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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

whats the difference?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose to some people there will be no difference I guess.

It is quite funny how a guy can go round shagging as many women as he can get his hands on and that's classed as a cool thing, where as a woman does it and she gets called a slag.

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By *utzzCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

Self respect.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

that is so true..getting me down a bit, women calling me a slag for having fun, especially when they know nothing about me..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"whats the difference?.."

the difference is in the context that the words are used generally...

if you like sex... so what... good!! "slag" is one of those words that is used to demean people, to insult people! can't stand the word.. would never us it

if I swing.. I swing....so what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats the difference?.."

Seriously????

As a woman you would post something like that!!!

If you dont know the difference then maybe you shouldnt be swinging.

And what is a slag anyways? I do so hate that word. Could it be a woman that is comfortable in her sexuality, that knows what she wants and likes and goes for it? Or is that a swinger???

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Well you could accept the argument that singles aren't swingers anyway, but lets assume they are...

I'm not really sure what a slag is other than a derogatory label used by others. Maybe it's the media image of a woman who goes out dressed in provocative clothes and who gets pissed down a club before taking the nearest bloke behind the wheelie bins... then can't really remember it in the morning. Who knows.

A swinger is someone who wants to meet others for uncomplicated sex and to share some intimacy. It's a more controlled and thoughtful way of having fun as I see it.

It's sad that a woman who has many partners can sometimes be called a slag but blokes who do the same are seen as studs. Goes back to deep seated caveman stuff I reckon.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Do you know the women calling you a slag, do you respect their opinion on other matters..

if yes... discuss it with them, understand why they think that.

if not... why worry and tell them to take a hike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am just a swinging slag haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word slag is a derogatory term, an insult. There are some women who enjoy sex and are confident and comfortable to go out and indulge to their hearts content, there are some women who do not wish to have many sexual partners, there are some women who wish to have the confidence but do not so but are happy to abuse those that do in order to knock the others' self confidence - then there are swingers, I look on swinging as a hobby

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"that is so true..getting me down a bit, women calling me a slag for having fun, especially when they know nothing about me.."

Ah, so it's others doing the labelling?

Do as you will and harm none. It's your life to live not there's.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I assume it is because you show a lot of verifications and the frequency of them.. well that is totally your business and if YOU are happy with that, that is all that SHOULD matter.

It is about your self worth... and the reasons why you are here.

If meeting regularly for sex is the reason and you are enjoying it.. and the men treat you well.. continue and hold your head high.

Because you have posted, I think that it may be causing some self doubt.. if so, you may need to seek some counsel.

All the best xxx

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

yeah its someone going through my veris, and contacting them to tell them they wont meet anyone while i am on their veris cos i ;m a slag..not nice..dont know the woman..she even counted how many guys i have seen this year,,

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"yeah its someone going through my veris, and contacting them to tell them they wont meet anyone while i am on their veris cos i ;m a slag..not nice..dont know the woman..she even counted how many guys i have seen this year,,"

well that may say more about them than it does about you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it depends on who is looking at it.... many vanilla people would label everyone of us slags.

I don't really worry... but prefer the world slut... but only one man gets to call me that and not have his face slapped.

I actually think of slag as more being the type of woman that hurts others feelings.... maybe has multiple men and tells them all she is exclusive...

I don't really see myself as a swinger either, more a sexual explorer....

I'd ignore petty people... and be flattered that they see you as such a threat.

Katie x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

well that may say more about them than it does about you...

I completely agree with Sensei View on this one.

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

I personally wouldn't worry about it, we don't listen to what others think of people, we would rather form our own opinions. If these men are listening to this other woman and are not forming their own impression of you they are clearly not worth your time.

As has been said already be flattered that she is so threatened by you and hold your head high xx

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

thankyou to u all for ur kind comments...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather be a slut. I would rather go to chams know who im playing with safe clean hard dirty sex. Than go into town and pick up a one night stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well you could accept the argument that singles aren't swingers anyway, but lets assume they are..."

Ok wohhh hold it. Is that what swing couples think of single girls?

I don't like that idea.

Im a single girl here, and very happy knowing what I want from swinging. I wouldn't say im a slut, im a woman who wants a select group of men/couples who I can play with and be mates with. I'd also like to play at parties, where even then im selective of who i play with.

