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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been on and off this site for a couple of years now and 99.9999% of the time women don't reply to my messages. I have tried various methods of approaching but with no success. Can anybody give me some good pointers please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you sell yourself OP ? What is your initial approach ?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Will fill in a reply later.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Will fill in a reply later."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will fill in a reply later."

There's your answer, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women look at the profile first before the message.

If the profile isn't great, then the message won't be replied to.

Would you say OP that your profile is the best it can be?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

ET phone home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on and off this site for a couple of years now and 99.9999% of the time women don't reply to my messages. I have tried various methods of approaching but with no success. Can anybody give me some good pointers please."

Have you messaged a million women and only got one reply? You need a profile makeover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women look at the profile first before the message.

If the profile isn't great, then the message won't be replied to.

Would you say OP that your profile is the best it can be?"

Exactly this.

Your profile is your 'shop window'

Given that single men massively outnumber the ladies on here, you really do need to make yourself stand out.

Your message could be an absolute masterpiece, but it may never get read if you have a disappointing profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've updated my profile and have even less luck. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've updated my profile and have even less luck. Lol"

Read it, OP. Compare it to others.

Do you think it is enticing? Exciting? The best that you can do? Better than others? Fun? Gives people an idea of your unique personality? Gives them a handle on possible commonality?

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London


"ET phone home "

Yes indeed we say

He gone home now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude."

In your opinion,others are available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude.

In your opinion,others are available "

Totally yes, but I will always stand by my opinion that, with anything in life be it a message here or something in the real world, to not at least acknowledge or thank clear effort made by someone is very rude. That's how I was brought up. No matter how shitty a day I have had,I say thank you if someone holds a door open for me. To not apply the same here just because its not "real life" is plainly rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude.

In your opinion,others are available

Totally yes, but I will always stand by my opinion that, with anything in life be it a message here or something in the real world, to not at least acknowledge or thank clear effort made by someone is very rude. That's how I was brought up. No matter how shitty a day I have had,I say thank you if someone holds a door open for me. To not apply the same here just because its not "real life" is plainly rude."

I also say thanks when someone opens a door for me. However, if someone in the real world attempts to chat me up ( akin to messages on here), i'd ignore them too and don't think it's rude at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i don't like something about them, that is

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude.

In your opinion,others are available

Totally yes, but I will always stand by my opinion that, with anything in life be it a message here or something in the real world, to not at least acknowledge or thank clear effort made by someone is very rude. That's how I was brought up. No matter how shitty a day I have had,I say thank you if someone holds a door open for me. To not apply the same here just because its not "real life" is plainly rude."

I'd leave fab if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude.

In your opinion,others are available

Totally yes, but I will always stand by my opinion that, with anything in life be it a message here or something in the real world, to not at least acknowledge or thank clear effort made by someone is very rude. That's how I was brought up. No matter how shitty a day I have had,I say thank you if someone holds a door open for me. To not apply the same here just because its not "real life" is plainly rude.

I'd leave fab if I were you. "

Wow. He did leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're the wrong sex pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, I was going to put my own post about messages.... But I'll gatecrash this one if that's ok....

I'm really interested to hear what you all have to say... Particularly the guys....

I get alot of messages sent to me.... As do my fellow female friends..... They vary from "Hi /Hi babe/sexy... to war and peace...

Explaining how they use their tongue or how big their cock is.... Yawn...

Anyway my point is.... I reply to ALL messages..

Regardless if it's a" Thank you for your kind message but I'm not interested " yada yada yada....

To "ooh well hellooooo there"!!

The majority of guys send a " thank you for replying " message back....

However recently I've had a " So rude" or " You're really rude" reply.

Now I'm sat there thinking WTF??

I've replied to your effing message!!

Don't even get me started on questioning me why I'm not interested.... That's another whole new thread completely!

But seriously guys what do you want?? A reply or just simply delete..

Waffle over....

Angel xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I was going to put my own post about messages.... But I'll gatecrash this one if that's ok....

I'm really interested to hear what you all have to say... Particularly the guys....

I get alot of messages sent to me.... As do my fellow female friends..... They vary from "Hi /Hi babe/sexy... to war and peace...

Explaining how they use their tongue or how big their cock is.... Yawn...

Anyway my point is.... I reply to ALL messages..

Regardless if it's a" Thank you for your kind message but I'm not interested " yada yada yada....

To "ooh well hellooooo there"!!

The majority of guys send a " thank you for replying " message back....

However recently I've had a " So rude" or " You're really rude" reply.

Now I'm sat there thinking WTF??

I've replied to your effing message!!

Don't even get me started on questioning me why I'm not interested.... That's another whole new thread completely!

But seriously guys what do you want?? A reply or just simply delete..

Waffle over....

