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is the swingers scene cliquey ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

question is as simple as that !

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in what why

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By *azmissy67Woman
over a year ago

welshpool area

yes it is lol

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"question is as simple as that ! "

You are on dangerous ground mate I dare say no more!!!!!! Read the forums carefully and judge for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the swingers world cliquey???

yes it is.......as its a clique full of swingers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"question is as simple as that !

You are on dangerous ground mate I dare say no more!!!!!! Read the forums carefully and judge for yourself."

cats and pigeons spring to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it is i have been on scene 10 yrs and the clubs r 2 .

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"question is as simple as that !

You are on dangerous ground mate I dare say no more!!!!!! Read the forums carefully and judge for yourself.

cats and pigeons spring to mind "

Ur getting the gist!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Yes.

And no.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I do my own thing and don't really take any notice of what others are doing

As long as im having fun im not worried

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"question is as simple as that ! "

Some bits of it are without a shaddow of doubt.

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

it can be i guess to those new to it and try and join in with people who have been here a while, become friends and have actually met each other . but on the whole have found the place friendly enough and open to new people.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

dont think the scene is as such, sites are, forums have there own little groups as do chat rooms (2 totally different types of people)

This site is more clicky in forums than chat, but general chat is more clicky than the directing rooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont think the scene is as such, sites are, forums have there own little groups as do chat rooms (2 totally different types of people)

This site is more clicky in forums than chat, but general chat is more clicky than the directing rooms

def agree with that 100% but i do what is best for me to be honest think its best way to be !!people thta have met you know the true person at end day

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"yes it is i have been on scene 10 yrs and the clubs r 2 . "

Not all the clubs, Tease2 Hotel in huntingdon is our reg and been going over a year, and its so NOT, the owners and the regs make sure all new ppl are talked to and feel so very welcome.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Like any scene, it can be. It realy depends on if you make the effort to mix, as seen so many couples goto a party/club, not even attempt to talk to anyone, then leave saying it's cliquey

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"Like any scene, it can be. It realy depends on if you make the effort to mix, as seen so many couples goto a party/club, not even attempt to talk to anyone, then leave saying it's cliquey"

Well said as someone said to us you get out of swinging what you put in.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes it can be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think i like all groups you will get some people that get on really well and it might seem like its a group within a group, but as a woman who isn't into that its each to there own babe i wouldn't worry there are some great people out there xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"question is as simple as that ! "

no.. I would say that it is the same in the way that a pub for example has its regulars, or you go a watch football with the same people,

hang on... you wouldn't really call those cliquey...

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"dont think the scene is as such, sites are, forums have there own little groups as do chat rooms (2 totally different types of people)

This site is more clicky in forums than chat, but general chat is more clicky than the directing rooms."

I'm equally happy in chat and the forums - as are a few others, so I wouldn't say that the two groups are totally different types of people. Agree gen chat is a bit more cliquey - but I'd expect that, tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I get on with everyone but can take a hint. Being polite costs nothing and can open all sorts of doors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it is lol"

I would agree some are very cliquey. But there are just as many who are open and friendly.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

On the whole, I don't it is... it truly is people who have formed relationships/rapport/connections/friendships chatting and interacting.

Do I think it is unfriendly and unwelcoming at times....... YES, at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can be if you meet people who all know each other ..... and thay wish to stay in there groups .... feel very clicky .

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

yes and no its how you look at it and if you want to put the ground work in and it takes a long time its all about whos friends with who, one way in would be the court jester on the forum or chat or even at the socials but just remember you will always be a fool in some peeps eyes i say best be yourself as your always found out in the end

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't found it to be cliquey. We don't go to clubs so can't comment on those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the swingers scene cliquey? No, the scene isn't cliquey.

But some PEOPLE are cliquey (i.e. they have formed strong and happy relationships that they're comfortable with and want to stay with), and to me, that's fine!

There is no rule that says ALL swingers should be friendly and open to all newcomers. But fortunately, the majority of swingers ARE open and friendly, so anyone who feels 'excluded' by a 'clique' should just move on and find the friendlier folk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it can be thats why I prefer friday nights instead of couples only Saturdays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A clique is just people who seek the comfort of those they know and recognise.

On the other side, wallflowers who haven't got the bottle to break the ice and think it's the responsibility of others to nursemaid them.

If you need a nursemaid, ask. I did when I went to my first club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"question is as simple as that ! "

only in the same way as everyday life can be so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do my own thing and don't really take any notice of what others are doing

As long as im having fun im not worried "

Good outlook to have, we share that _iew too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it is.

you have to watch your back at times.

people can get nasty for no reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people can be..but you'll find the majority of people are friendly and down to earth xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"question is as simple as that ! "

Because of societies _iew that all swingers are foaming at the mouth shag anything and everything types i think swinging is necessarily cliquey - certainly when you first start it - as trust has to be gained and swinging is all about mutual trust and respect. Anyone who starts swinging on a site and expects to be meeting and having fun in the first week let alone 10 mins is living in a dream. I always want to get to now someone before even thinking about a meet. So yes its cliquey and necessarily so .

Anyone want a soapbox going cheap???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A clique is just peeps ya havent spoken too yet so no xx

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clubs and partys are very much indeed clicky. local area = local swingers so therefore alot of people are going to know each other and become friends after a few times of bumping into each other...

how ever this website is gossip central. people chat online and talk about who they have met ect and you can read all the verifications you will find the same men meeting the same couples and same women due to recomendations.

best thing to do is just be your self and just be open honest and chatty. im not bothered about cliques... if i see some one i want to fuck or even chat to i will. x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Yes... I only shag swingers so it must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it can appear that way. I guess some people have their own circle of swinging friends.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Is life cliquey or do we simply hang out with ppl we get on with?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its difficult as a single gal to be accepted into groups of couples. I'll just keep plugging away at those socials and clubs and see if it improves!

In the meantime, anyone want to join my clique? I have cookies!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Its difficult as a single gal to be accepted into groups of couples. I'll just keep plugging away at those socials and clubs and see if it improves!

In the meantime, anyone want to join my clique? I have cookies! "

Chocolate chip?

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"question is as simple as that ! "

You have cliques anywhere..among groups of football supporters, people in camera clubs...etc etc...

Dont worry about the cliques..worry about people in the cliques _iews..on here we have found everyone really friendly to each other.

The majority of swingers seem really nice people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its difficult as a single gal to be accepted into groups of couples. I'll just keep plugging away at those socials and clubs and see if it improves!

In the meantime, anyone want to join my clique? I have cookies! "
. Lol I'll join.I'll bring the Dvd s lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on this site a few times before and always loved the forums as you get to see the different personalities by the stuff they say in discussions . I did seem a bit cliquey at times but I'm my own person and just didn't care . I always say the day swinging or websites like these affect me in a negative way it's time for me to leave .

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