If I was a slut surly I would be sleeping with every guy who messages me?!?!

I'm sticking up for the single girls (starts dancing to beyonce hehe)

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Well you could accept the argument that singles aren't swingers anyway, but lets assume they are...

Ok wohhh hold it. Is that what swing couples think of single girls?

I don't like that idea.

If I was a slut surly I would be sleeping with every guy who messages me?!?!

I'm sticking up for the single girls (starts dancing to beyonce hehe)

Well I'm single too.

A few people define swinging as couples only. Personally I don't care too much for labels and the endlless debate/argument over them and it doesn't phase me.

You could go with swinglet if you like.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

i dont dress like a tart, i dont go to pubs and meet and shag behind wheeelie bins,,i meet nice guys of here and have fun..to me thats what its all about, we are all on here for the same thing so why are some women quick to point and label..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well you could accept the argument that singles aren't swingers anyway, but lets assume they are...

Ok wohhh hold it. Is that what swing couples think of single girls?

I don't like that idea.

If I was a slut surly I would be sleeping with every guy who messages me?!?!

I'm sticking up for the single girls (starts dancing to beyonce hehe)

Definately a slut in the bedroom when my basic instinct kicks in. Being a swingle works for me as I have no time for a full on relationship and this works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh boy has this post got my back up. From the last post just who is this woman. To me the only one not worth meeting is her. Just look at it this way. Shes more than likely jealous. At the face you have met afew guys that she would like to meet.

We are all here to have fun. I have a high sex drive that needs feeding. I dont mix drink and sex. I like to know exactly what im doing and what is happening. And most importantly with whom.

Rise above it and let it go. We dont need lables on here. We can all hide behind our lappies and write the horrible texts about anyone. But would you stand infront of that person you dont know and say it to their face. I doubt it very much. You wouldnt be standing for very long thats for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess what you have to think of is who's using the word...

For me from another woman it equals that they are jealous... not confident in themselves to do it etc..

If its from a man.... depending on who. It could be a compliment. An insult because I dare to refuse his manly advances.. or a term of endearment...

However, Master would quickly hit the block button to those that send us the

"Can I use your sub slut/slag/whore?"

But if another woman calls me it I normally thank her. Lol

Did go mad at a guy using it in front of my child because he nearly hit me on a crossing... that was used to illicit a response.. and he doesn't have the intelligence to realise that It's an insult that fails in that situation. I went mad because he swore infront of my child btw.

Oh and its a sad fact that I've over heard a few conversations where if a woman is known to be having nsa fun. That she is seen as a slag, but in their words... I'd fuck it, but not take her home.

Sexual double standards will always be around... and my Master is proud of how much fun we have.

Katie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh boy has this post got my back up. From the last post just who is this woman. To me the only one not worth meeting is her. Just look at it this way. Shes more than likely jealous. At the face you have met afew guys that she would like to meet.

We are all here to have fun. I have a high sex drive that needs feeding. I dont mix drink and sex. I like to know exactly what im doing and what is happening. And most importantly with whom.

Im lost who isnt worth meeting??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont dress like a tart, i dont go to pubs and meet and shag behind wheeelie bins,,i meet nice guys of here and have fun..to me thats what its all about, we are all on here for the same thing so why are some women quick to point and label..?"

Jealousy.... its as simple as that.

Btw.... I sometimes get sent out looking a total slut... depends what mood master is in lol but its all part of the fun..

Don't let one narrow minded jealous woman get to you... just have more fun and watch her fume.

Katie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The term says more about the person using it than the person its being used on.

Its your life and your body and your free to play as you see fit, its nobody elses business.

And I'm glad you have kept your verifications up, it shows your are proud of who you are

dinnae let the buggars get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have friends who accept derogitory terms, its another case of each to their own, and depends on what they want from u, I dont go round saying fucked this slag last nite etc etc...its all in the time or place that that would happen...some get off on it some dont...its about being variable to ur meets needs i suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what got my back up!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think of myself as being all things .... i can have class and mix well in normal life ........ but i can be a real slag and a sweet woman and man eater in the bed -room ..... if i was called one i would think wow thay must know how good i am , lol why i get the name .lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i'm a slut,a whore ,a bitch,and a lot worse.

Call me a slag tho and i will deck you, it is a nasty word used to attack women.

Aint i inconsistent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'm a slut,a whore ,a bitch,and a lot worse.

