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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Today I have spoken quite openly to people about my relationship. I'm now sat thinking that I've probably said too much about my personal circumstances. Honest isn't always the best policy I've figured. So maybe I should keep my mouth firmly shut?

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I would take anything said here with a pinch of salt. I think lots of people speak as they see, but only some remember and record everything they see and read here. Most people are genuine and non vindictive, despite how they maybe come across in their posts. Most also have some compassion for others too .... hope it all goes well for you. Don't take people who judge you to heart, they have their own issues that they are battling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol "

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow "

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol "

Thank you for the compliment, but I expect I'm the same as any single bi fem on here though, we all get inundated with messages.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Today's posts will be forgotten tomorrow. The only people who'll care are the ones who dislike you, and the ones who want to get into your pants. The rest of us couldn't care less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!"

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Today I have spoken quite openly to people about my relationship. I'm now sat thinking that I've probably said too much about my personal circumstances. Honest isn't always the best policy I've figured. So maybe I should keep my mouth firmly shut? "

up to you but my mum always said todays news is tomorrows chip paper.

We rarely reveal anything personal on here though.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Today's posts will be forgotten tomorrow. The only people who'll care are the ones who dislike you, and the ones who want to get into your pants. The rest of us couldn't care less."

I remember the people who post sense too, as well as those who turn up like bad pennies ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Today's posts will be forgotten tomorrow. The only people who'll care are the ones who dislike you, and the ones who want to get into your pants. The rest of us couldn't care less.

I remember the people who post sense too, as well as those who turn up like bad pennies ..."

I don't mind being a bad penny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would take anything said here with a pinch of salt. I think lots of people speak as they see, but only some remember and record everything they see and read here. Most people are genuine and non vindictive, despite how they maybe come across in their posts. Most also have some compassion for others too .... hope it all goes well for you. Don't take people who judge you to heart, they have their own issues that they are battling. "

Thank you. I'm not foolish enough to take anything that's said on these forums to heart. I'm a tough cookie

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ? "

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Today's posts will be forgotten tomorrow. The only people who'll care are the ones who dislike you, and the ones who want to get into your pants. The rest of us couldn't care less.

I remember the people who post sense too, as well as those who turn up like bad pennies ...

I don't mind being a bad penny."

Yours always make sense to me ... and they are respectful

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I would take anything said here with a pinch of salt. I think lots of people speak as they see, but only some remember and record everything they see and read here. Most people are genuine and non vindictive, despite how they maybe come across in their posts. Most also have some compassion for others too .... hope it all goes well for you. Don't take people who judge you to heart, they have their own issues that they are battling.

Thank you. I'm not foolish enough to take anything that's said on these forums to heart. I'm a tough cookie "

Sometimes it's like this though .... you get something that triggers the answer you need to hear, I think you can always kern something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today's posts will be forgotten tomorrow. The only people who'll care are the ones who dislike you, and the ones who want to get into your pants. The rest of us couldn't care less."

Sums it up for the most part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people share a lot of personal stuff, others a little & some not at all.

Share what you feel comfortable with, you were asking for advice earlier so hopefully some of the answers have helped

Don't be too naive though & post things that could come back and bite you on the arse someday.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life "

Thank you, and I'm extremely fortunate in that my life is brim full with good people. I'm a lucky lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people share a lot of personal stuff, others a little & some not at all.

Share what you feel comfortable with, you were asking for advice earlier so hopefully some of the answers have helped

Don't be too naive though & post things that could come back and bite you on the arse someday."

I did have some very good advice, you're right.

Don't think I've said anything that will come back to bite me

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Just for the record, we aren't looking to play with anyone on here ... we don't meet off the forums apart from friends at socials. Somehow our tastes are too narrow for most people here. Doesn't stop me from enjoying the banter though ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I have spoken quite openly to people about my relationship. I'm now sat thinking that I've probably said too much about my personal circumstances. Honest isn't always the best policy I've figured. So maybe I should keep my mouth firmly shut? "

honest is good but maybe sometimes just on a need to know basis esp to strangers etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door "

Oh you make me blush

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door

Oh you make me blush "

Was that blush or gush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I have spoken quite openly to people about my relationship. I'm now sat thinking that I've probably said too much about my personal circumstances. Honest isn't always the best policy I've figured. So maybe I should keep my mouth firmly shut? "

Are we talking close friends, family, or both? My wife finally came out earlier this year, but it was still limited to a select few.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door

Oh you make me blush

Was that blush or gush "

Oh...now don't get me started on the conversation about gushing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Today I have spoken quite openly to people about my relationship. I'm now sat thinking that I've probably said too much about my personal circumstances. Honest isn't always the best policy I've figured. So maybe I should keep my mouth firmly shut?

Are we talking close friends, family, or both? My wife finally came out earlier this year, but it was still limited to a select few. "

Just in the forums

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door

Oh you make me blush

Was that blush or gush

Oh...now don't get me started on the conversation about gushing "

Please do, we like your honesty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I have spoken quite openly to people about my relationship. I'm now sat thinking that I've probably said too much about my personal circumstances. Honest isn't always the best policy I've figured. So maybe I should keep my mouth firmly shut?

