FabSwingers.com forum: are ladys on here sluts

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi guys, we have been thinking that in the vanilla world any woman having sex with a guy outside of a relationship would be called a slut,in the swinging world this happens often, so are all swinging women sluts, or at what point would you call a woman on here a slut, or is the word obsolete and only serves as a naughty fun playword as many on here use the word in their profile names

this is a fun thread, opinions pls

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Are the men ?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i dont live my life, based on other peoples opinions..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the men ?"

No, they are man whores!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm definitely no slut!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Nobody has called me a slut. I need to let people into my fanny more. I want to be part of this group.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I wouldnt label a lady a slut I had sex with her and she was in a relationships. Why label in such ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pfft is this the same as straight or fab straight

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Well then I'm proud. I'm gonna get of printed on a tshirt

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"hi guys, we have been thinking that in the vanilla world any woman having sex with a guy outside of a relationship would be called a slut,in the swinging world this happens often, so are all swinging women sluts, or at what point would you call a woman on here a slut, or is the word obsolete and only serves as a naughty fun playword as many on here use the word in their profile names

this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

I wouldn't call any of the women here sluts in the cold light of day as that'd be rude, judgemental and hypocritical. I don't think of myself as one either and the only opinion on such matters that I actually care about is my own.

It *does* have its place as a naughty playword on occasion though ...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

We're in the 21st century now. Sex outside relationships is not considered sluttish as much as it used to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nobody has called me a slut. I need to let people into my fanny more. I want to be part of this group."

I wouldnt call you a slut your just a nawty lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody has called me a slut. I need to let people into my fanny more. I want to be part of this group."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

And my option of anyone who calls me a slut is that I think they're a judgemental, closed minded, sexist, asshole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

And my option of anyone who calls me a slut is that I think they're a judgemental, closed minded, sexist, asshole."

^ Well said ^

So no, OP, I wouldn't call the women here sluts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it help explain the male female ratio here?

Boys are naturally sluttier than girls?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I always considered a slut to be a whore or prostitute. If anyone referred to me as a slut I would be offended. I am a single woman who likes sex, absolutely nothing wrong with that and to use derogatory terms to describe it is wrong.

Any man who refers to women as "sluts" is definitely not the kind of man I want to meet. I prefer guys who actually respect me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've let two fab men call me a slut. They're special though

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

"Does it help explain the male female ratio here?

Boys are naturally sluttier than girls? "

I don't know about that

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

No lady is a slut there naughty ladies who want to explore there sexual fantasies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

And my option of anyone who calls me a slut is that I think they're a judgemental, closed minded, sexist, asshole."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always considered a slut to be a whore or prostitute. If anyone referred to me as a slut I would be offended. I am a single woman who likes sex, absolutely nothing wrong with that and to use derogatory terms to describe it is wrong.

Any man who refers to women as "sluts" is definitely not the kind of man I want to meet. I prefer guys who actually respect me.

Completely this ^^^. Even the title heading got my back up. So tired of seeing this thrown around. Just feels like a throwback word to keep women in their place to me...Surprise surprise, women are sexual beings too. Nobody has the right to label a women like that, yet men are commended for having multiple partners. If someone wanted to try and call me that, the only thing they'd see is my arse....as it's walking out the door.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

What am I then Ive only done oral on men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slut is a term of endearment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I've read your only supposed to call them that after they tell you their not interested

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"No.

And my option of anyone who calls me a slut is that I think they're a judgemental, closed minded, sexist, asshole."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From what I've read your only supposed to call them that after they tell you their not interested

ooops sorry I forgot that one on my listing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my mr calling me a filthy slut it's just a name. Couldn't care less what tge vanilla world would think. They're fucking boring anyway

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut is a term of endearment "

Oh I'll remember that, the next time I get I get told I'm probably nothing but a fucking slut, the next time I politely say no thank you haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say no...sluts are fantastic fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arent you just called swingers as your in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes another neanderthal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You called lol

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

I presume because you only soft swing or play on cam you do not consider yourself to be a slut like most other women on here.

Sally

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

I would say ..no...

sluts are normally little put abouts ..

