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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

Hoining a couple is a different experience altogether, much more about the lady being spoilt, turns me on that the partner is there and I'm sharing his wife with him x

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By *ock69erMan
over a year ago

Middle o’ Fife


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

Oh no no no... not at all, I want all 3 to get involved together, I want to lick, suck and fuck both... it's only fair no one is left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

It's like getting going to a sweet shop and the owner giving you all the sweets you want for free.

You don't have to text or talk to a wife daily, you don't have to go on dates with a wife , the couples usually host , I don't have to buy gifts on holidays, I can still date in the vanilla world, and I don't have to hear about people's problems.

All I have to do is show up, showered , shaved and ready to please the lady.

I know this sounds cold but I try not to get too close to couples..... this is usually when the drama begins

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So three different answers so far. One reason is because 2 men can spoil the lady - mmmm I approve! The second reason is because the man gets to play with both a man and woman - logical conclusion for bisexual and bicurious men. The third, because playing with a married lady there is less chance of emotion, BS and is generally more NSA - all well and good, but what's the role of the husband in the third situation?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Out of my own curiosity - why does the interaction of the single male with the couple's male matter so much if the sm is straight? Obviously they should get on.

And is it really all about the woman's pleasure in that scenario?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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MMF scenario ?

But its different from being with a single Man and single woman I would think,

Having her flirt and tease while he watches before joining in would be part of the fun for me, What they get out of would be down to them I guess,

But having banter and a personality match with the couple would add to the whole experience,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a very interesting question OP. I've been fortunate enough to have met many couples, over much time . Far more than shown on my profile .

From my perspective it's about a whole mutual, respectful interaction. I want to help then fulfil the things they want from a ( bisexual ) MFF dynamic and in doing so I'm involved in the give and take of that dynamic .

I prefer to make friends - not to an overbearing extent - but far enough to stay on nodding and Xmas wishes terns even when we are never going to get naughty again .

I wish to respect any boundaries but at the same time be able to suggest ideas they may not have thought of themselves.

You always have to remember it's THIER full term commitment relationship though and not yours .

If it feels forced ( and I don't mean physically ) in any way , I walk away

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By *anB451Man
over a year ago

Reading

A MMF is a completely different experience.

Whilst I like to think I can satisfy a woman on my own I know that there are certain things I can't do on my own, and so there are certain desires for some women that I can't satisfy without help.

And then there's all the mentally stimulating stuff. Cuckolding. A woman taking charge of two guys. There's so many levels that a MMF works on that a simple 1-on-1 can't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So three different answers so far. One reason is because 2 men can spoil the lady - mmmm I approve! The second reason is because the man gets to play with both a man and woman - logical conclusion for bisexual and bicurious men. The third, because playing with a married lady there is less chance of emotion, BS and is generally more NSA - all well and good, but what's the role of the husband in the third situation? "

The husband is my wingman... some husbands like to just watch and take pics and videos. Some like to be involved like for split roast, DP / DV , some want to be humiliated... the husband is very important to me as he is the one I'll be doing all the communications with.

He usually sets up the game plan for the night of pleasure with the wife , and I come along and follow the scenario.... and everyone has a great night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"
because it's nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it's been curiousity, as I've been offered a couple of times to have a threesome with couples on a night out, but I declined, and the idea has grown and the idea of what I had missed out on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So three different answers so far. One reason is because 2 men can spoil the lady - mmmm I approve! The second reason is because the man gets to play with both a man and woman - logical conclusion for bisexual and bicurious men. The third, because playing with a married lady there is less chance of emotion, BS and is generally more NSA - all well and good, but what's the role of the husband in the third situation?

The husband is my wingman... some husbands like to just watch and take pics and videos. Some like to be involved like for split roast, DP / DV , some want to be humiliated... the husband is very important to me as he is the one I'll be doing all the communications with.

He usually sets up the game plan for the night of pleasure with the wife , and I come along and follow the scenario.... and everyone has a great night.

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Good answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Out of my own curiosity - why does the interaction of the single male with the couple's male matter so much if the sm is straight? Obviously they should get on.

And is it really all about the woman's pleasure in that scenario? "

I think a lot of husband's don't like it if they feel a single man is tolerating him being there, but really just wants to fuck the lady. My husband doesn't like that. But if it's a MFM threesome where the men play straight, but both men are working as a team to pleasure the lady, then both men have an important role.

