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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first meet, years ago, after few meets, asked me to be fully exclusive to her, which I've agreed to.

Now, with time, I think it was a mistake.

But at the sane time, I learnt fro m it, so I am not bitter but would have loved to do things differently if I could.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive."
im exclusive as a submissive, by mutual agreement,this suits me, but, i am not exclusive, in regard to other lovers. That would be a relationship and i am not at this time, seeking one of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive."

Did you not post about communication and working in it with your relationship, maybe they think as you're in a relationship it's something you'd go for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see rules of swinging, the same as rules between anyone. Whatever is agreeable to both, should work well. If 'wants' are not compatible, don't do it

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We were exclusive to each other or 24 years so for us swinging is about new experiences and not something we would consider. We will eventually give up this lifestyle and go back to being exclusive with each other but we are not quite ready for that yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go for whatever you want on here.

i'd take what you've said as a relationship though (or the guy at least wants relaionship privileges), as in you have to consider the other person before you do whatever it is you wanted to do.

as a single female i tend to find that men can hold you back from doing what you want. sometimes it's so they can get more sex for themselves.

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By *ikerjohn123Man
over a year ago

Whickham

Are you sure you can go back?! A little part of me will always want this!

X


"We were exclusive to each other or 24 years so for us swinging is about new experiences and not something we would consider. We will eventually give up this lifestyle and go back to being exclusive with each other but we are not quite ready for that yet. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive.

Did you not post about communication and working in it with your relationship, maybe they think as you're in a relationship it's something you'd go for?"

Huh ?? lol when I'm already married why on earth would anyone think I'd want more commitment with someone else ? That would be crazy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"go for whatever you want on here.

i'd take what you've said as a relationship though (or the guy at least wants relaionship privileges), as in you have to consider the other person before you do whatever it is you wanted to do.

as a single female i tend to find that men can hold you back from doing what you want. sometimes it's so they can get more sex for themselves."

Yes, exactly. They make it sound like they are being nice and doing me a favour offering me exclusive, when really all they hoping for is I have sex with them more.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not sure swinging and exclusive by your definition have to be two separate things OP. I think some people, both male and female, like to have their cake and eat it whilst browsing a patisserie, purse in hand.

It's not for me but whatever works for others has little effect on me unless I am meeting them. I have been asked a few times for it but I think it's because it's one step closer to a myriad of moresomes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We were exclusive to each other or 24 years so for us swinging is about new experiences and not something we would consider. We will eventually give up this lifestyle and go back to being exclusive with each other but we are not quite ready for that yet. "

Do you not think you would crave sex with others if you stopped though? If you enjoy it so much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that the guys want me to be exclusive but think that it's ok for them to meet whoever

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Just last week I was ask the same question to be exclusive, but she was not willing to be, which I found weird if you are the one that suggested exclusivity.

Some agreement was in place but I wasn't really up to somethings.

If you like the benefit try it, if you don't, don't.

Women can be the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive."

Sound to be more for his benefit than yours. As you say if it swinging your after being exclusive wont rellly cut it i dont think.

Mind you if a women offered for me to be exclusive with her and she was present while I had sex with other women well that would be a dream come true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"go for whatever you want on here.

i'd take what you've said as a relationship though (or the guy at least wants relaionship privileges), as in you have to consider the other person before you do whatever it is you wanted to do.

as a single female i tend to find that men can hold you back from doing what you want. sometimes it's so they can get more sex for themselves."

This

I have had this several times ( I have been a member in fabs off and on for around 8 rears), and generally have felt in these situations the guys are using you because they can't find/arrange other meets to suit there own needs and desires so use you to get them. They don't want to date you but want all the privlages. As a SINGLE female we need to remember we are in charge of our own fun and meets.

That's my experience xx

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston


"when I'm already married why on earth would anyone think I'd want more commitment with someone else ? That would be crazy."

Think you've just answered your own question.

It's the old 'man' trying to gain, or regain the upper hand, or at least some element of control. I wouldn't go for it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"go for whatever you want on here.

i'd take what you've said as a relationship though (or the guy at least wants relaionship privileges), as in you have to consider the other person before you do whatever it is you wanted to do.

as a single female i tend to find that men can hold you back from doing what you want. sometimes it's so they can get more sex for themselves.

This

I have had this several times ( I have been a member in fabs off and on for around 8 rears), and generally have felt in these situations the guys are using you because they can't find/arrange other meets to suit there own needs and desires so use you to get them. They don't want to date you but want all the privlages. As a SINGLE female we need to remember we are in charge of our own fun and meets.

That's my experience xx "

i treasure the fuck out of genuine guys on here, really do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"go for whatever you want on here.

i'd take what you've said as a relationship though (or the guy at least wants relaionship privileges), as in you have to consider the other person before you do whatever it is you wanted to do.

as a single female i tend to find that men can hold you back from doing what you want. sometimes it's so they can get more sex for themselves.

This

I have had this several times ( I have been a member in fabs off and on for around 8 rears), and generally have felt in these situations the guys are using you because they can't find/arrange other meets to suit there own needs and desires so use you to get them. They don't want to date you but want all the privlages. As a SINGLE female we need to remember we are in charge of our own fun and meets.

Very true....girl power "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive.

Sound to be more for his benefit than yours. As you say if it swinging your after being exclusive wont rellly cut it i dont think.

Mind you if a women offered for me to be exclusive with her and she was present while I had sex with other women well that would be a dream come true "

Hahahaha naughty boy....nothing wrong with having a dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's abit childish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been asked on quite a few occasions by men if I would be exclusive with them. They would still be happy for me to play with others but as long as they were present.

I thought swinging was more along the lines of having the freedom to have sex with who you choose.

Naturally, I have declined the offers of exclusivity as I would miss out on so much fun with other like minded people.

Interested to see other people's perspective on exclusive.

Sound to be more for his benefit than yours. As you say if it swinging your after being exclusive wont rellly cut it i dont think.

Mind you if a women offered for me to be exclusive with her and she was present while I had sex with other women well that would be a dream come true

Hahahaha naughty boy....nothing wrong with having a dream "

The thought is great you should always have aspirations One is perfectly fine though

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Are you sure you can go back?! A little part of me will always want this!

X

We were exclusive to each other or 24 years so for us swinging is about new experiences and not something we would consider. We will eventually give up this lifestyle and go back to being exclusive with each other but we are not quite ready for that yet. "

Yes we have always said that when one of us wants to stop we both stop, we are in a strong and secure relationship.

We don't swap that often anyway but Swinging is a bit of fun for us it is not intended to replace our sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you sure you can go back?! A little part of me will always want this!

X

We were exclusive to each other or 24 years so for us swinging is about new experiences and not something we would consider. We will eventually give up this lifestyle and go back to being exclusive with each other but we are not quite ready for that yet.

Yes we have always said that when one of us wants to stop we both stop, we are in a strong and secure relationship.

We don't swap that often anyway but Swinging is a bit of fun for us it is not intended to replace our sex life.

"

What if the other one really didn't want to stop? Would that cause some problems ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youre right OP. You have freedom to do what you want with whoever you want and this is why its difficult to move away from this lifestyle and enter into a relationship.

Ive been asked on many occasions by guys to be exclusive and some do not mind me meeting others and whilst other didnt want me meeting anyone else. Its usually from the younger guys to be honest.

I have never asked a guy to be exclusive despite at times wanting to.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We met a couple and played a few times. When we told them we'd been to a club they said 'if you're meeting others, we dont want to meet with you' - WTF? Their loss.

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