FabSwingers.com forum: Wife's likes...new things... sort of

By *ensitivesouls OP Couple
over a year ago

london

My wife and I have a great marriage and enjoy a very full sex life, but...

I find she is usually averse to introducing new things, although once we try it, she loves it.

This happened with spanking, which she know asks for (read demands) everytime my cock is up her.

It was a similar thing with shaving her pussy, dildos, dirty talk, bondage. Beforehand very negative, after very enthusiastic...

Our first trip to a swingers club (kestrels) saw her completely lose her temper with me in the parking lot. But once we were through the front gate, she really enjoyed it . . . And was a glassy-eyed orgasm machine once I started fucking her in front of the others there. She now absolutely loves fucking in front of an audience.

I have tried to introduce the idea of progressing past public sex (3somes etc) but she is resistant.

I am not sure whether to keep encouraging as with past activities or let it go... it does seem quite a step. Thoughts? Experiences?

Also we have been married 20years and she claims not to have fucked anyone else in that time. Does this seem realistic or is she projecting her angst at me fucking other women? Thoughts? Experiences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't know if she's been faithful or not. why aren't you sure?

my experience of 3sums is that i pretty much don't enjoy 1 on 1 with guys any more, unless they give me a lot of attention in bed (which most guys don't from here). so i mainly only want to meet for 3sums with unselfish guys.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

"My wife and I have a great marriage and enjoy a very full sex life, but...

I find she is usually averse to introducing new things, although once we try it, she loves it.

This happened with spanking, which she know asks for (read demands) everytime my cock is up her.

It was a similar thing with shaving her pussy, dildos, dirty talk, bondage. Beforehand very negative, after very enthusiastic...

I have tried to introduce the idea of progressing past public sex (3somes etc) but she is resistant.

I am not sure whether to keep encouraging as with past activities or let it go... it does seem quite a step. Thoughts? Experiences?

Also we have been married 20years and she claims not to have fucked anyone else in that time. Does this seem realistic or is she projecting her angst at me fucking other women? Thoughts? Experiences?"

We started off chatting to other guys, then progressed on to soft play and naked massages. This eventually led on to full play with a guy who proved he was trustworthy...We have never looked back...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Does your wife read the forums?

Why don't you ask her these questions?

None of us can answer on her behalf and our experiences won't reflect hers.

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By *ensitivesouls OP Couple
over a year ago

london

We talk about it often but like the other experiences she is reluctant until the experience stares her in the face. Then she grabs with both hands.

On the sex front, I just dont see 20 years of monogamy as practically possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what you are saying is that you have been unfaithful and do we think your wife has been ?

I agree with the massages as a good introduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds more like she gets turned on by the fact of other people watching you both have sex but she doesn't want to share you. Or have sex with others as it's not a turn on for her

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