With regards to woman's pleasure, my experience of this type of threeesome is that this is very much the focus, (but then I am sexually selfish, so am always on the lookout for situations where multiple people can play with me). I find the focus more equally spread with MMF threesomes where there is a male bisexual element.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A MMF is a completely different experience.

Whilst I like to think I can satisfy a woman on my own I know that there are certain things I can't do on my own, and so there are certain desires for some women that I can't satisfy without help.

And then there's all the mentally stimulating stuff. Cuckolding. A woman taking charge of two guys. There's so many levels that a MMF works on that a simple 1-on-1 can't!"

This is totally true. Our very first threeesome, the man said to us that one man alone doesn't have enough fingers, cocks and tongues to satisfy all the eroginous zones that a woman has - at least 2 men are required

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Out of my own curiosity - why does the interaction of the single male with the couple's male matter so much if the sm is straight? Obviously they should get on.

And is it really all about the woman's pleasure in that scenario?

I think a lot of husband's don't like it if they feel a single man is tolerating him being there, but really just wants to fuck the lady. My husband doesn't like that. But if it's a MFM threesome where the men play straight, but both men are working as a team to pleasure the lady, then both men have an important role.

With regards to woman's pleasure, my experience of this type of threeesome is that this is very much the focus, (but then I am sexually selfish, so am always on the lookout for situations where multiple people can play with me). I find the focus more equally spread with MMF threesomes where there is a male bisexual element. "

MFM every time, good teamwork and respect for the hubby that you are joining, of the females being taken care off the rest looks after itself, any takers in Scotland?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom "

Yes I've heard that some couples treat singles like that. What sort of behaviour makes you feel like you are their toy?

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom "

Never felt like that in a couples meet.....

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom

Yes I've heard that some couples treat singles like that. What sort of behaviour makes you feel like you are their toy?"

I haven't really had a meet with a couple, Met a couple in a club but it was a different scenario, I was just thinking out loud and going of some profile I have read in the past

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By *anB451Man
over a year ago

Reading


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This is totally true. Our very first threeesome, the man said to us that one man alone doesn't have enough fingers, cocks and tongues to satisfy all the eroginous zones that a woman has - at least 2 men are required "

It's not just the physical though. One man alone cannot mentally stimulate a woman in some ways. Particularly if that woman either wants to feel like the Queen of several men (most likely in my experience) or at the mercy of several men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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This is totally true. Our very first threeesome, the man said to us that one man alone doesn't have enough fingers, cocks and tongues to satisfy all the eroginous zones that a woman has - at least 2 men are required

It's not just the physical though. One man alone cannot mentally stimulate a woman in some ways. Particularly if that woman either wants to feel like the Queen of several men (most likely in my experience) or at the mercy of several men."

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom

Yes I've heard that some couples treat singles like that. What sort of behaviour makes you feel like you are their toy?

I haven't really had a meet with a couple, Met a couple in a club but it was a different scenario, I was just thinking out loud and going of some profile I have read in the past"

I think you are right though from things I've been told. A lot of men don't mind though, as it's just uncomplicated fun.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

For me having a threesom with a couple is seeing her man watching his wife/girlfriend having fun and seeing him turned on by it. It's also about the woman having 2 cocks to enjoy. The woman can be pleasured for longer by 2 men. With a MFM threesome there are things you can do that you cannot do in a one on one such as licking her clit as her partner fucks her from behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

Try turning this around, we are happy for a single male to join us. (Usually at a club) when she sees and talks to someone she likes.

As the male, her pleasure is my pleasure, we need single males to want to interact with couples so if that's on thier 'to do' list then we may look at thier profile to see if we see what we like.

Any man who thinks they can take a woman to the heights sexual pleasure alone with all of the erogenous zones they have are kidding themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom

Yes I've heard that some couples treat singles like that. What sort of behaviour makes you feel like you are their toy?

I haven't really had a meet with a couple, Met a couple in a club but it was a different scenario, I was just thinking out loud and going of some profile I have read in the past

I think you are right though from things I've been told. A lot of men don't mind though, as it's just uncomplicated fun. "

This is a very fine line... I've declined a few couples that had rules that I found rude.

