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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How much of the whole BDSM experience is about sex for you personally?

I'm just nosey, and I like to ask these questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how you define sex, as in intercourse or a sexual experience as a whole?

Its all about a good connection, fun and satisfaction for both of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends how you define sex, as in intercourse or a sexual experience as a whole?

Its all about a good connection, fun and satisfaction for both of you"

Vaginal, anal, oral etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why did this go missing from page one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how you define sex, as in intercourse or a sexual experience as a whole?

Its all about a good connection, fun and satisfaction for both of you

Vaginal, anal, oral etc"

The way I like to do things a fairly large part like to use their pleasure as a tool whether its teasing, denial, forced orgasm, getting them worked up and ready to submit or even humiliate themselves, bringing out an inner slut, or using them and satisfying the outer slut haha. Im not a 24/7 dom kind of guy so I dont want to control people outside of scenes

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

For me, D/s is much more than sex ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why did this go missing from page one?"

Oops my bad, I was in the wrong place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ...."

But do you think you would enjoy it without the sex?

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ....

But do you think you would enjoy it without the sex?"

Are we talking as in no more sex ever or just certain times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For mr k being a dom is very sexual. Everything he does to me cumulates in sex. He ties me up then he fucks me. We do know dons that like to do rope play just for the beauty of it but that's not for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ...."

The mental side is the most important for me, it's really what makes the experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ....

But do you think you would enjoy it without the sex?

Are we talking as in no more sex ever or just certain times? "

Lets say, with one person, who doesn't want to have sex, but still wants a bdsm experience.

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ....

But do you think you would enjoy it without the sex?

Are we talking as in no more sex ever or just certain times?

Lets say, with one person, who doesn't want to have sex, but still wants a bdsm experience."

Probably not. I don't want to be used in 'an experiment '

Although I have been called an experience before....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a lot about the mental side of things and the power and control. It had always ended with sex, but can imagine a session without sex could have its own kind of satisfaction and be very hot.

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

No connection here (D)

I will use sexual arousal/climax as a tool if appropriate but BDSM is not a sexual activity for me personally.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Difficult to part the two, it's a holistic dynamic in which sex, for me, is the pinicle of that dynamic.

Do I enjoy the play without sex, yes very much so. However would I pkay without an outcome, never.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x"

It is, made me think, however it's like life, it's not an either/or (although sometimes on this site you would think so) it's "and"

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ...."

So true !!!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x

It is, made me think, however it's like life, it's not an either/or (although sometimes on this site you would think so) it's "and""
possibly..it made me review my experiences, as sub i totally blur the edges between the swinging and the fet worlds. As a Domme, i like the psychological aspect, and, just because of my character i suppose, its all about them, so, i don't switch on the sexual, at least, it hasn't happened yet..

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Switch here....and it depends.

I had a truly lovely experience subbing for a friend just over a week ago, and it did not involve sex at all. No intimate touching, just some snuggling after.

But usually when I do BDSM it does lead to all parties at least having an orgasm and sometimes to sex.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x

It is, made me think, however it's like life, it's not an either/or (although sometimes on this site you would think so) it's "and"possibly..it made me review my experiences, as sub i totally blur the edges between the swinging and the fet worlds. As a Domme, i like the psychological aspect, and, just because of my character i suppose, its all about them, so, i don't switch on the sexual, at least, it hasn't happened yet.."

Mmm, juxtaposition doesn't sit well on my shoulder.

However, from this I like that the pschological dynamic dictates almost prey play.

Crap adjective, however could not think of a better one.

Perhaps we should set up a fet kik group...

I can do it or you... Lady

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x

It is, made me think, however it's like life, it's not an either/or (although sometimes on this site you would think so) it's "and"possibly..it made me review my experiences, as sub i totally blur the edges between the swinging and the fet worlds. As a Domme, i like the psychological aspect, and, just because of my character i suppose, its all about them, so, i don't switch on the sexual, at least, it hasn't happened yet..

Mmm, juxtaposition doesn't sit well on my shoulder.

However, from this I like that the pschological dynamic dictates almost prey play.

Crap adjective, however could not think of a better one.

Perhaps we should set up a fet kik group...

