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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home "

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope the op of thread #1 will appreciate everyone's contributions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home "

I meet men who generally are away on business on mutual ground so unless their OH is following them halfway across the country it ain't going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you "

Can you please clarify what you mean ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

I meet men who generally are away on business on mutual ground so unless their OH is following them halfway across the country it ain't going to happen.

"

exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope the op of thread #1 will appreciate everyone's contributions. "

I'm sure he will. It's a great thread. I enjoy a healthy debate, as long as there is no judgemental nastiness or offences thrown around directly at anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

Can you please clarify what you mean ?"

I mean that there is a militant element who like to tell people how to live their life without knowing anything about said life. You very bravely threw yourself in to that and have given them the Neo 'come at me' pose by starting part 2.

And you've done it all without getting a forum time out. I'm not sure I could do that which is why I generally stay away from these but as I can't PM you I'm saying it here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

Can you please clarify what you mean ?

I mean that there is a militant element who like to tell people how to live their life without knowing anything about said life. You very bravely threw yourself in to that and have given them the Neo 'come at me' pose by starting part 2.

And you've done it all without getting a forum time out. I'm not sure I could do that which is why I generally stay away from these but as I can't PM you I'm saying it here."

??????

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I hope the op of thread #1 will appreciate everyone's contributions.

I'm sure he will. It's a great thread. I enjoy a healthy debate, as long as there is no judgemental nastiness or offences thrown around directly at anyone "

It's a shame that can't apply to all threads, isn't it though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope the op of thread #1 will appreciate everyone's contributions.

I'm sure he will. It's a great thread. I enjoy a healthy debate, as long as there is no judgemental nastiness or offences thrown around directly at anyone

It's a shame that can't apply to all threads, isn't it though? "

Quite

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

Can you please clarify what you mean ?

I mean that there is a militant element who like to tell people how to live their life without knowing anything about said life. You very bravely threw yourself in to that and have given them the Neo 'come at me' pose by starting part 2.

And you've done it all without getting a forum time out. I'm not sure I could do that which is why I generally stay away from these but as I can't PM you I'm saying it here."

I've PM you

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I hope the op of thread #1 will appreciate everyone's contributions. "

I'm sure he will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I hope the op of thread #1 will appreciate everyone's contributions.

I'm sure he will. It's a great thread. I enjoy a healthy debate, as long as there is no judgemental nastiness or offences thrown around directly at anyone

It's a shame that can't apply to all threads, isn't it though?

Quite "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think some posts become rather personal and there's no need . While I may not agree with cheating,understand it or want to be involved that doesn't mean I instantly hate everyone who does cheat . I judge people on their whole selves not a small part of them

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow


"Yes I think some posts become rather personal and there's no need . While I may not agree with cheating,understand it or want to be involved that doesn't mean I instantly hate everyone who does cheat . I judge people on their whole selves not a small part of them "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I think some posts become rather personal and there's no need . While I may not agree with cheating,understand it or want to be involved that doesn't mean I instantly hate everyone who does cheat . I judge people on their whole selves not a small part of them "

You talk a lot of sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday "

You brave naughty man

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

Can you please clarify what you mean ?

I mean that there is a militant element who like to tell people how to live their life without knowing anything about said life. You very bravely threw yourself in to that and have given them the Neo 'come at me' pose by starting part 2.

And you've done it all without getting a forum time out. I'm not sure I could do that which is why I generally stay away from these but as I can't PM you I'm saying it here."

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?"

You don't have to join in this thread if you don't see the purpose of a second one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man "
That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Yes I think some posts become rather personal and there's no need . While I may not agree with cheating,understand it or want to be involved that doesn't mean I instantly hate everyone who does cheat . I judge people on their whole selves not a small part of them

You talk a lot of sense "

Well I certainly don't hate anyone on here and I don't think any poster has expressed this either, but correct me if I'm wrong I think it opens people's eyes to the fact that we all have different lives and deal with our relationships in the way that suits us best, regardless of other's opinions

Good thread

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?

You don't have to join in this thread if you don't see the purpose of a second one "

Aww hun, that's the joy of the forums. You can comment where you like with what you like with as many passive aggressive emojis as wanted.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?"

Not sure where lack of class comes into it. The purpose of creating a second thread speaks for itself, by the number of people posting on the first thread. Makes for interesting reading, I would say

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?

