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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm finding some men very aggressive when I say no to them. Normally young guys of a certain background. If they aren't mature enough to accept a no thank you, are they mature enough to play this lifestyle.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

best to say no thanks and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding some men very aggressive when I say no to them. Normally young guys of a certain background. If they aren't mature enough to accept a no thank you, are they mature enough to play this lifestyle. "

Basically, no they're not. Just block and report if they are abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so used to rejection its a shock when someone does say hello. Don't take it personally never have never will

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By *eeds adventureMan
over a year ago

pudsey

I never take it personal obviously alot of young guys out there making a bad name for the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection can seem personal, even from a random stranger. If the guys can't deal with that, then no, they aren't mature enough for this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block

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By *eeds adventureMan
over a year ago

pudsey


"Just block "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never get more than one back so don't care about the blocking. It's the abuse because I've said no to them, like it's my job to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Normally young guys of a certain background. "

Care to elaborate?

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By *eeds adventureMan
over a year ago

pudsey


" Normally young guys of a certain background.

Care to elaborate? "

Think she means young rough looking lads lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my age Iam good at being rejected,

but at least I have managed to meet some really nice people. Billy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had a few guys want to meet me and when I say no. I get you are an ugly man in a dress, you have a pathetic cock, or you are a dirty faggot. Forgetting that they just wanted me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many single men on here rejection is a certainty. I never take it personally. If I did I think I'd just leave the site. Gettinv angry isn't likely to change someones mind either.

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By *eeds adventureMan
over a year ago

pudsey


"I've had a few guys want to meet me and when I say no. I get you are an ugly man in a dress, you have a pathetic cock, or you are a dirty faggot. Forgetting that they just wanted me. "

Yeh theres no need for that people like that obviously are only on here because they cant get anything anywhere else so they are used to being nasty to people lol

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By *eeds adventureMan
over a year ago

pudsey


"There are so many single men on here rejection is a certainty. I never take it personally. If I did I think I'd just leave the site. Gettinv angry isn't likely to change someones mind either."

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham


"I've had a few guys want to meet me and when I say no. I get you are an ugly man in a dress, you have a pathetic cock, or you are a dirty faggot. Forgetting that they just wanted me. "

I think we all get that hunni, just proves that you were right in the first place. Thankfully there are some nice people here to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some that just aren't accepting no as well. I said no but as you have said you are a great kissser. It's still no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few guys want to meet me and when I say no. I get you are an ugly man in a dress, you have a pathetic cock, or you are a dirty faggot. Forgetting that they just wanted me. "

I get it too. You're beautiful until you say no and then you're a 'fat, ugly whore'...

Try not to take it personally but it does concern me who the hell have raised these rugrats to speak to people like that. Self-entitled little pricks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they get all assy and abusive I say to them ......if your cock was bigger and you belly smaller I would have shagged you lol

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

it is not just single guys had this from couples before.

still won't stop me being nice, no matter how rude they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I always take it a little bit personally. I don't think there's any need to ruin everybody else's fun by been a dick about it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit galling to log in to read a message and find it just says no thanks. I recommend just deleting if you're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes it's even worse for just deleting. You get abuse for not even bothering to say no. Sometimes you just can't win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can honestly say we've never come across this problem maybe it's the way you say no ? Nearly all the guys we respond to are very resoectfull even the young ones

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Usually.

"Sorry but you are not my type. "

That's it

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

It's not just us men, I've had some dogs abuse of couples when saying a polite no thanks, not my type, I think there aggressive people in all sexs and sexualities!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding some men very aggressive when I say no to them. Normally young guys of a certain background. If they aren't mature enough to accept a no thank you, are they mature enough to play this lifestyle. "

Oh yes. We empathise with you ! Had it many times, except they are often aggressive from the first message before the rejection message . Now we just delete and block

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"Can honestly say we've never come across this problem maybe it's the way you say no ? Nearly all the guys we respond to are very resoectfull even the young ones "

It's got nothing to do with the way you say no, just the fact you've said it at all. It's only happened a few times to us as most of our rejection messages are received with good grace and a thanks for replying message or just read and deleted, but it's down to the 'hate replies' that we now decline by message less and less and tend to read and delete these days as per the FAQs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had it too. Said no and they claimed it was Mr replying and saying no as he was jealous and when I confirmed it was me saying no, I was told men on here were all using me and I should get to a gym

Mrs

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We've had it too. Said no and they claimed it was Mr replying and saying no as he was jealous and when I confirmed it was me saying no, I was told men on here were all using me and I should get to a gym

Mrs "

Their comments just show them in their true colours. I always say one needs a high level of emotional intelligence to enjoy swinging, together (especially for men) the ability not to let set backs set you back.

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By *andy57TV/TS
over a year ago

york

I have had it loads of times

Funny I am sexy and just what they are looking for

Till I state sorry but not for me as you are not my type

Then I'm a fat ugly guy in a dress who is desperate to meet them !!

I think not

I'm just glad that there are some really nice people who do meet and I have met

So I block and move on but it can be hurtful and disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding some men very aggressive when I say no to them. Normally young guys of a certain background. If they aren't mature enough to accept a no thank you, are they mature enough to play this lifestyle. "

I have found its usually older guys who get shitty when i say no thanks, in my experience the younger guys tend to be more polite about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had it too. Said no and they claimed it was Mr replying and saying no as he was jealous and when I confirmed it was me saying no, I was told men on here were all using me and I should get to a gym

Mrs

Their comments just show them in their true colours. I always say one needs a high level of emotional intelligence to enjoy swinging, together (especially for men) the ability not to let set backs set you back. "

To be fair I probably should get to a gym but then that would be less cake eating time

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I've had a few guys want to meet me and when I say no. I get you are an ugly man in a dress, you have a pathetic cock, or you are a dirty faggot. Forgetting that they just wanted me. "

You are not alone

From the "most attractive woman on here with a body to die for" to a "stupid fat old ugly cow" in the time taken to say "no thanks"

Now I just delete or block and delete

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

Personally I think ignoring rudeness doesn't help the person realise they are in the wrong.

So will probably continue in that behaviour, unless everyone they encounter try to correct them.

However, I then realise the reality that trying to correct people's bad behaviour generally get's you to a worse place...

I blame the parents!

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody likes being rejected but it goes with the territory so no point getting bent out of shape about it. Just got to suck it up and move on

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