Call me a slag tho and i will deck you, it is a nasty word used to attack women.

Aint i inconsistent!

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you sure are , lol

xxx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i'm a slut,a whore ,a bitch,and a lot worse.

Call me a slag tho and i will deck you, it is a nasty word used to attack women.

Aint i inconsistent!

you sure are , lol

xxx"

It's just a horrible word,it even sounds nasty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A swinger has standards I guess, though I'm not too fond of a lady being called a slag just because she isn't ashamed to admit that she loves sex with different people. Funnily enough I believe sex is meant to be pleasurable? It is a bit rich to call a woman with a lot of conquests a slag, while a man in the same position is applauded for his actions. I suppose it is because to get sex a woman simply has to take her clothes off and say "Who wants it?" Women on the other hand usually want the whole package so to appeal to women a man has to have some nous about him, take care of himself, be reasonably good looking as well as being charming, therefore the fact he can get sex regularly with lots of partners is seen as a reflection of possessing all the other attributes that make him desirable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it strange that those on a site aimed at getting people together for hot horny sex can be so judgemental.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I do find it strange that those on a site aimed at getting people together for hot horny sex can be so judgemental.

Oftem amazes me too you perverted deviant.. oh, sorry!

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"i'm a slut,a whore ,a bitch,and a lot worse.

Call me a slag tho and i will deck you, it is a nasty word used to attack women.

Aint i inconsistent!

For me any of the above words can be used to as you say attack women and personally slag falls in to the same.

however, all the above will at some time been used in the heights of passion too...not by me I hasten to add! Although I do remember one lady who loved to be called a slut!

Generally though these words are used once they've lost the argument and reached the end of their vocabulary..

You can choose to show as many verifications as you want; it's your profile.

I choose not to show friends and I must admit that when I see a profile with a friends list as long as your arm and no verification that they are pic collectors, I could be totally wrong....but I wouldn't contact them and "slag" them off for doing so..

So run your account as you see fit and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do find it strange that those on a site aimed at getting people together for hot horny sex can be so judgemental.

Oftem amazes me too you perverted deviant.. oh, sorry!

Hes not sorry really... he's just wanting you to come get him..

Katie x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I do find it strange that those on a site aimed at getting people together for hot horny sex can be so judgemental.

Oftem amazes me too you perverted deviant.. oh, sorry!

Hes not sorry really... he's just wanting you to come get him..

Katie x "

I'm gonna hide for a bit now...

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

thankyou for all ur kind words of comfort...guess i got to be thicker skinned...

i dont understand why she wud think a guy wudnt get a meet if my veri was on his profile..any suggestions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do find it strange that those on a site aimed at getting people together for hot horny sex can be so judgemental.

Oftem amazes me too you perverted deviant.. oh, sorry!

Haaaa haaaa haaaa haaaa...oh you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thankyou for all ur kind words of comfort...guess i got to be thicker skinned...

i dont understand why she wud think a guy wudnt get a meet if my veri was on his profile..any suggestions?"

Some people like to minimise risks, so will see many meets as to risky... makes me laugh personally.

I've found that people on these sites can be more judgmental that your average person.. so It's just one of those things..

Actually many on the bdsm sites see I swing and think i lack moral judgement.. so go figure.. there is nowt as queer as folk, as they say.

Live life for the moment... and don't worry what people think.

Katie x

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

will do thanks..its so sad that people are trying to give me a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thankyou for all ur kind words of comfort...guess i got to be thicker skinned...

i dont understand why she wud think a guy wudnt get a meet if my veri was on his profile..any suggestions?"

She wouldn't think that at all, she's just being a silly girl and lashing out. The only meet he might not get is with her, but if she's as much of a head the ball as she sounds thats not really a bad thing for the bloke in question....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have often thought about the words we call each other in the throes of passion....

In the world of BDSM, slut/whore etc are common words used in the humiliation of the SUB woman.

"SLAG" apart from to slag one off for misdeamours etc... is a filthy degenerate word used to demean a woman usually as stated before who goes into the local pub, gets pissed and grabs the first guy and fucks his brains out behind the bins. Especially if done on a regular occurrence and with various different guys.

Rightly or wrongly that is my understanding of the term SLAG

However, people in this Nation that feels the need for titillation in Carry On Films, Seaside Postcards etc....but scorns anyone who dares acts out of the "norm" have to put labels on everything.