Where as a swinging lady is normally with partner or a sub...swinging ladys tend to be more std aware as partners are involved. .sluts dont give a fuck..stick it up a donkey then straight into her..she a slut she wont care..lol

Now in saying all this ..ive had some good nights with some lovely put abouts...none went home to mums tho..lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slut is a great word and shouldn't be a derogatory word at all. Theres a great book on open relationships and the poly lifestyle called The Ethical Slut.

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By *urely4funMan
over a year ago

london

I hope so. X

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By *urely4funMan
over a year ago

london

"I hope so. X"

Going off the title. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont live my life, based on other peoples opinions.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say ..no...

sluts are normally little put abouts ..

Now in saying all this ..ive had some good nights with some lovely put abouts...none went home to mums tho..lol..

So single girls are "put abouts" and therefore sluts!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a ok for a man to sleep about ,he gets called a stud but if a woman who does it a slut ...

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Never mentioned single girls.??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut is a great word and shouldn't be a derogatory word at all. Theres a great book on open relationships and the poly lifestyle called The Ethical Slut."

Yes we've got that book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mentioned single girls.?? "

You said a swinging lady is normally with a partner or a sub.

This isn't the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all depends on the scenario ..

Within the confines of a fab meet between two consenting adults who are indulging in a bit of role play then why not?! It all adds to the authenticity of the situation ...

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Women on here are only sluts if they like to be called sluts.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

And nothing wrong with a girl having loads of partners...I was in a relationship with a escort and it never bothered me.....slags r unclean put abouts....they wont care if the bloke got a cheesy cock...thats what im saying.....being called a dirty slag in sex is different. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mentioned single girls.?? "

Your comment came across as to that was what you were hinting at, yes. You sounded like you said the only ones who are not sluts are the ones who have partners....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me...

Sluts are folk that shag anyone just for the sake of a shag

Just my opinion

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

In the real/ vanilla world women who have sex outside of relationships aren't called sluts .... what world do you live in?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Have I stumbled into the 1940's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont live my life, based on other peoples opinions.."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

this is a fun thread, opinions pls

I presume because you only soft swing or play on cam you do not consider yourself to be a slut like most other women on here.

Sally"

Nothing like that at all. The subject came up in a convo with other swingers. We just thought we would get other people's opinions.

And yes mildred loves me to call her a slut when we're playing.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"Never mentioned single girls.??

Your comment came across as to that was what you were hinting at, yes. You sounded like you said the only ones who are not sluts are the ones who have partners.... "

Well not meant that way..

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"hi guys, we have been thinking that in the vanilla world any woman having sex with a guy outside of a relationship would be called a slut"

Have you really been thinking ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the men ?

No, they are man whores!!

Lol thats a good one

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

Actually the word is meaningless in Swinging. Its not the word but peoples definition of it that is the issue.

Negative judgmental disaproving (no place on fab, really if you wish to be a prude what the fuck are you doing here???!)

Positive playful complementary ( then bring it on i call myself a slut all the time and love it!)

The word is nothing what you mean by it is everything.

Oh and if some twerp wants to call you that becouse you have politily refused him? My answer would be yep but not for a limp dick prat like you, oh and i am soooo good at it to, by by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on your perception of the word slut?

noun

Disparaging and Offensive. a sexually promiscuous woman, or a woman who behaves or dresses in an overtly sexual way.

Informal. a person with a seemingly insatiable but often undiscerning desire to do or have something specified: guilty of being a shoe slut;

a book slut, reading five books at once.

Archaic.

a prostitute; harlot.

an immoral or dissolute woman.

a dirty, slovenly woman.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

According to the dictionary a slut is someone who has many casual sexual partners

I'm ok with that label as being able to have sex outside our relationships is something my husband and I strived for for so many years

I'd even go as far as to say I'm proud to be a slut as we battled for years with societies view that it should only be the two of us within our relationship, until we decided f@ck it our lives, our bodies it's up to us who sees & touches them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider myself to be a slut. It's also a word that I find is in fairly common use on the swing scene, but I've never heard it used by swingers as an insult.

Mrs

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

No,anyone to call me a slut would be told otherwise!

