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One Soft, One Full !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you ever met a couple were she's soft swing but he's full and they only meet couples.

Seen this once or twice and also met a couple at a club who did the same.

To us it seems that there are some kind of issues afoot with this type of swinging.

It just doesn't seem right, it seems a case of "Whats yours is mine but what's mine is my own!".

Do any other couples have views on this type of soft and full swinging?

XXXX

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

we never been to a club so cant comment on that except guess if you not happy then surely there are others to play with ..

and as to in a private meet; if one or both aren't up for full swap then we'd not anyway be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There maybe reasons why maybe shes doing it to please her other half maybe she not ready for full swap. Each couple are different who are we to judge.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

If there is one thing we have learned since starting this its that everyone has their thing and is different. There is someone for everyone and no one should feel pressured to do anything they are not comfortable with.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Encountered similar, only the other female was only interested in soft play with my then g/f, my role was clearly spectator...

I've mentioned this before and was told that it was quite common. But I agree with the OP, it's either full swap or soft swap not a bit of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met a couple were she's soft swing but he's full and they only meet couples.

Seen this once or twice and also met a couple at a club who did the same.

To us it seems that there are some kind of issues afoot with this type of swinging.

It just doesn't seem right, it seems a case of "Whats yours is mine but what's mine is my own!".

Do any other couples have views on this type of soft and full swinging?

XXXX"

yep, would not play with them, simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I though this thread was going to be about testicles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me too

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Must be my perverted mind, i thought of a limp dick and a dripping pussy.

Ah well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would the views change if it was reversed, she was happy to full swing but the guy was soft swing only??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would the views change if it was reversed, she was happy to full swing but the guy was soft swing only??"

We've had 'interest' from a couple with those preferences a while ago. We didn't meet them, nor would we meet a soft swing female couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would the views change if it was reversed, she was happy to full swing but the guy was soft swing only??

We've had 'interest' from a couple with those preferences a while ago. We didn't meet them, nor would we meet a soft swing female couple."

Interesting, I was almost at the bookies thinking it would have been a totally different outcome..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with it, we all want different things from swinging and just because they're a couple, doesn't mean they have to be at the same stage. Maybe she doesn't want to have sex with lots of men or he wants to watch her but is not interested in having sex with lots of women. I've been to parties and I've only had sex with my own guy and indulged in soft swap, its what I feel like on the night. I have no problem with what the OH wants to do, I'd only put my foot down if a woman wanted to bareback with him. We don't have to mirror each other though

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

It could be that they respect each others limits,it could be that he is a possessive twunt.How they appeared to us would determine whether we played.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"Encountered similar, only the other female was only interested in soft play with my then g/f, my role was clearly spectator...

I've mentioned this before and was told that it was quite common. But I agree with the OP, it's either full swap or soft swap not a bit of both"

Why not a bit of both? each to their own, i dont feel its anyone elses place to tell others how they should play. As long as the couple inform whoever they are playing with before hand, that this is the way they play, then cant see nothing wrong with it. if they tell you then its your choice to go ahead with it or not.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Encountered similar, only the other female was only interested in soft play with my then g/f, my role was clearly spectator...

I've mentioned this before and was told that it was quite common. But I agree with the OP, it's either full swap or soft swap not a bit of both

Why not a bit of both? each to their own, i dont feel its anyone elses place to tell others how they should play. As long as the couple inform whoever they are playing with before hand, that this is the way they play, then cant see nothing wrong with it. if they tell you then its your choice to go ahead with it or not."

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are the same only one plays......Me lol we have done the couples together etc and it just dont float his boat....he loves to see me having fun so it works great for us

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"we are the same only one plays......Me lol we have done the couples together etc and it just dont float his boat....he loves to see me having fun so it works great for us "

Good on ya, know a few couples now that play like this,

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We've been contacted by a couple where she is full swing and he is soft swing only. We would't meet them it just seems wrong, as Trace and Ric said, its both full or both soft or nothing.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Yet again it seems we are doing it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would the views change if it was reversed, she was happy to full swing but the guy was soft swing only??"

That describes us pretty well.

Has had some odd reactions, but can asure everyone I am as involved with this as my wife is, I am not forced - the opposite is true..

We both have our fantasies fulfilled. I almost find it odd that others find it odd, also we have no problems playing or not playing with people. The social side to the club we go to is fantastic, as is playing by ourselves.

We will never do separate room stuff - we find that a bit odd, but.. each to there own and party!!

Yes some find us odd for not both playing, but Face? Bovvered? Noooo we have too much fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are the same only one plays......Me lol we have done the couples together etc and it just dont float his boat....he loves to see me having fun so it works great for us "

Same here!!

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire


"we are the same only one plays......Me lol we have done the couples together etc and it just dont float his boat....he loves to see me having fun so it works great for us

Same here!!"

Same here, I just like doing what i like to do.

Mainly fem on fem

As for the OH up to him

Sue

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I thought this was about testicles for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are the same only one plays......Me lol we have done the couples together etc and it just dont float his boat....he loves to see me having fun so it works great for us "

Exactly the same for us. I would find it very hard to be otherwise, but it's our choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol....good to know there are others out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest fair is fair if a couple meets a couple and the male half wants to play with the other female then its only fair the other male can play with his misses or jst keep the meet soft swap.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Encountered similar, only the other female was only interested in soft play with my then g/f, my role was clearly spectator...

I've mentioned this before and was told that it was quite common. But I agree with the OP, it's either full swap or soft swap not a bit of both

Why not a bit of both? each to their own, i dont feel its anyone elses place to tell others how they should play. As long as the couple inform whoever they are playing with before hand, that this is the way they play, then cant see nothing wrong with it. if they tell you then its your choice to go ahead with it or not."

Couldn't have worded it better myself...so just nods

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By *sian_coupleukCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We agree with op, we have met few cpls where male happy and pushing to play full and his mrs only soft. Yet before hand we made it clear we only play soft. Seems like some cpls intentionally opt to do this which we strongly disagree. If other fem isnt ready for full then the male shud only play soft too. We wud never dream of expect mr to fuck another cpls lady while mrs is only touchy touchy. Not fair and not equal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like Marmite...but I appreciate others do...and I respect people who say they like Marmite...

I have tattoos, I am not bothered that you do not and I respect your decision not to...

Whats the difference in anything, likes or dislikes?

Communicate properly and you won't get into and uncomfortable situation..

certainly anybody who is being pushy or bullish is not a respectful person in the first place!!

all written in my humble opinion, do not be offended if you disagee..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For what it is worth, I've told Louise that I really want to see her with another guy which she's prepared to do (providing she likes the guy), but she's told me that if we meet a couple, she's not sure she'd be comfortable seeing me with another girl.

I'm fine with that, she's fine with that, and she's even gone out of her way to ask me if it is selfish. I don't think it is and it works for us....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For what it is worth, I've told Louise that I really want to see her with another guy which she's prepared to do (providing she likes the guy), but she's told me that if we meet a couple, she's not sure she'd be comfortable seeing me with another girl.

I'm fine with that, she's fine with that, and she's even gone out of her way to ask me if it is selfish. I don't think it is and it works for us...."

It's fine that your O.K with it but don't you think it would be wise to say on your profile that you won't be playing with the other woman when you meet a couple?

It could save a lot of time and trouble for any potential meet.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people that we HAVE spoke to have had no problem with our setup. In fact, they've encouraged it. It's usually one of the first things we make clear when initial contact is made. Everything but penetrative sex.....

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