SWINGING is just that....Consenting adults who meet on a friendly basis at socials parties etc and act out their sexual frustrations and fantasies with in some cases, complete strangers.....

I am confused however at why anyone who would join a Swinging community would demean another member of that community by calling her such a filthy word unless out of simple jealousy because she is not receiving the same attention or is participating the same amount of fun as the OP on this thread.

My tuppence worth if you can follow it

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

thanks for that..x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I think there are a few separate issues here really.... is someone entitled to look at the verifications of someone who has just asked to meet them and decide... no this person is not really what Im/we are looking for? I think that most people would agree that the answer is yes (no matter what their reasons they are entitled to making their own choices....)

Are they entitled to message said person and call them unpleasant names and show general bad manners... think most people would agree that this is not so.

Lastly are they entitled to tell a guy who has asked them the reason that they dont wish to meet? Again, personally think that this is their right too.

I think that jealousy is unlikely to be what is happening here... maybe just some people who dont want to meet others who are heavily into the scene. Its just my opinion, but feel Im entitled to it.

That being said, best ask yourself why you are so bothered and if you heard this secondhand from guy you have met... why he told you? Wasnt necessary was it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find slag derogortory ( sorry for spelling ) but slut seems to be a word used by women and men about others and themselves with no morral issues attatched ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks for that..x"
I would think ......... its that thing called jealousy why she is like this .. Can make really nice people turn into monsters. ... LIFES to short for crap you move on and do what makes you happy . Some get off on making people feel unhappy .. thats how thay get there kicks .

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

There is an element of moralistic judgement in swinging at times, often on those who have lots of fun with lots of different playmates.

I find that a bit odd myself. Is there some secret scale where you go from 'acceptable to somewhat promiscuous to slag' I wonder?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class. "

Agreed.

I get utterly bemused by the rumour mongers and Profile/Verification Analysts at times, I'm surprised they get time to meet anyone with all that paperwork!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you look at the slang definition of slag, a promiscuous woman, then I guess you are, maybe so are a lot of other swingers. I don't see anything wrong with that. I'm jelous, lol. I wish I could get it as often as you lol!

It's only a problem because people use the term as a derogatory remark.

If they call you a slag then just reply "and?" would be my answer. What's it got to do with them? I'm sure if you dug about in their life you'd find something that you could slate them for.

Let those without sin cast the first stone.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class.

Agreed.

I get utterly bemused by the rumour mongers and Profile/Verification Analysts at times, I'm surprised they get time to meet anyone with all that paperwork!

Um... paperwork, does that ring a bell at all Invictus? Is it Thursday?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"If you look at the slang definition of slag, a promiscuous woman, then I guess you are, maybe so are a lot of other swingers. I don't see anything wrong with that. I'm jelous, lol. I wish I could get it as often as you lol!

It's only a problem because people use the term as a derogatory remark.

If they call you a slag then just reply "and?" would be my answer. What's it got to do with them? I'm sure if you dug about in their life you'd find something that you could slate them for.

Let those without sin cast the first stone.

I dont think its the definition that the problem, just the fact that namecalling is childish and insulting.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class.

Agreed.

I get utterly bemused by the rumour mongers and Profile/Verification Analysts at times, I'm surprised they get time to meet anyone with all that paperwork!

Um... paperwork, does that ring a bell at all Invictus? Is it Thursday?

I've resigned as moan co-ordinator, I'm now bum thread supervisor.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class.

Agreed.

I get utterly bemused by the rumour mongers and Profile/Verification Analysts at times, I'm surprised they get time to meet anyone with all that paperwork!

Um... paperwork, does that ring a bell at all Invictus? Is it Thursday?

I've resigned as moan co-ordinator, I'm now bum thread supervisor.

So... we now call you Head Bum?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class.

Agreed.

I get utterly bemused by the rumour mongers and Profile/Verification Analysts at times, I'm surprised they get time to meet anyone with all that paperwork!

Um... paperwork, does that ring a bell at all Invictus? Is it Thursday?

I've resigned as moan co-ordinator, I'm now bum thread supervisor.

So... we now call you Head Bum?

Chief Arse Inspector, but I only do female bums. Males should send theirs to Funky.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I'm a slinger, or a swag, can't decide which.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a problem because people use the term as a derogatory remark.

