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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Firstly just testing the freedom of press on here and secondly not looking for an argument just curious. Until Fab I cant say I was very aware of this term or maybe didnt really think about it. However, after reading different threads of the past few months Im given to wondering..... why is it that people who describe themselves as big beautiful women can be very scathing towards others who are not as large. It appears that they feel they are the only ones allowed to use the b. word and that if you are over a certain size this makes you automatically entitled to it. Is this a swinging phenominen or just a general thing. Apparantly if you say bbw are not for you its your loss and if you say you are attractive but not large you are stuck up your own arse. Im sensing some double standards here ... is it just me thats wondering? Would really like to see people replying in a polite mannered way. Im by no means bashing anyone. Simply curious about those that feel they are entitled to bash others either way and hoping they will see the others point of _iew and be a little more openminded! Us girls all have our insecurites no matter what our size or looks. Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence. Yours, hopefully but not holding her breath, Mistress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart."

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Firstly just testing the freedom of press on here and secondly not looking for an argument just curious. Until Fab I cant say I was very aware of this term or maybe didnt really think about it. However, after reading different threads of the past few months Im given to wondering..... why is it that people who describe themselves as big beautiful women can be very scathing towards others who are not as large. It appears that they feel they are the only ones allowed to use the b. word and that if you are over a certain size this makes you automatically entitled to it. Is this a swinging phenominen or just a general thing. Apparantly if you say bbw are not for you its your loss and if you say you are attractive but not large you are stuck up your own arse. Im sensing some double standards here ... is it just me thats wondering? Would really like to see people replying in a polite mannered way. Im by no means bashing anyone. Simply curious about those that feel they are entitled to bash others either way and hoping they will see the others point of _iew and be a little more openminded! Us girls all have our insecurites no matter what our size or looks. Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence. Yours, hopefully but not holding her breath, Mistress "

speak for yourself, you may have some insecurites but not all women do. Ive lost a lot of weight, i was happy before but started loosing weight for health reasons. Im still very over weight just not so much so now. Double standards work across the board. Some dont like the term skinny some dont like the term fat. From what ive seen on here its 50/50. In an ideal world there would be no bashing of any kind but its not a perfect world. Any thread that is started regards slim or large woman tends to go into a full scale argument generally because there are some tactless people on here.

Personally someones size has very little to do with how i _iew a person.

Signed

A fatty who doesnt describe herself as a bbw.

Oh and bbw term has been around for years, way before the internet but it a very common term to describe a woman that is large. Now alot of people use the term as its easy way of describing large. If there was a term to describe very petite women or medium women that was common im sure that would also get used

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol "

The point Im trying to make exactly actually. Why are women judging eachother and attacking? know attractive women of all types (well I think they are anyway). I dont care what size you are.... why make unprovoked verbal attacks. Obviously this post was unwise and we cant have a civilised discussion. Think I have answered by own question. Really shouldnt have had that last glass of wine and posted it. Beam me up scotty.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol

The point Im trying to make exactly actually. Why are women judging eachother and attacking? know attractive women of all types (well I think they are anyway). I dont care what size you are.... why make unprovoked verbal attacks. Obviously this post was unwise and we cant have a civilised discussion. Think I have answered by own question. Really shouldnt have had that last glass of wine and posted it. Beam me up scotty. "

Am i missing something here, there has only been a few responses and i havent seen any unprovoked verbal attacks

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol

The point Im trying to make exactly actually. Why are women judging eachother and attacking? know attractive women of all types (well I think they are anyway). I dont care what size you are.... why make unprovoked verbal attacks. Obviously this post was unwise and we cant have a civilised discussion. Think I have answered by own question. Really shouldnt have had that last glass of wine and posted it. Beam me up scotty.

Am i missing something here, there has only been a few responses and i havent seen any unprovoked verbal attacks "

Well maybe Im wrong but Im sensing this isnt going to go well and really dont want anyone launching personal attacks on anyone. I would love to think that we could discuss anything on here in a polite and respectful way but Im thinking is already too heated. This is a swinging site and for entertainment only. Maybe its just too sensitive a subject.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think we must be reading different threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone uses the term BBW

It does not mean they automatically think they are, it is just a well known term to stop people who don't like larger ladies away

equally ssbbw is use(super size)

some use it a big breasted woman

Some of us don't judge / bash anyone for the way they are.

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Just because someone uses the term BBW

It does not mean they automatically think they are, it is just a well known term to stop people who don't like larger ladies away

equally ssbbw is use(super size)

some use it a big breasted woman

Some of us don't judge / bash anyone for the way they are.

"

not heard the ssbbw term at all or the big breasted woman (how big or doesnt it matter). That was the attitude I was hoping for.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Just because someone uses the term BBW

It does not mean they automatically think they are, it is just a well known term to stop people who don't like larger ladies away

equally ssbbw is use(super size)

some use it a big breasted woman

Some of us don't judge / bash anyone for the way they are.

not heard the ssbbw term at all or the big breasted woman (how big or doesnt it matter). That was the attitude I was hoping for. "

sbbw and ssbbw started off mainly as american terms, same as queen size is used to describe a smaller bbw. Instead of dress sizes in america it used to go on how many lbs someone weighed. bbw used to start at a size 18 in england but i think up to a 20 is classed as queen size. Not sure where ssbbw starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because someone uses the term BBW

It does not mean they automatically think they are, it is just a well known term to stop people who don't like larger ladies away

equally ssbbw is use(super size)

some use it a big breasted woman

Some of us don't judge / bash anyone for the way they are.

not heard the ssbbw term at all or the big breasted woman (how big or doesnt it matter). That was the attitude I was hoping for. "

as with everything, people have different veiws on the subject

some consider a size 14 a bbw some a 20

to be honest i don't know what is what.

