think some people should stop taking every word people say on Forums so seriously and constantly post stroppy retorts to everyone in a superior manner.Obviously our _iews are all relative but surely we can have a little giggle at times on line? God forbid anyone should find something mildly amusing and express it. Humour is a huge part of my life and as long as its not a personal attack on anyone or deliberately hurting someones feelings I really cant see the harm. I dont actually know anyone who isnt like this and quite frankly wouldnt want to. I think sometimes life can be taken too seriously.

Mistress x"
Well said I'm sure most of us think it but don't say it . It's only natural. Still to each his own .Life is short have fun and try not to offend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the best sex I have had is with how do I put this not so pretty people as I am not so self concious and let my inhibitions go. And not be hung up over my wobbly bits.

What point are you trying to make, are you suggesting that people should be more willing to portaging

Its not just that you just go with it some people you just click with and its mind blowing.

Its like black guys dont do much for me preference and dont like players they stand in the corner looking all pretty and thinking they have a big cock and with a big cock cant do many positions I prefer a bit of bump and grind. Stop me if I am digging a hole."
Lol I think you need to bit honest about the black guys thing based on past adventures with you and your mate in chams. I know some guys are cocky and think they'r the best looking guy in the club but that's not only black guys . I can understand if you're not feeling black guys anymore but if you never had a preference for them then you're just proving what some of these people have said about just sleeping with a guy and hope for the best lol . This not me assuming but its what i have seen . So if please clarify what you mean so I know next time I see you at any club whether I'm your preference or not . not here to cause offence but be honest .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks"

i know!! how shocking is it when someone find a minger attractive

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"right im just wondering if this is just me or it happens to alot of us on here!

you stumble across a ladies profile you like read it and the verifications she has and your thinking wow this lady sounds like my cup of tea! and i love tea haha! so you send a message strike up a convo and then she feels comfortable enough to send you some pics! you get the pics and your left somewhat curious as to where the verifications have come from? now im not trying to cause offence to anyone and understand everyone likes what they like!! but what just curious and thought i would ask the question!!

thanks

i know!! how shocking is it when someone find a minger attractive "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So are we saying great sex only comes with fit ppl?

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......... Definitely not, the idea of generic 'fit people' is a bit of a red herring in my opinion. The key is individual attraction.

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