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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering what people's thoughts are. I play mainly straight, but on rare occasions have been involved in some form of bi mmf playtime. Although most of my time was spent playing with the lady, a cock occasionally slipped passed my lips and mine past other guys lips. Nothing to serious though. It did seem to get everyone all revved up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And did you like it? Forget the labels if it felt good, great. If it didn't don't do it again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And did you like it? Forget the labels if it felt good, great. If it didn't don't do it again. "

I did like the whole situation, I would only do it with couples though.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I meet guys who like cock but otherwise say they're not bi - and straight guys fab my pics and wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering what people's thoughts are. I play mainly straight, but on rare occasions have been involved in some form of bi mmf playtime. Although most of my time was spent playing with the lady, a cock occasionally slipped passed my lips and mine past other guys lips. Nothing to serious though. It did seem to get everyone all revved up."

I was wondering the same thing about me smoking.... I love a cigar on the beach after dinner during a holiday , and a cigarette when I'm drinking with friends.. which isn't very often. So if I smoke 4 cigars in 12 months and 6 cigarettes that same year. Can I label myself Mainly a non smoker ?

This should answer your conundrum on your sexuality.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate


"Just wondering what people's thoughts are. I play mainly straight, but on rare occasions have been involved in some form of bi mmf playtime. Although most of my time was spent playing with the lady, a cock occasionally slipped passed my lips and mine past other guys lips. Nothing to serious though. It did seem to get everyone all revved up.

And does sucking a few cocks make u bi? I guess it does

I was wondering the same thing about me smoking.... I love a cigar on the beach after dinner during a holiday , and a cigarette when I'm drinking with friends.. which isn't very often. So if I smoke 4 cigars in 12 months and 6 cigarettes that same year. Can I label myself Mainly a non smoker ?

This should answer your conundrum on your sexuality."

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate


"Just wondering what people's thoughts are. I play mainly straight, but on rare occasions have been involved in some form of bi mmf playtime. Although most of my time was spent playing with the lady, a cock occasionally slipped passed my lips and mine past other guys lips. Nothing to serious though. It did seem to get everyone all revved up.

I was wondering the same thing about me smoking.... I love a cigar on the beach after dinner during a holiday , and a cigarette when I'm drinking with friends.. which isn't very often. So if I smoke 4 cigars in 12 months and 6 cigarettes that same year. Can I label myself Mainly a non smoker ?

This should answer your conundrum on your sexuality."

If u r gay but you love women's tits does that make u bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering what people's thoughts are. I play mainly straight, but on rare occasions have been involved in some form of bi mmf playtime. Although most of my time was spent playing with the lady, a cock occasionally slipped passed my lips and mine past other guys lips. Nothing to serious though. It did seem to get everyone all revved up.

I was wondering the same thing about me smoking.... I love a cigar on the beach after dinner during a holiday , and a cigarette when I'm drinking with friends.. which isn't very often. So if I smoke 4 cigars in 12 months and 6 cigarettes that same year. Can I label myself Mainly a non smoker ?

This should answer your conundrum on your sexuality.

If u r gay but you love women's tits does that make u bi? "

I don't know.... I just like to answer questions with questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think you do.

i don't find women attractive at all but still have experimented doing stuff with them if they've been about to do that with, and there's some stuff i'd be willing to do for people who have shown themselves as unselfish when it comes to pleasing me. not sayng what coz hardly any guys fall into that category imo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i don't think you do.

i don't find women attractive at all but still have experimented doing stuff with them if they've been about to do that with, and there's some stuff i'd be willing to do for people who have shown themselves as unselfish when it comes to pleasing me. not sayng what coz hardly any guys fall into that category imo."

