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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does everyone else have to put up with a long list of freaks and fakes before ever getting anywhere near the stage of sex?

This week alone I've been messed about four times.

I know men are at the bottom of the rung here, but if you treat people with respect and follow the general rules. Then surely you're entitled to a little respect yourself?

I've had some good times on here, but I'm beginning to get fed up with the majority of people I stumble across.

So far I've met Liars (people who aren't who they say they are, this has included things like GENDER as well as body type and age. I've been left at the side of the road, whilst a couple drove past, we'd agreed to go to a club together. They just drove straight past, rather than have the decency to talk in person. I've gone through hours of messages with one half of a couple, to find out weeks the other half isn't interested. I've exchanged face pics and not had them sent back in return. Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

Now I know a lot of you will troll me and say it's all my fault, I'm the single guy, suck it up buttercup.

I can handle rejection pretty well, I'm not arrogant enough to think everyone wants me. Not vain enough to care. But being treated like a cunt makes my teeth grind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If YOUR having all these problems with different people then YOUR the common denominator maybe you should look at the people you message and maybe change your ways?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm slightly fed up too..even ladies get messed around. I think I'm going to have to start hiring an escort! (Joke..I think)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suck it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never get a meet with a profile like that it's ridic!

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not trying to right now! I'm having a moan! And I do actually lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly time to hide your profile for a few weeks and take a break?

By the way. The term Fed Up comes from falconry. Just thought I would slip that in!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice. "

OP, you were asking for advice. Attempting to belittle a response because it wasn't your ideal one isn't great.

With regards to your current predicament? Your profile is incredibly negative and off putting.

Fakes, liars and whatever else you wish to call them exist. The best you can do is have a sensible vetting process to minimise the likelihood of it happening again. If you've been on the scene for as long as you say you have, it shouldn't be too difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Falconry? Care to elaborate..

I'd only hide my profile if I met a woman a little more special than the rest. Hopefully with a view to closing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does everyone else have to put up with a long list of freaks and fakes before ever getting anywhere near the stage of sex?

This week alone I've been messed about four times.

I know men are at the bottom of the rung here, but if you treat people with respect and follow the general rules. Then surely you're entitled to a little respect yourself?

I've had some good times on here, but I'm beginning to get fed up with the majority of people I stumble across.

So far I've met Liars (people who aren't who they say they are, this has included things like GENDER as well as body type and age. I've been left at the side of the road, whilst a couple drove past, we'd agreed to go to a club together. They just drove straight past, rather than have the decency to talk in person. I've gone through hours of messages with one half of a couple, to find out weeks the other half isn't interested. I've exchanged face pics and not had them sent back in return. Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

Now I know a lot of you will troll me and say it's all my fault, I'm the single guy, suck it up buttercup.

I can handle rejection pretty well, I'm not arrogant enough to think everyone wants me. Not vain enough to care. But being treated like a cunt makes my teeth grind.

"

Never lower your standards

Stick to what you want

Have thick skin

And happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice.

OP, you were asking for advice. Attempting to belittle a response because it wasn't your ideal one isn't great.

With regards to your current predicament? Your profile is incredibly negative and off putting.

Fakes, liars and whatever else you wish to call them exist. The best you can do is have a sensible vetting process to minimise the likelihood of it happening again. If you've been on the scene for as long as you say you have, it shouldn't be too difficult."

I just changed my profile minutes before writing this post. To express my current view. I'm in a bad mood and felt annoyed enough to oust about it. I'm not thinking about meets right this minute.

I pointed out in my OP yes there will be those who say it's me. In hope that those people wouldn't bother. It's a moan, a rant. There are those people around who love to upset and annoyed others and those selfish enough not to care how they make others feel. That's what I wanted to moan about.. Not how it's all my fault.. From people who've never even spoken to me and judge me by one glimpse at my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does everyone else have to put up with a long list of freaks and fakes before ever getting anywhere near the stage of sex?

This week alone I've been messed about four times.

