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"I too like to get to know someone before I play. I find that a person's reaction to my saying I'd like to chat for a while, tells me a lot about them. " I'll chat to ya 
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"I too like to get to know someone before I play. I find that a person's reaction to my saying I'd like to chat for a while, tells me a lot about them. " +1 Getting to know them online first saves potential hassle. You can find out if you like each other before you meet for real. Also it gives you a bit of time to get to know each other. that avoids the awkward silences when you meet for real as you already know each other a bit. | |||
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"pushy ppl really get on our nerves its like they are trying to get points on a score card faster than another person We have not long only a few days been contacted by someone and prob exchanged 10 messages now as a cpl we like to get to know ppl and in every message from this person its. When you wanna meet or so when we meeting or I'm free now even after we have said what we like to do the person still is asking lol " I dont like doing email pingpong.. First thing I do is ask for face photos if not already got them and then a phone number to do a call.. even more important to me if its meant to be a woman ( at this point I would say 98% vanish never to be heard from again) I dont think that is being pushy.. as I dont see any point in wasting someone elses or my own time if we dont get on.. So photo, call... then a social.. There may be a few emails in between but I never really chat before a social.. if then at the social not for me, we begin the process again. Katie.x | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder ." bldy ell you make it sound like a dating site. We like it regular, why hold out.  | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder . bldy ell you make it sound like a dating site. We like it regular, why hold out. "Most folk like it frequent. Christmas is regular but it wouldn't count as frequent. | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder . bldy ell you make it sound like a dating site. We like it regular, why hold out.
Most folk like it frequent. Christmas is regular but it wouldn't count as frequent."o no, you mentioned "that" word. (waits for the pressies thread). | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder . bldy ell you make it sound like a dating site. We like it regular, why hold out. "Exactly my thought , why ?  | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder ." If that's what it takes as a single woman to make them feel comfortable and safe enough to meet, then so be it. You can always move on and find someone who is happy to meet after less time if you so wish. On the other hand, perhaps it is because they're not sure about you and are making up their mind  | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder . If that's what it takes as a single woman to make them feel comfortable and safe enough to meet, then so be it. You can always move on and find someone who is happy to meet after less time if you so wish. On the other hand, perhaps it is because they're not sure about you and are making up their mind "Agree entirely I would far rather get to know someone a bit and weigh up whether its going to work for us both than meet with someone who turns out not to be my cup of tea. My really great meets have been with people I have chatted to for a while. The times when I have met blind as it were not so good. Lesson learned for me. And the fact isboth parties have to be happy so it will take as long as it takes. | |||
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"I do think some ladies on here can email tennis for months and still not be ready to meet . Are these type of ladies holding out for a better offer, I wonder . If that's what it takes as a single woman to make them feel comfortable and safe enough to meet, then so be it. You can always move on and find someone who is happy to meet after less time if you so wish. On the other hand, perhaps it is because they're not sure about you and are making up their mind " | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
"Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others. | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others. "I actually find it quite surprising how many single women do meet up withminimalcontact beforehand. I certainly wouldn't encourage or expect it. | |||
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"To the OP... its simple if they are pissing you off then move on. You don't need to know 'why' they do what they do, you don't like it and that should be an end to it. Or are you wanting or hoping they will change how they operate to suit you? Maybe you should/could change to suit them? Everyone has their way of doing things for whatever reasons they may have. If its not how you want things just live and let live and move onto the next." Agree....probably a good idea to be clear on your prof that you will only meet after getting to know through messages and do not appreciate pushy or insistent people. | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others. "Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ? | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?"No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is. People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise. | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise. "I feel safe with u brighty  | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise.
I feel safe with u brighty "I should think so | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise.
I feel safe with u brighty "You ladies are always safe with me
I have been a member for nearly a year , I have a pic on here, I am verified . If thats not enough , I am not sure what is .
More than a month is a long time to be messaging someone that lives only a few miles away especially when both parties have agreed a meet is on the cards.
Dont you think ?
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise.
I feel safe with u brighty
I should think so"I'm still a bit nervous. Do you think you girls might look after me??? | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise.
You ladies are always safe with me
I have been a member for nearly a year , I have a pic on here, I am verified . If thats not enough , I am not sure what is .
More than a month is a long time to be messaging someone that lives only a few miles away especially when both parties have agreed a meet is on the cards.
Dont you think ?
"For me it would be yes. But if someone wants to do it that way, that's their choice. Your verification says nothing to me other than you turned up at some point and are male. The fact that you've been on here a year means nothing to me. Until I feel that I click with someone and will be comfortable going off alone with them or inviting them into my home, I'm not meeting and that's the way it is. It's the prerogative of everyone on the site to meet when they want. Please stop trying to make out this is excessive or over the top, it's quite common and what has meant, for me, that I've never had a bad meet. | |||
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise.
I feel safe with u brighty
You ladies are always safe with me
I have been a member for nearly a year , I have a pic on here, I am verified . If thats not enough , I am not sure what is .
More than a month is a long time to be messaging someone that lives only a few miles away especially when both parties have agreed a meet is on the cards.