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"No,anyone to call me a slut would be told otherwise!"

Lol ok no one is calling u one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in the bedroom xxxx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Only in the bedroom xxxx"

Where have you been for all of my life

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"No,anyone to call me a slut would be told otherwise!

Lol ok no one is calling u one.."

I don't believe I said anyone was.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

[Removed by poster at 07/12/16 08:45:22]

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By *iffraffMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Only in the bedroom yes. I know that some ladies like the term being used when having fun

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"No,anyone to call me a slut would be told otherwise!

Lol ok no one is calling u one..

I don't believe I said anyone was."

U didn't. ..

And u aint.

Lol

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Any man who refers to women as "sluts" is definitely not the kind of man I want to meet. I prefer guys who actually respect me.

I totally agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bedroom slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf is this thread???!?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"No,anyone to call me a slut would be told otherwise!

Lol ok no one is calling u one..

I don't believe I said anyone was.

U didn't. ..

And u aint.

Lol"

Lol

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"No,anyone to call me a slut would be told otherwise!

Lol ok no one is calling u one..

I don't believe I said anyone was.

U didn't. ..

And u aint.

Lol

Glad that sorted ....pm ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut is a term of endearment

Oh I'll remember that, the next time I get I get told I'm probably nothing but a fucking slut, the next time I politely say no thank you haha

"Nothing but a fucking slut" is not a comment that would ever come from a swinger type. "Beautiful slut" comes closer. Initially thought "slut" was a putdown too, so questioned everytime someone used it. Consequently I've heard many exquisite odes to sluts (specific ones that people had met during their swings), as well as general pro-slut manifestos. These expressed real appreciation and even admiration and care for the more sexually open/adventurous.

The real question is not whether we are sluts or not but whether we can be sluts (ie. extraordinarily sexual) and respect each other at the same time. I don't really care if the general population is trailing behind, but I look to the swinging world for this type of appreciation. I pick play partners accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't choose to describe myself as a slut so anyone else who did so would get short shrift. Other women can do what they like but it's not for me.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Strangers can call me what they want as it means sod all to me.....they people who know me and have met me know otherwise and thats all that matters to me.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut is a term of endearment

Oh I'll remember that, the next time I get I get told I'm probably nothing but a fucking slut, the next time I politely say no thank you haha

This is very true. I used to see the term 'slut' as derogatory. But that is because traditionally and historically a woman who had multiple partners was not a good thing, and therefore to be a slut was not good. This is 'vanilla' thinking. When I joined the swing scene I started seeing that word being used, but in a complimentary way. I soon realised that as swingers we embrace sexual liberation and the right to have multiple partners, thereby the word used to describe this type a woman now ceased to be a negative word. All that's actually happened is that swingers accept sexual behaviour that is considered wrong in the vanilla world. Why drop the word just because we are now embracing behaviour that was previously unacceptable. Me personally I love the swing scene. All my life I battled with trying not to be a slut, and now I can without judgement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people on here-men and women-who think some people have too much sex with different partners. They have their own idea as to what is an acceptable amount, and what is sluttish behaviour.

Sad really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are people on here-men and women-who think some people have too much sex with different partners. They have their own idea as to what is an acceptable amount, and what is sluttish behaviour.

Sad really. "

Yes I've noticed that too. Makes me wonder what is too promiscuous for the swing scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's back to the old catch 22 situation where if a man has many partners he's doing well if a women has the same she is derided for it...for me it's upto the individual and what they are happy with...I think all here are hedonistic in their lifestyle what is wrong if someone wants more pleasure and seeks it...everyone is unique and has their own desires. I would never class or judge a woman on how many partners they have had or want to have...as long as they are all enjoying it good for them....

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By *indingDeemoMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Who are we to judge anyone? If a person likes sex so much then go on and fuck Who you want.

We are suppose to evolves another for understanding and acceptance not shitty lol labels from society that makes you feel better than someone when you really ain't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Horrid term that does no one any favours.

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By *otts PervsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Mrs J loves me calling her a slut, but would probably take exception to anyone else calling it her.