I know men are at the bottom of the rung here, but if you treat people with respect and follow the general rules. Then surely you're entitled to a little respect yourself?

I've had some good times on here, but I'm beginning to get fed up with the majority of people I stumble across.

So far I've met Liars (people who aren't who they say they are, this has included things like GENDER as well as body type and age. I've been left at the side of the road, whilst a couple drove past, we'd agreed to go to a club together. They just drove straight past, rather than have the decency to talk in person. I've gone through hours of messages with one half of a couple, to find out weeks the other half isn't interested. I've exchanged face pics and not had them sent back in return. Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

Now I know a lot of you will troll me and say it's all my fault, I'm the single guy, suck it up buttercup.

I can handle rejection pretty well, I'm not arrogant enough to think everyone wants me. Not vain enough to care. But being treated like a cunt makes my teeth grind.

Never lower your standards

Stick to what you want

Have thick skin

And happy hunting "

That's the sort of reply I was hoping for. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falconry? Care to elaborate..

I'd only hide my profile if I met a woman a little more special than the rest. Hopefully with a view to closing it. "

Unlike a dog, birds of prey only come back to a human because they're hungry. If you overfeed the bugger whilst flying them they will tend to fuck off and sit in a tree and ignore the handler. Hence they are fed up. You also in turn get fed up as you have wait until the bugger is hungry again. And that can take many hours!

A break can do wonders for a jaded mind.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you come across as very negative not only in your post but your profile as well.

It is not just single guys that get messed around most us on here have been. You just have to accept it as part of the fab world. Sure I know it is not very nice and makes you feel a bit shitty but that is fabs for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice. "

Maybe try using the reply and quote when you are replying so people know who you are replying to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Falconry? Care to elaborate..

I'd only hide my profile if I met a woman a little more special than the rest. Hopefully with a view to closing it.

Unlike a dog, birds of prey only come back to a human because they're hungry. If you overfeed the bugger whilst flying them they will tend to fuck off and sit in a tree and ignore the handler. Hence they are fed up. You also in turn get fed up as you have wait until the bugger is hungry again. And that can take many hours!

A break can do wonders for a jaded mind....."

I never knew that! I'll remember it though lol. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice.

Maybe try using the reply and quote when you are replying so people know who you are replying to"

Got it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

"

Please elaborate on what you mean by this? I'm a little confused. Miss T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you come across as very negative not only in your post but your profile as well.

It is not just single guys that get messed around most us on here have been. You just have to accept it as part of the fab world. Sure I know it is not very nice and makes you feel a bit shitty but that is fabs for you. "

I am negative! I'm pissed off! Thats why I posted lol! I know we all have to put up with it.. But it's soooo frustrating at times.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Falconry? Care to elaborate..

I'd only hide my profile if I met a woman a little more special than the rest. Hopefully with a view to closing it.

Unlike a dog, birds of prey only come back to a human because they're hungry. If you overfeed the bugger whilst flying them they will tend to fuck off and sit in a tree and ignore the handler. Hence they are fed up. You also in turn get fed up as you have wait until the bugger is hungry again. And that can take many hours!

A break can do wonders for a jaded mind....."

That's fascinating stuff. It's always interesting to know where sayings come from.

We were on the downs once when a man was looking for his hawk who had flown off. That must have been a case of being fed up.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Op you come across as very negative not only in your post but your profile as well.

It is not just single guys that get messed around most us on here have been. You just have to accept it as part of the fab world. Sure I know it is not very nice and makes you feel a bit shitty but that is fabs for you.

I am negative! I'm pissed off! Thats why I posted lol! I know we all have to put up with it.. But it's soooo frustrating at times. "

Leave your profile blank. Chat a bit in the forums in a positive way and look for meets when you feel refreshed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this why girls are put off by you

You are angry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

Please elaborate on what you mean by this? I'm a little confused. Miss T"

I'm willing to, but in private. My view will cause an argument for sure in a public forum as I've expressed it before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you come across as very negative not only in your post but your profile as well.

