FabSwingers.com forum: Is the grass always greener

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Answers much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

greener where ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you be a bit more specific?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Answers much appreciated "

Not always..but occasionally

Trouble is seeing how green ( or not) before you jump the fence!

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how often you water your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try sowing kentucky bluegrass and perennial ryegrass both known to yield dark green grass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it can be greener, one has to face the fact there could be less of it though. It may not grow back quite so green next year either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"greener where ??"
on the other side. Leaving 1 for another

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Never greener .....always different

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"depends how often you water your own."
I'm guessing not enough. However happy to water someone elses

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never greener .....always different "
heart ache n baggage

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Cheers, Yoda...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its greener but only because its fake!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes its greener but only because its fake!"

Can you explain please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes its greener but only because its fake!

Can you explain please"

means things look better on the other side because they're fake.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

its always greener where the dog hasnt peed on it ....

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Yes its greener but only because its fake!

Can you explain please"

Maybe you could take the lead in this regard?

You seem to have something you think you're saying, but we're all scrabbling around trying to establish a context for your metaphor.

What's the actual problem?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

It is part of the human condition that we think about the things we haven't got rather than about what we do.

Simple

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"It is part of the human condition that we think about the things we haven't got rather than about what we do.

Simple "
dig up the grass and start again...why faff about?

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms

The grass maybe greener but it still has to be looked after and sooner or later s will appear, will you then want to go in search for greener grass again !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's mainly concrete round here so can't comment really......

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"It is part of the human condition that we think about the things we haven't got rather than about what we do.

Simple dig up the grass and start again...why faff about?"

Yes, grass is easy to grow and metaphor is cheap...

Life can be a little more complicated, although as I say humans have a tendency to overcomplicate matters further

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"The grass maybe greener but it still has to be looked after and sooner or later s will appear, will you then want to go in search for greener grass again !!!!!"
s are often just flowers in the perceived 'wrong' place..accept and enjoy what is, what comes and goes whats in the now..there isnt a past and there isnt a future, change comes from within in an instant, when you really want it...

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

The grass is greener wherever you water it.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Sounds like you need to make some changes ...

If so ....you need to work hard at it .....you reep what you sow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes the grass can be greener, but It needs attention to keep it growing year after year,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is pampas grass that you're on about right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try sowing kentucky bluegrass and perennial ryegrass both known to yield dark green grass."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up"

I'm afraid it will be your wife who ultimately makes the decision now. Give her the space she has asked for.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

How the heck can anyone answer that,but probably not you just have a different set of problems with a different person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Answers much appreciated "

the grass is always greener in Wales as its always raining

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I'm afraid it will be your wife who ultimately makes the decision now. Give her the space she has asked for. "

and if you want her pray she's not like me,I moved on...he lost everything for a shag. Clearly myself and my children lost as well,enormously! I tried to tell myself he was just fucking her,but my heart told me differently,we were dead!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I asked him to move out,I alway's thought we'd probably get back together,but 7 months later I found someone else so that was that. I don't think people realise their actions at time,how people are prepared to lose everything for a shag.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Never greener could be a different texture

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A horrible situation to be in. Give your wife a few days space, sort your own head out and decide what you really want and can live with going forward. Then ask your wife to meet you to talk, mediation might help. Good luck with whatever happens.

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

This reminds me of a Punk girl who had dyed her pubic hair green and had had the words 'Keep off the grass' tattooed above it. After attending a gyno appointment, she awoke from her anaesthesia to discover her green pubes shaved and scrawled in biro above her tattoo, the words 'Sorry love, had to mow the lawn.....'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Answers much appreciated "

Might look greener, but could be artificial.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Not always, as I know plenty have regretted jumping the fence.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

2 weeks ago and yesterday you put up a status to meet people??

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Sometimes it appears greener as it's fake.

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By *orny47suckmenowMan
over a year ago

maidstone

I have made the same choice, didn't sleep around, but needed something more in my life.

I know it might take a long time to find it, and I will always hold something dear for my ex, as we spent 22 years together and she gave me two wonderful children.

We have not broken nastily and I hope it stays that way, and I hope that one day I will meet my perfect woman, but 1st I have to work on myself at getting happy and enjoying life as it comes.

You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

It appears to me that your wife has made the right decision. If you haven't had a wake up call, but you are still on this site looking for women then you don't deserve to get her back. One vote for team wife from me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have made the same choice, didn't sleep around, but needed something more in my life.

I know it might take a long time to find it, and I will always hold something dear for my ex, as we spent 22 years together and she gave me two wonderful children.

We have not broken nastily and I hope it stays that way, and I hope that one day I will meet my perfect woman, but 1st I have to work on myself at getting happy and enjoying life as it comes.

You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??"

I agree with you to an extent. The problems start when the pursuit of your own happiness means other people are made miserable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have made the same choice, didn't sleep around, but needed something more in my life.

I know it might take a long time to find it, and I will always hold something dear for my ex, as we spent 22 years together and she gave me two wonderful children.

We have not broken nastily and I hope it stays that way, and I hope that one day I will meet my perfect woman, but 1st I have to work on myself at getting happy and enjoying life as it comes.

You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??

I agree with you to an extent. The problems start when the pursuit of your own happiness means other people are made miserable."

But if a person is unhappy how can they make others happy?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??

I agree with you to an extent. The problems start when the pursuit of your own happiness means other people are made miserable.

But if a person is unhappy how can they make others happy?"

It's a conundrum to be sure. Life is never straightforward is it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I'm on this site as I like talking never met anyone. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this. I love her dearly and wish I could turn back the clock.

Yes I asked to meet but does that mean I want to sleep with someone??? No it doesn't. Maybe I just wanted to talk with someone who doesn't know me or the wife and for them to just listen Whilst I talk

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Yes I'm on this site as I like talking never met anyone. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this. I love her dearly and wish I could turn back the clock.

If you just want someone to talk to about your problems you may be in the wrong place. I personally couldn't think of anything worse,I come on here for sex and a distraction,not to listen to others issue's at home. We're all on here for different reasons though so you may find someone.

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

The grass may appear greener on the other side only because it has been fertilised with BULL SHIT !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes I'm on this site as I like talking never met anyone. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this. I love her dearly and wish I could turn back the clock.

This is a genuine suggestion. You could contact Relate for relationship counselling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how short you cut it

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

I understand and sympathize with your reply. Ask yourself this question. If your wife finds out that you are on this site for whatever reason.. Going to help or hinder you mending the relationship. If yes then stay... If no... And I think no is the answer.. Then leave and have as clean as possible plate with nothing to mess up a makeup if she comes back.

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

"Yes I'm on this site. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this."

Did you talk to her about....

Any of this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't of confessed unless you planned to leave your marriage. But you can't undo it now, so hold on tight, ride the storm and whatever happens, it will all work out one way or another. Good luck with your wife,keep the lines of communication open and be patient with her. X

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