FabSwingers.com forum: Accepting Gifts

By *aughtySx OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

If you have regular meets on here and they buy you gifts do you accept them?

A guy has just bought me a gift but unsure if I should accept it or not as I don't want him getting the wrong impression??

Anyone had this before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with accepting a gift, so long as you're up front and everyone understands the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. I love getting gifts

Eve

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would feel uncomfortable. Refusing a gift can be pretty awkward too.

I just feel that nsa sex is a reciprocal arrangement and one person giving gifts upsets the balance.

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By *aughtySx OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

I kinda like the idea of getting gifts and being spoiled and treated like a princess.

But then I don't wanna feel like I'm owned because of it.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

Depends on the gift really

Something small probably just accept and return the favour next time but if it was something big and expensive would politely turn it down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made someone send a brand new car back once. If I want something I'll buy it (not off here). And sorry but I'm not for sale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would feel uncomfortable. Refusing a gift can be pretty awkward too.

I just feel that nsa sex is a reciprocal arrangement and one person giving gifts upsets the balance."

What they said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I graciously accepted the offer of a large bar of chocolate in exchange for my services

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I made someone send a brand new car back once. If I want something I'll buy it (not off here). And sorry but I'm not for sale."

Really ????????

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By *aughtySx OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

"I made someone send a brand new car back once. If I want something I'll buy it (not off here). And sorry but I'm not for sale."

Forward it to my address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I made someone send a brand new car back once. If I want something I'll buy it (not off here). And sorry but I'm not for sale.

Forward it to my address

It was a long time ago. It will be classed as a 'classic' or rust bucket by now.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I knitted a scarf for a regular meet. Last thing he bought me was a deck of top trumps cards. If you know someone well, I don't see an issue getting them a small gift. I've been given sex gifts by one off (so far) meets as well - there was something we both wanted to try and I now own an anal hook as a result. I bought a cock ring for a meet once because he was intrigued at the idea and I was walking past a sex shop on my way home so I popped in and got him one. Gifts are like compliments; they can be accepted without having to reciprocate. The intent behind them can be what makes receiving either feel uncomfortable, not the act itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I graciously accepted the offer of a large bar of chocolate in exchange for my services

Your cheap lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got offered a mains powered wand as a birthday gift, I refused and he was not best pleased.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,d accept a gift from my FWB but not any other men.. Likewise I have bought him a Christmas present but would not buy any other man one. Depends on the circumstances really. I was once told I had to wash a guys sheets and towells after sex, then bring them to next meet, thus I would have to meet him again. I stopped meeting him.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gift is just a thankyou for the good sex! You must be doing something right! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could use some new socks if anyone fancies a quickie?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I'd feel pretty uncomfortable receiving anything,depends on the gift though. Wine I don't have a problem with.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I could use some new socks if anyone fancies a quickie?"

Primark ok?

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I see nothing wrong with accepting gifts. Almost everyone I've met, I've considered a friend by the time anything happened---and some people just take pleasure in giving gifts.

I don't ask for anything, I don't expect it, but when it happens, it's always nice to know someone is thinking of me enough to bring me something that will make me smile even more.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

Also--when you meet up socially and he buys one more round than I do or the snack to compliment the wine, isn't that also a gift?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't have a problem with it if I know them well. My fuckbuddy has bought me lingerie before because he is a perv and gets a lot of enjoyment out of seeing me wearing them and I enjoy his reaction. A lot. I buy him craft beer and ridiculous condoms. I would feel uncomfortable if it was expected or somebody I hadn't met bought me things because I don't want to feel obligated.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

i like gifts the more expensive the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im rubbish at accepting gifts but have done off a long term regular friend - its a two way thing though not a payment in kind

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I could use some new socks if anyone fancies a quickie?

Primark ok?

Poundland have a nice range of Harry Potter socks

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over a year ago

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I have no problem with it in a way it's similar to showing up with a bottle of wine.

I don't really see it as such a big deal.

Just so long as it's a gift for the right reasons and not an exchange or something like that.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I bring a fun of chocolates (hero's, quality street...). I can't accomodate to I go round to theirs, it's just a way of saying thank you.

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By *oodbuddy 51Man
over a year ago

Wexford

A couple I used to visit wanted cigars and wine every time I went as well as a cash contribution if there were snacks been provided so gave them up. Have given sexy lingerie as a thank you to a good friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I graciously accepted the offer of a large bar of chocolate in exchange for my services

What a meanie I would have asked for two bars and be fed it by hand

I was given a nice bottle of wine though and a box of lindor recently but think that was only to try and get in my knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive received a few gifts in the way of flowers, wine, chocolate, vodka. But had some nice gifts off a fwb who bought me a pandora bracelet and charms

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't feel uncomfortable giving or receiving gifts...as long as they are relevant if that makes sense.