You don't have to join in this thread if you don't see the purpose of a second one "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?

Not sure where lack of class comes into it. The purpose of creating a second thread speaks for itself, by the number of people posting on the first thread. Makes for interesting reading, I would say "

My thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Regardless of viewpoint I do think that the previous thread was rather tame having seen others where lack of class are apparently the reason behind doing something... I'm not quite sure the purpose of creating a second thread - it's quite clear that there are those who agree, those who aren't fussed and those who dislike it. Unless of course this is a filter thread or an appreciation one?

You don't have to join in this thread if you don't see the purpose of a second one

Aww hun, that's the joy of the forums. You can comment where you like with what you like with as many passive aggressive emojis as wanted. "

Exactly. Happy days.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day "

And we both know that naughty can be oh so good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Guys

Being risqué is all part of the turn on .

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Hubby's wondering where his dinner is! Playful, if this thread fills up before I get back, can you start thread 3!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Great thread "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Guys

Being risqué is all part of the turn on . "

Ahhh....a gentleman who understands some of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hubby's wondering where his dinner is! Playful, if this thread fills up before I get back, can you start thread 3! "

I will. I'm just off to cook my hubbys meal too....see I do love him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it true that most people who cheat blame their partners for putting them in the position where they have to look elsewhere for sex? Or will some just admit that they just can't stay faithful?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Hubby's wondering where his dinner is! Playful, if this thread fills up before I get back, can you start thread 3!

I will. I'm just off to cook my hubbys meal too....see I do love him

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so we might be on thread 4 by the time we get back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I am in a relationship and she doesn't know.

Call me what you like I am quite aware it is morally wrong.

However I have a very high sex drive and find the whole adventure exciting.

I also believe it enhances my sex life at home.

Not met on here yet and may never but the chatting flirting is a great pass time.

It's very difficult to explain the urge to play with different folk and whilst morally wrong, it is who I am so I'm not afraid to accept it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hubby's wondering where his dinner is! Playful, if this thread fills up before I get back, can you start thread 3!

I will. I'm just off to cook my hubbys meal too....see I do love him

so we might be on thread 4 by the time we get back "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday "

Well, if hubby is in the pub watching footy, he's not hurrying back home anytime soon.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If there are any married men on this thread in the Northampton area, message me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it true that most people who cheat blame their partners for putting them in the position where they have to look elsewhere for sex? Or will some just admit that they just can't stay faithful? "

I was faithful for 18 years. Hubby has numerous affairs and for the past three years hasn't touched me. Yes, I blame him 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

And we both know that naughty can be oh so good "
That is right we do, it is very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admit I'm as horny as hell and love being risqué

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

Well, if hubby is in the pub watching footy, he's not hurrying back home anytime soon. "
Yes as he will have many pints too there, so can take few hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it true that most people who cheat blame their partners for putting them in the position where they have to look elsewhere for sex? Or will some just admit that they just can't stay faithful? "

I don't know if that's true as every relationship / situation will be different.

I don't place blame or justify on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Now I am in a relationship and she doesn't know.

Call me what you like I am quite aware it is morally wrong.

However I have a very high sex drive and find the whole adventure exciting.

I also believe it enhances my sex life at home.

Not met on here yet and may never but the chatting flirting is a great pass time.

It's very difficult to explain the urge to play with different folk and whilst morally wrong, it is who I am so I'm not afraid to accept it."

That's very admirable of you to post all of that. And you're right. It is our lives and we are within our rights to live it how we choose, even if is morally wrong. But wrong can also feel so right at times too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now I am in a relationship and she doesn't know.

Call me what you like I am quite aware it is morally wrong.

However I have a very high sex drive and find the whole adventure exciting.

I also believe it enhances my sex life at home.

Not met on here yet and may never but the chatting flirting is a great pass time.

It's very difficult to explain the urge to play with different folk and whilst morally wrong, it is who I am so I'm not afraid to accept it.

That's very admirable of you to post all of that. And you're right. It is our lives and we are within our rights to live it how we choose, even if is morally wrong. But wrong can also feel so right at times too."

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day "

It's all a joke isn't it...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit."

Yes I'm cheating, but yes I'm also happy in my life. That why I use smiley emojis

As far as I'm aware, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything. It's a forum discussion, this is what forums are for. If this forum isn't to your liking, then simply move to another

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

It's all a joke isn't it..."

