FabSwingers.com forum: being judged on the way you play

By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Dont you just hate it. Gets right up our noses,have freinds of ours where the lady only plays with women and he wont play with anyone else and they so get Judged and nasty comments. GOD it pisses me off, each to their own way of playing i say. We have mentioned to ppl we would like to try seperate rooms, but only in a club when we are both in the same club and well the comments we have got. We always prefer to meet TOGETHER but i was just stating a example, for some reason if i wasnt in the mood ( million to one chance ) or there was ppl we liked who wasnt a couple, and if we was in our fave club then i wouldnt mind then playing seperate. But some ppl seem to frown upon this and try and talk us out of it. There would be no other circumstance we would ever play seperate

Opss shit am i going off the topic lol

waffle waffle waffle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of things we like is that most people at the Tease 2 are not judgemental in any way, but then again... I have been judged Mental!!

One of the many things we found, is that personality goes along way to making people attractive....so those that are judgemental towards others just don't float our boat!!

Shit its only Sunday...too long till Friday for the Long Hard weekend..

You coming to Tease on Saturday??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody should be judged on the way they play it is their choice and if people don't like it they can always move on elsewhere!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Judgement shouldn't come into it. You either want to play a certain way or not. If your not a match you don't play. Don't get the prob. Everyones limits are different. Its bizarre.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

This isn't something that we've ever encountered, if some one plays in a way that we don't, we just don't enter into dialogue with them, it isn't rocket science and to pass judgement on others is just plain wrong. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have this alot to as we dont do m/f kissing but its the only thing we keep for just us. but each to their own we just move on

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Each to their own!

As long as all parties know going into it then no one has a right to judge anyone else.

To us if you are judging how others play with your own missconceptions then you haven't embraced the lifestyle.

No one can force anyone else to play a certain way but everyone has the right to say 'that's not for me/us'

Forget what others think and play in whatever way gets you off the most lol

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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Ohhh we have never had this in actual play, its just come across in general conversation. And our reply is each to their own. x

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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

"One of things we like is that most people at the Tease 2 are not judgemental in any way, but then again... I have been judged Mental!!

One of the many things we found, is that personality goes along way to making people attractive....so those that are judgemental towards others just don't float our boat!!

Shit its only Sunday...too long till Friday for the Long Hard weekend..

You coming to Tease on Saturday??"

Judged mental, ohhh in that case Snap, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the title of the thread I thought simon Cowell had just launched a new show

XXX factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I going to Hollywood!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I going to Hollywood!!"

lol can we come to we are willing to travel in your cases

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

How you play is your business no one elses. State at the start what you do and others should show due respect.

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

Each to their own is what we say too.

I think as long as you are up front about what you do and do not like, then what right has anyone got to judge?, they hav'nt, simple as that.

We all like what we like etc, but I think there is always going to be something that perhaps gets your curiosity going :]

Although we state a couple or three simply rules on our profile, we still say, "never say never"

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I remember being at a club one evening, eyeing up this lady (female half of couple that play with single guys, lol, limbering up once again to go talk to her trying to get courage for months) and this other couple were talking to them (ok, female half of another couple, the male was quiet).

The female of the second couple was effectively having a go at them for playing with single guys (ie, the first lady playing with single guys while hubby watched) saying how it was much better to play with couples. I found it hilarious (and slightly hypocritical) seeing as she herself doesn't play as per her profile... ie, does not play with anyone she's not in a relationship with. Weird science?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember being at a club one evening, eyeing up this lady (female half of couple that play with single guys, lol, limbering up once again to go talk to her trying to get courage for months) and this other couple were talking to them (ok, female half of another couple, the male was quiet).

thats funny, it does seem to be the woman who have been judgemental, never any men.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

life would be boring if we all played the same.... surely variety is a better experience..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we agree....each to their own and all that....we clearly state how we like to play yet we still get people trying to change things or asking us to do other stuff.....we say the same...if you dont like what we do...dont mail us!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why would anyone allow themselves to be judged..

there are people for all on here, if others don't get what you are into too.. hey, thats their choice..and should have ZERO impact on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We remember the compliments and do forget the criticism....or try to.

Personally I am surprised to find that people can be judgemental, yet consider themselves to be, both broad, and open minded.

We like the way friendships are instant, whatever way the wind is blowing... and we like the massive laughs we all have due to the lack of attitude and lack of "alpha" male types in the club we go to...unlike a "norms" club...where fun and frolicks are the last thing on boozed up boyz minds.... I like Fridays for f*&king, not Fighting..

Chapter 2....Tangents and why we go off on them!

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