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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying not to fart is my biggest life issue...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for us its dealing with timewasters

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By *workoutMan
over a year ago

Cradley Heath

Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets "

The chap's willy - hopefully!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to."

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets

The chap's willy - hopefully! "

Damn, beat me to it! Miss T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A weekend meet, and needing a number two

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets

The chap's willy - hopefully!

Damn, beat me to it! Miss T"

Great minds!

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By *workoutMan
over a year ago

Cradley Heath


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too! "

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Finding the time to do it these days

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"Trying not to fart is my biggest life issue..."

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By *rednkatieCouple
over a year ago

orlando

Finding a baby sitter for our children...ugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!"

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason. "

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for us its dealing with timewasters"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new? "

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly. "

Ahhh.. I had that problem with my fb, a few years back. I can understand that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!"

I totally agree with this, there's a few on here I would have loved to have met, even just for a social, and it's just not happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

Ahhh.. I had that problem with my fb, a few years back. I can understand that "

Me too, it hurt tbh. Silly I know.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new? "

This can be it for me! As i discussed with a fab friend recently - you can have an amazing meet with somebody - but it's only a matter of time before you're reading about an amazing meet they've just had with someone else!

It's at times like that when I wonder if I should be looking harder for someone that I don't have to share with the rest of fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

Ahhh.. I had that problem with my fb, a few years back. I can understand that

Me too, it hurt tbh. Silly I know. "

It's not silly at all. We may be swingers, but we still have emotions and feelings. Good for the ones that can switch off, but because I went on more than looks, I did tend to form a little attachment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly. "

I think this is just part of being human! I always form a little bit of an attachment but mainly because I only sleep with people I particularly like!

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

It's not that difficult. But this website makes it feel as though it is.

Ignoring the fakes, time wasters and dreamers it's a slow and tedious method of communicating. Arranging a meet requires a tremendous amount of effort, but it's usually worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding people you're compatible with. And when you do find those compatible people, you realise you're in a queue to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardest thing for me is finding time. Then someone local as not much time. In the daytime!

And not a time waster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not that difficult. But this website makes it feel as though it is.

Ignoring the fakes, time wasters and dreamers it's a slow and tedious method of communicating. Arranging a meet requires a tremendous amount of effort, but it's usually worth it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it frustrating trying to arrange a meet for someone to say evenings are awkward then they post a verification along the lines of "fantastic meet last night"!

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"I find it frustrating trying to arrange a meet for someone to say evenings are awkward then they post a verification along the lines of "fantastic meet last night"! "

Or just an all out lie..

Like meet cancelled at last minute to be replaced by a status saying 'can't wait for tonight at (insert local club...)'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it frustrating trying to arrange a meet for someone to say evenings are awkward then they post a verification along the lines of "fantastic meet last night"!

Or just an all out lie..

Like meet cancelled at last minute to be replaced by a status saying 'can't wait for tonight at (insert local club...)'"

And planning a meet weeks in advance and on the day said potential meet leaves the site.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Finding time and energy for all of the people I want to meet. And trying not to scare them off before I meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time waster and people who fuck about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding time and energy for all of the people I want to meet. And trying not to scare them off before I meet them."

Does scaring people off happen often?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for us its dealing with timewasters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile. "

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit! "

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that! "

I don't have that emoji.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

I don't have that emoji..... "

You do. Preview this box, and it will show you how it's done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly. "

But isn't swinging all about people sharing with others? It turns me on knowing people I meet are having fun, as long as they tell me all the horny details afterwards

If I was starting to get negative feelings about it then I would be thinking that maybe swinging wasn't for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hardest thing for me is finding the time and valid excuses for going out to play.

But it's worth the effort when a meet happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that! "

Ooh... I bow to your emoji know how!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

Ooh... I bow to your emoji know how!

"

My perfect woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

I don't have that emoji.....