I've just used the terms to indicate to anyone sizest to stay away and not waste their or my time.

Suprisingly people who say they don't like BBW's still contact me so it doesn't always work.

But the scathing thing does work both ways personally i just ignore it it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do not Discriminate Slim,Medium or any size....I put on my Profile i am a BBW be course i am.And not to make a Point.It is just to tell PPl on here what iam and if they are not into it then there is NO need to sent a Message or be Nasty about it.In other words you dont like it move on.But what i did find out that SOME slim Folks like to take the Piss out of Big so dont be surprised as it works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasnt aware of the term BBW before swinging. The phrase does seem to provoke certain reactions though, mainly the 'beautiful' part.

The reason these types of threads go tits up is because certain tackless individuals think its ok to verbally abuse someone and then pretend to pass it off as an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* tactless - just in case the spelling police are on duty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we must be reading different threads."

Scratches head in confusion too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm sorry but i find these threads very yawnio

it gets dragged up constantly

we are fat and we wobble so fucking what

we use the term BBW to warn those that are offended by those wobbles to walk on by so they don't have to look its for their sake not ours

and to help those that love our wobbles to find us easier

the term was coined in a USA to help give big gals a bit of confidence in their size it was not meant that big is beautiful it means that big can be found beautiful by some

i first heard the term a good 15 years ago on a prog called central weekend a fabulous discussion show on friday nights if memory serves me right and ever since then it seems peeps are offended by the fact we as fat birds use the term, i mean how how attrocious we should try and be positive about our flab, bad bad fat birds

we all like different things it is what makes life more interesting

no one is bashing anyone as far as i can see just exchanging thoughts

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't desribe myself as a BBW I tend to say I wobble,.. which I do.. I have no jealousy over a woman who is a size 10 as I have been there and looked horrid as I am 6ft...

We are who we are and describing ourselves as what we want... the term BBW is not going to go away. Like bouncy said its a term used to make big girls not so insercure about their weight.... It better than being called fatty... or other not very nice names..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly just testing the freedom of press on here and secondly not looking for an argument just curious. Until Fab I cant say I was very aware of this term or maybe didnt really think about it. However, after reading different threads of the past few months Im given to wondering..... why is it that people who describe themselves as big beautiful women can be very scathing towards others who are not as large. It appears that they feel they are the only ones allowed to use the b. word and that if you are over a certain size this makes you automatically entitled to it. Is this a swinging phenominen or just a general thing. Apparantly if you say bbw are not for you its your loss and if you say you are attractive but not large you are stuck up your own arse. Im sensing some double standards here ... is it just me thats wondering? Would really like to see people replying in a polite mannered way. Im by no means bashing anyone. Simply curious about those that feel they are entitled to bash others either way and hoping they will see the others point of _iew and be a little more openminded! Us girls all have our insecurites no matter what our size or looks. Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence. Yours, hopefully but not holding her breath, Mistress "

I think you've asked a good question very well as I have also seen some of the behavior on here you refer to. I would however say for clarity that not all large women display that attitude and you may be allowing your opinion to be overly influenced by a vocal minority.

That vocal minority are probably very unlikely to attempt to answer your question directly.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Some 'bbw's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'average's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'slim's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'skinny's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'curvy's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'fabulous' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'athletic's' look great, some don't look so great.

All of the above are highly subjective and subject to the personal taste of the person looking and what mood they are in and what day it is.

Politeness and respect is actually a different subject, an unpleasant person will simply be nasty about anything they think might wind you up, not just size or build.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Some 'bbw's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'average's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'slim's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'skinny's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'curvy's' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'fabulous' look great, some don't look so great.

Some 'athletic's' look great, some don't look so great.

All of the above are highly subjective and subject to the personal taste of the person looking and what mood they are in and what day it is.

Politeness and respect is actually a different subject, an unpleasant person will simply be nasty about anything they think might wind you up, not just size or build.

"

Couldn't have said it better myself...

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"

Couldn't have said it better myself..."

Right, I'm off to talk inane bollox in other threads before this becomes a habit.

Enjoy, play nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the term bbw just to simplify things.... then when someone is interested, I will know that I don't have to 'explain' or 'excuse' how I am (not that I really feel I need to, but it just makes life easier for me!).

Having said that, I don't feel part of a bbw 'club' and I feel no need to be defensive or jealous of other body types. Some of the sexiest women in the world are curvy, and some are slim!

Let's not generalise and create and 'us' and 'them' feeling- how is that helpful?! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't here the term for larger men or BBM ! does it exsist ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big Handsome Man (BHM)!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big Handsome Man (BHM)!! "

That maybe sounds a little concieted ....I was thinking more of BMF

big mother f####er !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All women, whatever shape can look and feel good.

I love my curves and appreciate others what ever their body shape may be. It is however an obsession which will never decrease. We will always have magazines with the super skinny woman but maybe we will start to see an increase in model sizes pave the way for young curvy woman lets just hope that the fashion world of modeling will recognize the public needs to see more curvy women on the catwalk and on tv and in magazines .... Then slim and curvey will get on better in the real world and not feel so much pressure to be slim but feel just as good as each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone loves your curves !!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think..

some larger ladies are comfortable with themselves and other have a huge chip on their shoulders..

some very slim ladies are comfortable with themselves and others have a huge chip on their shoulders..

and some people expect meeting a larger lady to be easier in arranging.. all so wrong and highly patronising.

