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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have recently had 2 seperate couples on my friends list (both added me) who were really friendly, chatty and seemed genuinely interested in meeting. then within the space of 2 days, both deleted me as a friend. i'm confused as to why people do this. the last time i spoke to both couples, they were really keen on meeting and had suggested a date to meet etc. i have recently changed my profile...has this got anything to do with it? or do you think it's just me?! (choose your answers carefully) lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

It happens.

Next!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"It happens.

Next! "

Harsh man!

To the OP, did you change anything significant on your profile? Were you a safe guy then decided you only wanted bareback? Or have you added anything 'risky' that may put people off?

You'll get a few replies along the lines of 'everyone has the right to change their mind' and they do, but I know how disappointing it can be when you think all is going well and then it all changes. Move on, keep looking, and maybe review your profile to make sure there's nothing that could scare people off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens.

Next! "

wow...i wasn' expecting such an in-depth analysis of this topic! all my questions have been answered. cheers lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens.

Next!

Harsh man!

To the OP, did you change anything significant on your profile? Were you a safe guy then decided you only wanted bareback? Or have you added anything 'risky' that may put people off?

You'll get a few replies along the lines of 'everyone has the right to change their mind' and they do, but I know how disappointing it can be when you think all is going well and then it all changes. Move on, keep looking, and maybe review your profile to make sure there's nothing that could scare people off."

regarding scaring people off....hmmmmm, actually....i might wanna review my profile lol thanks for your comment x x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"It happens.

Next!

Harsh man!

To the OP, did you change anything significant on your profile? Were you a safe guy then decided you only wanted bareback? Or have you added anything 'risky' that may put people off?

You'll get a few replies along the lines of 'everyone has the right to change their mind' and they do, but I know how disappointing it can be when you think all is going well and then it all changes. Move on, keep looking, and maybe review your profile to make sure there's nothing that could scare people off."

It's today's standard reply

But it's true, it does just happen. People change their mind or their needs change or something in their life changes and you never find out why. Often it's not even anything you did.

Just forget it and move on, try and stay positive. Stay polite and non-pushy and it will happen.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


" Often it's not even anything you did."

Us women just lurve to keep people guessing.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Pretty good profile actually mate. Just keep at it

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

nods in agreement

don't think any of us will ever suss why people do it... and it's not worth thinking about for too long because it'll only set off your internal worries and get you down.. =(

everyone gets it... we've had our share. we just take a deep breath, and move to our next inbox messages without that 'colouring' the day...

Wolf

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

You will never know,so dont stress,

If forced to identify something,is the drug joke new,it made me chuckle,but perhaps others did not get it?

and if you ever come north,i promise not to delete you.

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall


"i have recently had 2 seperate couples on my friends list (both added me) who were really friendly, chatty and seemed genuinely interested in meeting. then within the space of 2 days, both deleted me as a friend. i'm confused as to why people do this. the last time i spoke to both couples, they were really keen on meeting and had suggested a date to meet etc. i have recently changed my profile...has this got anything to do with it? or do you think it's just me?! (choose your answers carefully) lol "

Time wasting dreamers no doubt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You will never know,so dont stress,

If forced to identify something,is the drug joke new,it made me chuckle,but perhaps others did not get it?

and if you ever come north,i promise not to delete you. "

lol...yea the drug joke was new haha i sniggered to myself when i wrote it. most of the profile was re-written as i was bored. i just wanted to state my interests, unavailability at short notice and try to get some of my sense of humor across. i think i just take things to heart too quickly and need to take a step back. i'm sure they have their reasons, but if i was to delete someone, i'd try to tell them why i was doing it just to be civil. unless we had never talked for ages. but these 2 couples i last spoke to a day or so before they deleted me.

and thanks for your kind comment

you know how to make a guy feel better don't ya lol x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The bit about bunny boilers and 'Misery' may be a bit salty for some couples tastes too. However I think its a great profile and would certainly catch my eye if I was in the SW. I suspect you'll be in demand again soon enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The bit about bunny boilers and 'Misery' may be a bit salty for some couples tastes too. However I think its a great profile and would certainly catch my eye if I was in the SW. I suspect you'll be in demand again soon enough."

cheers sweetie. it's one thing to be in demand, but another to have genuine meets. i'd rather just have the decent, genuine women or couples as opposed to lots of the others!

thanks to everyone for your constructive comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had similar too ,even got as far as arranged date etc, spoke on the phone all was going well ,then simply blocked us !..what is that all about? everyones entitled to change their mind but at least be polite and explain !..and one told us the guy had decided he only wants to meet guys when I texted them and asked why they blocked us. And yet there still looknig for couples etc..why the lies too? x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"

thanks to everyone for your constructive comments "

Good luck and stay positive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we had similar too ,even got as far as arranged date etc, spoke on the phone all was going well ,then simply blocked us !..what is that all about? everyones entitled to change their mind but at least be polite and explain !..and one told us the guy had decided he only wants to meet guys when I texted them and asked why they blocked us. And yet there still looknig for couples etc..why the lies too? x "

well i must say that they havn't been horrible enough to block me...just not friends anymore lol i feel like i'm back in primary school seems that most people have experienced this happening. oh well, the meets that are genuine kinda make swinging worth while. i suppose we learn to appreciate the people we do actually meet all the more.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

I mentioned this only last week. As a couple we seem to be suffering from it a lot lately, with other couples. Since February we have chatted with 5 couples who for one reason or another just love to talk sex. But when it comes to making a commitment to meet its entirely a different story, always an excuse not to meet.

We send a pm asking if they want to meet or not. As flat and as open as that, no response (usually) and they come off the friends list immediately.