It is not just single guys that get messed around most us on here have been. You just have to accept it as part of the fab world. Sure I know it is not very nice and makes you feel a bit shitty but that is fabs for you.

I am negative! I'm pissed off! Thats why I posted lol! I know we all have to put up with it.. But it's soooo frustrating at times.

Leave your profile blank. Chat a bit in the forums in a positive way and look for meets when you feel refreshed."

I will soon lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And this why girls are put off by you

You are angry "

Only today

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

These threads always baffle me, I find it very hard to find one guy I am actually interested in meeting, never mind have 4 on the go at one time.

It's all about due dilligence and taking your time in my point of view, some of these sound like 'you will do' and then wonder why things go tits up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice. "

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"And this why girls are put off by you

You are angry

Only today "

You re-write your profile every day, depending on your mood?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP...

The best advice I can give is to not be online while you're feeling so negative. Hide your profile for a while, even if it's a few hours and take off the negative speech.

When you're feeling a little brighter, decide on a new profile and just try to be a little more careful in future. This place is a learning curve, we've all had to go through stand ups or whatever (I've only been on here for a few months).

Chin up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will never get a meet with a profile like that it's ridic!

Ruby"

TBF the OP didn't ask for profile advice, so you should only offer if he does...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much for Xmas spirit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand you being pissed off OP, we all have negative experiences on here sometimes. I would suggest not letting it physically spill on to your profile though, so future potential meets aren't aware, as it's a complete turn off. There are genuine people on here, you just have to keep plugging. Good luck OP .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And this why girls are put off by you

You are angry

Only today "

Then smile .. tomorrow is another day...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These threads always baffle me, I find it very hard to find one guy I am actually interested in meeting, never mind have 4 on the go at one time.

It's all about due dilligence and taking your time in my point of view, some of these sound like 'you will do' and then wonder why things go tits up "

I think I get your point. To be honest.. You're probably right, many of these were a case of you'll do. But I'm a single male, I can't help my sex drive.

I want to find one localish person I get on with, but I'll probably end up falling for her! Lol. Sometimes I just need an emotion free bit of fun. So I make no excuses for my post being a window into my sex life.

I didn't initiate all four conversations this week, I didn't even mention the couple.. Who wanted to meet me at 11.30 last night, d up wanting an anonymous, no photo meet. That's the sort of crap I get at times..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand you being pissed off OP, we all have negative experiences on here sometimes. I would suggest not letting it physically spill on to your profile though, so future potential meets aren't aware, as it's a complete turn off. There are genuine people on here, you just have to keep plugging. Good luck OP . "

I dig that advice! Same as others, but messing up future meets!!?? Arrrrggghhhh doh!

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

Op, I'm sure everyone gets it but things to bear in mind are :

1) moaning about it in public just makes you look like a miserable, depressive so and so. (We all get fed up - but this is fab, you can convince the world you're mr jolly 365! - just step away from keyboard when you feel like this. )

2) you won't change it. You can't control what others do, only what you do.

3) I've yet to see anyone post a moan thread and it end up in a group hug with us all going there there, we'll sort it out. You have a little cry. (Unless of course it's an attractive female, then people just lose their fucking minds. )

D

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"These threads always baffle me, I find it very hard to find one guy I am actually interested in meeting, never mind have 4 on the go at one time.

It's all about due dilligence and taking your time in my point of view, some of these sound like 'you will do' and then wonder why things go tits up

I think I get your point. To be honest.. You're probably right, many of these were a case of you'll do. But I'm a single male, I can't help my sex drive.

I want to find one localish person I get on with, but I'll probably end up falling for her! Lol. Sometimes I just need an emotion free bit of fun. So I make no excuses for my post being a window into my sex life.