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By *appy 2 lickMan
over a year ago

lanarkshire

I only ever called a woman slut but she and her hubby wanted me to say it and more to her as we played

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any man who refers to women as "sluts" is definitely not the kind of man I want to meet. I prefer guys who actually respect me.

Or a shoe/heavy object flying at their face!

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

"No.

And my option of anyone who calls me a slut is that I think they're a judgemental, closed minded, sexist, asshole."

Judgemental, closed minded, sexist asshole? God I LOVE being referred to like this.

Add in demented deviant pervert, and I'm in heaven!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont live my life, based on other peoples opinions.."

My philosophy entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sluts, just women who enjoy their sensuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sluts, just women who enjoy their sensuality

So because I enjoy my sexuality and have multiple partners, is everybody saying that doesn't make me a slut? I always thought I was a slut (and was proud of it). Have I got the definition wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"slags r unclean put abouts....they wont care if the bloke got a cheesy cock..."

You're so ignorant. There's really no need to call women any kind of derogatory nickname because they like a particular kind of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sluts, just women who enjoy their sensuality

So because I enjoy my sexuality and have multiple partners, is everybody saying that doesn't make me a slut? I always thought I was a slut (and was proud of it). Have I got the definition wrong?"

If you like the word then own it. I'm particularly endeared to "man-whore" even though I have nowhere near the required notoriety to merit it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously if Im thinking of sex so is everybody else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sluts, just women who enjoy their sensuality

So because I enjoy my sexuality and have multiple partners, is everybody saying that doesn't make me a slut? I always thought I was a slut (and was proud of it). Have I got the definition wrong?

If you like the word then own it. I'm particularly endeared to "man-whore" even though I have nowhere near the required notoriety to merit it "

Lol. 'Man-whore'! Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just women confident in themselves to explore the swinging world and enjoy uninhibited sex

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville

*sigh* labels again and how people feel the need to get someone in a box...can't people just be people who like what they like? The ones who enjoy certain names will enjoy it, the ones who don't...won't. There's no 'one size fits all' and never will be...there's no 'right answer', just personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i'm no slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No i'm no slut

Definitely not ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"slags r unclean put abouts....they wont care if the bloke got a cheesy cock...

You're so ignorant. There's really no need to call women any kind of derogatory nickname because they like a particular kind of sex."

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I've been called worse

V xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're such a slut xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid thread -----

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought someone who slept around outside of a conventional "vanilla" relationship was called a cheater, regardless of sex.

To me, "slut" is no different to "stud" - they both refer to someone who likes sex and has multiple partners. The only difference is that "stud" is seen as a compliment and "slut" is not.

The majority of guys enjoy it when their partner is "slutty", right? Meaning naughty, horny, not shy or inhibited about sex.......well if that's slutty then a woman who is slutty is a slut, and if slutty isn't a bad thing then why should slut be?

I enjoy sex. A lot. I have multiple partners - sometimes all at once lol. If that makes me slutty then I'm a slut and proud of it, and I'll goddamn OWN being a slut because I live by MY definition of it, not someone else's.

It's only an insult if you allow it to be. So don't allow it to be. X

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over a year ago

"I always thought someone who slept around outside of a conventional "vanilla" relationship was called a cheater, regardless of sex.

To me, "slut" is no different to "stud" - they both refer to someone who likes sex and has multiple partners. The only difference is that "stud" is seen as a compliment and "slut" is not.

It's only an insult if you allow it to be. So don't allow it to be. X"

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By *rbane PlayerMan
over a year ago

London

this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

Wouldn't use it myself, but I can understand if some use it as a kinky, role play kind of term, like big black cock-?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

"Are the men ?

No, they are man whores!!

That will be stallion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

"
hey steady on tiger we are not suggesting anyone is a slut. This subject came up in a cples group in a club hottub. We thought we would ask for opinions of the word on here.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

OP bet you sorry for starting what seemed a pretty safe subject with no malice .lots of profile names on here say whore slag tart ect.our female dont mind .as long as you dont call her an villa fan.ha

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By *otwife63Couple
over a year ago

south wales

"Are the men ?"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought someone who slept around outside of a conventional "vanilla" relationship was called a cheater, regardless of sex.