I do agree it is a shame we can't have the discussions on here that are informed, respectful and informative... instead of breaking into a name calling free for all.

I do dislike the term BBW

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and don't get me started on the lads..

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Firstly just testing the freedom of press on here and secondly not looking for an argument just curious. Until Fab I cant say I was very aware of this term or maybe didnt really think about it. However, after reading different threads of the past few months Im given to wondering..... why is it that people who describe themselves as big beautiful women can be very scathing towards others who are not as large. It appears that they feel they are the only ones allowed to use the b. word and that if you are over a certain size this makes you automatically entitled to it. Is this a swinging phenominen or just a general thing. Apparantly if you say bbw are not for you its your loss and if you say you are attractive but not large you are stuck up your own arse. Im sensing some double standards here ... is it just me thats wondering? Would really like to see people replying in a polite mannered way. Im by no means bashing anyone. Simply curious about those that feel they are entitled to bash others either way and hoping they will see the others point of _iew and be a little more openminded! Us girls all have our insecurites no matter what our size or looks. Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence. Yours, hopefully but not holding her breath, Mistress

I think you've asked a good question very well as I have also seen some of the behavior on here you refer to. I would however say for clarity that not all large women display that attitude and you may be allowing your opinion to be overly influenced by a vocal minority.

That vocal minority are probably very unlikely to attempt to answer your question directly. "

I think you are right. I just dont see why any of it is an issue. We are all different. Dont know why some have to bash others to make themselves feel better. You are right its just a feeling I have got from reading other threads. Maybe other peoples experiences are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and don't get me started on the lads..

"

lol ooo i would love you starting on the lads xxx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"and don't get me started on the lads..

lol ooo i would love you starting on the lads xxx "

I though you had View?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"and don't get me started on the lads..

lol ooo i would love you starting on the lads xxx

I though you had View? "

that's IN the lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use the term BBW to describe Sandra but I think for no other reason than it being quickly and easily identifiable as someone who is not, for want of a better word "slim" or even dare I say it "skinny" and it sounds better than sayin fat/overweight/large......etc. We mean no offence to anyone by the statement. Most guys probably dont go for "BBW" types so it also stops wasting their time contacting.

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Think we must be reading different threads.

Scratches head in confusion too! "

I think when I see postings in CAPITALS, suggesting others are just being insensitive and using the phrase B..S... I guess I just assumed here we go... downhill maybe....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This pops up a lot ..... love a fatty, hate a fatty....who cares.

I have BBW on my profile and TSM, I see it as an abbreviation more than a status symbol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think..

some larger ladies are comfortable with themselves and other have a huge chip on their shoulders..

some very slim ladies are comfortable with themselves and others have a huge chip on their shoulders..

and some people expect meeting a larger lady to be easier in arranging.. all so wrong and highly patronising.

I do agree it is a shame we can't have the discussions on here that are informed, respectful and informative... instead of breaking into a name calling free for all.

I do dislike the term BBW"

Good post View

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

thank you sir

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I use bbw on my profile to alert people to the fact I am fat, I know I am not beautiful and can live with that fact

In all honestly does it matter if a larger lady refers to herself as beautiful? No because to some people she is x bbw's aren't saying that no one else can use the word, we haven't eaten it so you can't use it again ever!!!

If a larger lady feels good enough to say she is beautiful, who is anyone to put her down and tell her any different?

I am on a well known dating site and the amount of mails I get on there from guys telling me hoe fat I am is unbelievable. It does sometimes feel like its one of the last things its ok to mock people about and be really quite offensive about. I may be the size of a rhino but my skin really isn't that thick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And hear we have it, yet another nasty comment from a tactless insernsitive person who uses a thread to discuss size as an excuse to name call, which is why these threads go tits up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant."

Well you've just proved what a nasty peice of work you are, and shown that generalisations don't work as you are what you claim bbw's to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these threads are always funny...but very good at illuminating those who have issues.

Any title..be it 'athletic', 'average' 'hairy', 'bbw' is simply a way of not being verbose.

if you can quickly and simply identify a certain look or type of person...then whats the issue??

This is a sex site and we all are looking for different things..simple!

Anyone that seeks to make a determination on personality simply due to how you look is a fool at best.

Its the same as saying all hairy men are 'bears' and gay or that all blonde women are 'bimbos' and stupid or that all fat women love themselves and are jelous of thin women..etc etc...all nonsense...

Labels are handy and we all use them every day...or finding shoes and clothes the right size would be tricky...however when you find something you like...you no remove and no longer care about the label...

vol

xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

From a personal point of _iew, as an average (slightly over weight) person, the first time we went to a social ALL the larger ladies were giving me dirty looks and made me feel extremely uncomfortable, looking me up and down and tutting! Having said that, have been to clubs and not had any where near the same reaction. I personally don't give two hoots about any ones size and certainly wouldn't be nasty to anyone with a different body shape to mine, however, some people obviously think it's fine to do so and it isn't just the larger ladies. Z

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Not to sound arrogant or up my own arse but there are some gorgeous plus size women such as Nigella lawson,Dawn French and other well know people, thoughl they don't use a sex site the post up there states that all BBW are unattractive and need to use a sex site to "get some".

I have done various plus size modelling for some mags a few years ago does that make me attrative no it makes me me..

So maybe you need to get your head from out your arse and see what you just wrote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done various plus size modelling for some mags a few years ago does that make me attrative no it makes me me..