For me it simply shows the 'saw this and thought of you' thing.

Maybe I'm naive, who knows. Or, maybe I just have a kind hearted nature. My 'normal' friends and I get each other stuff because we think they'll like it, just to be nice and know you've done something that could brighten their day

It's nice to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't receive goft without reciprocating the gesture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't receive goft without reciprocating the gesture "

The same here. And I like to buy my friends gifts

Make me feel nice

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"A couple I used to visit wanted cigars and wine every time I went as well as a cash contribution if there were snacks been provided so gave them up. Have given sexy lingerie as a thank you to a good friend. "

Cheeky git's,that's pretty low.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

A guy I see bought me two keyrings not long after we met. One was part of a joke that we shared the first time I went to his house, and the other was just because. I felt weird about it when he told me he had got me something, but I got over it when I saw what it was. However, he's offered to buy me things such as clothes (because nothing fits) and stuff, but I just can't accept it..

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I could use some new socks if anyone fancies a quickie?

Primark ok?

Poundland have a nice range of Harry Potter socks

Ooh thanks I'll go and grab some,need to bride the men into my bed with something don't I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone said I'll buy you xyz if you have sex with me I'd laugh at them.

If someone brought something along for use during the evening I'd contemplate using it.

I had one man from a different site tell me, after we had arranged to meet, that he had bought me a birthday gift from Tiffany. It was a little uncomfortable but, as it was a stationary set, it didn't feel too bad.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Ive received a few gifts in the way of flowers, wine, chocolate, vodka. But had some nice gifts off a fwb who bought me a pandora bracelet and charms

Thats nice, someone from russia bought me three different types of russian vodka and some chocolates, i have had a nice bunch of roses, sherry and wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what it is

If they bough me a bottle of wine then I would accept it as buying a bottle for somebody you are meeting seems normal to me in any situation, if I go round to a friend's house for a natter and catch up I'll take a drink

Anything more than that I wouldn't accept it, I had a guy turn up with underwear for me once and I wouldn't accept it, simply because I don't want to feel obligated or have anybody feel they had a hold over me

Last thing I would want is if I decided to stop meeting somebody them throw back in my face all the things they have given me or see me as a gold digger

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

i would love a anal hook for Christmas. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hell is a anal hook?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What the hell is a anal hook?"

It'd a hook that goes up your arse

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"What the hell is a anal hook?

It'd a hook that goes up your arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What the hell is a anal hook?

It'd a hook that goes up your arse

we.ll have to hook up sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm quite taken with those ceramic frying pans so if any lady would like to shower me with a gift!, would happily christen it too with a meal for two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm quite taken with those ceramic frying pans so if any lady would like to shower me with a gift!, would happily christen it too with a meal for two.

You drive a hard bargin

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By *ral DMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I like buying a small token gift usually underwear or a toy of some description. But only for women that i have met a cple of times.

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By *aughtySx OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

"What the hell is a anal hook?

It'd a hook that goes up your arse

Haaaaa

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By *aughtySx OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

"What the hell is a anal hook?

It'd a hook that goes up your arse

Haaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had chocolates and stuff before. Yeah why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Stone Roses adidas polo shirt for Crimbo please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you do! Why not? Long as it isn't money as I would be concerned!

..had loads of gifts from meets....without me asking for any of course.

Have given a few of my special friends little gifts in return.

If a guy wants ti o buy the special lady he is meeting a gift then let him. As long as he doesn't think you should be obliged to have sex in return.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I actually had someone from here buy and send me a gift as he felt he wanted to, he wasn't looking to meet me or for anything in return apart from the feelings he enjoyed knowing he had bought something for me.

We had chatted and although I know it is unusual, I went with it as he explained how much he wanted to and seemed sincere.

We agreed to have it sent to my "safe place" as I really wasn't comfortable giving out my address.

We are still in touch on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy wants ti o buy the special lady he is meeting a gift then let him. As long as he doesn't think you should be obliged to have sex in return."

why else would a guy off here buy you a gift?

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I've received gifts. And given gifts too. Nothing expensive. No agendas. Just usually something that has come up in conversation while getting to know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context & the intent behind it.

Everyone meets in a different way so I don't see a problem giving / receiving gifts. There's a big difference between that & people trying to buy favours.

I've been given a book, it was something that was unique to him & it made me smile.

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