I didn't initiate all four conversations this week, I didn't even mention the couple.. Who wanted to meet me at 11.30 last night, d up wanting an anonymous, no photo meet. That's the sort of crap I get at times.. "

Obviously your thinking with your little head at the time, maybe start using your big head for a change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

Please elaborate on what you mean by this? I'm a little confused. Miss T

I'm willing to, but in private. My view will cause an argument for sure in a public forum as I've expressed it before. "

Okay, probably best left unsaid then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op, I'm sure everyone gets it but things to bear in mind are :

1) moaning about it in public just makes you look like a miserable, depressive so and so. (We all get fed up - but this is fab, you can convince the world you're mr jolly 365! - just step away from keyboard when you feel like this. )

2) you won't change it. You can't control what others do, only what you do.

3) I've yet to see anyone post a moan thread and it end up in a group hug with us all going there there, we'll sort it out. You have a little cry. (Unless of course it's an attractive female, then people just lose their fucking minds. )

D

"

People are cheering me up already.. So group hug may be on the cards.. Ive blanked my profile.. Just needed a digi-cuddle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These threads always baffle me, I find it very hard to find one guy I am actually interested in meeting, never mind have 4 on the go at one time.

It's all about due dilligence and taking your time in my point of view, some of these sound like 'you will do' and then wonder why things go tits up

I think I get your point. To be honest.. You're probably right, many of these were a case of you'll do. But I'm a single male, I can't help my sex drive.

I want to find one localish person I get on with, but I'll probably end up falling for her! Lol. Sometimes I just need an emotion free bit of fun. So I make no excuses for my post being a window into my sex life.

I didn't initiate all four conversations this week, I didn't even mention the couple.. Who wanted to meet me at 11.30 last night, d up wanting an anonymous, no photo meet. That's the sort of crap I get at times..

Obviously your thinking with your little head at the time, maybe start using your big head for a change "

Men and women need to swap bodies at times lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Your opening statement to this thread can be echoed by hundreds of guys in here, up and down the country (and appreciated by many single women and couples also). I feel your pain, and sympathize as I 'suffer' the same indignities and arrogance. However! You have had 2 meets in the 9 months you've been a member here, which is quite impressive and a lot more than others are fortunate to be able to say. Stick with it fella, and never show negativity on your profile

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Just turn to trannies and men like the other 99% of the straight men on here haha

Same ol story though mate, the more you meet the more you want to meet. How come you've been doing this since your 20s? never thought of getting a partner and having a relationship? (I'm not offering by the way)

I'm sure you're choosing wisely but be picky like myself, that way you get quality and less timewasting, pic collecting fakes on here. Has worked for me so far but saying that I don't do one offs, always met the person again and again and again and again .....u get the drift so meeting new ones is not really a priority for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have my sympathy. It is Fab to some extent. Single men are the bottom of the pecking order and SOME women and couples treat them without a great deal of respect (it probably doesn't help that some guys are literally willing to put up with anything to get laid).

So guys get bitter and do the same and the cycle continues. However there are some nice people on here and I've never actually had an unpleasant meet (though I always meet socially first). But I don't meet or message often so maybe I'm not the best example. All I can suggest is stay cool and in the words of Jon Bon Jovi "keep the faith. Don't let your love turn to hate" lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your opening statement to this thread can be echoed by hundreds of guys in here, up and down the country (and appreciated by many single women and couples also). I feel your pain, and sympathize as I 'suffer' the same indignities and arrogance. However! You have had 2 meets in the 9 months you've been a member here, which is quite impressive and a lot more than others are fortunate to be able to say. Stick with it fella, and never show negativity on your profile "

Don't always judge people by their profiles as profiles don't tell whole stories.

Like many people on here I have deleted previous profiles and started again. Also Im not to keen on verifications,neither are a lot of people I meet. It's a bit public for me, even on here.

Your advice is good though, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If only the reason people treated others like shit was because they had reason to. Then I'd know it was me.. And I could change..

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are are selfish, greedy, mean, liars and just plain rude.

I've been in the lifestyle on and off since I was in my 20s. I'm confident enough from my past meets and conversations that I may be a cunt at times, but on the whole.. I'm not too bad. I know how to listen, debate, express an opinion, I try to read body language, I don't want to make others uncomfortable.