It's better than being miserable in life

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

It's all a joke isn't it...

It's better than being miserable in life "

Like I say it's all a joke

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
over a year ago

waterford


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

Can you please clarify what you mean ?

I mean that there is a militant element who like to tell people how to live their life without knowing anything about said life. You very bravely threw yourself in to that and have given them the Neo 'come at me' pose by starting part 2.

And you've done it all without getting a forum time out. I'm not sure I could do that which is why I generally stay away from these but as I can't PM you I'm saying it here."

Yes I'll second that ,fair play to you minx !!!!

Sometimes I feel like contributing to different threads,but don't because I don't want to give some of the other posters fodder to be horrible & insulting to others

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was so interesting I had to continue it.

Someone mentioned me being followed home. Where I live I would easily notice, so I would simply avoid going home

Nooooooooooooo

But you are very brave and I applaud you

Can you please clarify what you mean ?

I mean that there is a militant element who like to tell people how to live their life without knowing anything about said life. You very bravely threw yourself in to that and have given them the Neo 'come at me' pose by starting part 2.

And you've done it all without getting a forum time out. I'm not sure I could do that which is why I generally stay away from these but as I can't PM you I'm saying it here.

Yes I'll second that ,fair play to you minx !!!!

Sometimes I feel like contributing to different threads,but don't because I don't want to give some of the other posters fodder to be horrible & insulting to others"

Thank you. I agree there a few posters who can be horrible and insulting but there are also lovely people who even though don't agree, are still polite about it, myself included.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit."

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what?

There is nothing wrong with disliking cheats however it is the cheater that has to live with themselves if they ever do cross that line.

Best to be honest from the start then people can make an informed choice.

As long as both parties consent to it and remain discrete and respectful of each other(as well as play safe) the only person to suffer will be the cheater in respect of conscience.

People have various reasons for playing away, some are bollocks others understandable.

At the end of the day sites like this exist because modern day society is so different from previous.

Before you spit on me, as I said previously cheating is morally wrong and is the cheaters burden to bear.

We are all respectful adults here.....right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

It's all a joke isn't it...

It's better than being miserable in life

Like I say it's all a joke "

Not a joke no, it's real life. But sometimes you have to try and be positive about the things life may throw at you. No point in getting stressed out about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know what?

There is nothing wrong with disliking cheats however it is the cheater that has to live with themselves if they ever do cross that line.

Best to be honest from the start then people can make an informed choice.

As long as both parties consent to it and remain discrete and respectful of each other(as well as play safe) the only person to suffer will be the cheater in respect of conscience.

People have various reasons for playing away, some are bollocks others understandable.

At the end of the day sites like this exist because modern day society is so different from previous.

Before you spit on me, as I said previously cheating is morally wrong and is the cheaters burden to bear.

We are all respectful adults here.....right?

"

You have an excellent way of saying the points I'd like to get across to people.

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By *heMochaManMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I have no problem meeting attached people in secret, for me it adds to the excitement and also feel like I'm doing a service for the lovely lady.

If the fella can't do DIY then you'd get a professional in... is it not the same?!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"We are all respectful adults here.....right?

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Sadly, that's not the case. There will always be people who judge you regardless of what you're doing and do so in a less than respectful manner. I guess it's much like any other aspect of swinging - do as you please but don't be surprised by the less than respectful comments you may come across!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

"

Couldn't of said it better myself x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day "

You'll miss the football though, Shag

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have no problem meeting attached people in secret, for me it adds to the excitement and also feel like I'm doing a service for the lovely lady.

If the fella can't do DIY then you'd get a professional in... is it not the same?! "

I sort of see your point. If there's a problem situation that can't be resolved, then you have to take steps within your control to sort it, one way or another, a way that works best for you.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If there are any married men on this thread in the Northampton area, message me!! "

Your inbox is going to explode!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think a lot of comments shot at you can be ignored, as engaging with the poster just adds fuel to them. It's sad that the internet gives these anonymous folk the potential to fire their shots. If they're inappropriate then report but I do think that much is worthy of nothing but skipping past them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag "

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I think some posts become rather personal and there's no need . While I may not agree with cheating,understand it or want to be involved that doesn't mean I instantly hate everyone who does cheat . I judge people on their whole selves not a small part of them

You talk a lot of sense "

For example I think you have great boobs therefore I think you're awesome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are all respectful adults here.....right?