I have too and fashion shows as a 14/16 size and if my mother had not put a stop to it all .... I would have done alot more when i was younger ... I was the one asked i never see myself like that as my mum would say i was to big lol x really she hated me going away said i would never look after myself in the big world. Bigger ladys can be just as lovely as smaller sizes some of the best bi sex ever has been with bigger curvey sexy ladys and BOYYYYYY made me gush cum loads xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo

To everyone who wants to add to the thread, please be respectful of other users when typing please......and lets not start the rude comments when replying to others posts, as it makes you the same as them.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant."

I find the first part of your post quite accurate.. would change 'often' to 'on occasion'..

However, the second part.. Just Offensive.

and I say that as one of the guys on here who does not kiss every females ass on this forum, I don't post after the females on the 'fuck me' threads squealing Yes Yes Yes.. I do believe some forget themselves and believe their own hype.. not exclusive to females tho.

but there was just no need to add that bit.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Think we must be reading different threads.

Scratches head in confusion too!

I think when I see postings in CAPITALS, suggesting others are just being insensitive and using the phrase B..S... I guess I just assumed here we go... downhill maybe.... "

if you are refering to my posting then i think you need to read it again and let it sink in what is it im actually saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ALL girls are pretty, some are prettier than others!!

To us personality goes along way, regardless of how you swing, so judgmental types are a turn off anyways.

Oh and only boring people get bored...Fav quote from Ian Jury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant.

I find the first part of your post quite accurate.. would change 'often' to 'on occasion'..

However, the second part.. Just Offensive.

and I say that as one of the guys on here who does not kiss every females ass on this forum, I don't post after the females on the 'fuck me' threads squealing Yes Yes Yes.. I do believe some forget themselves and believe their own hype.. not exclusive to females tho.

but there was just no need to add that bit."

I would kind of agree, in a way.... I noticed that the Clubs empower woman and make the feel more confident and more secure in themselves... WHICH CAN ONLY BE A GOOD THING.

Whatever walk of life you are running in, you will always meet people who think that they are Gods Gift and that you are not....thats life. Opinions are like testicles. Kick them hard enough, it doesn’t matter how many you got.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

Whatever walk of life you are running in, you will always meet people who think that they are Gods Gift and that you are not....thats life. Opinions are like testicles. Kick them hard enough, it doesn’t matter how many you got."

exactly, the site reflects real life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed, so like real life I ignore some and engage with others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm sorry but i find these threads very yawnio

it gets dragged up constantly

we are fat and we wobble so fucking what

we use the term BBW to warn those that are

offended by those wobbles to walk on by so they don't have to look its for their sake not ours

and to help those that love our wobbles to find us easier

i first heard the term a good 15 years ago on a prog called central weekend a fabulous discussion show on friday nights if memory serves me right and ever since then it seems peeps are offended by the fact we as fat birds use the term, i mean how how attrocious we

should try and be positive about our flab, bad bad fat birds

"

I don't think anyone finds'fat birds' or wobbles offensive. They may not find them attractive, but

that is totally different. I think this type of chippy reply is what the op was referring to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I AM NOT POSTING THIS TO UPSET ANYONE - Just Curious.... Do BBW not worry about their health or hearts? or that some people like them due to their size first and personality second?

NOT judging anyone here, just my wife and I tend to look for a personality that we like, well actually more than several.... Looks do not matter so much. I actually find it funny when my wife blows out some "Gods Gift" man who is trying it on in their well rehearsed slick ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I AM NOT POSTING THIS TO UPSET ANYONE - Just Curious.... Do BBW not worry about their health or hearts? or that some people like them due to their size first and personality second?

NOT judging anyone here, just my wife and I tend to look for a personality that we like, well actually more than several.... Looks do not matter so much. I actually find it funny when my wife blows out some "Gods Gift" man who is trying it on in their well rehearsed slick ways..."

Do married couples not worry about being promiscious with other people and the health of their marriage.

Not posting to be offensive to anyone but if you're married why isn't your partner enough?

See...we can all have an opinion on life choices of other people can't we!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhh I love the _iew from the high road..........now where did I put that cake..............

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have a wii fit age of 25 and I am 31 gooooo me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhhh I love the _iew from the high road..........now where did I put that cake.............."

Some day's you come on here and you just wondered what some people have been drinking!

We are on a site where we're fucking strangers, not knowing their sexual health, thereby putting our own health at risk and some people have the audacity to be asking other members if they worry about their health because they're fat.

You couldn't make it up on here some days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant."
TUT TUT not very nice is it?We all have our Preferences.And just to make a Point I don't find myself Unattractive And i Defo don't Need to go on a Sex site to have fun i like the NSA part of it.And after reading your Profile i could say a few things but i am a nice Person so i keep my comments to myself.It all boils down the the fact we are all Different and i Thank God for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhhh I love the _iew from the high road..........now where did I put that cake..............

Some day's you come on here and you just wondered what some people have been drinking!

We are on a site where we're fucking strangers, not knowing their sexual health, thereby putting our own health at risk and some people have the audacity to be asking other members if they worry about their health because they're fat.

You couldn't make it up on here some days! "

ooo you do have a way with words xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I AM NOT POSTING THIS TO UPSET ANYONE - Just Curious.... Do BBW not worry about their health or hearts? or that some people like them due to their size first and personality second?

NOT judging anyone here, just my wife and I tend to look for a personality that we like, well actually more than several.... Looks do not matter so much. I actually find it funny when my wife blows out some "Gods Gift" man who is trying it on in their well rehearsed slick ways...