I like the way you think.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I hate labels

In my opinion you are just enjoying the experience, this is exactly how MrH plays we have advertised as him being Bi because as a couple we felt it was better to be open & say we play that way

As you said it is very erotic & gets everyone going when a cock slips behind a guys lips

I'd say well over 50% of messages we get are from straight guys happy to play that way

I think especially on the FAB world people are more open to experiment & boundaries are s but wider than you'd usually find in everyday life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i don't think you do.

i don't find women attractive at all but still have experimented doing stuff with them if they've been about to do that with, and there's some stuff i'd be willing to do for people who have shown themselves as unselfish when it comes to pleasing me. not sayng what coz hardly any guys fall into that category imo.

I like the way you think. "

i think too much lol.

i think i'm similar to you though, like you can only do this stuff with couples?

if there was no guy with a cock about then i wouldn't be interested or turned on at all. the idea of just gong with women does not appeal.

i also think being turned on is more complicated than liking this and that. i do have a very strong preference for cock and love giving oral, but obviously don't like all cocks (some can turn me off) and don't want to suck everyone's. there's like levels of horniness as well, some people will turn me on much more than others, and if my horniness level hits peak level i'm pretty much up for anything. so that affects whether i'd be interested in certain situations as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate labels

In my opinion you are just enjoying the experience, this is exactly how MrH plays we have advertised as him being Bi because as a couple we felt it was better to be open & say we play that way

As you said it is very erotic & gets everyone going when a cock slips behind a guys lips

I'd say well over 50% of messages we get are from straight guys happy to play that way

I think especially on the FAB world people are more open to experiment & boundaries are s but wider than you'd usually find in everyday life "

I agree, it's about mutual erotic experimentation, with some of it repeated if it's enjoyed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate "

In this case for the OP, bi-curious maybe is the correct one, as he only dabbles?

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

Well I don't know. I'm not really interested in or attracted to men, but in cuckolding situations have sucked cock etc, if told to by the bull. More about power in my opinion, and the same seems to apply to the Bulls too in most cases. It's much the same with MrsI. She's played with other fems during sessions but always wants cock after, and isn't interested in meeting just with fems. If that makes us bi, that's ok but it's not quite the same as people who are genuinely attracted to both sexes is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate

In this case for the OP, bi-curious maybe is the correct one, as he only dabbles?"

That's a good point

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've seen something on profiles which would probably describe you perfectly OP.

The person put down bi-curious and then wrote something along these lines.

"I'm mostly straight but can be bi-playful in the right circumstances"

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I've seen something on profiles which would probably describe you perfectly OP.

The person put down bi-curious and then wrote something along these lines.

"I'm mostly straight but can be bi-playful in the right circumstances"

"

Sounds good...I don't think anyone likes to be labelled but on a website where you are deciding who to meet then you need a guide or label to help with that decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen something on profiles which would probably describe you perfectly OP.

The person put down bi-curious and then wrote something along these lines.

"I'm mostly straight but can be bi-playful in the right circumstances"

Sounds good...I don't think anyone likes to be labelled but on a website where you are deciding who to meet then you need a guide or label to help with that decision."

Which many simply don't seem to be able to understand

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

Why try and put it in a box, if you enjoy it occasionally... Who cares?

It's sex hun and lots of different people like lots different aspects of it.

Just enjoy what your happy with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I love to have my cock Sucked now and again by a man but am 100% into Pussy, never meet guys just fun in a couple situation

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over a year ago

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

If you like it go for or otherwise not

Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all good......we're here to fly

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For me yes,I'm straight and have no interest in playing with another woman ,even though i can appreciate the beauty of women.

Miss

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By *ymruambythCouple
over a year ago

grantham

I wish people would stop trying to lump every point on the Kinsey scale into a category....bi-playful, bi-curous, fab-bi, fab-straight....it's so confusing and unnecessary.

Look, whatever you identify with in the 'real world' is one thing, and is more than just about sex, but about emotional connection, attraction etc. Some may enjoy playing and taking a cock inside them as part of the swinging scene but still 'identify' as straight in day-to-day life. May never consider a relationship with someone of the same sex, or even never find someone of their sex attractive walking down the street. Thats one thing.

But this isn't 'real life'. This is a swingers site and a hook up site for swingers and couples into the lifestyle. Whatever you identify as to your boss, co-workers and friends is largely irrelevant here.