To me, "slut" is no different to "stud" - they both refer to someone who likes sex and has multiple partners. The only difference is that "stud" is seen as a compliment and "slut" is not.

It's only an insult if you allow it to be. So don't allow it to be. X"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the vanilla world, where I live, people are very narrow minded and judgmental so I'd definetly be labelled a slut, if they knew about my "fantasy life". But I don't really care, it's my life for me to live as I wish.

I don't believe anyone is a slut, women enjoy sex with different people, nothing wrong with that at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

OP hasn't stated women are sluts, he has started this thread just to see what people's views are on it. He has caused no offence to anyone. He just simply opened up a discussion, and a very interesting one too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

Yes I guess if women still consider the word 'slut' an offensive word, then the OP made a mistake. Have to admit, I am quite surprised on this thread that sexually liberated women who enjoy the freedom of having mulitiple partners, are offended by a word used to describe a woman who has multiple partners. Maybe it's the negative historical connotations, but shouldn't we be standing up to these outdated beliefs about sexual morality and be saying 'yes it's ok to be a slut'? Unless my definition of slut is wrong of course, and it really does mean something that's not nice.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the dark ages when a woman had more than 2-3 partners she was considered a "slut"

A man was a stud

Nowadays people have 10-20 partners

I know a guy who was called a man whore in college because he had slept with over 50 girls

As long as you don't care what people say then it doesn't matter shit

I think you need to experiment and experience what you want as often as you want it

At the end of the day it's you who has to be happy with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody has called me a slut. I need to let people into my fanny more. I want to be part of this group.

I wouldnt call you a slut your just a nawty lady"

*you're

*naughty

I bet you write 'gawjus' too..why? It's harder to spell the word that badly when you have auto correct!

**disclaimer** finished nights a couple of hours ago and body still got me up...dammit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely a slut.....

But I aint bovvered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to the teens of today a slut is a woman that has had more than 6 men in a year...

Damn... by that definition... yup..

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes I guess if women still consider the word 'slut' an offensive word, then the OP made a mistake. Have to admit, I am quite surprised on this thread that sexually liberated women who enjoy the freedom of having mulitiple partners, are offended by a word used to describe a woman who has multiple partners. Maybe it's the negative historical connotations, but shouldn't we be standing up to these outdated beliefs about sexual morality and be saying 'yes it's ok to be a slut'? Unless my definition of slut is wrong of course, and it really does mean something that's not nice.

Mrs"

I don't think anyone has a wrong definition of it. More that it's such a subjective term and people view language how they wish. I'm not quite sure what sexual liberation has to do with dislike of a word - it's fantastic if reclamation has happened for you but it doesn't mean those who haven't possess a backward viewpoint regarding sexual morality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"According to the teens of today a slut is a woman that has had more than 6 men in a year...

Damn... by that definition... yup..

In a YEAR????? That's only 1 guy every 2 months. Just how naive are the teens of today???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

Mrs"

When you grow up being called a slut by people because you're sexually liberated... when men don't get called the same thing if they're sexually liberated... when people use the word slut as a female-specific insult... when people use the word slut to say you don't deserve a 'nice' partner... when people call you a slut because you choose to have feelings for more than one person... when people call you a slut because you like sex clubs... when people call you a slut because you take your clothes off on the beach... when people call you a slut because you flirt with your friends... when people call you a slut because they just can't stand the thought of a woman enjoying sex with more than one person and for more than the purposes of creating babies...

Yeah. I'm not a slut. I'm not any of those negative thoughts that people have about me. I'm a sexually liberated person. Not a slut. I'm not a whore either - I don't charge money. (And 'man whore' is not the equivalent of 'slut').

I'm not a slut. I'm a non-monogamous person who has multiple relationships. Who enjoys kink. Who isn't ashamed of her body.

Slut isn't shorthand for that. 'Slut' is a word that is designed to control women's sexuality and make them out to be 'bad' or 'dirty'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Fair enough I realise that it's still considered an offensive word, even if the actually meaning is not offensive (i.e. having a number of partners). I was genuinely surprised by the reaction in the forum, because I've heard that word used so much on the swing scene and in a complimentary manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

If it's not derogatory, then why do people say things like 'she looked like a right slut' just because she was wearing revealing clothing? Or 'I wouldn't fuck that, she's a slut'. Or any other number of awful things?