If they call you a slag then just reply "and?" would be my answer. What's it got to do with them? I'm sure if you dug about in their life you'd find something that you could slate them for.

Let those without sin cast the first stone.

I dont think its the definition that the problem, just the fact that namecalling is childish and insulting. "

Totaly agree which is why I mentioned it's only a problem because people use it as a derogatory remark

I think I'm promiscuous, I'm sure a lot of people on here would see them selves as promiscuous. I'm sure a group of friends calling each other slags in swinging circles you'd laugh and probably agree.

It's when it's someone you don't know using it as an insult.

Like I said earlier to the poster of the thread I'd just say "and? What's your point?". Be proud about it. As long as your having fun and not hurting anyone else then whats the problem.

I'd just comment at how sorry I felt for her that she had nothing better to do than to message all the people on the veris list! What a sad little person!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I dont think there is a sliding scale on fun, just different people looking for different things. Still no need for name calling though. No class.

Agreed.

I get utterly bemused by the rumour mongers and Profile/Verification Analysts at times, I'm surprised they get time to meet anyone with all that paperwork!

Um... paperwork, does that ring a bell at all Invictus? Is it Thursday?

I've resigned as moan co-ordinator, I'm now bum thread supervisor.

So... we now call you Head Bum?

Chief Arse Inspector, but I only do female bums. Males should send theirs to Funky.

Should I book an appointment? Cos I know you keep shoddy hours....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you heard this secondhand from guy you have met... why he told you? Wasnt necessary was it?

I thought the same thing!

I don't understand tittle tattles, I really don't.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person"

*waves pitchfork and burning brand*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person

*waves pitchfork and burning brand*

Hmmmm...I don't have those in my war chest...erm toy box!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person

*waves pitchfork and burning brand*

Hmmmm...I don't have those in my war chest...erm toy box!

I've got an axe, two swords and a spear...any good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person

*waves pitchfork and burning brand*

Hmmmm...I don't have those in my war chest...erm toy box!

I've got an axe, two swords and a spear...any good?

Axe - too unweilding

, sword, so not me...the spear on the other hand sounds perfect!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person

*waves pitchfork and burning brand*

Hmmmm...I don't have those in my war chest...erm toy box!

I've got an axe, two swords and a spear...any good?

Axe - too unweilding

, sword, so not me...the spear on the other hand sounds perfect!

You can't beat 8ft of solid ash shaft in your hand... did I really just say that?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

did I hear solid shaft mentioned..

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Deviants!! The lot of you!!

I lied! I do judge you all!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a religious person, albeit a spiritualist lol, i always say and i quote " Let he/she who is without sin cast the first stone".

This person is obviously jealous of you in some way, dont let it get to you! Like already said if you are happy doing what u are doing then fine, if not maybe rethink and take a break from swinging for a while! Its not the b all and end all lol or is it

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Obviously someone who knows it will annoy you has called you a slag.

The man who delivered the comment to you must have known it would upset you.

Ignore both.

I am always surprised on a site where people are looking for sex that women still get called slags for getting it.

I don't think it is jealousy of the people saying it, I just think they are vindictive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"did I hear solid shaft mentioned.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont dress like a tart,"

How does a tart dress?

In fact what is a tart???

Taken from the urban dictionary.

A nubile young temptress, who dresses teasingly and provocatively. Take out the nubile young temptress (at least for me) and leave teasingly and provocatively isnt that most women in the swinging scene? Im sure lots have play underwear/clothes that they wouldnt dream of wearing in day to day life. Well I no without a gun sticking to my head I wouldnt wear stockings everyday!

A delicious cream or jam filled treat. Or a prostitute. Well I dont like pastry so im not intrested in the jam filled treats. So lets go to tart = prostitute, so any women that goes to the pub on a Saturday night and picks up some random man, wither she fucks him up an alley or takes him home and fucks him thats makes her a prostitute?? Me I see a woman that has got d*unk, got the horn and done something about it. And I think good on her.

And lets take prostitutes, because women let men pay them for sex, they are tarts?

By using the word tart, you are passing judgement on women, which is something you dont like happening to you.

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall

The dictionary defines "Slag" as being British slang for "an abusive woman".