The stated sexuality on here is to help others find you (or avoid you), as are all the various attributes we list. Putting a sexuality on your profile which fits your outside-world self is fine, but is likely to lead to you getting less fun than you could have otherwise.

If you have tried cock and liked it, and would want to have it again - in whatever form, then it makes sense to class yourself as 'bisexual'. You have a whole profile in which to describe exactly what that means to you...it may mean, you like giving/receiving oral when playing with a couple, it may be that you like to receive full penetration or it could be that you just like a bit of mutual wanking. They are all components of bisexual play, but everyone is different and likes different things.

If you'd fancy trying, but haven't yet - then that is 'bi-curious'.

If the idea of any sexual male-male contact really turns you off, then put 'straight'.

Where we get in a mix is where someone puts 'straight' on their fab profile but actually likes some bi play. It makes no sense....you are not signing up for a dating site here - you are looking for mutual sexual fun. So why confuse the issue?

Some suggest that the stigma around male bi-sexuality is why people put 'straight' regardless. This to me seems like folly.... I (like most) can and will play 'straight' in most circumstances, but I would like to think that if someone knows we are okay with pushing boundaries then we are open to it, even if privately. If they don't know that, then it could be all sorts of missed opportunities for both parties. Plus, if someone is like 'ewwwww I wouldn't touch that nasty dirty bi guy' then in my mind...fuck em. Life is too short to worry about the people who won't play with you....instead focus on those that do and will.

So whether you consider yourself 10% bi, or fully bi or just bi in certain situations....get that listed clearly so you get the fun you want, and avoid the types you really don't want.

Incidentally, for the record, I (male part of couple) am fully bi, but more than willing to play straight and identify myself in real life as 'straight' as I couldn't ever imagine having a relationship with a man. But in a couple/play scenario, bi play can be a real turn-on

I would guess, although no-one can prove one way or another, that a sizeable percentage of 'straight' guys on here are turned on by some element of bi play - being on this scene will generally mean we are fairly broad minded to start with - and yet because so few actually state this, there are lots of folk limiting the fun they have. All IMO of course!

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By *ighteningstrikesCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I have had this conversation with friends....have you ever seen a child that is a little camp and said "they will be gay"? Well that child knows nothing about sex so what makes someone gay???? Love... wanting a life with that person???

We have a rule with sex if it feels nice we do it whatever it is. We don't like labeling it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish people would stop trying to lump every point on the Kinsey scale into a category....bi-playful, bi-curous, fab-bi, fab-straight....it's so confusing and unnecessary.

Look, whatever you identify with in the 'real world' is one thing, and is more than just about sex, but about emotional connection, attraction etc. Some may enjoy playing and taking a cock inside them as part of the swinging scene but still 'identify' as straight in day-to-day life. May never consider a relationship with someone of the same sex, or even never find someone of their sex attractive walking down the street. Thats one thing.

But this isn't 'real life'. This is a swingers site and a hook up site for swingers and couples into the lifestyle. Whatever you identify as to your boss, co-workers and friends is largely irrelevant here.

The stated sexuality on here is to help others find you (or avoid you), as are all the various attributes we list. Putting a sexuality on your profile which fits your outside-world self is fine, but is likely to lead to you getting less fun than you could have otherwise.

If you have tried cock and liked it, and would want to have it again - in whatever form, then it makes sense to class yourself as 'bisexual'. You have a whole profile in which to describe exactly what that means to you...it may mean, you like giving/receiving oral when playing with a couple, it may be that you like to receive full penetration or it could be that you just like a bit of mutual wanking. They are all components of bisexual play, but everyone is different and likes different things.

If you'd fancy trying, but haven't yet - then that is 'bi-curious'.

If the idea of any sexual male-male contact really turns you off, then put 'straight'.

Where we get in a mix is where someone puts 'straight' on their fab profile but actually likes some bi play. It makes no sense....you are not signing up for a dating site here - you are looking for mutual sexual fun. So why confuse the issue?