One couple said no kissing, no oral sex for me and her , no talking , no sensuality, just come in get hard and fuck her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found many couples who seek extra men (me)....again for a few reasons.

Some are cuckold....so a degree of humiliation for him.

Some the guys are voyeuristic and like to watch wife's being pleasured.

Some like to show the fact they have a "hot wife"...and some have certainly been hot.

For some it's the extra pleasure she gets from having two (or more) men pleasing her.

I'm straight....and all couples I've played with know this....but I still find plenty wanting me.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"I fully understand couples wanting to add some more excitement to their sex lives but there is know way I would join a couple if it was just about them, I wouldn't go to be a extra sex toy in the bedroom

Yes I've heard that some couples treat singles like that. What sort of behaviour makes you feel like you are their toy?

I haven't really had a meet with a couple, Met a couple in a club but it was a different scenario, I was just thinking out loud and going of some profile I have read in the past

I think you are right though from things I've been told. A lot of men don't mind though, as it's just uncomplicated fun. "

Don't get me wrong I get pleasure from seeing/hearing a Woman enjoying herself but I couldn't do being directed by them, I have to enjoy myself just as much as them, But that's me not other Men

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By *anB451Man
over a year ago

Reading


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This is a very fine line... I've declined a few couples that had rules that I found rude.

One couple said no kissing, no oral sex for me and her , no talking , no sensuality, just come in get hard and fuck her "

I'd probably been ok with that but I have walked out on two couples who've tried to be degrading. Telling me I'm only there for them and that I should be grateful that they took pity on me and invited me to join them. I told them to shove their pity where the sun doesn't shine and walked out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

This is a very fine line... I've declined a few couples that had rules that I found rude.

One couple said no kissing, no oral sex for me and her , no talking , no sensuality, just come in get hard and fuck her

I'd probably been ok with that but I have walked out on two couples who've tried to be degrading. Telling me I'm only there for them and that I should be grateful that they took pity on me and invited me to join them. I told them to shove their pity where the sun doesn't shine and walked out!"

Good for you! No self-respecting person should agree to be like a performing seal. Whatever the drive for a threesome it has to be an enjoyable experience for all three.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've found many couples who seek extra men (me)....again for a few reasons.

Some are cuckold....so a degree of humiliation for him.

Some the guys are voyeuristic and like to watch wife's being pleasured.

Some like to show the fact they have a "hot wife"...and some have certainly been hot.

For some it's the extra pleasure she gets from having two (or more) men pleasing her.

I'm straight....and all couples I've played with know this....but I still find plenty wanting me."

As a couple we have dabbled with all of this, but the focus depends on the guy we are playing with and the natural dynamics between the three of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause I like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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This is a very fine line... I've declined a few couples that had rules that I found rude.

One couple said no kissing, no oral sex for me and her , no talking , no sensuality, just come in get hard and fuck her

I'd probably been ok with that but I have walked out on two couples who've tried to be degrading. Telling me I'm only there for them and that I should be grateful that they took pity on me and invited me to join them. I told them to shove their pity where the sun doesn't shine and walked out!"

Yeah good for you. Men had to deal with this attitude all the time. This is why I don't go to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time I went with a couple was to see if I could actually go through with it. I was always turned on by the thought of being watched with another woman so that was my first step. I'm an exhibitionist so for me group fun is ideal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people "won't know" they will see it on a sexual bucket list, threesome, fucking some blokes wife, male bravado etc. It's actually quite an awkward experience...I have enjoyed it but recently stopped as it takes a rare quality couple to pull it off and actually embrace the male...

A lot of couples think it's something they want to do then realise it's not what they want, there's many good couples but unfortunately there's lots of bad ones who forget THEY are usually inviting a male into there personal protected space but then they haven't a fucking clue how to treat him, so he becomes meat.

Needs lots of consideration all round.

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

to me its about pure sex without emotions and seeing a woman totally spoilt nothing hornier than seeing a woman with 2 cocks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post!