Judging by some of the replies ive had on here, there must be a fair few slags

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"lol.. we have found the other woman guilty and we have the word of the OP who has the word of another person

*waves pitchfork and burning brand*

So it was you who stole my pitchfork!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats the difference?.."

A Swinger has sex for fun and sexual enjoyment.

A Slag has sex for half a Pizza and a glass of house red when the night clubs close.

Oh.......and the Slag usually refers to swingers as Slags!

XXXX

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"whats the difference?..

A Swinger has sex for fun and sexual enjoyment.

A Slag has sex for half a Pizza and a glass of house red when the night clubs close.

Oh.......and the Slag usually refers to swingers as Slags!

XXXX"

And the judgmental brigade really believe this is funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats the difference?..

A Swinger has sex for fun and sexual enjoyment.

A Slag has sex for half a Pizza and a glass of house red when the night clubs close.

Oh.......and the Slag usually refers to swingers as Slags!

XXXX

And the judgmental brigade really believe this is funny!

If by judgemental you mean that we class the women calling swingers slags as being of far looser morals than those they refer to, then yes we suppose we are!

And yes, the irony of their _iews and actions does make us laugh.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

i agree, but not half as funny as those who believe violence to be acceptable only if they're the perpetrator. lol

offered the choice of being called a slag or decked, slag away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously some narrow minded jealous judgemental person who isn't happy with themselves and has more time on their hands to berate other people. She is probably not being as succesful as she would like on here so takes her angst out on others.

Let it go she is obviously a bitter person and very lonely.

Keep enjoying the fun for as long as you are happy. Xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"whats the difference?.."

A slag is like Santa.... when people grow up they realise neither exist.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"whats the difference?..

A Swinger has sex for fun and sexual enjoyment.

A Slag has sex for half a Pizza and a glass of house red when the night clubs close.

Oh.......and the Slag usually refers to swingers as Slags!

XXXX"

None of us have any moral high ground over the woman with pepperoni stuck in her teeth.

Recreational sex is recreational sex, no matter which route you take.

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"whats the difference?..

A Swinger has sex for fun and sexual enjoyment.

A Slag has sex for half a Pizza and a glass of house red when the night clubs close.

Oh.......and the Slag usually refers to swingers as Slags!

XXXX

None of us have any moral high ground over the woman with pepperoni stuck in her teeth.

Recreational sex is recreational sex, no matter which route you take."

In my experience the moral high ground can be either a plateau everyone can share, or a narrow windswept pinnacle with room for only one person, whose only option is to shout at everyone else about how great it is to have taken the moral high ground.

I know which I prefer...

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

thankyou to all for ur comments, some very interesting ones...

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"whats the difference?.."

Swingers appear to have far better morals than male or female 'slags'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well that may say more about them than it does about you...

the word jealousy springs to mind .. dont get stressed by someones envy shes probably a dog anyways ... nasty vile person doesnae deserve the energy wasted on her !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said weeboo lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks for that..xI would think ......... its that thing called jealousy why she is like this .. Can make really nice people turn into monsters. ... LIFES to short for crap you move on and do what makes you happy . Some get off on making people feel unhappy .. thats how thay get there kicks ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here here lifes far too short to worry what other people think ..

in my opinion jealous spiteful folk get there kicks out of putting others down , best way to deal with it have as much fun as u want and dont be put off with folk like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats the difference?..

Swingers appear to have far better morals than male or female 'slags'"

I'd like to know how?

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Is the pizza and red wine free?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

slag is derogatory as it basically means "dross"

Swinger is quite different We are not leftovers

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

thanks for all ur comments, it made me feel a lot better..the guy who told me what she had been saying shud not of said anything to me and the other guy who wont see me any more because of this women isnt worthy of my friendship so have blocked him and the woman,,i am here for fun not grief..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate labels like slut slag whore etc

Sad little labels (probably first coined by an envious person)ta tag someone who enjoys life, variety and the most natural normal thing in the world SEX

Who the hell says that we weren't born ta be so called promiscuous anyway??

Ill tell ya who society

The same society that restricts other practices as well that are alien ta our natural state

The old adage "make love not war"was the truest statement ever said in my opinion xx

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"whats the difference?.."

... how much you *enjoy* it pmsl

Wolf (self confessed slut, but only in private)

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Swinger = someone who enjoys sex and/or adult fun discreetly and privately in their own circle. And prides themselves on not screwing married men or causing anyone any harm.

