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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you receive a wink, what's your interpretation of it. Do you assume that a meet is likely or do you just think on it as a friendly hello.

In our case winks are sent to say hello, there is something about you I like, I'd like to exchange hellos so I can get a bigger picture of you as a person. A lot of the winks seem to be misconstrued and I get messages back which state, thanks for wink, where do we go from here, when is the best time for you to meet?

I've also had messages from people in response to a wink and I haven't answered the messages. I then get the "you winked us, we replied, you ignored, you must be playing games".

Maybe we are using the wink incorrectly. Men assume its me, Feebs, winking, it never is, its Chris and he winks as a kind of bookmark for nice guys or nice looking cocks (or tits if he's looking at a couple). We don't use the winking system as a serious invitation to play though as we like to chat to people before any kind of meet.

Is it leading people on unnecessarily though?

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

we use the wink as a way of saying "hi lets get to know one another and see where it takes us" its not an automatic invitation to get down and dirty , just an icebreaker if you like..

some winks have lead to amazing fun times and others to making friends..

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I just take it as an electronic nervous tick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

usually only use it when i have mail some one, Like a few days back, an is on line

just to remind them i am interested in them still

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I wink for two reasons, either to say 'hello, you're nice' (imagine a mental image of me rubbing knees and gurning) often before I send a message or to forum folk to just acknowledge them for some reason, maybe great pictures or profile etc, often before we begin chatting in pm.

I do like winks

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I always check my winks but nine times out of ten they are from guys who live just too far away. I guess its their way of saying 'look at me', but if they lve in Truro, whats the point?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I do like winks "

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I do like winks

"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I do like winks

"

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I do like winks

"

...Wanna shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it as someone is interested and saying "have a look at my profile" if i like their profile i will wink back

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I do like winks

...Wanna shag? "

Yep!

The system works!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I do like winks

...Wanna shag?

Yep!

The system works!!"

...and they say the site doesn't work.

Watch and learn a master at work saddo single blokes!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I forget about winks for months at a time and when I do get around to looking at them, I tend to just delete them ... as I have no idea how long ago they winked.

I do sometimes send winks.... it's just a way to may be get someone to look at your profile... unless they are like me and forget to check the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't use winks, as we just feel if you want to say hi, then say hi!

When we receive them though we assume that somebody is interested in us, and send a message back thanking them for the wink, and then things can go from there if everyone wants it to!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I do like winks

...Wanna shag?

Yep!

The system works!!

...and they say the site doesn't work.

Watch and learn a master at work saddo single blokes! "

You're awesome!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I do like winks

...Wanna shag?

Yep!

The system works!!

...and they say the site doesn't work.

Watch and learn a master at work saddo single blokes!

You're awesome!! "

Hey, what can I say... I know how to push all the right buttons.

...although the incident with buttons at the Anti-Matter Power Plant of Tarsonis VII (now known as the Tarsonis asteroid belt) was maybe not entirely successful..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as a "hello" or a "we/I might be interested" but never see it as a "we're gonna have sex"

Which is what it is, isn't it?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Hey, what can I say... I know how to push all the right buttons.

...although the incident with buttons at the Anti-Matter Power Plant of Tarsonis VII (now known as the Tarsonis asteroid belt) was maybe not entirely successful.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well to the op

if you winked me and i sent you a message in return which you then ignored or deleted (providing my face pic wasnt attached) i would think that a little strange.

winks for me is just to say 'ello, like your profile' kinda thing, and would be interested in chatting further

its defo not a guaranteed meet, far from it, its like a wave across a crowded hall

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"well to the op

if you winked me and i sent you a message in return which you then ignored or deleted (providing my face pic wasnt attached) i would think that a little strange.

winks for me is just to say 'ello, like your profile' kinda thing, and would be interested in chatting further

its defo not a guaranteed meet, far from it, its like a wave across a crowded hall "

Had to wink cos I love your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single guy I dont get loads of winks from single Fems or Couples. When I do I See winks as a "Friendly Hello we may be interested" and that means "maybe" It always prompts me to look at the persons profile.