Well... for me as a single person there is a huge difference if I am to meet a single lady or to meet a couple. I am straight and therefore will not have sex with the male partner/husband. For me it is the interaction and bond of the couple, the look in their eyes when the meeting starts and the willingness of the husband to have another man having sex with his wife. I honestly admire a couple with such a strong relationship! Some people think it is just sex but it is not, two people who share their life together it is not an obvious thing that they will share their intimacy with others, and I don't think there is a difference if it is another man, woman or a couple in this case.

Personally, I like to offer a sensual and erotic massages and most of my meetings with couples end with the partner/husband helps in pleasuring his wife/partner. For me it is a huge turn on to watch the partner looking at me and his partner/wife and join in along the massage in order to give her full satisfaction and pleasure. If the couple are interested I show the husband/partner some techniques how to "properly" give a body massage and yoni massage.

So for me it is not just the sex... it is the sensuality and bonding of the couple with me and between themselves.

xo

Daniel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the couple as the dynamic varies depending on their needs but couples reliably tend to want something more than a quick fuck which leads to really hot meets!

When both men are involved the timing works really well when taking turns to satisfy a woman too!

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

I get turned on by seeing a woman enjoying the pleasure of 2 guys and even more so when its blatantly obvious shes absolutely loving the attention

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I'm bi, but never had a bi mmf (yet).

I've enjoyed sharing other men's wives, and it's normally about the lady's pleasure.

I don't mind being used as a sex toy by a lady who wants more than one man. As a single male, I'm grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer the passion of a one on none , when it is a 3some then it is just sex

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By *appy_hedonistMan
over a year ago

Islington

Interesting question OP.

For me, watching couples in porn films was so exciting that it seemed natural to transfer this into having sex with couples. I can't think of a better way to enjoy the full range of sights and sounds of sex...

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By *istnbroke69Man
over a year ago

Cheshire / Shropshire

Watching ppl have sex is great and joining in to help fulfill everyones needs is awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I don't mind being used as a sex toy by a lady who wants more than one man. As a single male, I'm grateful. "

This isn't charity, there is nothing to be grateful about. It's just sex you're there for your pleasure , just as much as the couples pleasure. This is the attitude from guys that drive me crazy. They act like couples are doing us some favor by having sex with us.

This is why the scene has changed, with single guys thinking it's a honor to meet a couple and couples thinking that single men should be grateful they are getting sex.

You now have couples asking men to bring gifts for the wife , travel to them and pay for a hotel , and my favorite my wife needs you to bring drugs or she won't be in the mood.

If you take the words honor and grateful out of the conversation... everyone is equal and you will have a great time.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

I used to meet a lovely couple in a sauna,the male used to be in the room never got undressed he just loves to watch his wife have sex with other men,I was more happy to help them in their fantasy.

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

Very interesting topic - and some very incisive and intelligent responses.

I look upon a mmf threesome as a triangle. Each side represented by an individual with their own needs and desires. Furthermore, all three parties should discuss what they want to get out of the assignation(s). Their needs, interests and desires should coincide, and all three parties should get something out of it - or the whole edifice will collapse.

Sadly there are quite a few individuals on here that are merely getting off on the idea of their wife / girlfriend getting an extra cock - but they have omitted to mention it to their lady.

Assuming all three parties "click"; For me, the ideal situation is:

The female / wife gets lots of attention and pleasure from an extra man, and from turning both him and her partner on. She may well wish to exercise her submissive desires, and explore these avenues with another (more Dominant) man - and in cuckold situations she gets to humiliate her husband.

The husband gets to show his sexy wife off, exercise his voyeurism, revel in her lasciviousness and in cuckold situations - his own humiliation.

The male feels extremely privileged to be invited (albeit briefly) into the inner sanctum of the couple's relationship. He will have found out what makes them both tick sexually, and he reishes "pushing the appropriate buttons", pleasuring a sexy woman and exercising his exhibitionistic traits; Knowing that they will be fucking on the memory for some time to come.

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

Seeing the lady enjoy the pleasures that two men can offer.

Us blokes all like to think we can do something special, but we can't do it all it once, with the subtle differences each of us has.