Just because some consenting partners enjoy using the word within their relationship, doesn't mean it's ok just to use it as a 'compliment' to people you don't know.

I mean, if I called you a cunt, would you take it as a compliment? If I said 'oh it's ok, I call all my friends cunts' would you be like 'oh cool, I'm a cunt!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

Mrs

I'm not a slut. I'm a non-monogamous person who has multiple relationships. Who enjoys kink. Who isn't ashamed of her body.

Slut isn't shorthand for that. 'Slut' is a word that is designed to control women's sexuality and make them out to be 'bad' or 'dirty'."

I'm sorry I don't wish to offend anyone. I did grow up being called a slut and battled for years with my desires for mulitiple partners and being told it was wrong and believing it was wrong. So it was wonderful when I joined the swing scene and was able to accept the real me and tell myself 'yes it is ok to be a slut, and being a slut is not bad'. I accept that many still regard it as an offensive word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Liberated is more appropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Just because some consenting partners enjoy using the word within their relationship, doesn't mean it's ok just to use it as a 'compliment' to people you don't know.

I mean, if I called you a cunt, would you take it as a compliment? If I said 'oh it's ok, I call all my friends cunts' would you be like 'oh cool, I'm a cunt!'"

Bad example - I know a number of people who use "cunt" as a term of endearment. The word is losing its shock value, as a result of being used, and owned. "Slut" is no different, really. The more we embrace it and not only shrug it off but take pride in it in the way that men take pride in being "studs", the sooner it will lose its negative power.

I totally get that when you have grown up being vilified with a particular word, it is hard to turn that around on your attackers. Hard to turn it around in your own mind even. But a slut is simply a woman who has embraced her sexual desires and indulges in them.........what is bad about that?

If you don't want to claim the word, give it a more positive meaning, or at least neutralise the stigma, fair enough. It is a rather divisive subject after all! Personally I accept it with pride, and I've even used it as a compliment to female friends for their sexual exploits.

At the end of the day it's a word: it has only as much power over you as YOU allow it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Just because some consenting partners enjoy using the word within their relationship, doesn't mean it's ok just to use it as a 'compliment' to people you don't know.

I mean, if I called you a cunt, would you take it as a compliment? If I said 'oh it's ok, I call all my friends cunts' would you be like 'oh cool, I'm a cunt!'"

I don't feel being called a cunt is an accurate description of me so I wouldn't want want to be called that. I'm happy to be called a slut, (as long as it's not said in a derogatory way) because according to my definition of slut, that is axactly what I am and I am no longer ashamed. I fully accept that it is still an offensive word as of course I wouldn't dream of using that word routinely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"According to the teens of today a slut is a woman that has had more than 6 men in a year...

Damn... by that definition... yup..

In a YEAR????? That's only 1 guy every 2 months. Just how naive are the teens of today???

"
try keeping a straight face when you have had twice that many at least in one session...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"According to the teens of today a slut is a woman that has had more than 6 men in a year...

Damn... by that definition... yup..

In a YEAR????? That's only 1 guy every 2 months. Just how naive are the teens of today???

try keeping a straight face when you have had twice that many at least in one session...

As it happens.......

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Not going to answer that but it is, "ladies", not "ladys"

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By *im and her xoCouple
over a year ago

Near Chelmsford

I'm a slut

But my husbands slut.

I quite like the term personally, if I'm being called it by him or someone else I'm comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the term slut or anything like that. To me, you just have people who enjoy sex more than others. While some people see it as something to be shared with one person only, others see it as a stress relief, a hobby, something to enjoy and push to the limits. And if having sex with more than one person (not necissarily at the same time but is an option

) is on that list, then let them enjoy the multitude of dick they want to get. It's also a great way of them finding that one person that gives them the muscle cramping, leg shaking, toe curling, having to bite the pillow to stop screaming, orgasm they deserve.