Dont you think ?
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"Meet and find out about each other , thats how easy it is
Point is, as a single woman I need to feel safe meeting you and for some that will take longer than others.
Point taken , how long does it take you to feel safe ?
No set time and it's going to differ from person to person and for each person you get chatting to, don't you think? But I'm not going to meet someone until I feel happy about it, and neither should anyone else. If that takes a week or a month or more then that's the way it is.
People play differently and if someone does things a different way then you need to either move on or compromise.
You ladies are always safe with me
I have been a member for nearly a year , I have a pic on here, I am verified . If thats not enough , I am not sure what is .
More than a month is a long time to be messaging someone that lives only a few miles away especially when both parties have agreed a meet is on the cards.
Dont you think ?
For me it would be yes. But if someone wants to do it that way, that's their choice.
Your verification says nothing to me other than you turned up at some point and are male.
The fact that you've been on here a year means nothing to me.
Until I feel that I click with someone and will be comfortable going off alone with them or inviting them into my home, I'm not meeting and that's the way it is. It's the prerogative of everyone on the site to meet when they want.
Please stop trying to make out this is excessive or over the top, it's quite common and what has meant, for me, that I've never had a bad meet. "At least we agree on something
I agree whats excessive for some may not be fir others.
Meet in a public place . Feel safe .
As for clicking the only clicks you do sat behind a comp screen is with your mouse , you can never really click until you have met .
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"As for clicking the only clicks you do sat behind a comp screen is with your mouse , you can never really click until you have met . Would you agree ? " You'll think I'm just trying to be difficult now but I totally disagree. If you use the emails to actually chat you get a feel for someone's sense if humour and personality. It's never let me down yet. I've never had a meet where I've click watched or regretted meeting someone after I've spent a couple of weeks chatting on here then by phone. | |||
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"As for clicking the only clicks you do sat behind a comp screen is with your mouse , you can never really click until you have met . Would you agree ? You'll think I'm just trying to be difficult now but I totally disagree. If you use the emails to actually chat you get a feel for someone's sense if humour and personality. It's never let me down yet. I've never had a meet where I've click watched or regretted meeting someone after I've spent a couple of weeks chatting on here then by phone. "I kind of agree with that as it's happened to me to be honest. | |||
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"As for clicking the only clicks you do sat behind a comp screen is with your mouse , you can never really click until you have met . Would you agree ? You'll think I'm just trying to be difficult now but I totally disagree. If you use the emails to actually chat you get a feel for someone's sense if humour and personality. It's never let me down yet. I've never had a meet where I've click watched or regretted meeting someone after I've spent a couple of weeks chatting on here then by phone. "Totally agree with Bright on this the meets I have had after lengthy conversations and getting to know you chats, not necessairily on here but on facebook too, have been fantastic. The couple of times I haven't followed my instinct and taken a chance, not so good. In my opinion if u strike a good mental connection then it makes the difference between what you thought was good sex and what you discover to be really great sex. But we are all different some people like the excitement of a complete stranger, having been there done that I would rather take my time and guarantee both parties a great time. And the fact is if you feel you are having to hurry someone along then they are simply not for you and you are not for them end of story. | |||
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"Totally agree Danny. A couple if times I've thought did it I want a meet today and it's just not worked. I'm not saying my way is the right way, just don't understand why some people are being criticised for their preferred way of playing. I'd never dream of saying someone was wrong to meet on the same day it's all about doing what works for you and finding people who like the same things. " Yep its horses for courses if you want a bit more out of sex than the basic physical sensations, which I do, then I think its worth investing a little bit of time and effort. | |||
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"As for clicking the only clicks you do sat behind a comp screen is with your mouse , you can never really click until you have met . Would you agree ? You'll think I'm just trying to be difficult now but I totally disagree. If you use the emails to actually chat you get a feel for someone's sense if humour and personality. It's never let me down yet. I've never had a meet where I've click watched or regretted meeting someone after I've spent a couple of weeks chatting on here then by phone. "i agree totally there
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"i have a meet today up for tomorrow so far i have had a few people out of my area criteria loads out my age criteria ( 15 odd years) and people who said i cant do this but lets do it now
so far no meet for tomorrow its like i have 3 heads "sorry made me chuckle xx hope you get something sorted tho and enjoy xx | |||
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"As for clicking the only clicks you do sat behind a comp screen is with your mouse , you can never really click until you have met . Would you agree ? You'll think I'm just trying to be difficult now but I totally disagree. If you use the emails to actually chat you get a feel for someone's sense if humour and personality. It's never let me down yet. I've never had a meet where I've click watched or regretted meeting someone after I've spent a couple of weeks chatting on here then by phone. "Couple of weeks chatting on here and then phone and then meet all within a month , would be great
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"and after reading other forums off another site just getting to know woman it goes two ways and one them you become a friend and nothing else and the other never get to close i wont ever from now on its just sex and nothing else no friendships no chatting for months on end forget that " usually its known if that person will play with the messages and how straight talking they are i am straight talking have no tact and can be very abrupt YET people always know if i dont want to play with them or not
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