Making one plus one equal more than two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like married women. I like having permission to have fun with them. I also like bi fun so meeting couples allows me to indulge both those things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much everybody for some very informative answers, and I'm glad so many found this an interesting subject. Whereas the benefits of an MMF when the men are bisexual/bicurious are obvious, I'm pleasantly surprised to hear that so many men extolling the virtues of an MFM, where both men are playing straight, as a means to ultimate female pleasure.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

I'm bisexual so like the combinations and options havingsex with a bi guy and a lady and I like sex with a 'straight' couple because I like watching them have sex and like him watching me have sex and like the idea and realism of two guys pleasuring a lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was however surprised to hear so many men talk about being used as a toy by couples. Although I was aware of it, I didn't realise that so many couples treat single men as such. It's ironic, because us as a couple who pride ourselves on treating our playmates with equality and respect, we have found in the past we've had to sift through a lot of men who just want to fuck me, but don't give a toss about us as a couple. I've often felt that it's women that are regarded as sex toys on Fab. But I guess those men wouldn't have responded to my forum post. As Bbcnyc said, it's a fine balance. I believe most men on Fab would not want to give us want we seek, as we are too 'friendship based' in our requirements from a single guy. But at the other end of the spectrum, men are treated like a warm dildo with a heartbeat. But maybe that is digressing into another thread....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was however surprised to hear so many men talk about being used as a toy by couples. Although I was aware of it, I didn't realise that so many couples treat single men as such. It's ironic, because us as a couple who pride ourselves on treating our playmates with equality and respect, we have found in the past we've had to sift through a lot of men who just want to fuck me, but don't give a toss about us as a couple. I've often felt that it's women that are regarded as sex toys on Fab. But I guess those men wouldn't have responded to my forum post. As Bbcnyc said, it's a fine balance. I believe most men on Fab would not want to give us want we seek, as we are too 'friendship based' in our requirements from a single guy. But at the other end of the spectrum, men are treated like a warm dildo with a heartbeat. But maybe that is digressing into another thread...."
i like to enjoy everyone present equally.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"

This is a very fine line... I've declined a few couples that had rules that I found rude.

One couple said no kissing, no oral sex for me and her , no talking , no sensuality, just come in get hard and fuck her

I'd probably been ok with that but I have walked out on two couples who've tried to be degrading. Telling me I'm only there for them and that I should be grateful that they took pity on me and invited me to join them. I told them to shove their pity where the sun doesn't shine and walked out!"

Good for you! Unless that is what you knew you were agreeing to that is not on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

I don't want to be sexually devoted to one woman - Emotionaly definitely.

The same liberties for both partners as long honesty, loyalty and transparency is on both sides

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

For me the first step has to be all 3 agreeing what they are getting together for before you meet. Might involve a social meet first to ensure all are happy and there is an attraction or straight to the fun.

There are many reasons and scenarios for couples inviting a single man to join them from the straight forward 2 men pleasuring one Lady (4 hands, 2 mouths/tongues and 2 cocks with possible scenarios such as spit roast, dp etc) to the Husband wanting to see his Wife receiving pleasure from another man and then possibly joining in - to the cuckold scenarios and to many more to mention.

Each couple and single man will be different and will have different scenarios they would be willing to participate in.

At the end of the day everyone should be treated as a person rather than a toy or piece of meat (unless that is the scenario you have agreed on).

Sorry for the rambling response....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me the first step has to be all 3 agreeing what they are getting together for before you meet. Might involve a social meet first to ensure all are happy and there is an attraction or straight to the fun.

There are many reasons and scenarios for couples inviting a single man to join them from the straight forward 2 men pleasuring one Lady (4 hands, 2 mouths/tongues and 2 cocks with possible scenarios such as spit roast, dp etc) to the Husband wanting to see his Wife receiving pleasure from another man and then possibly joining in - to the cuckold scenarios and to many more to mention.

Each couple and single man will be different and will have different scenarios they would be willing to participate in.

At the end of the day everyone should be treated as a person rather than a toy or piece of meat (unless that is the scenario you have agreed on).

Sorry for the rambling response....

"

You've been doing your homework

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By *icefella69Man
over a year ago

bristol

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By *icefella69Man
over a year ago

bristol

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"For me the first step has to be all 3 agreeing what they are getting together for before you meet. Might involve a social meet first to ensure all are happy and there is an attraction or straight to the fun.

There are many reasons and scenarios for couples inviting a single man to join them from the straight forward 2 men pleasuring one Lady (4 hands, 2 mouths/tongues and 2 cocks with possible scenarios such as spit roast, dp etc) to the Husband wanting to see his Wife receiving pleasure from another man and then possibly joining in - to the cuckold scenarios and to many more to mention.