Do married couples not worry about being promiscious with other people and the health of their marriage.

Not posting to be offensive to anyone but if you're married why isn't your partner enough?

See...we can all have an opinion on life choices of other people can't we! "

Thats answering a question, with a question, maybe you had no intention of answering it.

To answer yours, our marriage is very healthy, and we keep ourselves fit. I would say to keep ourselves healthy for each other so we can be alive together for longer!

My wife is more than enough for me, this is an extra curricular activity that we very much enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taken from Wikopedia

BBW

The term is a subjective, visually-determined concept that does not have an explicit lower or upper weight limitation, and may denote women who may be considered barely overweight to those who are morbidly obese. A 2009 study found that male fat admirers preferred females that were clinically overweight and rated both overweight and obese women more positively than slighter individuals. The study also found that participants reacted more positively to a much wider range of figures than a control group, even rating emaciated figures higher. It concludes "these findings suggest that an explanation for fat admiration may be that FAs are rejecting sociocultural norms of attractiveness".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I AM NOT POSTING THIS TO UPSET ANYONE - Just Curious.... Do BBW not worry about their health or hearts? or that some people like them due to their size first and personality second?

NOT judging anyone here, just my wife and I tend to look for a personality that we like, well actually more than several.... Looks do not matter so much. I actually find it funny when my wife blows out some "Gods Gift" man who is trying it on in their well rehearsed slick ways...

Do married couples not worry about being promiscious with other people and the health of their marriage.

Not posting to be offensive to anyone but if you're married why isn't your partner enough?

See...we can all have an opinion on life choices of other people can't we!

Thats answering a question, with a question, maybe you had no intention of answering it.

To answer yours, our marriage is very healthy, and we keep ourselves fit. I would say to keep ourselves healthy for each other so we can be alive together for longer!

My wife is more than enough for me, this is an extra curricular activity that we very much enjoy. "

Don't you just Love Couples lol...I will answer your Question from a Fatty's Point of _iew.WE should all Worry about our Health in this day and Age.As you can get some STD from not just intercourse but also from just Oral so the next time your Wife gives a Guy a BJ or you go down on a Woman are you sure they are safe?As i can only speak for Myself i am very Healthy not a thing wrong with me just be course i am Big does not mean iam unhealthy or not Fit.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant."

See this is just the sort of thing I mean. Totally uncalled for, why does anyone have to be needy to want to fuck me? Of course people are going to be defensive and aggressive when faced with posts like this! Be they fat thin gay or straight etc

As for the health thing. It is something that's plays on my mind. Bit as with those who smoke or drink its my decision whether I act on the concerns

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant."

What a fucking hoot that was to read. Seriously you obviously have some serious issues. Maybe you dont like the fact that many guys find the larger lady attractive both in swinging and everyday life. You really have made yourself look a complete idiot by completely contridicting what you wrote.

Oh and every guy ive had a serious relationship in my life havent had a natural preference for big women, ive been the only big woman they have been with but they where attracted to me as a person. My boyfriends ex wife was a size 10.

So after reading this thread i will say some slim women are aggressive and basically unattractive because they have a shit personality. But hey dont worry cause there are needy on here that will shag anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I AM BAILING OUT.

Was never my intention to cause any upset. I was asking some questions, thats all, was curious as to why people like to be pigeon holed a BBW. I think it's unhealthy to be too overwieght, the strain on your heart, knees back etc is just too much. Read again I said "I think", NOT "I am telling you this is how your life should be".

Going back to the original post, I agree, some BBW on here are very arrogant and full of themselves, and cakes..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I AM BAILING OUT.

Was never my intention to cause any upset. I was asking some questions, thats all, was curious as to why people like to be pigeon holed a BBW. I think it's unhealthy to be too overwieght, the strain on your heart, knees back etc is just too much. Read again I said "I think", NOT "I am telling you this is how your life should be".

Going back to the original post, I agree, some BBW on here are very arrogant and full of themselves, and cakes.."

errr I hate cake...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I AM BAILING OUT.

Was never my intention to cause any upset. I was asking some questions, thats all, was curious as to why people like to be pigeon holed a BBW. I think it's unhealthy to be too overwieght, the strain on your heart, knees back etc is just too much. Read again I said "I think", NOT "I am telling you this is how your life should be".

Going back to the original post, I agree, some BBW on here are very arrogant and full of themselves, and cakes.."

To be honest i didnt see anything wrong with the question you asked. But you just went and spoilt it by your last paragraph

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant."

Don't think that was called for....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"BBW'on this and other sites are often aggressive. I think its because as basically unattractive people they find that on a sex site even they are in demand from the 'needy'and this makes them over confidant and arrogant.

Don't think that was called for.... "

I do cause it proves what she has typed is a load of bollocks

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I AM BAILING OUT.

Was never my intention to cause any upset. I was asking some questions, thats all, was curious as to why people like to be pigeon holed a BBW. I think it's unhealthy to be too overwieght, the strain on your heart, knees back etc is just too much. Read again I said "I think", NOT "I am telling you this is how your life should be".

Going back to the original post, I agree, some BBW on here are very arrogant and full of themselves, and cakes..

To be honest i didnt see anything wrong with the question you asked. But you just went and spoilt it by your last paragraph"

Probably did ruin it with the throwaway cake comment... it was meant in jest, take it anyway you wish to. The last paragraph was written in response to the jumping up and down by peoples. Keep jumping and you'll loose weight.

Another couple of question for BBW's - Would you be upset if you lost weight and were no longer a BBW

Was there a point where you thought "just a few more stone and I will be BBW"

I am just curious and taking the opportunity to ask.