I personally think if you get winked back then its a great way to break the initial ice before messaging

Although saying that I hardly ever wink to anyone as lots of people seem to not like winks. and the fact that there are just so many single guys to choose from

I can also imagine that some people may just wink at everyones profile just to see if they get lucky

I have a short Hotlist of couples and singles maybe I should start winking them

at OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well to the op

if you winked me and i sent you a message in return which you then ignored or deleted (providing my face pic wasnt attached) i would think that a little strange.

winks for me is just to say 'ello, like your profile' kinda thing, and would be interested in chatting further

its defo not a guaranteed meet, far from it, its like a wave across a crowded hall "

Yes I can see your point. Sometimes though a wink is sent cos the avatar is attractive and the profile is nice. When the first message from the receiver is sent to me, it may say hi thanks for wink, when we meeting then, and I will ignore those messages. If I don't ignore and respond with a thanks but I'm not sure now, then I get the 'well you winked me, you did the running not me' so I can't win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well to the op

if you winked me and i sent you a message in return which you then ignored or deleted (providing my face pic wasnt attached) i would think that a little strange.

winks for me is just to say 'ello, like your profile' kinda thing, and would be interested in chatting further

its defo not a guaranteed meet, far from it, its like a wave across a crowded hall

Had to wink cos I love your profile. "

why thankyou kind lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its an invite to come check my profile, not laziness...if theres an interest and they have winked back, i tend to msg...send a face pic. and it all falls down at that point lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well to the op

if you winked me and i sent you a message in return which you then ignored or deleted (providing my face pic wasnt attached) i would think that a little strange.

winks for me is just to say 'ello, like your profile' kinda thing, and would be interested in chatting further

its defo not a guaranteed meet, far from it, its like a wave across a crowded hall

Yes I can see your point. Sometimes though a wink is sent cos the avatar is attractive and the profile is nice. When the first message from the receiver is sent to me, it may say hi thanks for wink, when we meeting then, and I will ignore those messages. If I don't ignore and respond with a thanks but I'm not sure now, then I get the 'well you winked me, you did the running not me' so I can't win. "

lol that i understand, but then again i would never be so presumtuous when replying to a wink

their loss of a possible 'good bit of banter'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some interest and hopefully an ice breaker

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

A wink to us means 'we're interested, wink back and we'll msg you or msg us back' and 'no return wink or msg means their not interested'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laziness, can't be bothered to send a message so not worth the effort in return.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

we delete them.we assume they are from someone to lazy to write a message.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"we delete them.we assume they are from someone to lazy to write a message."

Actually I... nah..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's clear on my profile and I still get them.

To me it says, "I can't even be arsed trying it on with a dumb one liner. Give me a come-on because clearly I'm so wonderful, in my chickenshit can't-be-arsed world, then I might deign to let you chat with me."

Now it also says, "I didn't read your profile at all. How fab am I?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send winks and I don't read winks (I just 'delete all'). When I'm looking for a new playmate, I browse profiles to find what I am looking for.

Sorry to the guys who thought a wink might make me look at their profile .... nah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take it as someone is interested and saying "have a look at my profile" if i like their profile i will wink back "

Exactly the same. They don't bother me, it means if I'm not interested it's taken me less time to realise. If I do like them, I'll wink back and expect them to send a message if they wish to take it further - and vice versa on my part.

Saying that, I prefer a message cos it gives me something nice to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on my experience, I now regard winks from people I have never contacted as lazy and now just bin them

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Based on my experience, I now regard winks from people I have never contacted as lazy and now just bin them"

Same here,if you want to talk to us send a message.

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By *igco51Man
over a year ago

lockerbie

i wink to let ppl know ive read their profile and like what i seen if they dnt wink bk i just move on lol you either like or dislike winks lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Usually take it to mean that they might have an interest in our profile or photos and are testing the waters......it's also a good way to get you to look at their profile.

To be honest think we have only winked once or twice as we would normally just send a mail if interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on my experience, I now regard winks from people I have never contacted as lazy and now just bin them"

I see where yo're coming from but I've had some great, regular meets that started out as winks!

I guess that's why I just wink back, I'd never send a message. It's sort of a test to see if they have the balls and know how to send a decent message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on my experience, I now regard winks from people I have never contacted as lazy and now just bin them

I see where yo're coming from but I've had some great, regular meets that started out as winks!

