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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't meet couples

Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't meet couples

Problem solved

But I really enjoy meeting couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't meet couples

Problem solved

But I really enjoy meeting couples

Ok now I'm confused

You open a thread saying meets with couples always have to be on their terms and your feelings aren't considered but you enjoy meeting them?

I must need sleep

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

In what way does it have to be on their terms?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In what way does it have to be on their terms?"

That they state where and how a meet will happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?"

Considering single bi gems are so much in demand, you'd think more effort and consideration would be given.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"In what way does it have to be on their terms?

That they state where and how a meet will happen."

Why don't you tell them how it's gonna happen instead. I don't think we've ever had a mapped out meet, we just get down to it. The only thing pre determined is the mutually agreed time and place, usually at ours and only cos it's normally more convenient for the woman we're meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if your meeting a couple your nothing more than a sex aid to their marriage and will be treated as such by most

I don't think many care about anything more than fulfilling their fantasy and that's all you are

I stopped meeting couples a long time ago because of this

If your not happy with how things are going stop doing it and look elsewhere

Single guys are much less hassle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In what way does it have to be on their terms?

That they state where and how a meet will happen.

Well you sound very considerate, if only others could be, fortunately the couples I've met always have been.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest if your meeting a couple your nothing more than a sex aid to their marriage and will be treated as such by most

I don't think many care about anything more than fulfilling their fantasy and that's all you are

I stopped meeting couples a long time ago because of this

If your not happy with how things are going stop doing it and look elsewhere

Single guys are much less hassle

You have a valid point there, but I enjoy the females. Finding a single fem to have one quality fun with is difficult

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"In what way does it have to be on their terms?

That they state where and how a meet will happen.

Well you sound very considerate, if only others could be, fortunately the couples I've met always have been."

We like repeat meets, get to know the other lady, how she likes it...do unto us as you would have do unto you and we do to eachother....being inflexible or selfish twats doesn't get repeat meets, just gets you fobbed off, and/or a reputation as a selfish or inflexible couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In what way does it have to be on their terms?

That they state where and how a meet will happen.

Well you sound very considerate, if only others could be, fortunately the couples I've met always have been.

Few of those around unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?"

I don't meet couples where they're only interested in themselves. I only meet couples where they're prepared to compromise and approach the meet as three equal parties.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?

I don't meet couples where they're only interested in themselves. I only meet couples where they're prepared to compromise and approach the meet as three equal parties."

Me too, but it's difficult finding couples like that.

Where are you happy couples ??? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?

I don't meet couples where they're only interested in themselves. I only meet couples where they're prepared to compromise and approach the meet as three equal parties.

Me too, but it's difficult finding couples like that.

Where are you happy couples ??? Lol"

There are plenty about. However there is a distinct correlation between the ethical treatment of single women when inviting them to join in for sex, and the ethical way in which they conduct the rest of their lives.

No couples that I know who treat women joining them ethically would meet people who are not also ethical in their own lives.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?

I don't meet couples where they're only interested in themselves. I only meet couples where they're prepared to compromise and approach the meet as three equal parties.

Me too, but it's difficult finding couples like that.

Where are you happy couples ??? Lol

No couples that I know who treat women joining them ethically would meet people who are not also ethical in their own lives."

It's not just with single women though. Every one of our meets is treated the same...with respect and courtesy. Before play we discuss likes and dislikes and during play we ask if there's anything they want to do as sometimes folks desires have been known to change. Respect and honesty both on here and in the 'real world' should be the norm...Unfortunately it isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree I was a single fem on the scene we understand xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I have to agree with the OP - it always seems to be on the couple's terms, and then I feel like I'm trying to run two different jobs at the same time, trying to please two very different people, and not getting much out of it for me... I've just about given up on couples now.

But talking of risk, I hear from a lot of "bi" women who want to play with me but who want to "bring my husband along for my safety" - what about my safety?? I'm the one taking all the risks!!!

Or even worse - "I want to meet you alone but my husband will be there to film it all for us later" - like hell he will!!!

Respect is a rare thing - but sometimes it feels as though it never eve existed in the minds of some people...

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By *rwchcpleCouple
over a year ago

norwich

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?"

We much prefer for the single lady to be in control not in charge but we want her to know she's safe and is going to be included and excluded on her say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im wary of meeting couples alone as it feels like I'm there for their pleasure only.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"Yes, I have to agree with the OP - it always seems to be on the couple's terms, and then I feel like I'm trying to run two different jobs at the same time, trying to please two very different people, and not getting much out of it for me... I've just about given up on couples now.

But talking of risk, I hear from a lot of "bi" women who want to play with me but who want to "bring my husband along for my safety" - what about my safety?? I'm the one taking all the risks!!!

Or even worse - "I want to meet you alone but my husband will be there to film it all for us later" - like hell he will!!!

Respect is a rare thing - but sometimes it feels as though it never eve existed in the minds of some people...

Angel would be happy to meet a single women on her own. She has done in the past(sort of), she met her at a pub and then came back to ours, went to the bedroom and got it on. Obviously i was there, it's my house too, but i just stayed downstairs and played call of duty. With a bit of arranging, i'm sure i could make myself scarce though.

Angels biggest worry is meeting a single lady and having the fuck buddy "just happen" to turn up (i'm doing "" that with my fingers lol) while she's there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do meets always have to be on the couples terms?

The single fem is the one taking the risks.

Surely a single fems feelings should be taken into consideration too or am I being selfish?"

You think you have it bad.. Try being a single male!

Just discuss everything beforehand. If they don't want to compromise, don't meet them. Like you said, you're in demand, so have the power really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the point is for everyone to be satisfied? I'd hate to think we'd simply used someone male or female, it's about mutual enjoyment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely the point is for everyone to be satisfied? I'd hate to think we'd simply used someone male or female, it's about mutual enjoyment.

Ess"

Not everyone sees it that way unfortunately. Some couples act like they're doing the single a favour! They seem to forget that it's their fantasy too!?!

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