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By *essesCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Sorry you have lost a few friends but am sure you will make some more. Your profile is a pleasure to read and shows a good sense of humour.

Good luck.

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember the compliments and forget the criticisms...if you can do that let me know!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Remember the compliments and forget the criticisms...if you can do that let me know!!"

lol...i think we learn from the criticisms, so i don't mind them at all. too many compliments will give me a big head (not the head that others would like lol)

sorry to hear its also happening to you guys b and k. also _essess....thank you for those kind words. it does mean a lot when people boost others confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you`ve found that it`s not only single guys who are time wasters.

Forget them and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well sometimes people want to see your pics then realise nope no chemistry cos they dont fancy you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well sometimes people want to see your pics then realise nope no chemistry cos they dont fancy you xx"

i would have understood if it was that. both couples were arranging a meet with me days after seeing my ugly mug! so musta been a different reason....hmmmm, maybe they had only just found their glasses lol x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"You will never know,so dont stress,

If forced to identify something,is the drug joke new,it made me chuckle,but perhaps others did not get it?

and if you ever come north,i promise not to delete you.

lol...yea the drug joke was new haha i sniggered to myself when i wrote it. most of the profile was re-written as i was bored. i just wanted to state my interests, unavailability at short notice and try to get some of my sense of humor across. i think i just take things to heart too quickly and need to take a step back. i'm sure they have their reasons, but if i was to delete someone, i'd try to tell them why i was doing it just to be civil. unless we had never talked for ages. but these 2 couples i last spoke to a day or so before they deleted me.

and thanks for your kind comment

you know how to make a guy feel better don't ya lol x"

Come over here and i will make you feel a lot better.

i too can take things to heart,the internet has forced me to grow a thicker skin.The fact is we can all speculate about the motives of others,but rarely can we move beyond speculation.

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

ohh dear OP but it does happen.. and faster than 2 days..

we had a couple add us as friends and in the time it took for them excepting it and us then clicking on their profile to check out the promised face pics we were no longer their "friends" and we had been blocked...

oh well ce la vie..

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Pssssstttt............... they're not really your 'friends' - they aren't people you've even met, just seemed to have potential so I wouldn't worry about it. Z

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"You will never know,so dont stress,

If forced to identify something,is the drug joke new,it made me chuckle,but perhaps others did not get it?

and if you ever come north,i promise not to delete you.

lol...yea the drug joke was new haha i sniggered to myself when i wrote it. most of the profile was re-written as i was bored. i just wanted to state my interests, unavailability at short notice and try to get some of my sense of humor across. i think i just take things to heart too quickly and need to take a step back. i'm sure they have their reasons, but if i was to delete someone, i'd try to tell them why i was doing it just to be civil. unless we had never talked for ages. but these 2 couples i last spoke to a day or so before they deleted me.

and thanks for your kind comment

you know how to make a guy feel better don't ya lol x"

It could have been that you were speaking to one of them and then the other one decided you didnt fit the bill for whatever reason. The main thing is... you will never know. What you cant change you have to accept and move on. Often people do things for their own personal reasons and nothing to do with you. This should be fun but if you take things personally and think that other peoples behaviour means there is something wrong with you then you wont enjoy it and will let it knock your confidence. Please try not to put too much stock in what other people think good or bad. To thine self be true. You wont go far wrong. Personally, I only care what family and good friends think of me, not people I have never met who sit behind the security of their laptops. Keep smiling and you will attract new interest.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pssssstttt............... they're not really your 'friends' - they aren't people you've even met, just seemed to have potential so I wouldn't worry about it. Z"

thanks for that....i've now scibbled their swinging names out of my xmas card list!!! ha...see how they like it :p

and "mistress"....words of wisdom cheers guys x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pssssstttt............... they're not really your 'friends' - they aren't people you've even met, just seemed to have potential so I wouldn't worry about it. Z

thanks for that....i've now scibbled their swinging names out of my xmas card list!!! ha...see how they like it :p

and "mistress"....words of wisdom cheers guys x"

also...why does fab name "friends list"....and there was me becoming emotionally attached to the avatars on my list lol god damn u fab!!!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Pssssstttt............... they're not really your 'friends' - they aren't people you've even met, just seemed to have potential so I wouldn't worry about it. Z

thanks for that....i've now scibbled their swinging names out of my xmas card list!!! ha...see how they like it :p

and "mistress"....words of wisdom cheers guys x"

No problem x

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I know what you mean though but you can't ever know why people do what they do in a virtual world - which in all honesty this is what this is to some people - just move on and keep chatting! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mentioned this only last week. As a couple we seem to be suffering from it a lot lately, with other couples. Since February we have chatted with 5 couples who for one reason or another just love to talk sex. But when it comes to making a commitment to meet its entirely a different story, always an excuse not to meet.

We send a pm asking if they want to meet or not. As flat and as open as that, no response (usually) and they come off the friends list immediately."

seems only fair to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get rid of parahs 2 3 4 and 7. Surplus to requirements I would say. Keep it positive, no need to overcomplicate things for peeps. (Just my opine) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I like it.

I guess it's deciding what you want to do - take out the bits that really allow your personality and humour to shine through, possibly putting off some who like to just hear the nitty gritty details or don't share your humour. Or possibly narrow your market but know that those who do reply probably have a very similar sense of humour to yourself.

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

i had a meet yesterday with a really nice guy, it didnt go quite how wanted but still was good had me gushing, we were going to meet this morning but for some reason am now getting blanked by him sent a message to find out if meeting, been read but has not had the manners to reply

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