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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Would you have sex with your friends partner if they both agreed? Do you think it would ruin the friendship or enhance it?

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston

It all depends who they both are. Some people are/get more jealous, despite what they said initially.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

It all depends on the dynamic. I have a few friends where I have had sex with their partner, either in the past or recently, and it doesn't spoil the friendship.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"It all depends who they both are. Some people are/get more jealous, despite what they said initially."

When I told them about the site they suggested it but I'm dubious and scared it could cause issues. Long time friends too

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"It all depends on the dynamic. I have a few friends where I have had sex with their partner, either in the past or recently, and it doesn't spoil the friendship. "

You mean with other partner knowing one assumes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I'm a firm believer of not pooping where I eat for lack of a better term.

It could go wrong, we would never know until after and then it's too late.

Our friends are all far too scared to try anything like this anyway so not a worry for us.

Eve. X

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Nope, I'm a firm believer of not pooping where I eat for lack of a better term.

It could go wrong, we would never know until after and then it's too late.

Our friends are all far too scared to try anything like this anyway so not a worry for us.

Eve. X"

Hi Eve, thanks for reply. Yes I agree, it may be nice at the time but it could get tricky thereafter I think?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"It all depends on the dynamic. I have a few friends where I have had sex with their partner, either in the past or recently, and it doesn't spoil the friendship.

You mean with other partner knowing one assumes?"

Oh yes.

But then a lot of my friends are swingers or otherwise identify as non-monogamous. On occasions I can be in a room of friends and it's easier to talk about who hasn't fucked who.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my vanilla friends and my swinging friends, I suppose I lead a double life? I keep both lives seperate.... It all depends on how close you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a male friend who was invited to join us for 3somes.

Went on for a couple of years of good fun, until he started developing feelings for Velma.

Haven't seen him for 2 years now. Friendship obliterated.

As long as you all know the risks.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have my vanilla friends and my swinging friends, I suppose I lead a double life? I keep both lives seperate.... It all depends on how close you are"

Fair enough and good point.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"We had a male friend who was invited to join us for 3somes.

Went on for a couple of years of good fun, until he started developing feelings for Velma.

Haven't seen him for 2 years now. Friendship obliterated.

As long as you all know the risks."

Yes that is the worry and all for the sake of a bit of fun.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

One or two we would but only because we know where they stand already.

In your situation if it was the night you told them about this place?

No, not in a million years, let them ponder it & let them get back to you..

S

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I don't lead a double life, and neither do most of my swinging friends. I would say that it does depend on the dynamic.

Have they shared sex with friends before? Are they experienced swingers or is this their first experience?

Mind you, 13 years on we are still friends with my wife's first lover. There are people who can go from friends, to FWB, and back again. My best mate is someone who's wife I used to fuck years ago.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"One or two we would but only because we know where they stand already.

In your situation if it was the night you told them about this place?

No, not in a million years, let them ponder it & let them get back to you..

S"

Thank you S

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By *exy penWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I never mix sex with friendships my friends are far too important to me an sex comes an gos

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I never mix sex with friendships my friends are far too important to me an sex comes an gos "

Very good answer, I am swaying towards no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had sex a numours times with my hubby mate and yes did get complicated and now no longer speak to the guy x

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I've had sex a numours times with my hubby mate and yes did get complicated and now no longer speak to the guy x"

So morale of thread is a no then.

Thank you all for your input x

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Yes done it and got the t shirt,and good fun was had by all.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Yes done it and got the t shirt,and good fun was had by all. "

How is it now?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I think it really does depend on the friends. Whatever you do, spend more time talking about it with them. Especially if this is new to them.

I am friends with quite a few men who have had sex with my wife, and I am friends with quite a few men who's wives/partners I have had sex with...but I have always been relatively open about this as a lifestyle. When I am with my best mate, we occasionally "compare notes". When I go out to dinner with him and his wife, sometimes the talk is of experiences we've had. I think you need that level of openness for it to work with friends.

On the other hand, if any of you feel it's something to do and then never mention again....it will always be there, the elephant in the room.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I think it really does depend on the friends. Whatever you do, spend more time talking about it with them. Especially if this is new to them.

I am friends with quite a few men who have had sex with my wife, and I am friends with quite a few men who's wives/partners I have had sex with...but I have always been relatively open about this as a lifestyle. When I am with my best mate, we occasionally "compare notes". When I go out to dinner with him and his wife, sometimes the talk is of experiences we've had. I think you need that level of openness for it to work with friends.

On the other hand, if any of you feel it's something to do and then never mention again....it will always be there, the elephant in the room. "

Thank you for your valuable input.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I definitely would. I hope to turn some of our vanilla friends into swinger friends in 2017

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I definitely would. I hope to turn some of our vanilla friends into swinger friends in 2017 "

Brilliant, I have left it with them and they are going to take a browse on the site ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had sex with a friends wife but they are swingers and suggested it.

I would never contemplate it with vanilla friends though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had threesomes with two of our girl friends, both times have been brilliant and we are still very good friends with both. Think you just have to set out exactly what you all want so there are no misunderstandings.

If your friendships are deep enough then it's just fulfilling a need, what are friends for if not to help each other out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HUGELY erotic when a long term vanilla friend finally gets to sleep with Mrs Cooljee. It's happened a couple of times now with us and has been really, really horny every time.

It's also super horny when we host a dinner party and Mrs Cooljee wears no knickers. Subtly being fingered under the table by one friend, whilst trying to keep a straight face and hold a conversation with another is quite a challenge.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have had sex with a friends wife but they are swingers and suggested it.

I would never contemplate it with vanilla friends though."

Thanks

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"We have had threesomes with two of our girl friends, both times have been brilliant and we are still very good friends with both. Think you just have to set out exactly what you all want so there are no misunderstandings.

If your friendships are deep enough then it's just fulfilling a need, what are friends for if not to help each other out "

Yes boundaries and expectations

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"HUGELY erotic when a long term vanilla friend finally gets to sleep with Mrs Cooljee. It's happened a couple of times now with us and has been really, really horny every time.

It's also super horny when we host a dinner party and Mrs Cooljee wears no knickers. Subtly being fingered under the table by one friend, whilst trying to keep a straight face and hold a conversation with another is quite a challenge."

Wuuuuuu very interesting concept x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lost one of my oldest and best friends that way . d*unken night out mrs was feeling horny and wanted a threesome with him. great horny night. but afterwards he would not stop looking for more and kept turning up when i was away and trying it on. in the end she told me to tell him to keep away,

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"lost one of my oldest and best friends that way . d*unken night out mrs was feeling horny and wanted a threesome with him. great horny night. but afterwards he would not stop looking for more and kept turning up when i was away and trying it on. in the end she told me to tell him to keep away, "

Told them I'm out and if they want that then to join here and fill your boots. I only mentioned the site and I was actually shocked when they asked me

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

Our first threesomes were with a close friend. The friendship dynamic didn't change at all until he found a lady-friend of his own, then things got weird.

She decided that even coming to our house meant we were going to pounce on her like sexual deviants. She also forbade his seeing us. Haven't seen/talked to him in over 24 months now.

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By *oveyoubeyou OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Our first threesomes were with a close friend. The friendship dynamic didn't change at all until he found a lady-friend of his own, then things got weird.

She decided that even coming to our house meant we were going to pounce on her like sexual deviants. She also forbade his seeing us. Haven't seen/talked to him in over 24 months now."

Oh dear not good, loving all the different outcomes though, very interesting thank you

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