You do. Preview this box, and it will show you how it's done "

like this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choosing who's next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

But isn't swinging all about people sharing with others? It turns me on knowing people I meet are having fun, as long as they tell me all the horny details afterwards

If I was starting to get negative feelings about it then I would be thinking that maybe swinging wasn't for me."

I wouldn't say they were necessarily negative, maybe more that it's a little jealousy that it's not me having the fun with them! But as I say it's only fleeting and my attention is soon occupied by something or someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

Ooh... I bow to your emoji know how!

My perfect woman! "

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis. "

Just a thought, but have you maybe thought about dating rather than swinging then, as it seems you maybe would like more? X

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis.

Just a thought, but have you maybe thought about dating rather than swinging then, as it seems you maybe would like more? X"

No, vanilla dating isn't for me. Went off Fab for sometime to pursue that, monogamy can never work for me. Finding a life partner who enjoys swinging definitely is. I envy couples here who have that.

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By *uggs71Man
over a year ago

london


"For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis.

Just a thought, but have you maybe thought about dating rather than swinging then, as it seems you maybe would like more? X

No, vanilla dating isn't for me. Went off Fab for sometime to pursue that, monogamy can never work for me. Finding a life partner who enjoys swinging definitely is. I envy couples here who have that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis.

Just a thought, but have you maybe thought about dating rather than swinging then, as it seems you maybe would like more? X

No, vanilla dating isn't for me. Went off Fab for sometime to pursue that, monogamy can never work for me. Finding a life partner who enjoys swinging definitely is. I envy couples here who have that."

That's completely understandable

I envy couples like that too, I'd love nothing more than to have that type of relationship, it's something very special.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis.

Just a thought, but have you maybe thought about dating rather than swinging then, as it seems you maybe would like more? X

No, vanilla dating isn't for me. Went off Fab for sometime to pursue that, monogamy can never work for me. Finding a life partner who enjoys swinging definitely is. I envy couples here who have that.

That's completely understandable

I envy couples like that too, I'd love nothing more than to have that type of relationship, it's something very special. "

The good news is that people have met on Fab and become couples for the long term

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's not having someone to wake up next to or come home to on a daily basis.

Just a thought, but have you maybe thought about dating rather than swinging then, as it seems you maybe would like more? X

No, vanilla dating isn't for me. Went off Fab for sometime to pursue that, monogamy can never work for me. Finding a life partner who enjoys swinging definitely is. I envy couples here who have that.

That's completely understandable

I envy couples like that too, I'd love nothing more than to have that type of relationship, it's something very special.

The good news is that people have met on Fab and become couples for the long term"

That is true. I sincerely hope you're lucky in finding what you're wanting in life x

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By *ood_vibes4Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets

The chap's willy - hopefully! "

Life is hard

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

People that believe they are better than actually are and so, having the right to be unrespectful with others without a rational reason

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? "

Finding a profile you like the look of, with pretty pictures of the correct type, having messaging read and replied to

Arranging a mutually agreeable time.. Then it's the reality of

40% physical attraction, 40% mental connection and then 15% the elusive "exclusive" element! "5% of the unknown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attaching the swing to the tree.

After that you can swing all you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

But isn't swinging all about people sharing with others? It turns me on knowing people I meet are having fun, as long as they tell me all the horny details afterwards

If I was starting to get negative feelings about it then I would be thinking that maybe swinging wasn't for me."

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Sorting through piles of shite to find the diamonds.

On the plus side, I screwed one off my hot list last week and - fingers double-crossed - there's another about to fall into line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

I don't have that emoji.....

You do. Preview this box, and it will show you how it's done "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No body wanting to meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

I don't have that emoji.....

You do. Preview this box, and it will show you how it's done

"

Yay! Another one brought to the stealth side!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

I don't have that emoji.....

You do. Preview this box, and it will show you how it's done

Yay! Another one brought to the stealth side! "

I bow down to your greatness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend meet, and needing a number two "
You mean a mmf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viewing blue-eyed girls profile.

I'm being all stealthy and shit!

You're supposed to add at the end! Come on, you know that!

I don't have that emoji.....