Some suggest that the stigma around male bi-sexuality is why people put 'straight' regardless. This to me seems like folly.... I (like most) can and will play 'straight' in most circumstances, but I would like to think that if someone knows we are okay with pushing boundaries then we are open to it, even if privately. If they don't know that, then it could be all sorts of missed opportunities for both parties. Plus, if someone is like 'ewwwww I wouldn't touch that nasty dirty bi guy' then in my mind...fuck em. Life is too short to worry about the people who won't play with you....instead focus on those that do and will.

So whether you consider yourself 10% bi, or fully bi or just bi in certain situations....get that listed clearly so you get the fun you want, and avoid the types you really don't want.

Incidentally, for the record, I (male part of couple) am fully bi, but more than willing to play straight and identify myself in real life as 'straight' as I couldn't ever imagine having a relationship with a man. But in a couple/play scenario, bi play can be a real turn-on

I would guess, although no-one can prove one way or another, that a sizeable percentage of 'straight' guys on here are turned on by some element of bi play - being on this scene will generally mean we are fairly broad minded to start with - and yet because so few actually state this, there are lots of folk limiting the fun they have. All IMO of course!"

What he said. 100% agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really have to disagree and say we need labels to make an informed decision to meet someone.

Smoker , non smoker

Bi , straight , gay

Single , married , polyamory , cheater

Skinny , athletic , average , fat

Without labels how would you choose to meet someone?

Should we get rid of pictures also?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I really have to disagree and say we need labels to make an informed decision to meet someone.

Smoker , non smoker

Bi , straight , gay

Single , married , polyamory , cheater

Skinny , athletic , average , fat

Without labels how would you choose to meet someone?

Should we get rid of pictures also? "

People tend to lie, tho'

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By *ighteningstrikesCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I really have to disagree and say we need labels to make an informed decision to meet someone.

Smoker , non smoker

Bi , straight , gay

Single , married , polyamory , cheater

Skinny , athletic , average , fat

Without labels how would you choose to meet someone?

Should we get rid of pictures also? "

Agreed I was just stating how we view our sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really have to disagree and say we need labels to make an informed decision to meet someone.

Smoker , non smoker

Bi , straight , gay

Single , married , polyamory , cheater

Skinny , athletic , average , fat

Without labels how would you choose to meet someone?

Should we get rid of pictures also?

People tend to lie, tho'"

Yes but I noticed people shout the loudest about labels when it comes to sexual orientation.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate "

You could argue that you will never know if you like fucking somebody of the same sex unless you try it and see.

I know that I don't like a bloke sucking my knob.

I don't mind sucking one myself in the right circumstances. I have never found a man sexually attractive.

What's the label for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate

You could argue that you will never know if you like fucking somebody of the same sex unless you try it and see.

I know that I don't like a bloke sucking my knob.

I don't mind sucking one myself in the right circumstances. I have never found a man sexually attractive.

What's the label for that?"

Anything that 2 men do together and orgasm without a woman present is considered to be a gay act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate

You could argue that you will never know if you like fucking somebody of the same sex unless you try it and see.

I know that I don't like a bloke sucking my knob.

I don't mind sucking one myself in the right circumstances. I have never found a man sexually attractive.

What's the label for that?

Anything that 2 men do together and orgasm without a woman present is considered to be a gay act."

My wife has always been present.

Her fault in fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate

You could argue that you will never know if you like fucking somebody of the same sex unless you try it and see.

I know that I don't like a bloke sucking my knob.

I don't mind sucking one myself in the right circumstances. I have never found a man sexually attractive.

What's the label for that?

Anything that 2 men do together and orgasm without a woman present is considered to be a gay act.

My wife has always been present.

Her fault in fact "

Well you got me.... I'm at a loss for a label for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you got me.... I'm at a loss for a label for you"

Most people are

(the 'twat' label doesn't count)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why try and put it in a box, if you enjoy it occasionally... Who cares?

It's sex hun and lots of different people like lots different aspects of it.

Just enjoy what your happy with."

couldn't agree more.