Sadly, that's not the case. There will always be people who judge you regardless of what you're doing and do so in a less than respectful manner. I guess it's much like any other aspect of swinging - do as you please but don't be surprised by the less than respectful comments you may come across!"

Nothing or no one on Fab is capable of surprising me.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

Yes I'm cheating, but yes I'm also happy in my life. That why I use smiley emojis

As far as I'm aware, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything. It's a forum discussion, this is what forums are for. If this forum isn't to your liking, then simply move to another "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I think some posts become rather personal and there's no need . While I may not agree with cheating,understand it or want to be involved that doesn't mean I instantly hate everyone who does cheat . I judge people on their whole selves not a small part of them

You talk a lot of sense

For example I think you have great boobs therefore I think you're awesome "

Why thank you, you've made me blush

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over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

It's all a joke isn't it...

It's better than being miserable in life

Like I say it's all a joke

Not a joke no, it's real life. But sometimes you have to try and be positive about the things life may throw at you. No point in getting stressed out about it "
That is right, it is all about being positive

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over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week."

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week."

Hang on...let me think about that....joke...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby "

Have sex while watching the rugby ?

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over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

Have sex while watching the rugby ?"

Not sure the stewards agree with that sort of thing but who dares wins...

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

"

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough."

That's your perogative. Personally I don't care whether a whole load of strangers on a sex site respect me or they don't. Those that I choose to meet have always held me in the highest respect, and that's all that matters.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough.

That's your perogative. Personally I don't care whether a whole load of strangers on a sex site respect me or they don't. Those that I choose to meet have always held me in the highest respect, and that's all that matters. "

And seriously, that's the way it should be, at the end of the day! Ooh, sorry the emoji was out before I could help it!...

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over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough."

I don't bang on about it but I will give as good as I get in a forum discussion like this.

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over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

Have sex while watching the rugby ?

Not sure the stewards agree with that sort of thing but who dares wins..."

Now you're just quoting the SAS

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

Have sex while watching the rugby ?

Not sure the stewards agree with that sort of thing but who dares wins...

Now you're just quoting the SAS "

Or Del boy!... That's for the older brigade in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough.

That's your perogative. Personally I don't care whether a whole load of strangers on a sex site respect me or they don't. Those that I choose to meet have always held me in the highest respect, and that's all that matters.

And seriously, that's the way it should be, at the end of the day! Ooh, sorry the emoji was out before I could help it!... "

Precisely.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough.

I don't bang on about it but I will give as good as I get in a forum discussion like this."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I sneezed

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over a year ago

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Playful, hope you've got the dinner cooked and not neglecting your hubby!

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over a year ago


"What really sickens me is that some people seem to gloat about cheating,with all the smiley emojis going on. Just get on with it,no-one else needs to know what you get up to,apart from the two of you. It seems that certain people really don't have a conscience,nobody gives a hoot just do what you need to do without forever needing reassurance from stranger's. Everybody judge's and everyone has an opinion,it's not us that you need to convince that you have a good enough reason to cheat it affects us not one bit.

I can see where you are coming from but as soon as the cheater tries to explain their POV they're usually descended on for trying to justify their actions.

So maybe tthe use of emojis isn't to make light of the actual situation but to keep the discussion lighthearted, keep those pitchforks at bay.

You can't please everyone all of the time posting style wise so I guess it's best to steer clear of threads that piss you off.

I'm not convinced regarding the emojis with some people,but you're right regarding steering clear of threads that piss me off. I know a few people on the forums who cheat,those that don't go on about it I have more respect for funnily enough."

while back meet an old GF out shopping, ended up giving her lift home and shagging in house she lived with her new partner. Ofcourse the sex was great & thrilling, bit later met them both on nightout & her new fella even bought me a drink Cldnt help but feel bad if the poor bigger only knew. Point is: whilst I agree with comment above (how cheating wrong etc) I wouldn't judge as an sure people have the reasons for doing so!

& it is written: let he without sin cast the 1st stone.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"

Sorry I sneezed "

Bless you!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

Have sex while watching the rugby ?

Not sure the stewards agree with that sort of thing but who dares wins...

Now you're just quoting the SAS "

The Sinning Angel Suitors?

