FabSwingers.com forum: crazy sex ideas

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

how do people ever get round to telling their partner they wanna be fucked while chained to a post or have a gangbang while men watch and wank???

quiet mrs smith with her nice smile and cake baking

yeah what the hell would mr smith say???!!!

keep quiet and never achieve those fantasies or speak out and lose a fantastic marriage

what a shit option. lose lose???

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I hear alcohol is useful, at least in the initial stages of bringing it up!

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

Try addind a little spice in your next session then ask if they enjoyed that bit of tie up ?

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By *onnor999Man
over a year ago

Wrexham

I suppose some people are lucky to find each other that they can be so open about their fantasies. I'm not in that position. I am in love with my wife but couldn't tell her all about my fantasies coz I might mean I lose her.

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"I suppose some people are lucky to find each other that they can be so open about their fantasies. I'm not in that position. I am in love with my wife but couldn't tell her all about my fantasies coz I might mean I lose her. "

Then maybe you are not as secure as you would like to be? Surely if you love each other then, although your partner may say no, it shouldn't stop you discussing anything? Naturally timing is important. Good Luck!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We started introducing a bit of fantasy into our sex life, testing the waters so to speak by dropping in little snippets of horny thoughts, and seeing which ones got us more horny.

Some matched what we both wanted, some didnt.

Jayne was curious about sex with another woman, and when I saw the reaction mentioning it had during sex, we both knew it was something we'd like to try.

After a bit more time, and a lot more dirty chat during sex, we discussed it in the cold light of day, and decided to see about maybe making it real.... and here we are lol!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"how do people ever get round to telling their partner they wanna be fucked while chained to a post or have a gangbang while men watch and wank???

quiet mrs smith with her nice smile and cake baking

yeah what the hell would mr smith say???!!!

keep quiet and never achieve those fantasies or speak out and lose a fantastic marriage

what a shit option. lose lose???"

Surely discussing your fantasies won't put your marriage at risk. That's just natural communication with your partner. A

If you discuss them, your husband does not share them and you decide to go ahead and experience them anyway that's a whole other matter. You may or may not think your fantasies are worth risking your marriage over. Bu there may be no risk...and you can't know that without talking.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Mrs Smith would obviously have to sit her days out, frustrated with the thought of ever mentioning the words, "anything but missionary".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried gradually spicing up your sex life between mr & mrs smith? I don't mean him walking in on a gang bang...... but taking little steps to the wild side. We all have a streak of kink running through us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how do people ever get round to telling their partner they wanna be fucked while chained to a post or have a gangbang while men watch and wank???

quiet mrs smith with her nice smile and cake baking

yeah what the hell would mr smith say???!!!

keep quiet and never achieve those fantasies or speak out and lose a fantastic marriage

what a shit option. lose lose???"

I hear you... I mentioned something to my ex that practically sealed the deal on the end of our marriage ... but I am glad I did so as it was a shit marriage anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly, such a difficult situation. Risk your spouse being totally shocked and disgusted by you, say nothing and spend your life feeling like you're making a massive sacrifice, leave and hurt your spouse, yourself and many others in the process?

Certainly not an easy situation with an easy solution. Although many people on here will see it as black and white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried gradually spicing up your sex life between mr & mrs smith? I don't mean him walking in on a gang bang...... but taking little steps to the wild side. We all have a streak of kink running through us

No we all don't have a streak of kink at all. I'm married to someone who definitely doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs Smith would obviously have to sit her days out, frustrated with the thought of ever mentioning the words, "anything but missionary"."

But surely that's totally unfair on Mrs Smith

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We started introducing a bit of fantasy into our sex life, testing the waters so to speak by dropping in little snippets of horny thoughts, and seeing which ones got us more horny.

Some matched what we both wanted, some didnt.

Jayne was curious about sex with another woman, and when I saw the reaction mentioning it had during sex, we both knew it was something we'd like to try.

After a bit more time, and a lot more dirty chat during sex, we discussed it in the cold light of day, and decided to see about maybe making it real.... and here we are lol!

You're so lucky that you were both on the same wavelength.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally sympathise with your situation as Mike is similar. There really is no easy answer is there, regardless that people who aren't in the same situation think that's it's straight forward and black and white.

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston

They don't complain much once the ball gag goes on!

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By *irralman4Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Watching porn together helps. See how your partner reacts to different scenarios and talk about what you like and don't like. That's how it worked for us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Watching porn together helps. See how your partner reacts to different scenarios and talk about what you like and don't like. That's how it worked for us xx"

Great idea, if the spouse will watch porn.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Perhaps talk about something "others" eg friends or colleagues discussed and test the waters to gauge his reactions. Lots of dodgy documentaries out there have also been good conversation starters. It's maybe a bit safer than putting yourselves directly in it at first.

Communication is key and while sex isnt everything I truly believe that if things aren't right in the bedroom they won't be in the living room either. If not now but in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps talk about something "others" eg friends or colleagues discussed and test the waters to gauge his reactions. Lots of dodgy documentaries out there have also been good conversation starters. It's maybe a bit safer than putting yourselves directly in it at first.