Also are there any BHM here advertising?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I AM BAILING OUT.

Was never my intention to cause any upset. I was asking some questions, thats all, was curious as to why people like to be pigeon holed a BBW. I think it's unhealthy to be too overwieght, the strain on your heart, knees back etc is just too much. Read again I said "I think", NOT "I am telling you this is how your life should be".

Going back to the original post, I agree, some BBW on here are very arrogant and full of themselves, and cakes.."

indeed being every offencive ....dont try and lecture people about their weight and heath issues ....i had a brother who died in feb at the age of 47 fitttest guy i know who died from sudden adult death syndrome

one thing that has tough me is live life to the max for tomorrow you might not be here. yours a BBW living life and loving it not arrogant or up my onw ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does this dummy belong to anyone???

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I AM BAILING OUT.

Was never my intention to cause any upset. I was asking some questions, thats all, was curious as to why people like to be pigeon holed a BBW. I think it's unhealthy to be too overwieght, the strain on your heart, knees back etc is just too much. Read again I said "I think", NOT "I am telling you this is how your life should be".

Going back to the original post, I agree, some BBW on here are very arrogant and full of themselves, and cakes..

To be honest i didnt see anything wrong with the question you asked. But you just went and spoilt it by your last paragraph

Probably did ruin it with the throwaway cake comment... it was meant in jest, take it anyway you wish to. The last paragraph was written in response to the jumping up and down by peoples. Keep jumping and you'll loose weight.

Another couple of question for BBW's - Would you be upset if you lost weight and were no longer a BBW

Was there a point where you thought "just a few more stone and I will be BBW"

I am just curious and taking the opportunity to ask.

Also are there any BHM here advertising?"

you would not believe it but not so many moons ago I was a size 10 and hated it why because it was not right for me..then I went to a size 24-26 and hated it.. why because it was not right for me.. Now I am a size 18-20 and love it why because its right for me..

what is right for me may not be right for everyone else but is the important part making yourself happy and not other people?

If I had a sudden urge to loose more weight I would having lost 5 stone already I stick to a healthy eating plan but if I want a blow I will because that makes ME happy.

We have to embrace who we are as individuals.

I love older guys does that make me agest?

I like a man with a big willy does that make cock sizeist no it makes me happy. So even if the cake comment was said in jest its not a nice comment to make..

Its like saying to a skinny woman you need feeding up she maybe happy that she is skinny the same as a volumptous woman maybe happy that she is she.

I am a fit person I don't need a jcb to hoist me out of the bed in the morning I walk a mile to get me to work and I do Zumba...... Do I sit here and eat cake no because that is my choice but don;'t knock someone that does because that is their choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks Diamond.

PLEASE PLEASE accept my apology if I have offended anyone. Was NOT my intention at all.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Thanks Diamond.

PLEASE PLEASE accept my apology if I have offended anyone. Was NOT my intention at all.

Have fun."

I took no offence to this and suffered many a jibe in the past and water and duck comes to mind...

Just be aware that there are some sensitive souls out there that could take these comments to heart... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it."

Hello Goddess, whats it like up there looking down on us mere mortals??

Goodbye, I'll close the door on the way out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres all sorts of resons why some people are bigger its not always like like there food ..... i know years ago i was bigger i lost two badys at 16/18 weeks and was bed rest after that i put on ....... was not easy to take off years of diets so now i am happy .... i am me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it.

Hello Goddess, whats it like up there looking down on us mere mortals??

Goodbye, I'll close the door on the way out....."

Tiresome people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a lager lady.

They are so easy and relaxed to get on with.

Not getting into any fights, but we are one, but not the same.

What one person likes, another dislikes.

Why can't we all just get on with each other x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it.

Hello Goddess, whats it like up there looking down on us mere mortals??

Goodbye, I'll close the door on the way out.....

Tiresome people!"

What I have learnt from this, is that I do not like You! Sassy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol "

shout ! errr i thought you just had cap lock on by mistake lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blimey ....it all kicked off in this one .....my forpennorth for whatt its worth ...ive been a size 10 ive been a size 22 was a 14 when i married im a 16 /18 now ...i know this is my natural fighting weight and i never "go on a diet " now...im healthy and happy i play sport i keep fit and have loads of energy when it comes to playing !! i dont stuff my face with cakes every day in fact im a very healthy eater. im just happy to be the person god made me ..i dont take offence if people call me a bbw but i wouldnt ever use the term myself..and a lot of the whole weight issue is about our natural body make up and metabolism ...my sister who eats and drinks far more than i do doesnt take any excercise is a natural size 8 to 10 shes never been any bigger than a 12 ... we are who we are ......

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it.

Hello Goddess, whats it like up there looking down on us mere mortals??

Goodbye, I'll close the door on the way out.....

Tiresome people!

What I have learnt from this, is that I do not like You! Sassy."

this was taken for the botton of you post :Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence

you work it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to put a bit of fuel on the fire...................... And this is directed at both men and women of a certain category.

The UK is second only to the USA in terms of obesity rates amongst the adult population. There is a ticking time bomb of diabetes and cholestrol associated blood and arterial diseases amongst the sedant 30-50 year old population.

Is is a form of political and social correctness that we invent expressions like BBW when really tough love suggests that if we actually thought anything at all about these people we should be encouraging them to reduce their BMI.

As a 17 stone male, my Partner told me that she loved "big" men cos it made her feel secure - so I kept eating the pies. My GP told me a different story and said that unless I reduced my BMI and cholestrol I had a 95% chance of becoming diabetic and/or having a stroke within ten years.