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By *aznpaulCouple
over a year ago

yiewsley

"I love my mr calling me a filthy slut it's just a name. Couldn't care less what tge vanilla world would think. They're fucking boring anyway

Ruby"
they are all boring lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would the world be without sluts.a boring place I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know if someone says it in a derogatory way?

Most of the times I've had it aimed at me, or heard it aimed at others, I felt it was derogatory. Most men I've heard say it in a 'nice' way to refer to women, I still feel it has come from an outdated notion of what women should like in bed.

I've said it before in fun and games with my girlfriend - and the only time I'm comfortable with using it or it being used towards me is if it's with another woman who I'm sexually involved with and who is as sexually open as me. In other words - I don't feel comfortable with men using it to describe women in any circumstance, unless it's specifically requested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it all depends on the scenario ..

Within the confines of a fab meet between two consenting adults who are indulging in a bit of role play then why not?! It all adds to the authenticity of the situation ..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know if someone says it in a derogatory way?

In recent years I just don't feel that it has been used towards me in a derogatory way. I believe that those who have used that terminology with reference to me are friends and respect me. I don't know for sure, but nothing has led me to believe otherwise. I feel that I have always been perceptive to those who are disrespectful. It saddens me to hear that people on the swing scene are still using that term to cause insult. I personally am more than happy for any of the people I play with to use that term with me. But I respect those who find it doesn't sit comfortably with them, as we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck all wrong with sluts...fuck all

I loves em i does!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B calls me a slut and I bloody love it (when the mood is right obviously). Ironic really as he's the only man I've slept with! It's just a bit of dirty talk with us and is nothing serious x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"this is a fun thread, opinions pls

Suggesting women on Fab are sluts is a "fun thread"?

It is ridiculous, outdated views like this that make it hard for a woman to admit to liking sex let alone having it

You can keep your "fun" if you think women still ned to put up with this crap.

And that's my opinion

hey steady on tiger we are not suggesting anyone is a slut. This subject came up in a cples group in a club hottub. We thought we would ask for opinions of the word on here."

And that's my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a fan of slut shaming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the great thing about here is that a girl can be whatever she wants to be in her own mind and nobody cares. i it is her fantasy to be 'a slut' the good on her!! If she doesnt like that word then she is just a swinger or whatever she likes to be refered to!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Slut isn't shorthand for that. 'Slut' is a word that is designed to control women's sexuality and make them out to be 'bad' or 'dirty'."

Exactly, in common parlance it is a negative word. And still is, despite this lifestyle becoming more an more acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm definitely a slut.....

But I aint bovvered

and i definitly want to meeeeet you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never called a woman a slut and don't intend to start. Women who enjoy sex and this scene are no different from men who enjoy sex and this scene; the way to describe us is people who enjoy sex or by the collective term "swingers"

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Slut is a term of endearment "

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Not sluts but gorgeous individual women who just happen to love sex

#godblessthemall

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""hi guys, we have been thinking that in the vanilla world any woman having sex with a guy outside of a relationship would be called a slut"

Have you really been thinking ?

Do get up to speed and read the whole post fella. This post stemmed from a group discussion about what the swinging world thought of the word and how it is used.

And ynges many in vanilla land would still consider women to be sluts. Not my words cum from a group discussion .

Here's me thinking swingers were open minded and we're able to discuss things openly and not get upset?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Slut: a woman who has sexual relationships with a lot of men without any emotional involvement

It's one if those words that many are happy to reclaim, without the derogatory slant some put on it,

After reading the ethical slut I'm happy to identify as one.

For me, there's a difference between slut and slag.

The former being the above definition, the latter being someone that is less discriminate on who they choose for sex

But like all words, they are just words and it's whether you associate them as negative or derogatory

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

I would call myself promiscuous because I like having sex with different partners frequently. I do it for my own enjoyment but have no malice or bad intent towards the men I meet.

"Slut" usually has bit of negativity with associated with it in terms of intent (I think). But by your definition yes I'm a slut too. So are all women on Fab.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

""hi guys, we have been thinking that in the vanilla world any woman having sex with a guy outside of a relationship would be called a slut"

Have you really been thinking ?

Do get up to speed and read the whole post fella. This post stemmed from a group discussion about what the swinging world thought of the word and how it is used.

