FabSwingers.com forum: no shows

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

after having a number of meets arranged then the people in question not showing or using an excuse at the last minute i was just wondering if this is a big problem? whats your thoughts?

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By *hristopher WalksMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I wouldn't say its a big trend on FAB. I think you would find this no matter what site you are a member of. Me being a single male I've been stood up by couples a lot but I do not attest this to the website just to those individuals

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but there seems to be a lot of timewasters on here. I mean why arrange if you dont intend to follow it through??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havnt had many no shows, but i do get a hell of a lot of guys who cancel

Its just something theres no point moaning about as you'll never stop it, its all part of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs all the way, never a no show, always a surprise!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had a no show. Then again we do chat to people for quite a while before we arrange to meet them. So we feel that we already know them a little before we meet in person.

I guess people get cold feet and decide against a meet if you are a complete stranger. Try and build a rapport with people before you decide to meet.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

My one and only no-show was someone that Id already met....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i have had two ....... in my years of swinging and both was not real ..... one was fireman i had seen before ... he was on holiday and his work mates got on his name on the site set up the date and he new nothing about it . Other one was a woman, We was going to meet ...... only to find out 8 momths into having a baby and was not her but husband mucking around ., He had done this to a couple i had been chating too as well ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, we have had several no-shows in the time we have been on here, plus cancellations at the last minute due to little Timmy having fallen down the well and having to go get Lassie to rescue him!

Just as frustrating are the people that do turn up, ask you all the same info thats in your profile ('What you in to?' etc) and then tell you that your not what they are looking for or that there was no 'spark'.

My God, we do look just as bad in person as we do on our pictures!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get use to it.

part of this im afraid.

if someone doesnt show move on.

chances are if you forgive them they will only do it again.

and your times been wasted enough.

be firm but fair. to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most annoying kind of no show, is when someone contacts YOU asking for a meet at theirs, you say when your able to meet them, they then choose the time and date, then not actually send you the address even on the morning of the meet.

Then they read your messages saying you thought they wanted a meet and was going to give their address, but never reply back.

Though I tend to find the biggest dreamers \ time wasters have the same trend of message content.

They will start off talking normally and sometimes polite, then it's as if a bombs gone off and they start messaging saying they want to drink your hot sticky cum and will fuck you every which way, as if the fantasy is over taking them, then they stop all messages.

Fucking retarded wankers

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Never had a no show,never failed to show.

At this point i remember something Fabio wrote, if the site isn't working for you,perhaps it is the way you are using the site.

i can't tell u what we are doing right,and what you are doing wrong,but perhaps it is worth considering.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"We have never had a no show. Then again we do chat to people for quite a while before we arrange to meet them. So we feel that we already know them a little before we meet in person.

I guess people get cold feet and decide against a meet if you are a complete stranger. Try and build a rapport with people before you decide to meet."

have to disagree,quite often we decide the night before we want a threesome,our shortest time ever was 6 hours.You can get to know ppl all u want,doesn';t mean they will show up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have never had a no show. Then again we do chat to people for quite a while before we arrange to meet them. So we feel that we already know them a little before we meet in person.

I guess people get cold feet and decide against a meet if you are a complete stranger. Try and build a rapport with people before you decide to meet.

have to disagree,quite often we decide the night before we want a threesome,our shortest time ever was 6 hours.You can get to know ppl all u want,doesn';t mean they will show up."

We can see your point. We must be lucky then. However if we did have a no show,we would just block and move on.Never take things personally.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"We have never had a no show. Then again we do chat to people for quite a while before we arrange to meet them. So we feel that we already know them a little before we meet in person.

I guess people get cold feet and decide against a meet if you are a complete stranger. Try and build a rapport with people before you decide to meet.

have to disagree,quite often we decide the night before we want a threesome,our shortest time ever was 6 hours.You can get to know ppl all u want,doesn';t mean they will show up.

We can see your point. We must be lucky then. However if we did have a no show,we would just block and move on.Never take things personally."

i don't think its luck,but having a "system" that works for you.

But your last sentence is so true,it should be the golden rule of swinging!

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall

"The most annoying kind of no show, is when someone contacts YOU asking for a meet at theirs, you say when your able to meet them, they then choose the time and date, then not actually send you the address even on the morning of the meet.

Then they read your messages saying you thought they wanted a meet and was going to give their address, but never reply back.

Though I tend to find the biggest dreamers \ time wasters have the same trend of message content.

Fucking retarded wankers

OMG ! I thought this only happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"get use to it.

part of this im afraid.

if someone doesnt show move on.

chances are if you forgive them they will only do it again.

and your times been wasted enough.

be firm but fair. to yourself."

whats forgiveness

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Then they read your messages saying you thought they wanted a meet and was going to give their address, but never reply back.

Though I tend to find the biggest dreamers \ time wasters have the same trend of message content.

Fucking retarded wankers

OMG ! I thought this only happened to me

sounds like a bloke to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then they read your messages saying you thought they wanted a meet and was going to give their address, but never reply back.

Though I tend to find the biggest dreamers \ time wasters have the same trend of message content.

Fucking retarded wankers

OMG ! I thought this only happened to me

sounds like a bloke to me

yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a process where people who haven't met yet think they want to meet while they're turned on in front of the computer but in the cold light of day anything can shake their resolve. So they don't show, then they find themselves turned on again and start making excuses for not showing. I've had somebody come back to me after two weeks to apologise for not showing up.

I certainly took a while to start meeting, thinking I wanted to then thinking I didn't, but I recognised it and waited until I was absolutely sure I could go through with it. I can understand people chickening out but I just wish they'd admit it and let me know sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id prefer someone to tell me they are nervous than not show up at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"after having a number of meets arranged then the people in question not showing or using an excuse at the last minute i was just wondering if this is a big problem? whats your thoughts?"

how do you know its an excuse? they could be real genuine reaosns why they cant make the meet and maybe they fully intended to go at the time of arranging

We all have a real life and sometimes things dont go to plan and that comes first

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Only ever been let down by one couple, who never turned up at the rendervous TWICE. learned our lesson there.

What gets our goat are the people who happily chat away to you for weeks on here because its anonymous. Then when you suggest meeting, even on neutral ground just for a coffee, suddenly turn illiterate. They don't reply but read your messages, you send a second message with the same result.

For us it goes to a third message with something along the lines of thanks for wasting time over the last few weeks, enjoy the block.

Thats where any prospectives end for us.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Never had a no show,never failed to show.

At this point i remember something Fabio wrote, if the site isn't working for you,perhaps it is the way you are using the site.

i can't tell u what we are doing right,and what you are doing wrong,but perhaps it is worth considering."

since my name has been mentioned... i'll give my two penneth....

so to the OP I say this...

in all my years of swinging (6 now... Do I get a testimonial when I get to 10??) I can count the amount of "timewasters" I have had on 1 hand....

this is going to now sound really really harsh....

one timewaster can be said to be unlucky,

2 or 3 may be said to be unfortunate....

lots and lots of timewasters is a trend!!!

only one person can change that trend

and the common demoninator is you!!!

so I would question the method of how you go about choosing people, I would also question how you do your due diligence...

the problem is that it is always "the other persons fault".... the person who starts these types of threads is always "blameless".... its funny that...hmmmm

if something isn't working... don't moan about it...Change it!!!!

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