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London

Like most awkward ethical for unethical) situations in personal relationships it's very difficult for people to untangle their own opinions and emotions from someone else's. There's usually empathy for the "victim" from people who've experienced being unknowingly cheated on and an assumption that "it must come out eventually". I don't think that, but of course I would

Well we make our own decisions on this site. I'll take responsibility for my actions and manage risk as I see fit.

Anyone meeting me knows exactly what the situation is. Everyone that I have met has been completely comfortable with that.

So, I'm happy and so are they.

That's quite easy really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sorry I sneezed "

Hidden emojis too please! That sneeze is just not good enough!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like most awkward ethical for unethical) situations in personal relationships it's very difficult for people to untangle their own opinions and emotions from someone else's. There's usually empathy for the "victim" from people who've experienced being unknowingly cheated on and an assumption that "it must come out eventually". I don't think that, but of course I would

Well we make our own decisions on this site. I'll take responsibility for my actions and manage risk as I see fit.

Anyone meeting me knows exactly what the situation is. Everyone that I have met has been completely comfortable with that.

So, I'm happy and so are they.

That's quite easy really "

And at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that matters to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lady doth protest too much me thinks

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over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

Have sex while watching the rugby ?

Not sure the stewards agree with that sort of thing but who dares wins...

Now you're just quoting the SAS

The Sinning Angel Suitors?"

You would know. You're one of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Sorry I sneezed

Hidden emojis too please! That sneeze is just not good enough! "

You are sinning using all this emojis one one like tut tut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sorry I sneezed

Hidden emojis too please! That sneeze is just not good enough!

You are sinning using all this emojis one one like tut tut "

True but it was great fun doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best time to shag them is whilst hubby is down the pub watching the football on a saturday

You brave naughty man That is right, got few hours to be naughty on the day

You'll miss the football though, Shag

But sex is better than football any day of the week.

Yes - I'd argue more if we were talking rugby

Have sex while watching the rugby ?

Not sure the stewards agree with that sort of thing but who dares wins...

Now you're just quoting the SAS

The Sinning Angel Suitors?

You would know. You're one of them "

Guilty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sorry I sneezed

Hidden emojis too please! That sneeze is just not good enough!

You are sinning using all this emojis one one like tut tut "

.... Better?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Sorry I sneezed

Hidden emojis too please! That sneeze is just not good enough!

You are sinning using all this emojis one one like tut tut

.... Better? "

Perfecto xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooo where did you get those lovelies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We seem to of gone off on a tangent in this thread. It's great to see people do have sense of humours and can have banter, even on a thread of a sensitive nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to add that whatever people think, it is nice to not feel like a freak on here for having desires that transcend morality etc etc

Massive hug from me

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That's quite easy really

And at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that matters to you."

I think that's the problem. That's why it doesn't sit well. It doesn't fit in with the swinging ethic of sharing fun and adventure with a loved one. It's selfish fun. And "up yours" to a family who trust you.

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over a year ago


"Oooo where did you get those lovelies "

If you press reply quote, you'll see in the preview how they are done

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over a year ago


"Oooo where did you get those lovelies

If you press reply quote, you'll see in the preview how they are done "

I had to have a go lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooo where did you get those lovelies

If you press reply quote, you'll see in the preview how they are done

I had to have a go lol"

Haha yay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooo where did you get those lovelies

If you press reply quote, you'll see in the preview how they are done "

What made you think I meant emojis? .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooo where did you get those lovelies

If you press reply quote, you'll see in the preview how they are done

What made you think I meant emojis? .

"

You didn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peopke tend to drift apart rightly or wrongly the inevitable happens and one of them finds someone else but can't bring themselves to admit it and say it's time to part ways while others think they can have it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love. "

So why do you like these threads then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did, just teasing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

That's quite easy really

And at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that matters to you.

I think that's the problem. That's why it doesn't sit well. It doesn't fit in with the swinging ethic of sharing fun and adventure with a loved one. It's selfish fun. And "up yours" to a family who trust you. "

Many people on here are swinging by themselves though, not with loved ones. So are you saying it's only loved up couples who are swinging the "right" way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did, just teasing "

Ahhh you got me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind "

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?"

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

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over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time....."

I have absolutely nothing to gain by telling my husband. I may be weak in your opinion but that's all it is, an opinion. I happen to know I'm extremely strong. But then I'm not here to explain myself either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time....."