Each couple and single man will be different and will have different scenarios they would be willing to participate in.

At the end of the day everyone should be treated as a person rather than a toy or piece of meat (unless that is the scenario you have agreed on).

Sorry for the rambling response....

You've been doing your homework "

First time for everything then

Seriously though it is better to know what you are saying you are available for so you know if it is really something you want to do.

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By *ob_nwMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

for me the interest started after a visit to a club in Germany, it was quiet in there, but there was one couple who played in a room together, I just watched, no touching they just wanted to be watched, some thing that didn't really float my boat, but I did and it was amazing, just to see the pleasure the lady was having, knowing I was watching was amazing, they both had a great time, I felt good knowing I helped make them happy, and I also had great memories of it, and I am now more than happy to just watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my first and only meet with a couple, the husband joined later after we'd got to know each other. And didn't join in for a while, instead he just watched and almost seemed to spectate - like a sport or a film that he's seen loads of times.

He talked to me alot which threw me off a bit, but it was stuff like 'oh you'll really enjoy this' and 'don't you love that'. It was kind of sweet in a weird way, like he was so proud to show her off.

It put me at ease because I could tell that they were both enjoying it.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"

I don't mind being used as a sex toy by a lady who wants more than one man. As a single male, I'm grateful.

This isn't charity, there is nothing to be grateful about. It's just sex you're there for your pleasure , just as much as the couples pleasure. This is the attitude from guys that drive me crazy. They act like couples are doing us some favor by having sex with us.

This is why the scene has changed, with single guys thinking it's a honor to meet a couple and couples thinking that single men should be grateful they are getting sex.

You now have couples asking men to bring gifts for the wife , travel to them and pay for a hotel , and my favorite my wife needs you to bring drugs or she won't be in the mood.

If you take the words honor and grateful out of the conversation... everyone is equal and you will have a great time.

"

I've never had to purchase a gift or pay for a hotel.

I normally take a bottle of wine if I'm playing at theirs. But I'd do that if I was going for dinner with friends.

When I said grateful, I am acknowledging the fact that a couple are sharing their relationship with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread.

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By *hamesGentMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire / Sussex

I remember the first time I met a couple. Being new to this, I was just interested in having sex with the woman and was a bit apprehensive about another man being there.

They sensed my nerves and after a couple of drinks, the lady invited me to the bedroom so we could get better acquainted. After 20 minutes or so of foreplay, the chap appeared naked and raring to go. I'll never forget the feeling I had when she took both of us in hand as we massaged her together. It was just felt so erotic and exciting being invited into their world. It was a really different dynamic, and it also felt liberating.

The next few hours flew by and needless to say, after that, I was very keen to do it all again and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to watch a women get really cock hungry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I don't mind being used as a sex toy by a lady who wants more than one man. As a single male, I'm grateful.

This isn't charity, there is nothing to be grateful about. It's just sex you're there for your pleasure , just as much as the couples pleasure. This is the attitude from guys that drive me crazy. They act like couples are doing us some favor by having sex with us.

This is why the scene has changed, with single guys thinking it's a honor to meet a couple and couples thinking that single men should be grateful they are getting sex.

You now have couples asking men to bring gifts for the wife , travel to them and pay for a hotel , and my favorite my wife needs you to bring drugs or she won't be in the mood.

If you take the words honor and grateful out of the conversation... everyone is equal and you will have a great time.

I've never had to purchase a gift or pay for a hotel.

I normally take a bottle of wine if I'm playing at theirs. But I'd do that if I was going for dinner with friends.

When I said grateful, I am acknowledging the fact that a couple are sharing their relationship with me."

This is going off on a tangent, but that's what I like about the forums - issues spring up for discussion that we're not expected.