So I don't think I'm completely the problem. But if I was.. For future reference.. It's "YOU'RE the problem" Or "YOU are" Definitely not "YOUR". But thanks for the advice. "

Well played, fine shot sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op, I'm sure everyone gets it but things to bear in mind are :

1) moaning about it in public just makes you look like a miserable, depressive so and so. (We all get fed up - but this is fab, you can convince the world you're mr jolly 365! - just step away from keyboard when you feel like this. )

2) you won't change it. You can't control what others do, only what you do.

3) I've yet to see anyone post a moan thread and it end up in a group hug with us all going there there, we'll sort it out. You have a little cry. (Unless of course it's an attractive female, then people just lose their fucking minds. )

D

"

Brilliant advice and tis a fab world ruled by the women mostly.

Op, remember that euphoria when times were good and trust that it will turn around for you. On a site this large...not everyone will play nice and some loose the bloody run of themselves however most people here are worth sticking around for...try to refocus and be positive. My mantra is what you put out is what you get back and then you just have absolutely rude people in the mix too who are sorting themselves out and leave them too it...not your problem. Have the moan and rant just don't type it...angry word's can't be reversed.

Chin up and believe it will get better.

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just turn to trannies and men like the other 99% of the straight men on here haha

Same ol story though mate, the more you meet the more you want to meet. How come you've been doing this since your 20s? never thought of getting a partner and having a relationship? (I'm not offering by the way)

I'm sure you're choosing wisely but be picky like myself, that way you get quality and less timewasting, pic collecting fakes on here. Has worked for me so far but saying that I don't do one offs, always met the person again and again and again and again .....u get the drift so meeting new ones is not really a priority for me."

I started young. Met someone special. Stopped. Marriage ended. Carried on.

Unfortunately I only have my average body and dazzling personality to woo the potential suitors. A lot of people local to me are shy to meet. But I also travel as an hgv driver.. Which is why some of my better meets can't be as regular as I'd like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op, I'm sure everyone gets it but things to bear in mind are :

1) moaning about it in public just makes you look like a miserable, depressive so and so. (We all get fed up - but this is fab, you can convince the world you're mr jolly 365! - just step away from keyboard when you feel like this. )

2) you won't change it. You can't control what others do, only what you do.

3) I've yet to see anyone post a moan thread and it end up in a group hug with us all going there there, we'll sort it out. You have a little cry. (Unless of course it's an attractive female, then people just lose their fucking minds. )

D

Brilliant advice and tis a fab world ruled by the women mostly.

Op, remember that euphoria when times were good and trust that it will turn around for you. On a site this large...not everyone will play nice and some loose the bloody run of themselves however most people here are worth sticking around for...try to refocus and be positive. My mantra is what you put out is what you get back and then you just have absolutely rude people in the mix too who are sorting themselves out and leave them too it...not your problem. Have the moan and rant just don't type it...angry word's can't be reversed.

Chin up and believe it will get better.

Madame B "

Agreed. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op we all go through bad patches on here u just need to stay positive be polite and witty and someone will take interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK I'm bowing out now, shit to do.. Have a good Christmas y'all x thanks for positive posts (OP)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your opening statement to this thread can be echoed by hundreds of guys in here, up and down the country (and appreciated by many single women and couples also). I feel your pain, and sympathize as I 'suffer' the same indignities and arrogance. However! You have had 2 meets in the 9 months you've been a member here, which is quite impressive and a lot more than others are fortunate to be able to say. Stick with it fella, and never show negativity on your profile

Don't always judge people by their profiles as profiles don't tell whole stories.

Like many people on here I have deleted previous profiles and started again. Also Im not to keen on verifications,neither are a lot of people I meet. It's a bit public for me, even on here.