I guess that's why I just wink back, I'd never send a message. It's sort of a test to see if they have the balls and know how to send a decent message lol "

It's just that usually after I sent a quick polite "thanks for the wink" message I got no sort of reply so I wonder what was the point of that? Of course, I get only a fraction of the winks I am sure a single female gets. Maybe I should also just wink back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I should also just wink back "

Give it a go - it sorts the wannabes from the wannameets lol

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By *lirtyfortygirlCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

I would look on a wink as a compliment never having had any!!! oops my hubby said I have and never noticed ; well then they are a waste of time for me! lol

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If we get a wink, it's considered like a poke. It's a sortof 'we came across your profile and decided to say hiya' without the complication of writing people messages...

... and usually a message if anyone means any more than just that... we usually wink back in kind lol

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say, I'm pleased to read other folks opinions on 'winks' - I feel they are a good thing, in a 'ice-breaker' kind of way, as folks have already said...

Don't ever get a response from they though!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

wink if we like something about the profile. more often than not get a message back. if they wink back we would send message. when we get winks we look at their profile and wink back if we are interested. if they dont message, they dont message lol would have no idea cos we wouldnt remember.

Mistress x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"It's clear on my profile and I still get them.

To me it says, "I can't even be arsed trying it on with a dumb one liner. Give me a come-on because clearly I'm so wonderful, in my chickenshit can't-be-arsed world, then I might deign to let you chat with me."

Now it also says, "I didn't read your profile at all. How fab am I?""

stop sitting on the fence and tell us what you really think

Mistress x (tempted to wink you now lol)

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Winks?...oh yes...I remember......

They can either mean people are interested in you after seeing you, or reading something that you may have written.

We preferred them to blind friends invites from people who clearly hadnt read our profile

We accepted them as a compliment.

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"When you receive a wink, what's your interpretation of it. Do you assume that a meet is likely or do you just think on it as a friendly hello.

"

if they/he has a face pic of the male in particular on their profile then we may be interested in pursuing it further .. if no pics visible then we block (as clearly they'd not read our profile first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see a wink as a harmless, easy, non committal way of showing interest.

If you get a wink and like the look of the sender just wink back, if not don't.

No need to think up a "Thanks but no thanks" reply that might be misconstrued as upsetting, either wink back or don't!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wink at newbies mainly, then maybe later on when theyve pics or verications I might send mail.I find it rather amazing the gesture can be taken as laziness and i dont see it as laziness when Im winked off!-its the shortest form on communication on fab yes but its also just a highlighter of what could be had, next we will be repremanded for winking up profile that looks at u many times doesnt send u anything, so if they look I send a wink if Im interested...ive a fairly busy time too its not JUST fems and cpls who dont have the time(im not saying Im overloaded with mail) just saying sometimes im busy chatting or elsewhere off fab.

winks accepted lol

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

personally i love getting winks, if we arent interested we dont wink back, i feel it is an easy way of saying hi without the, sometimes agony of awaiting a reply, so no, i dont think winks are lazy, they are a compliment, so take it as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone winks me i send them a nice mail thanking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"personally i love getting winks, if we arent interested we dont wink back, i feel it is an easy way of saying hi without the, sometimes agony of awaiting a reply, so no, i dont think winks are lazy, they are a compliment, so take it as such "

I perved but cant wink carandhim....but

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them there a bit of a wolf whistle and a good ice breaker

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I like them there a bit of a wolf whistle and a good ice breaker "

A wolf whistle...now i know why i hate them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like them there a bit of a wolf whistle and a good ice breaker

A wolf whistle...now i know why i hate them. "

Whit wooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wink at newbies mainly, then maybe later on when theyve pics or verications I might send mail.I find it rather amazing the gesture can be taken as laziness and i dont see it as laziness when Im winked off!-its the shortest form on communication on fab yes but its also just a highlighter of what could be had, next we will be repremanded for winking up profile that looks at u many times doesnt send u anything, so if they look I send a wink if Im interested...ive a fairly busy time too its not JUST fems and cpls who dont have the time(im not saying Im overloaded with mail) just saying sometimes im busy chatting or elsewhere off fab.

winks accepted lol"

You send winks BEFORE you've seen any pic's?

Now that is living dangerously!