Maybe it's more accurate to say that we should all feel grateful and privileged to play with someone who treats us how we want to be treated, and where the dynamics just work. Us as a couple know that we could put a meet status up for tonight or tomorrow, and some desperate guy would apply for the opportunity to have sex. But I know most of people hear guys don't care who they are having sex with, or care about what we have to offer, and certainly aren't going to make any effort to meet our needs. So if we were to go down that pathway just for me to be fucked, I think we can be forgiven for using that man in the same way that he's using me. But anonymous sex doesn't do anything for me, so that's not going to happen. As a result we both feel extremely grateful to less than a handful of gentleman, whom we regard as friends, who give us what we want and treat us how we want to be treated. And in return we hope they get equal enjoyment through their acquaintance with us. Even as a couple, we don't take things for granted, because their are very few that we can share that special dynamic with.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Most women are multi orgasmic so when one guy cums the other can take over whilst the first recovers and seeing the other guy fucking her it's not long before you get hard again plus one can be taking pics. It's such a big turn on mmf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't mind being used as a sex toy by a lady who wants more than one man. As a single male, I'm grateful.

This isn't charity, there is nothing to be grateful about. It's just sex you're there for your pleasure , just as much as the couples pleasure. This is the attitude from guys that drive me crazy. They act like couples are doing us some favor by having sex with us.

This is why the scene has changed, with single guys thinking it's a honor to meet a couple and couples thinking that single men should be grateful they are getting sex.

You now have couples asking men to bring gifts for the wife , travel to them and pay for a hotel , and my favorite my wife needs you to bring drugs or she won't be in the mood.

If you take the words honor and grateful out of the conversation... everyone is equal and you will have a great time.

I've never had to purchase a gift or pay for a hotel.

I normally take a bottle of wine if I'm playing at theirs. But I'd do that if I was going for dinner with friends.

When I said grateful, I am acknowledging the fact that a couple are sharing their relationship with me.

This is going off on a tangent, but that's what I like about the forums - issues spring up for discussion that we're not expected.

Maybe it's more accurate to say that we should all feel grateful and privileged to play with someone who treats us how we want to be treated, and where the dynamics just work. Us as a couple know that we could put a meet status up for tonight or tomorrow, and some desperate guy would apply for the opportunity to have sex. But I know most of people hear guys don't care who they are having sex with, or care about what we have to offer, and certainly aren't going to make any effort to meet our needs. So if we were to go down that pathway just for me to be fucked, I think we can be forgiven for using that man in the same way that he's using me. But anonymous sex doesn't do anything for me, so that's not going to happen. As a result we both feel extremely grateful to less than a handful of gentleman, whom we regard as friends, who give us what we want and treat us how we want to be treated. And in return we hope they get equal enjoyment through their acquaintance with us. Even as a couple, we don't take things for granted, because their are very few that we can share that special dynamic with."

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

For me I enjoying watching the lady with her husband as much as enjoying the lady myself

No I don't mind partner I actually prefer it. I

Am one of few guys that love watching man and woman together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather join in with a couple in a club than a single lady as I love to be watched by her partner as I fuck her or as we take her together, seeing the look on her face when she has a choice of cocks to suck on is priceless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had one MMF and it wasn't with this boyfriend, it was two guys off here when i was single. I loved it and would love to have single guys join me and the Mr... unfortunately he's just not up for it. He's comfortable with us being with couples or single bi women, but not single men. I think it's because he's worried he'd feel left out or jealous, which isn't the dynamic i'd want at all. I love the idea that they're both there to pleasure me, and I'm dying to try dp. But if he's not relaxed with it then that's no fun at all. Fingers crossed one day he feels different, i see so many single men on here I'd like to fuck, but we don't play separately so it can't happen.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I've only had one MMF and it wasn't with this boyfriend, it was two guys off here when i was single. I loved it and would love to have single guys join me and the Mr... unfortunately he's just not up for it. He's comfortable with us being with couples or single bi women, but not single men. I think it's because he's worried he'd feel left out or jealous, which isn't the dynamic i'd want at all. I love the idea that they're both there to pleasure me, and I'm dying to try dp. But if he's not relaxed with it then that's no fun at all. Fingers crossed one day he feels different, i see so many single men on here I'd like to fuck, but we don't play separately so it can't happen. "

Have you asked him why he doesn't want to do it?

