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Too many control freaks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Too many vulnerable women and guys happy to take advantage!!!!! Just my observation.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Interesting. What do you base this on?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Dom/sub stuff?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Vulnerable women?! On here, the woman is king.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vulnerable women?! On here, the woman is king."

What he said lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see posts from what seem like some horribly naive and vulnerable men too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Much of life consists of the vulnerable being taken advantage of.

On the internet some people make themselves so vulnerable I am sometimes scared on their behalf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much of life consists of the vulnerable being taken advantage of.

On the internet some people make themselves so vulnerable I am sometimes scared on their behalf."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined first sex site, I was very vulnerable and clueless. I was incredibly lucky to meet my FWB and not someone dodgy. Now I am no longer vunerable and have learnt how to play and hopefully avoid dodgy men xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much of life consists of the vulnerable being taken advantage of.

On the internet some people make themselves so vulnerable I am sometimes scared on their behalf."

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Control freaks...

I think I'll be the judge of that!!! (said in a tongue in cheek way )

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Much of life consists of the vulnerable being taken advantage of.

On the internet some people make themselves so vulnerable I am sometimes scared on their behalf."

in my opinion we are all venerable human beings unless your a psychopath but that's a whole different can of worms.

to be human is to be vulnerable its just part of being human no shame in admitting it or being it . as in my opinion its a natural part of the human condition .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are too many vulnerable people on here of both genders. Massive generalisation I realise but I do see women seeking validation open themselves up for all & sundry & men jumping through hoops for sex.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

some men are bullies they tell you how you should think and what you should like, they expect you to agree with every thing they say, some women are the same too, i try and avoid people like this i like uncomplicated straight forward types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are too many vulnerable people on here of both genders. Massive generalisation I realise but I do see women seeking validation open themselves up for all & sundry & men jumping through hoops for sex."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often find men to be pushy. As soon as I'm asked 'told' what to wear for a meet I end the conversation. If it's someone I've met before then fair enough, but strangers..... erm you aren't paying me to dress and perform so don't expect it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yup, they expose all their vulnerabilities for all to see. Then wonder why people will exploit them.

Because we are not the gilded supportive community 100% of the time they think.

There are calculating manipulative people out there looking to exploit, both men and women.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I often find men to be pushy. As soon as I'm asked 'told' what to wear for a meet I end the conversation. If it's someone I've met before then fair enough, but strangers..... erm you aren't paying me to dress and perform so don't expect it "

Agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not everyone's cup of tea.

Some people do it because it turns them on.

Some do it to let go of the control nature they have.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Much of life consists of the vulnerable being taken advantage of.

On the internet some people make themselves so vulnerable I am sometimes scared on their behalf."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always a lot of bed press about meeting people on the Internet but how is it any more or less safe than say meeting someone in a nightclub? I have a friend who's cousin was murdered by someone she went on a date with after getting in touch through Facebook. I also have a friend who was viciously raped by a man she met in a pub, on their 3rd date. She told me that he had been a perfect gent until he decided he wanted rough and she said no. I have a male friend who was raped in a BDSM club private room after making the mistake of letting someone gag and tie him up.

At the end of the day it is very difficult to be safe. I like clubs where there are people around or I make sure I have a safe call set up. I won't do sensory deprivation or bondage with someone I dont know very well. These things wouldn't stop something bad happening but might minimise it.

Statistically it doesn't happen that often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is always a lot of bed press about meeting people on the Internet but how is it any more or less safe than say meeting someone in a nightclub? I have a friend who's cousin was murdered by someone she went on a date with after getting in touch through Facebook. I also have a friend who was viciously raped by a man she met in a pub, on their 3rd date. She told me that he had been a perfect gent until he decided he wanted rough and she said no. I have a male friend who was raped in a BDSM club private room after making the mistake of letting someone gag and tie him up.

At the end of the day it is very difficult to be safe. I like clubs where there are people around or I make sure I have a safe call set up. I won't do sensory deprivation or bondage with someone I dont know very well. These things wouldn't stop something bad happening but might minimise it.

Statistically it doesn't happen that often. "

Statistically...you're an unlucky person to know !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is always a lot of bed press about meeting people on the Internet but how is it any more or less safe than say meeting someone in a nightclub? I have a friend who's cousin was murdered by someone she went on a date with after getting in touch through Facebook. I also have a friend who was viciously raped by a man she met in a pub, on their 3rd date. She told me that he had been a perfect gent until he decided he wanted rough and she said no. I have a male friend who was raped in a BDSM club private room after making the mistake of letting someone gag and tie him up.

At the end of the day it is very difficult to be safe. I like clubs where there are people around or I make sure I have a safe call set up. I won't do sensory deprivation or bondage with someone I dont know very well. These things wouldn't stop something bad happening but might minimise it.

Statistically it doesn't happen that often. "

On the net you make yourself vulnerable to a much wider audience with greater ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is always a lot of bed press about meeting people on the Internet but how is it any more or less safe than say meeting someone in a nightclub? I have a friend who's cousin was murdered by someone she went on a date with after getting in touch through Facebook. I also have a friend who was viciously raped by a man she met in a pub, on their 3rd date. She told me that he had been a perfect gent until he decided he wanted rough and she said no. I have a male friend who was raped in a BDSM club private room after making the mistake of letting someone gag and tie him up.

At the end of the day it is very difficult to be safe. I like clubs where there are people around or I make sure I have a safe call set up. I won't do sensory deprivation or bondage with someone I dont know very well. These things wouldn't stop something bad happening but might minimise it.

Statistically it doesn't happen that often.

Statistically...you're an unlucky person to know ! "

Yes I'm going to take her off my friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to think I just have trust and people can talk to me about these things? Lol

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley

we give to much information out to easily and then wonder why nutters appear

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"we give to much information out to easily and then wonder why nutters appear "

what sort of information would that be then and what about the other people these nutters have met, why did they meet them if they are nutters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting. What do you base this on? "

A few things I've observed, I've been in an abusive relationship for 15 years, 3 years free now, maybe I'm too cynical now, and spot the signs too well of an abusive man.

Just the way I see some of my friends I've made in the last couple of years of swinging, been treated by these so called Doms..........nah. ........it's just abuse.

Maybe I'm a bit blinkered, through my experience's, I sincerely hope that some of you women totally enjoy it, but please, put yourself first ladies.......and never be afraid to tell anyone.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Interesting. What do you base this on?

A few things I've observed, I've been in an abusive relationship for 15 years, 3 years free now, maybe I'm too cynical now, and spot the signs too well of an abusive man.

Just the way I see some of my friends I've made in the last couple of years of swinging, been treated by these so called Doms..........nah. ........it's just abuse.

Maybe I'm a bit blinkered, through my experience's, I sincerely hope that some of you women totally enjoy it, but please, put yourself first ladies.......and never be afraid to tell anyone. "

I dont get that dynamic either, to be honest. But then again I have no problems being in charge of my OH ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting. What do you base this on?

A few things I've observed, I've been in an abusive relationship for 15 years, 3 years free now, maybe I'm too cynical now, and spot the signs too well of an abusive man.

Just the way I see some of my friends I've made in the last couple of years of swinging, been treated by these so called Doms..........nah. ........it's just abuse.

Maybe I'm a bit blinkered, through my experience's, I sincerely hope that some of you women totally enjoy it, but please, put yourself first ladies.......and never be afraid to tell anyone.

I dont get that dynamic either, to be honest. But then again I have no problems being in charge of my OH ...."

Oh shush you lol,

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