You do. Preview this box, and it will show you how it's done

Yay! Another one brought to the stealth side!

I bow down to your greatness "

Ahhh while you're down there....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend meet, and needing a number two You mean a mmf "

I wish I did mean that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend meet, and needing a number two You mean a mmf

I wish I did mean that! "

me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend meet, and needing a number two You mean a mmf

I wish I did mean that! me too "

Would wee willy Santa have liked an invite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend meet, and needing a number two You mean a mmf

I wish I did mean that! me too

Would wee willy Santa have liked an invite? "

not if you was having a number 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend meet, and needing a number two You mean a mmf

I wish I did mean that! me too

Would wee willy Santa have liked an invite? not if you was having a number 2 "

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arranging a meet

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Finding people who are as laid back as us and just want to have easy going sexy fun, that we are both attracted to.

When we do find them, finding the time and childcare to enable us to meet them.

Finding a sexy woman that wants to share in our fun and join us on an occasional club meet too is pretty hard lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a ffffffffffffffm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a ffffffffffffffm "

Are you sure you can please them all?? Even Batman would struggle with that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a ffffffffffffffm

Are you sure you can please them all?? Even Batman would struggle with that one!! "

probably not . Was just showing off and trying to look cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a ffffffffffffffm

Are you sure you can please them all?? Even Batman would struggle with that one!! probably not . Was just showing off and trying to look cool "

The avatar is too adorable to be cool... You little cutie you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a ffffffffffffffm

Are you sure you can please them all?? Even Batman would struggle with that one!! probably not . Was just showing off and trying to look cool

The avatar is too adorable to be cool... You little cutie you!!! "

awwww shucks

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

For us I guess it is just scheduling. There are a number of couples we've chatted to or met at clubs (some we've been chatting to for several years) and definitely know that we mutually want to play, but just cant arrange a time, especially with childcare needed for both parties.

-Matt

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados


"For us I guess it is just scheduling. There are a number of couples we've chatted to or met at clubs (some we've been chatting to for several years) and definitely know that we mutually want to play, but just cant arrange a time, especially with childcare needed for both parties.

-Matt"

Oh and illnesses etc... I'm sat on the sofa now with a stomach bug kindly passed on by our little one. Vik is upstairs with the same bug. Both feeling rough as... but now having to cancel plans that we spent time trying to arrange for mid-week meet.

-Matt

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I really shouldn't come on here at night it's all a bit negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding people who are as laid back as us and just want to have easy going sexy fun, that we are both attracted to.

When we do find them, finding the time and childcare to enable us to meet them.

Finding a sexy woman that wants to share in our fun and join us on an occasional club meet too is pretty hard lol."

Us sexy women do exist..j..shame about the miles

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

For us at the moment it's finding a reliable babysitter & then getting life sorted so we are all free at the same time..

Given up trying to find a fairly local lady ages ago..

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

But isn't swinging all about people sharing with others? It turns me on knowing people I meet are having fun, as long as they tell me all the horny details afterwards

If I was starting to get negative feelings about it then I would be thinking that maybe swinging wasn't for me.

I wouldn't say they were necessarily negative, maybe more that it's a little jealousy that it's not me having the fun with them! But as I say it's only fleeting and my attention is soon occupied by something or someone else. "

Least you can move on quickly. Nothing worse than feeling shit over something or someone you can't have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lies some people would say in order to get you to bed.

I had a lady telling that she had lot of kinder buneos in her house but it was a trap !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social anxiety, I can deal with small groups, chat and interact, but large groups? I come over all awkward and feel isolated and it is really difficult to overcome that.

Another thing is my job requires 24hr availabilty by phone for tech support, and most of the clubs near me seem to operate a no mobiles policy (I tend to agree with this, nothing kills the mood like the Nokia ringtone)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the let downs

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Finding a baby sitter for our children...ugh"

This! Finding a sitter and time around work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social anxiety, I can deal with small groups, chat and interact, but large groups? I come over all awkward and feel isolated and it is really difficult to overcome that.