I think the scene is about communication, if he does think he will be left out then there are certain scenerios where you could still play as a couple but say invite a single guy to watch but make it clear that he is not to join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it cums down to the idea of multi partner sex being adult play. With a couple there are more pervy minds and bodies that offer more varieties of play. Also having two guys focus attention on bringing pleasure to the lady and the luscious options for bringing pleasure to all is very fulfilling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had one MMF and it wasn't with this boyfriend, it was two guys off here when i was single. I loved it and would love to have single guys join me and the Mr... unfortunately he's just not up for it. He's comfortable with us being with couples or single bi women, but not single men. I think it's because he's worried he'd feel left out or jealous, which isn't the dynamic i'd want at all. I love the idea that they're both there to pleasure me, and I'm dying to try dp. But if he's not relaxed with it then that's no fun at all. Fingers crossed one day he feels different, i see so many single men on here I'd like to fuck, but we don't play separately so it can't happen.

Have you asked him why he doesn't want to do it?

I think the scene is about communication, if he does think he will be left out then there are certain scenerios where you could still play as a couple but say invite a single guy to watch but make it clear that he is not to join in

"

I might suggest that to him now you say it, that we invite a guy to just watch... when we've talked about it before he said it's because there's no-one there "for him". When we're with an MF couple we do a full swap, and with bi women we both get to play, but with another guy joining us i think he's wondering what he gets out of it... and he knows i'm a greedy fucker and would have men round all the time

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Having met two couples in the past, with both the meets were arranged by the husband, and their involvement was purely voyeuristic. My take on that was that the husband got their enjoyment from watching his wife being pleasured by another man; the wife got her pleasure, and I certainly did! At no point did I feel that it was anything other than of mutual benefit for all involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to satisfy my increasing curiosity as to what makes people tick when incomes to sex and the swing scene?

Single guys, who incude MF couples as one of the demographics they are looking to meet, why do you want to meet a couple? What is it that you would enjoy about a threesome as opposed to a regular one-on-one? Or do you just want to have sex with the woman and will tolerate their partner being there?

Mrs"

For me its about pleasure for all parties, I have had the privilege of a few threesomes so relatively inexperienced with mmf, but both were amazing in their own right and both very different, one was all about pleasing the woman, with two men giving her all the attention which she loved. The other one was a bi mmf with everyone playing and exploring again it was something we all loved. both were so amazing and will be repeated.

For me its about the fact that I can be part of pleasing both people in a bi mmf, plus so many different things can be done when there are three people playing whether it is bi or straight play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mrs is apt to let others dictate and set the pace in normal life so to see her in charge of 2 or 3 guys is a massive buzz for her as well as me. Like this guy says, you have to accept your own limitations be it cock size or body shape (or just the fact that you only have one cock!) and when you're back in a one on one with her you realise how little all that stuff matters so it's a win all round.

Master Oogway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the naughtyness of being privileged to join in with a couple, and satisfy your curiosity about what sexiness goes on behind the net curtains. Love it

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By *ohnlauraCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We agree but all the guys we USED go away very happy tired toys

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

For me it is a privilege to be invited to join a couple and once there I am happy to help them fulfill their fantasy. If that is me playing alone with the Lady or Hubby and me devoting attention to the Lady then either is great.

One bonus is that if one guy is resting then there is always another ready to go hopefully

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By *icefella69Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Most women are multi orgasmic so when one guy cums the other can take over whilst the first recovers and seeing the other guy fucking her it's not long before you get hard again plus one can be taking pics. It's such a big turn on mmf. "
YEEEESSSS thank you for saying that! It's the shift-system/taking-turns/both-doing stuff-together of a threesum. And at other times there's a spare person to pour drinks, make the tea etc. And yes, the amazing feeling that "three is a much bigger number than two" because what we're also doing is a mini group-sex thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the buzz of knowing they are married. Seeing the wife's eyes roll back and knowing she is loving it.

I've had husbands watch in the wardrobe.. great buzz.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Most women are multi orgasmic so when one guy cums the other can take over whilst the first recovers and seeing the other guy fucking her it's not long before you get hard again plus one can be taking pics. It's such a big turn on mmf. YEEEESSSS thank you for saying that! It's the shift-system/taking-

turns/both-doing stuff-together of a threesum. And at other times there's a spare person to pour drinks, make the tea etc. And yes, the amazing feeling that "three is a much bigger number than two" because what we're also doing is a mini group-sex thing!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the women to tell me what she would like me to do for her fella n force me on his cock x

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