Your advice is good though, thanks "

It's a great verification though OP. My interest would be piqued if you messaged, and I saw that .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your opening statement to this thread can be echoed by hundreds of guys in here, up and down the country (and appreciated by many single women and couples also). I feel your pain, and sympathize as I 'suffer' the same indignities and arrogance. However! You have had 2 meets in the 9 months you've been a member here, which is quite impressive and a lot more than others are fortunate to be able to say. Stick with it fella, and never show negativity on your profile

Don't always judge people by their profiles as profiles don't tell whole stories.

Like many people on here I have deleted previous profiles and started again. Also Im not to keen on verifications,neither are a lot of people I meet. It's a bit public for me, even on here.

Your advice is good though, thanks

It's a great verification though OP. My interest would be piqued if you messaged, and I saw that . "

LOL I just hid it. She's a good friend of mine now.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


" Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

"

OP your attitude towards single women is appalling - it's no wonder you are struggling.

I go to clubs and i am most certainly not there just to give hope to single guys. I want to socialise and hopefully have some fun if anyone takes my fancy, usually with single males. Your sense of entitlement would put me off just as quickly as bad breath and body odour.

Just because you have paid an entry fee doesn't mean you are guaranteed some action. If that's what you're after find a prostitute

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over a year ago


" Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

OP your attitude towards single women is appalling - it's no wonder you are struggling.

I go to clubs and i am most certainly not there just to give hope to single guys. I want to socialise and hopefully have some fun if anyone takes my fancy, usually with single males. Your sense of entitlement would put me off just as quickly as bad breath and body odour.

Just because you have paid an entry fee doesn't mean you are guaranteed some action. If that's what you're after find a prostitute "

That was a small part of what I spoke about. I didn't elaborate on it as it would spark an argument. However I am willing to to discuss it in private. As I said to another poster. However, till you know the full story, I wouldn't judge to harshly. Or assume my attitude is disgusting, all is not what it seems.

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over a year ago


" Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

OP your attitude towards single women is appalling - it's no wonder you are struggling.

I go to clubs and i am most certainly not there just to give hope to single guys. I want to socialise and hopefully have some fun if anyone takes my fancy, usually with single males. Your sense of entitlement would put me off just as quickly as bad breath and body odour.

Just because you have paid an entry fee doesn't mean you are guaranteed some action. If that's what you're after find a prostitute "

Or got to the private club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

OP your attitude towards single women is appalling - it's no wonder you are struggling.

I go to clubs and i am most certainly not there just to give hope to single guys. I want to socialise and hopefully have some fun if anyone takes my fancy, usually with single males. Your sense of entitlement would put me off just as quickly as bad breath and body odour.

Just because you have paid an entry fee doesn't mean you are guaranteed some action. If that's what you're after find a prostitute

Or got to the private club "

I'm referring to private clubs lol I'm not on about going to Cream or something lol

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


" Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

OP your attitude towards single women is appalling - it's no wonder you are struggling.

I go to clubs and i am most certainly not there just to give hope to single guys. I want to socialise and hopefully have some fun if anyone takes my fancy, usually with single males. Your sense of entitlement would put me off just as quickly as bad breath and body odour.

Just because you have paid an entry fee doesn't mean you are guaranteed some action. If that's what you're after find a prostitute

Or got to the private club

I'm referring to private clubs lol I'm not on about going to Cream or something lol"

He means a venue called "the private club" which is in Birmingham (i think). They have paid hostesses to entertain their guests. It is not a swingers club it is a sex club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Single females in clubs, whose presence is simply to give single guys some hope.

OP your attitude towards single women is appalling - it's no wonder you are struggling.

I go to clubs and i am most certainly not there just to give hope to single guys. I want to socialise and hopefully have some fun if anyone takes my fancy, usually with single males. Your sense of entitlement would put me off just as quickly as bad breath and body odour.

Just because you have paid an entry fee doesn't mean you are guaranteed some action. If that's what you're after find a prostitute

Or got to the private club

I'm referring to private clubs lol I'm not on about going to Cream or something lol

He means a venue called "the private club" which is in Birmingham (i think). They have paid hostesses to entertain their guests. It is not a swingers club it is a sex club."

I stand corrected. No not for me thanks.

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