Communication is key and while sex isnt everything I truly believe that if things aren't right in the bedroom they won't be in the living room either. If not now but in time. "

I disagreee on your last point, though I do respect that is your opinion

Things aren't right in the bedroom in my marriage, but everything else in the marriage is great. There are ways and means of dealing with issues that can make everyone happy.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Communication is key and while sex isnt everything I truly believe that if things aren't right in the bedroom they won't be in the living room either. If not now but in time.

I disagreee on your last point, though I do respect that is your opinion

Things aren't right in the bedroom in my marriage, but everything else in the marriage is great. There are ways and means of dealing with issues that can make everyone happy."

I'm hoping my comment didn't offend. Everyone's situation is different. If it works for you thats great. And in all honesty I'd probably happily give up sex for love and someone to always be by my side.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I honestly think many swingers are disillusioned about other couples. This thought that others can't have a happy or fulfilling marriage without swinging is frankly ridiculous. By all means swing, but don't assume that 'Mrs smith' can't have a happy marriage (relationship) without it. I think lots of people have very adventurous sex lives without it. It makes people feel better to view others' relationships as 'less than', so be it .... really it should be a personal thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is key and while sex isnt everything I truly believe that if things aren't right in the bedroom they won't be in the living room either. If not now but in time.

I disagreee on your last point, though I do respect that is your opinion

Things aren't right in the bedroom in my marriage, but everything else in the marriage is great. There are ways and means of dealing with issues that can make everyone happy.

Give up sex lol......are you feeling ok

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Communication is key and while sex isnt everything I truly believe that if things aren't right in the bedroom they won't be in the living room either. If not now but in time.

I disagreee on your last point, though I do respect that is your opinion

Things aren't right in the bedroom in my marriage, but everything else in the marriage is great. There are ways and means of dealing with issues that can make everyone happy.

Give up sex lol......are you feeling ok

Yes.. I think so lol

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Watching porn together helps. See how your partner reacts to different scenarios and talk about what you like and don't like. That's how it worked for us xx"

Yes totally agree that's how we started!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Exactly, such a difficult situation. Risk your spouse being totally shocked and disgusted by you, say nothing and spend your life feeling like you're making a massive sacrifice, leave and hurt your spouse, yourself and many others in the process?

Certainly not an easy situation with an easy solution. Although many people on here will see it as black and white."

lose.. lose...

even just mentioning leaving the lights on or watching porn can shock some men!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I honestly think many swingers are disillusioned about other couples. This thought that others can't have a happy or fulfilling marriage without swinging is frankly ridiculous. By all means swing, but don't assume that 'Mrs smith' can't have a happy marriage (relationship) without it. I think lots of people have very adventurous sex lives without it. It makes people feel better to view others' relationships as 'less than', so be it .... really it should be a personal thing"

i agree but if they have wildly different sex drives how can mr and mrs smith get over that without one massive compromise from one of them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 years ago when I used to be married ... the ex wanted to have a foursome with another couple ... I was completely shocked... and said definitely no ... our marriage was on its last months anyway... didn't help ... Guy I dated recently wanted a threesome with another girl ... I said no ... ain't I a hypocrite now being on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only live once OP - communication is key! Start talking to your fella, maybe not all in one go but open the door. You may be pleasantly surprised!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just maybe Mr Smith has fantasies of his own and keeps quiet for fear of horrifying Mrs Smith. Talking about fantasies is a far cry from acting on them. How would either of them know if they don't try to communicate?

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By *ka-sammi_n_danCouple
over a year ago

nantwich

You only live once and you don't want to live with regret.... I would say talk about it, if your partner cares about you even if the answer is no the respect should be there to allow you to ask the question?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how do people ever get round to telling their partner they wanna be fucked while chained to a post or have a gangbang while men watch and wank???

quiet mrs smith with her nice smile and cake baking

yeah what the hell would mr smith say???!!!

keep quiet and never achieve those fantasies or speak out and lose a fantastic marriage

what a shit option. lose lose???"

See what he thinks of being joined by a group of women, at least that way you will find out if groups or anything like that would be of interest. As for chaining etc when having sex or during tell him to pin you down. Add things slowly if hes never experienced it asking him to be present while you have a gangbang with others watching might be a bit much

If i had a partener i would find nothing hotter than watching her have sex with groups of men while i watched or directed so hot

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"5 years ago when I used to be married ... the ex wanted to have a foursome with another couple ... I was completely shocked... and said definitely no ... our marriage was on its last months anyway... didn't help ... Guy I dated recently wanted a threesome with another girl ... I said no ... ain't I a hypocrite now being on here?? "

I've done the 3some thing as the guest only. I couldn't do it if I was in a relationship so I totally get that!

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If you cant discuss your fantasies, is the marriage that fantastic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you cant discuss your fantasies, is the marriage that fantastic? "

thats the 6 million dollar question

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