Slag = Someone who has been having an affair with a married celebrity and goes to the papers to tell about their 'trauma' 'regret' and 'mental turmoil' (for a big bagfull of filthy lucre)

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

The difference, is what you make it.

If you find it insulting, then it is.

If you find it not insulting then it's not.

You could call a girl or a boy who slept with 1 person a slut, you could call a person who slept with multiple people a swinger.

Neither would define the person or tell you anything about them.

As for slag being a definition purely for females, well I think that's an old way of looking at things, I've know males be called slags as well as females.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why would anyone worry about being called a slag. Why dont all these guys that she has messaged fuck her off. If your confident why worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you like sex and meeting people for it becomes a sort of hobby i dont see how it makes you a slag.

meeting people is great and i always get a buzz out of seeing someone new.

got to be a better thing to be doing than train spotting or playing bridge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinger, slag, slut, tart, whore! Call me what you like, but just get your cock out whle your doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont dress like a tart, but I have been to a pub social and shagged on a wheelie bin.....it was a tall guy you see hehe!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinger = someone who enjoys sex and/or adult fun discreetly and privately in their own circle. And prides themselves on not screwing married men or causing anyone any harm.

Slag = Someone who has been having an affair with a married celebrity and goes to the papers to tell about their 'trauma' 'regret' and 'mental turmoil' (for a big bagfull of filthy lucre) "

I cant see how that first paragraph describes a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the difference is in your mind.

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By *trumpettWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Think some people spend far too much time interfering in others fun - they are the jealous ones who couldn't get a meet if their lives depended on it....

Easier said than done I know sometimes, but laugh at their inadequacies and enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slag could be applied to both male and female people.In the circles I moved in it meant someone who was not to be trusted.

Swingers are people like anyone else so we must have our share of "slags" and "Saints".

Having a higher sexual drive or at least admitting that humans are very sexually driven does not make anyone and women in particular a "slag".

Swingers on the whole are some of the least xenophobic and perverted people I have ever met.

The public perception of us is slags and perverts.However how many of those who would persecute us would love to do what we do?

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By *elmar1Couple
over a year ago

rotherham

slag is what someone calls you when there jealous or to ugly to enjoy lots of sex themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both sound fun

but i do prefer slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, The Sweeney might have sounded better when they collared a crim if they had said" Shut it, you swinger"

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"Swinger = someone who enjoys sex and/or adult fun discreetly and privately in their own circle. And prides themselves on not screwing married men or causing anyone any harm.

Slag = Someone who has been having an affair with a married celebrity and goes to the papers to tell about their 'trauma' 'regret' and 'mental turmoil' (for a big bagfull of filthy lucre)

I cant see how that first paragraph describes a swinger

So they dont do any of that?

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

if married guys are swinging on here then its not the fault of the women...We are all on here for same thing so if married folk are on here behind their partners backs then its down to them, there own faults if they get caught and besides lots lie about being married anyway

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"if married guys are swinging on here then its not the fault of the women...We are all on here for same thing so if married folk are on here behind their partners backs then its down to them, there own faults if they get caught and besides lots lie about being married anyway"

Totally agree with that...and from what we see, most women on here wont screw a married guy who is playing away behind his wifes back...good for them too!

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By *ondoncoupleforfunxCouple
over a year ago

essex/london border

funny how the people that call you a slag are almost always women ,cleary they what would love to be in on the action but they are so crabby no one will have them so all it is is just jealousy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats the difference?.."

You would have to give the definitive description of slag. Also the word swinger is not clearly defined as some think it includes singles and others not. The word promiscuous is better terminology.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

What about... 'a woman who is generous with her affections'?

Sounds nicer doesn't it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you like sex and meeting people for it becomes a sort of hobby i dont see how it makes you a slag.

meeting people is great and i always get a buzz out of seeing someone new.

got to be a better thing to be doing than train spotting or playing bridge."

Well said

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

"if you like sex and meeting people for it becomes a sort of hobby i dont see how it makes you a slag.

meeting people is great and i always get a buzz out of seeing someone new.

got to be a better thing to be doing than train spotting or playing bridge.

Well said

Rught On !

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

In jest, I'd rather be called a "slag" in same context of "tart" - at least it means I'm not a time-waster

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