Another thing is my job requires 24hr availabilty by phone for tech support, and most of the clubs near me seem to operate a no mobiles policy (I tend to agree with this, nothing kills the mood like the Nokia ringtone)"

Yes social anxiety is a big problem for me.

-Mr

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets "

Farting is a natural body function so I do not try to stop it. If it happens then so be it and I would apologise

or say don't blush love I'll take the blame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The lies some people would say in order to get you to bed.

I had a lady telling that she had lot of kinder buneos in her house but it was a trap ! "

I also have lots of Kinder Bueno in my house. Like, legit for reals!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

The willies.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The willies..... "

Finally someone mentioned it

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The willies.....

Finally someone mentioned it "

I do like a nice willy....

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By *lokenBoobyCouple
over a year ago

gainsborough

Thinking that others are out of our league. Low self esteem about how we look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking that others are out of our league. Low self esteem about how we look. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cocks and nips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single man its quite intimadating being on this site you ladies will get overwhelmed by msg from men.

As us men we only get attention if we give attention

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By *urvygirl75Woman
over a year ago

chester

Yep this!! Happened to me last week and really shocked me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The lies some people would say in order to get you to bed.

I had a lady telling that she had lot of kinder buneos in her house but it was a trap !

I also have lots of Kinder Bueno in my house. Like, legit for reals! "

I guess I better check if you are telling the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatting to someone who you like and all of a sudden it just stops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chatting to someone who you like and all of a sudden it just stops.

"

Exactly that

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Getting meets and finding people who actually look like the people on their profile

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Chatting to someone who you like and all of a sudden it just stops.

"

This too along with the previous comment on sitters, So this time of year a lot of people are talking no meets till 2017, so do you chat everyday? Just have a mutual understanding that both parties want to meet and just chat nearer the time?, chat once a week? What?

Pick the wrong option & it all goes cold..and no one really knows why?

S

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Getting meets and finding people who actually look like the people on their profile "

I happen to look exactly like my profile pics - but that may not be a good thing!

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Thinking that others are out of our league. Low self esteem about how we look. "

Good shout. I'd say a surprising number of members, us included, suffer from that.

We've spotted some very hot profiles before and thought "Pointless, we've no chance" but emailed them anyway, we later find out after chatting they think we're out of their league.

You won't see smiles as big as 4 people in a bedroom, all of them thinking they're punching above their weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking that others are out of our league. Low self esteem about how we look.

Good shout. I'd say a surprising number of members, us included, suffer from that.

We've spotted some very hot profiles before and thought "Pointless, we've no chance" but emailed them anyway, we later find out after chatting they think we're out of their league.

You won't see smiles as big as 4 people in a bedroom, all of them thinking they're punching above their weight "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting meets and finding people who actually look like the people on their profile

I happen to look exactly like my profile pics - but that may not be a good thing! "

Me to and then deal with loads of time wasters... not good ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for us its dealing with timewasters"

Snap...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm finding it pretty difficult to meet guys who are single. It almost makes me feel disillusioned that monogamy just doesn't seem to exist anymore.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

For me it's been not having enough Fab chums so that I get very regular fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting someone to believe you are single albeit I can't accomodate for reasons I won't get into.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to."

I hear ya.

I have to take a breath and remember I don't have dibs on that person, and that I myself hook up with who I want.

After a minute the feeling of hoping they had a great time kicks in and I'm ok again lol.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Getting someone to believe you are single albeit I can't accomodate for reasons I won't get into. "

I believe in your singledom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting someone to believe you are single albeit I can't accomodate for reasons I won't get into.

I believe in your singledom "

One of the very few lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly. "

Reading this has made me feel better. I have a long term friend and I always feel a bit wibbly when I see he has been busy elsewhere. Irrational really. Guess you cant help how you feel.

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By *igmatt82Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I think the hardest thing I've found is getting my profile right (which I'm still not sure about so any help would be greatly appreciated) and having women respond to messages..seems like there loads more guys out there than women and the women receive tones of messages on a daily basis and your message gets lost.

