FabSwingers.com forum: They dont like others to know they have met you.

By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Have you noticed how some people on here dont leave you a verification but they do others. For instance a man i met a couple of times left someone a verification saying how inteligent they were and another i met a couple of times said how someone he had met was slim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you said anything to these men about how you feel?

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By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Have you said anything to these men about how you feel?"

No i wouldnt want to let them think it bothered me. They would only tell me a white lie anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've noticed some don't publish my veris, i just presume they wanna keep me to themelves.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

See I don't tend to publish my veris as I already have a few on my profile, they're proof i'm real. I've never asked for a verification though and those I've had have been given without discussion. Maybe you need to ask for a veri if you want one...see what the response is then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens but then there are those I don't always leave veri's for so swings an roundabouts I usually mention I don't like being left explicit ones.

If it's bothering you maybe to bring it up in a light hearted way, maybe a simple reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am so unbothered by veris - i give them out and if not returned so be it- only show a rare one or two anyway as had stupid messages over the years over people we met -

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Have you noticed how some people on here dont leave you a verification but they do others. For instance a man i met a couple of times left someone a verification saying how inteligent they were and another i met a couple of times said how someone he had met was slim. "

Think you are just projecting your own self doubts . Why does it mean they don't want others to know they met you? Did they actually say that? If so then not the kind of person you'd want to meet again or be verified by anyway. If not then you are reading too much in to the situation .

Best idea is to stop reading who he's verified and just enjoy having fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could it be that they already had a veri off that person, then gave one back, out of respect? If you haven't brought up a veri, perhaps they don't think you want one? That's happened to me before. Even to the point that one asked if I'd write him one, and I agreed. He was very pleased with it, but as I didnt specifically ask for one back, he didn't bloody bother writing me one, the sod

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By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Thanks for the replys, some good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet somebody and they don't verify me I take from that they didn't enjoy the meet, no need to dwell on it, nobody is for everybody

I've met plenty of guys and not verified them for this very reason

You verify meets you feel are worth verifying and skip those you don't and others will do the same to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't leave veris for people that I haven't really enjoyed meeting - no spark shit sex etc etc

I never ask for a veri. If I get one I presume people want to do it cos they have enjoyed meeting me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't have the need to advertise who I'm having sex with. I just find it a bit odd. But I do play the game and give and receive them if that's what is important to people I meet.

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By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"If I meet somebody and they don't verify me I take from that they didn't enjoy the meet, no need to dwell on it, nobody is for everybody

I've met plenty of guys and not verified them for this very reason

You verify meets you feel are worth verifying and skip those you don't and others will do the same to you "

The men i am mentioning have seen me twice and one of them wants to see me again though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I meet somebody and they don't verify me I take from that they didn't enjoy the meet, no need to dwell on it, nobody is for everybody

I've met plenty of guys and not verified them for this very reason

You verify meets you feel are worth verifying and skip those you don't and others will do the same to you

The men i am mentioning have seen me twice and one of them wants to see me again though."

That's just the above poster's way/reasoning behind why they don't personally leave a veri. Doesn't mean that's how everyone does it. As you said, they've met you twice, and want to meet you again.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I only ever write them if I am asked to or if someone writes me one. I assume they, like me, aren't that bothered otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find this a problem also, because if people see you not got many they may presume you not real,, can be a right pain x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"If I meet somebody and they don't verify me I take from that they didn't enjoy the meet, no need to dwell on it, nobody is for everybody

I've met plenty of guys and not verified them for this very reason

You verify meets you feel are worth verifying and skip those you don't and others will do the same to you

The men i am mentioning have seen me twice and one of them wants to see me again though."
some people dont hinge their liking you or meeting you and enjoying time together on whether they veri you or not..some people actually dont give a shit about veris. maybe they just want to keep you to themselves or dont want it plastered everywhere that they see you regularly,

i offer a warning with a veri, you can have one from me but you might get shit off of other people(as its happened before) its upto them whether they say yes please or no thankyou. there have been misunderstanding though where people have verified me but because of my filters they have not been received and the same with people waiting for mine...id vote for a received veri button on site, save loads of awkward moments on here.

enjoy your meets, dont assume people want to hide you for 'negative' reasons, so often that is wrong..hugs xx

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Did you verify them?

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

I prefer to let my profile and pictures do the selling.

If you want more verifications , I would ask those whom you have meet to write you one .

In any event everyone knows that you are real as you are a regular contributor to the forum and make lots of interesting posts .

You also have four impressive verificationa already .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find that as our time on fab goes on we receive less veris . Not that it matters as we have more than enough , but it's clear that those we meet would rather not let others know they have met us .

Bothered ?

Not one bit , way past caring as the meet is all that matters to us .

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By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"We find that as our time on fab goes on we receive less veris . Not that it matters as we have more than enough , but it's clear that those we meet would rather not let others know they have met us .

Bothered ?

Not one bit , way past caring as the meet is all that matters to us ."

Yes youre right really, maybe also they prefer other people not to know they have met me because of my pictures, im not bothered about having more verifications though, i had a lot last year and deleted my acount so i could get rid of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing that they are nice people who like to give other nice people good verifications that are true.

And didn't wanna hurt your feelings by leaving a honest one like

"met this lady. She was ungrateful, arrogant and so far up her own arse"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I see it.i meet a cpl every few weeks I go to their house.clean it etc. But they don't want anyone on here knowing that because they part of a group who someone on here not like me.

So they afraid they be asked to leave the group.

But she likes having her house cleaned.

So the other people might know someone who not like you. But they like you etc

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i know some veris don't come through cos of filters on accounts..had this several times, giving and receiving veris, where they have been written..its led to some misunderstandings.. i wish fab would add a veri received/ acknowledged, button, so that this didn't happen

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By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I'm guessing that they are nice people who like to give other nice people good verifications that are true.

And didn't wanna hurt your feelings by leaving a honest one like

"met this lady. She was ungrateful, arrogant and so far up her own arse""

Ungrateful for what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing that they are nice people who like to give other nice people good verifications that are true.

And didn't wanna hurt your feelings by leaving a honest one like

"met this lady. She was ungrateful, arrogant and so far up her own arse"

Ungrateful for what?

Just going in how you treat your family when they buy you a decent Xmas card. If that's how you treat family I'd hate to think how you treat others

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By *etter the devil you know OP Woman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"As I see it.i meet a cpl every few weeks I go to their house.clean it etc. But they don't want anyone on here knowing that because they part of a group who someone on here not like me.

So they afraid they be asked to leave the group.

But she likes having her house cleaned.

So the other people might know someone who not like you. But they like you etc"

Yes i thought of that too especialy if you meet people who post on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know some veris don't come through cos of filters on accounts..had this several times, giving and receiving veris, where they have been written..its led to some misunderstandings.. i wish fab would add a veri received/ acknowledged, button, so that this didn't happen "

You'd thing Veri's would bypass the filters. A bit of an oversight really!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd thing Veri's would bypass the filters. A bit of an oversight really!?!

It does bypass filters same as if you message or wink someone who is filtered then they can message/wink you back

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

I use to verify everybody I met social or play meets

Since reopening my profile I tell the guys I don't do verifications as like to keep who I meet private,they tend to agree (I would verify a newbie but wouldn't expect one back

Previous experience I use to verify everybody and some did them back,some didn't,yes I saw some verify others but not me,even though met more than once

Think the verification system should be letting people know your real,it gets a bit daft at times,can make you paranoid,are you good anough to be seen on there profile,are you good anough for them to be seen on your profile

Personally all I like is to meet and have fun..verifications don't worry me now a days

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