I can do it or you... Lady

"
i dont use kik, sorry xx

prey play...maybe, wouldnt possibly like to say

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x

It is, made me think, however it's like life, it's not an either/or (although sometimes on this site you would think so) it's "and"possibly..it made me review my experiences, as sub i totally blur the edges between the swinging and the fet worlds. As a Domme, i like the psychological aspect, and, just because of my character i suppose, its all about them, so, i don't switch on the sexual, at least, it hasn't happened yet..

Mmm, juxtaposition doesn't sit well on my shoulder.

However, from this I like that the pschological dynamic dictates almost prey play.

Crap adjective, however could not think of a better one.

Perhaps we should set up a fet kik group...

I can do it or you... Lady

i dont use kik, sorry xx

prey play...maybe, wouldnt possibly like to say "

It is a good way to set up groups.

No personal details just a user name, like here.

I have respect for a number on here, it would be good if you got it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ...."

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley

it like asking why people get married

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

A good question and a complex response - as a switch it varies to which side and who I'm with.

As a sub I sometimes have bdsm only experiences without anything sexual and I enjoy that (usually physical or impact play). With my ex Dom it always encompassed sex and I couldn't imagine our meets being either just sex or just bdsm (it always included sex/physical domination/mind play).

As a Domme it also depends who I'm with and what the scene is. With a man I may physically or mentally dominate him, even if I peg him this is never sexual for me. With women I can do pure impact play without anything sexual. I love the purely sensuality of a nice rope session. And sometimes when a ladies tied up, laid there with her legs spread helpless and unable to do anything...

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"When i am Domme, it's not sexual, for me.

When i am sub, its intrinsically linked to psychological state and sexual activity.

good question x

It is, made me think, however it's like life, it's not an either/or (although sometimes on this site you would think so) it's "and"possibly..it made me review my experiences, as sub i totally blur the edges between the swinging and the fet worlds. As a Domme, i like the psychological aspect, and, just because of my character i suppose, its all about them, so, i don't switch on the sexual, at least, it hasn't happened yet..

Mmm, juxtaposition doesn't sit well on my shoulder.

However, from this I like that the pschological dynamic dictates almost prey play.

Crap adjective, however could not think of a better one.

Perhaps we should set up a fet kik group...

I can do it or you... Lady

i dont use kik, sorry xx

prey play...maybe, wouldnt possibly like to say

It is a good way to set up groups.

No personal details just a user name, like here.

I have respect for a number on here, it would be good if you got it. "

I'd be up for a kik group

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't know, I've not me the right people.

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

In my experience it's been so much more about the mind, than physical contact. Although that said, if you can get inside my head then my body usually follows...Ali

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By *eviant and BemusedCouple
over a year ago

Burton


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ...."

Yep. It's a deep connection and very intense. The mental and emotional stimulation makes the physical incredible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, D/s is much more than sex ....

But do you think you would enjoy it without the sex?"

Defiantly! B is dominant outside of the bedroom too.

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

There is someone here that inspired me in the emotional aspect of Dom/Sub.

And we didn't even meet...

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"There is someone here that inspired me in the emotional aspect of Dom/Sub.

And we didn't even meet..."

Any reason in particular?

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I don't know. She never answered to my last messages. Maybe it was an dead end road from the beginning...

But she was an inspiration to understand the beauty of Dominance and Submission...

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I'm a sub so only speaking from my own experiences. As much as I love sex I can be just as sated, exhausted and satisfied without sex being involved an the scenario

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"I don't know. She never answered to my last messages. Maybe it was an dead end road from the beginning...

But she was an inspiration to understand the beauty of Dominance and Submission..."

Maybe she didn't understand or have the same needs?

Lucky girl to be an inspiration though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BDSM is a way of life for me. It consumes my every day to day life and nearly all of my free time is spent connected to it in some regards.

That said sex is only a part of that, whilst BDSM is an extension of my sex life I can quite happily and regularly do engage in perfectly platonic BDSM activities and scenes with friends that does not include sex itself.

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name


"I don't know. She never answered to my last messages. Maybe it was an dead end road from the beginning...

But she was an inspiration to understand the beauty of Dominance and Submission...

Maybe she didn't understand or have the same needs?

Lucky girl to be an inspiration though "

No, lucky me for having known so precious Muse...

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I'm quite happy to play without it ending in sex.

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