Lets get real folks and give women (and men) the encouragment that they need (if they want it) rather than creating expressiions and abbreviations with the sole intention of trying to make someone feel good about themselves. I accept that it is all personal choice and you can't force someone to adopt a new lifestyle and get an improved healthy body but surely the right thing to do is to encourage people to do the right thing and NOT pander to an insecurity that keeps them where they are.

To all overweight people who want to stay that way - I understand that we all have choices and you have yours but I have NEVER met anyone who was overweight who truly did not want to lose it. But I accept that I have not met everyone in the world and I probably have not met you. Having said that I respect you enough to NOT call you (as a woman) a BBW because whilst I think it may be politically correct - and inclusive - in my opinion it sends out the wrong message to you.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol

shout ! errr i thought you just had cap lock on by mistake lol"

ermmmmmmm no caps was on for a very good reason but seems the origonal poster missed my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it.

Hello Goddess, whats it like up there looking down on us mere mortals??

Goodbye, I'll close the door on the way out.....

Tiresome people!

What I have learnt from this, is that I do not like You! Sassy."

I'm tearing up at that! Devasted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imalady, you are very sexy and beautiful xxx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I think some people just can't help showing themselves up for what they are. Today we've had racist claiming not to be - thankfully the Mods removed that post, and people making nasty comments about the size of others then pretending not to offend.

Oh well, if it makes them feel good about themselves, so be it.

Hello Goddess, whats it like up there looking down on us mere mortals??

Goodbye, I'll close the door on the way out.....

Tiresome people!

What I have learnt from this, is that I do not like You! Sassy.

I'm tearing up at that! Devasted! "

Thought you might of said something like that

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Phew. Well some points well made on here and some people who are not really able to have a discussion without getting wound up and hurling insults about which is a shame. Anything to do with weight issues in women does often seem to get over emotional which is the bit I was concerned about. Just want to say that the op was not about the issue of weight, who has it and who is right or wrong, simply the intolerance of women by women. You dont look like me so you are either unattractive or have a crap personality. I havent noticed slimmer people insulting larger too much on the Forums (although I suspect this probably happens more by pm) before but had noticed larger women saying that others who are not are stuck up or have no personalities. My point is.... either way is obviously shite! We all know that out on the street there are people of all looks, shapes and sizes and they are going about their lives WITH PERSONALITIES and partners who are attracted to them. Aside from maybe health issues for those on BOTH ends of the scale clearly people feel there is no right or wrong, so therefore should just be acceptance. Appreciate we all have our sexual preferences and that is our right. Clearly also everyone should not be tarred with the same brush. I was really noticing that if a bbw or bbw couple said they only met larger people they sometimes felt they went on to say this was because they went for personalities and slim attractive ones are stuck up their own arse or didnt have one. No one would then call them out on this but just skated over it. Now would the same happen if a slimmer personal said they only met slim cos the larger ones are just lazy or loud or some such crap? No, would be drummed off the Forum. My point is this is NOT a weight issue its about good manners and not attacking other women for no reason. eg... recently at a party and got chatting a nice new couple. Their first time so wanted to help them relax. What you would call an average couple, neither large small or indifferent. After a little chat the lady said to me that she always assessed the room she walked wherever she was when they went out. Where were the women who were more attractive than her, how many and what was her position amongst them all as a whole. My husband immediately reassured her that no matter what no woman was going to come over and launch herself over her husband so she should try not to think like that, bless him. He was right but as a male missed the point. This was their first party and she ALWAYS does it no matter where they socialise. I thought it sad but maybe not unusual in my experience. I guess the answer is, if you lash out against others for no reason other than they do not look like you it is due to your insecurites so maybe you should examine those and what you can do about them. I do regret posting this thread as clearly some feelings were hurt along the way and the issue became one of fat or thin which was not the intention but maybe thought provoking enough not to have been a total mistake. Here's hoping no more insults appear and its laid to rest.

Mistress x

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"It's a general thing, not confined to Fab and not confined to swinging.

It's an extension of the "we're wonderful and, if you're like us, you can be wonderful too" contention.

BBWs use it to annoy/ upset/ bait/ etc their slimmer counterparts.

Their slimmer counterparts reciprocate though not, it seems to me (and not just on Fab), quite so vociferously or so regularly.

I don't know where the balance of the truth lies save for the fact there's a multi-billion £ 'get slim' industry out there and I don't see any 'become a BBW' counterpart.

TREAT PEOPLE WELL.... RESPECT DIFFRENCE...... HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL NOT JUST THE CHOOSEN FEW ......FORGIVE WRONGS AND JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU DO OTHERS....... PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS SO DONT HURT THEIR FEELINGS BUy BEING INSENSITIVE B*******S sorry felt i had to shout to to make ppl take note lol

shout ! errr i thought you just had cap lock on by mistake lol

ermmmmmmm no caps was on for a very good reason but seems the origonal poster missed my point "

I think you missed mine too... hopefully the posting above will clarify.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres all sorts of resons why some people are bigger its not always like like there food ..... i know years ago i was bigger i lost two badys at 16/18 weeks and was bed rest after that i put on ....... was not easy to take off years of diets so now i am happy .... i am me"
i was there 8 weeks and over having a go at having babys bed rest was monthes ........... but told i could do very little ... i know its years ago ....... all i am saying theres resons why .why people put on pounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this whole thread is really funny.

Only a few with glanular problems have a reason to be overweight. Most BIG girls (and boys for that matter) eat too much and dont take enough exercise..