Angel xx "

A reply is definitely better than nothing at all, I understand women get hammered with messages so just to acknowledge it makes me feel a little bit of satisfaction even if the end result is not what you would like and those men that turn rude or be nasty don't deserve to meet anyone, personally can't understand that, like that's going to change anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you may do better if you posted a more flattering picture. Maybe a few pictures. If you can't do a sexy picture without clothes, then try one with clothes.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you! X

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London


"I feel you may do better if you posted a more flattering picture. Maybe a few pictures. If you can't do a sexy picture without clothes, then try one with clothes.

Mrs"

We totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy some better pants maybe?! Your profile, which I believe from reading this thread is a new one then sorry, I'd start again. Way more info is needed and some better more varied pics my lovely. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it matters what your profile says. You have two types of Women on here, there are nice polite and kind Women tnen there are ones that ignore or insult you. I have to say from my experience of the forums there are some really lovely genuine people on this site who fortunately outnumber the obnoxious, ignorant and rude ones in the minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it matters what your profile says. You have two types of Women on here, there are nice polite and kind Women tnen there are ones that ignore or insult you. I have to say from my experience of the forums there are some really lovely genuine people on this site who fortunately outnumber the obnoxious, ignorant and rude ones in the minority. "

I disagree, I think it matters alot what is written in a profile and how you come accross. With most women getting many messages you can often stand out way more with an informative well written profile.

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London


"I don't think it matters what your profile says. You have two types of Women on here, there are nice polite and kind Women tnen there are ones that ignore or insult you. I have to say from my experience of the forums there are some really lovely genuine people on this site who fortunately outnumber the obnoxious, ignorant and rude ones in the minority. "

You find that every where it is the human race after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I both agree with the advice but also feel there is a lack of just common courtesy too. When you find people who you look a good match with, you craft an individual message and clearly have spent the time and effort to do so, then they read and delete without even looking at your profile. To me that is rude, regardless of how many messages people may get our how many men are on.

No wonder there are so many fake pics and cut & paste messages when this happens. If people at least acknowledged a clearly individual message, then I think those sending are less likely to resort to cheap tactics to get a response. The better it would be for everyone, and more pleasant, IMHO.

This especially goes in non sex or non meet messages. A large number of times I've spent a while writing messages of advice about stuff outside of swinging and sex, responding to questions. When they get deleted without even a simple thank you then I am sorry but that is inexcusably rude.

In your opinion,others are available

Totally yes, but I will always stand by my opinion that, with anything in life be it a message here or something in the real world, to not at least acknowledge or thank clear effort made by someone is very rude. That's how I was brought up. No matter how shitty a day I have had,I say thank you if someone holds a door open for me. To not apply the same here just because its not "real life" is plainly rude.

I also say thanks when someone opens a door for me. However, if someone in the real world attempts to chat me up ( akin to messages on here), i'd ignore them too and don't think it's rude at all"

I'd also say thanks to folk for opening a door, however some of the messages only deserve a delete 'I will destroy you' 'fuck now' 'nice tits'. Now that is just rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I changed my profile slightly and low and behold I've only gone and arranged a meet for this Thursday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope the meet goes well. Still advise you to take a few pics semi-clothed, teasing glimpse of chest and thigh, trouser zip undone - delete the underpants pic - it is not particularly attractive, m x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hope the meet goes well. Still advise you to take a few pics semi-clothed, teasing glimpse of chest and thigh, trouser zip undone - delete the underpants pic - it is not particularly attractive, m x"

Thanks for the advice will sort some out soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I was going to put my own post about messages.... But I'll gatecrash this one if that's ok....

I'm really interested to hear what you all have to say... Particularly the guys....

I get alot of messages sent to me.... As do my fellow female friends..... They vary from "Hi /Hi babe/sexy... to war and peace...

Explaining how they use their tongue or how big their cock is.... Yawn...

Anyway my point is.... I reply to ALL messages..

Regardless if it's a" Thank you for your kind message but I'm not interested " yada yada yada....

To "ooh well hellooooo there"!!

The majority of guys send a " thank you for replying " message back....

However recently I've had a " So rude" or " You're really rude" reply.

Now I'm sat there thinking WTF??

I've replied to your effing message!!

Don't even get me started on questioning me why I'm not interested.... That's another whole new thread completely!

But seriously guys what do you want?? A reply or just simply delete..

Waffle over....

Angel xx "

I prefer a delete, I understand we all have our preferences and I might not tick everyone's boxes.

What is frustrating are the messages that simply get ignored..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular update your profile, profile pic, posts and take part in the forums. Confidence and personality is more attractive than a 6 pack.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I've been on and off this site for a couple of years now and 99.9999% of the time women don't reply to my messages. I have tried various methods of approaching but with no success. Can anybody give me some good pointers please."

Get out into Blackpool and pull old school, hen party's galore with some(not all) of the ladies up for fun while away from there home life's.

Get a t shirt printed with "the lytham stud" on the back and they'll me moist for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it impossible to answer questions like this without seeming unkind....

You profile is atrocious.

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