And ynges many in vanilla land would still consider women to be sluts. Not my words cum from a group discussion .

Here's me thinking swingers were open minded and we're able to discuss things openly and not get upset? "

Who's upset ?

Not me for sure but to be fair you sound a little bit upset ?

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

All bad looking women are sluts and all good looking ones are strong, independent women who know what they want and gets it xx

LOL

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Nobody has called me a slut. I need to let people into my fanny more. I want to be part of this group."

Would happily assist with that endeavour, but alas I am age prohibited

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Slut: a woman who has sexual relationships with a lot of men without any emotional involvement

It's one if those words that many are happy to reclaim, without the derogatory slant some put on it,

After reading the ethical slut I'm happy to identify as one.

For me, there's a difference between slut and slag.

The former being the above definition, the latter being someone that is less discriminate on who they choose for sex

But like all words, they are just words and it's whether you associate them as negative or derogatory "

An excellent post. May I add the use of the words cum slut as a term of endearment. As in "you took that caning like a good girl and now you're going to get your reward my little cum slut".

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Here's me thinking swingers were open minded and we're able to discuss things openly and not get upset? "

Blimey, and now we've got to agree or we're closed minded.

You asked if women on here were sluts and you got opinions. But, as is often the case in the forums, an OP doesn't want differing opinions.

And since when did being a swinger make anyone immune to feeling upset about things?

And why would you assume anyone was upset? If anything I was angry at the outdated stereotype. The fact it had to be asked suggests closed mindedness to me.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"All bad looking women are sluts and all good looking ones are strong, independent women who know what they want and gets it xx

LOL"

Noted.

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By *eviant and BemusedCouple
over a year ago

Burton

"No.

And my option of anyone who calls me a slut is that I think they're a judgemental, closed minded, sexist, asshole."

Everything said here

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By *haron4465TV/TS
over a year ago

HULL

My ex used to call me a male slut or a male slag quite why I could never understand all through the relationship I was monogamous and never strayed yes I will admit to being alternative in how I enjoy my life but only when I am single If I'm in a relationship I'm old fashioned and as some on here may say boring xx

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a funny old world!

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I personally don't like the word slut, I find it really derogatory and an angry word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect the feelings of those who find the word offensive. Respect the feelings of those who wish to reclaim the word for themselves and use it to describe their sexuality. We are all different. For me it's been a very interesting and informative discussion.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of my friends away from fab just wouldnt get it - thy dont need to know anyway

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I personally don't like the word slut, I find it really derogatory and an angry word"

I'm another one with the same thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ha 19 verifications off men are you !

no just a woman that knows what she likes !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is a fun thread, opinions pls"

Men are sluts too if women are, that kind of attitude is well out of date. X

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

Actually the people who call other people sluts, are just jelious that the person they are aiming it at is having more fun than they are?

Might that be becouse anyone who uses the word with malintent is not the type of person that we would fuck?

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

Reclamation time folks.

Acronym.

SLUT.

Superlative Lustful Unforgiving Treat.

Works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any man who refers to women as "sluts" is definitely not the kind of man I want to meet. I prefer guys who actually respect me.

I wouldn't call a prostate/escorts a slag at all. They are just doing a job. I do believe it is rather good money as well some get £200 plus a hour for what us on fab do for free ( have sex with strangers )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any man who refers to women as "sluts" is definitely not the kind of man I want to meet. I prefer guys who actually respect me.

My Prostate is a slag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are some arnt.

It depends on what your definition of a slag is.

Urban dictionary has a definition of the following

1. An individual who cares not for relationships beyond the realm of the sexual, these people sleep with many partners not caring about anything save for the moment of climax

That's a description of many on fab, but I think it's maybe a little unfair.

To me a slag is some one who isn't selective in their choices of sexual partner.

Some women on fab do have many partners, but have enough choice to be able to select the cream of the crop. So they may well have lots of partners but that's not to say they are easy.

Then again some women on fab are easy.

Also you get the ladies that are into gang bangs, I have seen queues of men stretching down the corridor all waiting for their chance with one lucky lady. How would you class these ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ummm it's a swinging site!

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By (user no longer on site)
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