Seriously though, we agree. A wink on the site is like a nice sexy wink from a stranger in a bar, you either smile politely and walk away with your drink or walk over and say "Hi".

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wink at newbies mainly, then maybe later on when theyve pics or verications I might send mail.I find it rather amazing the gesture can be taken as laziness and i dont see it as laziness when Im winked off!-its the shortest form on communication on fab yes but its also just a highlighter of what could be had, next we will be repremanded for winking up profile that looks at u many times doesnt send u anything, so if they look I send a wink if Im interested...ive a fairly busy time too its not JUST fems and cpls who dont have the time(im not saying Im overloaded with mail) just saying sometimes im busy chatting or elsewhere off fab.

winks accepted lol

You send winks BEFORE you've seen any pic's?

Now that is living dangerously!

Seriously though, we agree. A wink on the site is like a nice sexy wink from a stranger in a bar, you either smile politely and walk away with your drink or walk over and say "Hi".

XXXX"

sending a wink is living dangerously???/- come look at my verifies before thinking a pic was all i was interseted in, some newbies need a start, and they ofeten start with no pic...i get info as quick as possible annd end up knowing if i think they are genuine, I'm the guy who likes to get in there as quick as possible lol shooooooot me!hheheheee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im still alive......

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"im still alive......"

only have your word for that.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im still alive......

only have your word for that.

Mistress x"

as my blood pumps thru my veins secret they are indeed pumping harder every time i think of pumping u....dont blame the cock for havin its own mind...im actually disgusted it can type this filth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we delete them.we assume they are from someone to lazy to write a message."

it's not being lazy. It's like smiling across the room at someone and seeing if they smile back. Where's the harm in that?

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"we delete them.we assume they are from someone to lazy to write a message.

it's not being lazy. It's like smiling across the room at someone and seeing if they smile back. Where's the harm in that? "

I agree. Its an icebreaker no more no less I always reply to a wink with a thank you cos its better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick to be fair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the wink as a 'Hi I am interested and would love to hear off you if you are interested' Not always worked tho maybe just the way I wink lol!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"im still alive......

only have your word for that.

Mistress x

as my blood pumps thru my veins secret they are indeed pumping harder every time i think of pumping u....dont blame the cock for havin its own mind...im actually disgusted it can type this filth! "

Oooooh shocked and innocent

Mistress x

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"I use the wink as a 'Hi I am interested and would love to hear off you if you are interested' Not always worked tho maybe just the way I wink lol!"

Yeah me too but the people are always calling me a useless winker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take it as someone is interested and saying "have a look at my profile" if i like their profile i will wink back "

yep, this one.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Laziness, can't be bothered to send a message so not worth the effort in return.

"

maybe the site should remove the option!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laziness, can't be bothered to send a message so not worth the effort in return.

maybe the site should remove the option!?

"

or find a site that doesnt do winks if its that important

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Based on my experience, I now regard winks from people I have never contacted as lazy and now just bin them

Same here,if you want to talk to us send a message."

ever caught some ones eye across a crowded room? well that's a wink..conversation then either follows or not dependant on the response..

how many here complain over receiving so many messages that its impossible to reply..

You could just look at it as a filter..

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"Based on my experience, I now regard winks from people I have never contacted as lazy and now just bin them

Same here,if you want to talk to us send a message.

ever caught some ones eye across a crowded room? well that's a wink..conversation then either follows or not dependant on the response..

how many here complain over receiving so many messages that its impossible to reply..

You could just look at it as a filter.."

Agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always seen the wink as an interested in chatting and getting to know each-other as we've caught their eye somehow. We don't think it's a possible meet straight away as they have to pass our many gruelling mental and physical tests before a possible meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've always seen the wink as an interested in chatting and getting to know each-other as we've caught their eye somehow. We don't think it's a possible meet straight away as they have to pass our many gruelling mental and physical tests before a possible meet"

mmmm Krypton factor sex

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"We've always seen the wink as an interested in chatting and getting to know each-other as we've caught their eye somehow. We don't think it's a possible meet straight away as they have to pass our many gruelling mental and physical tests before a possible meet

mmmm Krypton factor sex"

Yeah but that's an assault course I wouldn't mind tackling!

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