Are we talking close friends, family, or both? My wife finally came out earlier this year, but it was still limited to a select few.

Just in the forums "

In that case, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Of course, I'm not you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door "

hope its not coffee

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door

hope its not coffee "

Haha no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life

Thank you, and I'm extremely fortunate in that my life is brim full with good people. I'm a lucky lady "

Indeed you are take care of yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you look as good as you do, you get away with saying anything, attention will not be in short supply lol

not quite ...all people have to do is follow the green arrow

Not the dreaded green arrow!!!

Isn't that a delivery firm ?

I know what I'd like to deliver direct to your front door

Oh you make me blush

Was that blush or gush

Oh...now don't get me started on the conversation about gushing

Please do, we like your honesty lol "

Ah...well.....I don't understand gushing so I shan't be commenting much on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life

Thank you, and I'm extremely fortunate in that my life is brim full with good people. I'm a lucky lady

Indeed you are take care of yourself "

Oh you're too kind to me, but thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the fact you're concerned shows you feel you've said too much, people easily get carried away on here...

You have to remember it's just like a bar,some men looking for attention,some women flirting away, just be aware who you open up to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the fact you're concerned shows you feel you've said too much, people easily get carried away on here...

You have to remember it's just like a bar,some men looking for attention,some women flirting away, just be aware who you open up to."

It's far too easy to get carried away, especially when it's on a subject close to your heart. Been one of those days. I'm blaming hormones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life

Thank you, and I'm extremely fortunate in that my life is brim full with good people. I'm a lucky lady

Indeed you are take care of yourself

Oh you're too kind to me, but thank you "

Just your regular nice guy on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life

Thank you, and I'm extremely fortunate in that my life is brim full with good people. I'm a lucky lady

Indeed you are take care of yourself

Oh you're too kind to me, but thank you

Just your regular nice guy on the forums "

Well you're appreciated, mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't lose too much sleep. Take it all with a pinch of salt. Treasure the Good people in your life

Thank you, and I'm extremely fortunate in that my life is brim full with good people. I'm a lucky lady

Indeed you are take care of yourself

Oh you're too kind to me, but thank you

Just your regular nice guy on the forums

Well you're appreciated, mwah "

Thank you very much happy to be of help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damned if you do damned if you dont, i have felt this way so many times in the past, i wondered if y catholic upbringing is to blame for my desire to confess shit which then becomes a bit of a millstone, i used to think people would value my reliably candid nature, but i now know people are not necessarily willing to reward your candour with openness, and the kind of standards of probity and integrity you yourself may demonstrate! before you disclose stuff, its worth while thinking whether the person you tell will hold the information with the same value and importance as you do, some poeple dont manage difficult stuff internally very well , and need to offload to their partners , some just enjoy others drama, , sometimes a stranger is able to offer objectivity that a friend will only offer to take your side, , once its said, its out, but you can resolve to do it better next time , whichbdoesnt leave you feeling exposed, best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the fact you're concerned shows you feel you've said too much, people easily get carried away on here...

You have to remember it's just like a bar,some men looking for attention,some women flirting away, just be aware who you open up to."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the fact you're concerned shows you feel you've said too much, people easily get carried away on here...

You have to remember it's just like a bar,some men looking for attention,some women flirting away, just be aware who you open up to.

"

Thank you.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Why have you said too much?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Damned if you do damned if you dont, i have felt this way so many times in the past, i wondered if y catholic upbringing is to blame for my desire to confess shit which then becomes a bit of a millstone, i used to think people would value my reliably candid nature, but i now know people are not necessarily willing to reward your candour with openness, and the kind of standards of probity and integrity you yourself may demonstrate! before you disclose stuff, its worth while thinking whether the person you tell will hold the information with the same value and importance as you do, some poeple dont manage difficult stuff internally very well , and need to offload to their partners , some just enjoy others drama, , sometimes a stranger is able to offer objectivity that a friend will only offer to take your side, , once its said, its out, but you can resolve to do it better next time , whichbdoesnt leave you feeling exposed, best wishes"

There's a lot of different people on here from all walks of life, none of us are perfect, but I'm like yourself in that you are open minded and don't jump on the band wagon to disrespect and slate people, when you don't know the full facts. You've offered good, non critical advice which is what I try to do with others.

Some people will hate me, others think I'm fabulous. But I'm me, and I'm living my life the best way I can for happiness for my family and I. Life is what you make it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peole have short memories on here. Just post on all shit trivia posts, and the green arrow will show all the non exciting things you've posted. We are all guilty of over exposing sometimes. Try not to over think it lovely, because believe me, others are not .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Peole have short memories on here. Just post on all shit trivia posts, and the green arrow will show all the non exciting things you've posted. We are all guilty of over exposing sometimes. Try not to over think it lovely, because believe me, others are not ."

Awww thank you. You're a gorgeous young woman, inside and out, and you talk so much sense. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you'll never have actual, real life contact with any of these people. i wouldn't worry about it or what they said.

to use forums i do think you have to be able not to take personal things personally. this can be easy to do if you realise most of these people do not actually know you and don't even care about you. in fact, apply that to anyone who has opinions on you and doesn't care about your welfare.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly

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