Eve. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish people would stop trying to lump every point on the Kinsey scale into a category....bi-playful, bi-curous, fab-bi, fab-straight....it's so confusing and unnecessary.

Look, whatever you identify with in the 'real world' is one thing, and is more than just about sex, but about emotional connection, attraction etc. Some may enjoy playing and taking a cock inside them as part of the swinging scene but still 'identify' as straight in day-to-day life. May never consider a relationship with someone of the same sex, or even never find someone of their sex attractive walking down the street. Thats one thing.

But this isn't 'real life'. This is a swingers site and a hook up site for swingers and couples into the lifestyle. Whatever you identify as to your boss, co-workers and friends is largely irrelevant here.

The stated sexuality on here is to help others find you (or avoid you), as are all the various attributes we list. Putting a sexuality on your profile which fits your outside-world self is fine, but is likely to lead to you getting less fun than you could have otherwise.

If you have tried cock and liked it, and would want to have it again - in whatever form, then it makes sense to class yourself as 'bisexual'. You have a whole profile in which to describe exactly what that means to you...it may mean, you like giving/receiving oral when playing with a couple, it may be that you like to receive full penetration or it could be that you just like a bit of mutual wanking. They are all components of bisexual play, but everyone is different and likes different things.

If you'd fancy trying, but haven't yet - then that is 'bi-curious'.

If the idea of any sexual male-male contact really turns you off, then put 'straight'.

Where we get in a mix is where someone puts 'straight' on their fab profile but actually likes some bi play. It makes no sense....you are not signing up for a dating site here - you are looking for mutual sexual fun. So why confuse the issue?

Some suggest that the stigma around male bi-sexuality is why people put 'straight' regardless. This to me seems like folly.... I (like most) can and will play 'straight' in most circumstances, but I would like to think that if someone knows we are okay with pushing boundaries then we are open to it, even if privately. If they don't know that, then it could be all sorts of missed opportunities for both parties. Plus, if someone is like 'ewwwww I wouldn't touch that nasty dirty bi guy' then in my mind...fuck em. Life is too short to worry about the people who won't play with you....instead focus on those that do and will.

So whether you consider yourself 10% bi, or fully bi or just bi in certain situations....get that listed clearly so you get the fun you want, and avoid the types you really don't want.

Incidentally, for the record, I (male part of couple) am fully bi, but more than willing to play straight and identify myself in real life as 'straight' as I couldn't ever imagine having a relationship with a man. But in a couple/play scenario, bi play can be a real turn-on

I would guess, although no-one can prove one way or another, that a sizeable percentage of 'straight' guys on here are turned on by some element of bi play - being on this scene will generally mean we are fairly broad minded to start with - and yet because so few actually state this, there are lots of folk limiting the fun they have. All IMO of course!"

superbly put, that should be made a FAB sticky

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

No.

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By *ymruambythCouple
over a year ago

grantham


"Surely if you perform bisexual acts , you are by definition bisexual.

If you swim , you are not a non swimmer

If you drive you are not a non driver

If you have sex , you are not celibate

You could argue that you will never know if you like fucking somebody of the same sex unless you try it and see.

I know that I don't like a bloke sucking my knob.

I don't mind sucking one myself in the right circumstances. I have never found a man sexually attractive.

What's the label for that?"

It's about what YOU want to get from meets.

If you 'don't mind' sucking a cock, partly because your wife nudges you that way and it's tolerable but isn't something you would actually want to seek out, and you don't find men remotely sexually attractive in any other way, then I'd say it's best to put 'straight' on your profile.

If you actively enjoy sucking cock and it's something you'd like to connect with others to do, then but 'bi' on your profile and state in the text that you only like giving oral, not receiving.

Again, it's not about what you identify yourself as in real-life, but what kind of play you are looking for. Thats the bit that seems to confuse some peeps.

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By *eaven and Hell 69Couple
over a year ago

HULL

We are both bi - sexual we love watching each other having fun with the same sex! Its proper around fun for all xx xx

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