Can be annoying at times but it is what it is

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I'm finding it pretty difficult to meet guys who are single. It almost makes me feel disillusioned that monogamy just doesn't seem to exist anymore. "

On a swingers site, who would have thought it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....finding the time due to family/work commitments.

....timewasters.

....the energy lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding it pretty difficult to meet guys who are single. It almost makes me feel disillusioned that monogamy just doesn't seem to exist anymore.

On a swingers site, who would have thought it? "

So, because it's a swinging site, it's okay to lie about being attached!? I'm pretty sure that's not what swinging stands for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding the time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding the time.."

Same here. When we have the time we then need the babysitter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's turning down a couple with a cute fem because I know the mrs will never agree to meeting her other half.

For the mrs it's lying to the sweet muslim lady who babysits sometimes about what kind of evening we've just had!

But i could mention a dozen other things... So tough being a funseeker...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chatting to someone who you like and all of a sudden it just stops.

Even worse if you then find they've blocked you!

"

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Finding attraction between all parties ,when you meet couples .

Miss

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By *taceylacyCouple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

The hardest thing has to be a penis!!

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By *eicsbimaleMan
over a year ago

loughborough

Finding a time that suits all involved!!!

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"What's the hardest thing about swinging? I think its got to be trying not to fart on meets "

Just finding poeple interested really!

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I'm finding it pretty difficult to meet guys who are single. It almost makes me feel disillusioned that monogamy just doesn't seem to exist anymore.

On a swingers site, who would have thought it?

So, because it's a swinging site, it's okay to lie about being attached!? I'm pretty sure that's not what swinging stands for..."

I was just suggesting that a swingers site is probably not going to be a bastion of monogamy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just trying to get a meet is the hardest thing for me atm. Majority of my old meets have left the site, so its a little difficult to find people

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

I think this is just part of being human! I always form a little bit of an attachment but mainly because I only sleep with people I particularly like! "

I'm so glad I'm not the only one, understand how you all feel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

I think this is just part of being human! I always form a little bit of an attachment but mainly because I only sleep with people I particularly like!

I'm so glad I'm not the only one, understand how you all feel x"

Also when someone says they can't meet that night, as they are busy with family or ill, but then get a veri the next day with something along the lines of "thanks for last night "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding it pretty difficult to meet guys who are single. It almost makes me feel disillusioned that monogamy just doesn't seem to exist anymore.

On a swingers site, who would have thought it?

So, because it's a swinging site, it's okay to lie about being attached!? I'm pretty sure that's not what swinging stands for...

I was just suggesting that a swingers site is probably not going to be a bastion of monogamy "

Maybe monogamy was the wrong word, but I'd say swinging is when all parties are aware, I'm fed up of the people who lie and lead you on. This isn't aimed at those who are open about it - I appreciate that they give you the option...

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

It'd seem the hardest thing for many, at least on Fab, is actually reading profiles before sending messages that bear no relation to it whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting or speaking to someone where there is immediate mutual attraction but you can't meet for a month or more, the difficulty of keeping the spark going. In the face of daily life and other distractions.

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By *heBlackPantherCouple
over a year ago

Guilford


"Seeing someone you want hooking up with someone else takes some getting used to.

Yeah, I get that too!

It's endearing though to see guys get the feels too!

Oh absolutely, the feels have been a rollercoaster since joining fab!

Definitely this, it's a weird feeling and doesn't usually last long but it's not nice. I tend not to read veri's often for this reason.

As in someone you've already met seeing someone new?

For me yeah, I'm not sure why but can't help it. I shake it off pretty quick but still prefer not to see what they have gotten up to exactly.

Ahhh.. I had that problem with my fb, a few years back. I can understand that

Me too, it hurt tbh. Silly I know.

It's not silly at all. We may be swingers, but we still have emotions and feelings. Good for the ones that can switch off, but because I went on more than looks, I did tend to form a little attachment. "

Well, seems like I'm not the only one. Pretty much half of fab feels this way! Phew! I'm not the only drama queen! Hehe

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