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

closes the door softly behind her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this whole thread is really funny.

Only a few with glanular problems have a reason to be overweight. Most BIG girls (and boys for that matter) eat too much and dont take enough exercise.."

well i am now a 14 would be nice to see you and me in a room i have long legs nig tits .... thay would like us both even when i was a 16 size is not everything is the person. people are more then a size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"closes the door softly behind her "
WHY was your post x i am a bigger woman and can take most you size 6/8/10 12 on . lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the Mods deserve a pat on the back, they haven't been over zealous and closed this debate. It's good to see people being allowed to sort it out for themselves.

Whatever your point of _iew, to those that have resorted to insults or being unnecessarily rude, you should be embarrased.

I do think the Ops original question was a valid one, whether it's been answered in the melée that followed is open to debate, but one thing in my humble opinion is clear.

Generalisation is a lazy, irresponsible, ill-informed way to debate most arguments. I'm sure many of us believe this, but it still finds a way of dominating the forums.

For the record I don't like the term BBW, just like I don't like the term BBC etc and so forth. They are labels that mask over an individual.

I'm for individuals without labels wherever possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the Mods deserve a pat on the back, they haven't been over zealous and closed this debate. It's good to see people being allowed to sort it out for themselves.

Whatever your point of _iew, to those that have resorted to insults or being unnecessarily rude, you should be embarrased.

I do think the Ops original question was a valid one, whether it's been answered in the melée that followed is open to debate, but one thing in my humble opinion is clear.

Generalisation is a lazy, irresponsible, ill-informed way to debate most arguments. I'm sure many of us believe this, but it still finds a way of dominating the forums.

For the record I don't like the term BBW, just like I don't like the term BBC etc and so forth. They are labels that mask over an individual.

I'm for individuals without labels wherever possible.

"

You always have a way of putting things nicely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You always have a way of putting things nicely! you do and i love your post here very much to the point ....... you say thing how thay are ...... and i love that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads are wasted really... as there are some people that just are so full of vitriol and or have so little intelligence you are wasting time (much like i am doing now) trying to explain.

Bottom line..these threads illuminate the ugly people...fat and thin alike.

However i would also point out that vitriol and the attempt to make another feel bad about themselves due to they way they look..is the very reason a positive label was created..much in the same way people use athletic instead of skinny.

For those who feel the need to get on their high horse...always remember the fall is far more damaging than the climb up!!

Vol

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly just testing the freedom of press on here and secondly not looking for an argument just curious. Until Fab I cant say I was very aware of this term or maybe didnt really think about it. However, after reading different threads of the past few months Im given to wondering..... why is it that people who describe themselves as big beautiful women can be very scathing towards others who are not as large. It appears that they feel they are the only ones allowed to use the b. word and that if you are over a certain size this makes you automatically entitled to it. Is this a swinging phenominen or just a general thing. Apparantly if you say bbw are not for you its your loss and if you say you are attractive but not large you are stuck up your own arse. Im sensing some double standards here ... is it just me thats wondering? Would really like to see people replying in a polite mannered way. Im by no means bashing anyone. Simply curious about those that feel they are entitled to bash others either way and hoping they will see the others point of _iew and be a little more openminded! Us girls all have our insecurites no matter what our size or looks. Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence. Yours, hopefully but not holding her breath, Mistress "

Its all down to a secret movement called the Fattist Freedom Front but i cant say any more Shhhhhhhhhhhhh

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"closes the door softly behind her WHY was your post x i am a bigger woman and can take most you size 6/8/10 12 on . lol"

Ok, sneaked head back in. Lol. Well prob because I had had a couple of glasses of rose when I posted this and rambled over too many points which I felt were ignored in favour of a fat or thin debate.

Just for vthe record I'm not skinny, have curves myself and would rather enjoy being in the same room as you.

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Firstly just testing the freedom of press on here and secondly not looking for an argument just curious. Until Fab I cant say I was very aware of this term or maybe didnt really think about it. However, after reading different threads of the past few months Im given to wondering..... why is it that people who describe themselves as big beautiful women can be very scathing towards others who are not as large. It appears that they feel they are the only ones allowed to use the b. word and that if you are over a certain size this makes you automatically entitled to it. Is this a swinging phenominen or just a general thing. Apparantly if you say bbw are not for you its your loss and if you say you are attractive but not large you are stuck up your own arse. Im sensing some double standards here ... is it just me thats wondering? Would really like to see people replying in a polite mannered way. Im by no means bashing anyone. Simply curious about those that feel they are entitled to bash others either way and hoping they will see the others point of _iew and be a little more openminded! Us girls all have our insecurites no matter what our size or looks. Why oh why cant we stick together more and not tear someone down if they appear to have a little self confidence. Yours, hopefully but not holding her breath, Mistress

Its all down to a secret movement called the Fattist Freedom Front but i cant say any more Shhhhhhhhhhhhh"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"closes the door softly behind her WHY was your post x i am a bigger woman and can take most you size 6/8/10 12 on . lol

Ok, sneaked head back in. Lol. Well prob because I had had a couple of glasses of rose when I posted this and rambled over too many points which I felt were ignored in favour of a fat or thin debate.

Just for vthe record I'm not skinny, have curves myself and would rather enjoy being in the same room as you.

"

Thats ok as may like to be in same room as you xx

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

Whilst I don't really like the use of labels I understand why they are used in this pass time which is my label for this 'pursuit'

I do like the term 'Botacelli'.

Simply because the artist in question celebrated shall I say the more curvaceous form.

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