You're entitled to your opinion but there is no need to be rude and insult people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just face that youre in the wrong. If he found out, he'd be devestated. And you'll say nonsense like "he'll never find out." But in a hypothetical scenario where he does, he'd be raging. And if you found out he was cheating, you'd be raging too.

And you say you love "teasing" and that seducing the mind is essential. It's not even as if it's NSA and only a fuck, you're clearly getting emotionally involved which makes it even worse

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over a year ago


"Just face that youre in the wrong. If he found out, he'd be devestated. And you'll say nonsense like "he'll never find out." But in a hypothetical scenario where he does, he'd be raging. And if you found out he was cheating, you'd be raging too.

And you say you love "teasing" and that seducing the mind is essential. It's not even as if it's NSA and only a fuck, you're clearly getting emotionally involved which makes it even worse "

I don't think I saw one post where she said she was right . She just stated what she does

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over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

I have absolutely nothing to gain by telling my husband. I may be weak in your opinion but that's all it is, an opinion. I happen to know I'm extremely strong. But then I'm not here to explain myself either. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?"

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

You're entitled to your opinion but there is no need to be rude and insult people "

Not being offensive...its just my opinion of cheats......they take away the other persons right to choose if they would put up with their other half cheating on them....alas they have no choice in the matter because they dont know...and i just think people should have the strength to admit that things are not right...thats why i class them as weak people and selfish!...my opinion !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

I have absolutely nothing to gain by telling my husband. I may be weak in your opinion but that's all it is, an opinion. I happen to know I'm extremely strong. But then I'm not here to explain myself either. "

Never justify yourself to those that pop up take a swipe & hide themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first? "

That works both ways.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't think I saw one post where she said she was right . She just stated what she does "

But all this nonsense about being "strong"? Cheating on your partner and doing everything possible to cover it up is "strong"? Running from a problem, sneaking behind someone's back, how can this be labelled "strong"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

That works both ways....."

Everyone's a winner then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

You're entitled to your opinion but there is no need to be rude and insult people

Not being offensive...its just my opinion of cheats......they take away the other persons right to choose if they would put up with their other half cheating on them....alas they have no choice in the matter because they dont know...and i just think people should have the strength to admit that things are not right...thats why i class them as weak people and selfish!...my opinion !!!!!"

Easy on the exclamation marks...it makes you look like you're getting wound up. I do hope not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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how can this be labelled "strong"?"

Delusion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

I have absolutely nothing to gain by telling my husband. I may be weak in your opinion but that's all it is, an opinion. I happen to know I'm extremely strong. But then I'm not here to explain myself either.

Never justify yourself to those that pop up take a swipe & hide themselves."

I noticed that too, makes one wonder.....

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south


"love and lust.

the epic battle that has gone on for centuries.

the romans!

what did they ever do for us lol.

i love my partner, i lust after my partner.

i also lust after other females not becuase i choose to but because i cant help my thoughts.

i cant explain it.

its not the thrill of getting caught its the thrill of flirting and potential exploration of desires.

wether right or wrong i also believe you should let go to your minds desire once in a while to avoid potential unhappiness.

well it makes sense in my wobbly mind

Makes total sense to me too. Surely denying yourself what you desire/want/need in life will lead to a very miserable and unsatisfied life for yourself. Life is not a rehearsal, it's for living to the full. As long as you aren't hurting people, where's the harm?

It is only not hurting them Because you have no honesty or backbone to tell them so if your proud to be that person then you really are weak.....but what goes around comes around in time.....

You're entitled to your opinion but there is no need to be rude and insult people

Not being offensive...its just my opinion of cheats......they take away the other persons right to choose if they would put up with their other half cheating on them....alas they have no choice in the matter because they dont know...and i just think people should have the strength to admit that things are not right...thats why i class them as weak people and selfish!...my opinion !!!!!

Easy on the exclamation marks...it makes you look like you're getting wound up. I do hope not. "

Not angry at all....like i said my opinion on cheats thats all....sure you have opinions on things too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cmon let's try and remain adults.

Nobody say it's right but surely each to their own without being vilified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She never said the strong was in relation to cheating ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cmon let's try and remain adults.

Nobody say it's right but surely each to their own without being vilified."

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south


"

I don't think I saw one post where she said she was right . She just stated what she does

But all this nonsense about being "strong"? Cheating on your partner and doing everything possible to cover it up is "strong"? Running from a problem, sneaking behind someone's back, how can this be labelled "strong"?"

Doubt an honest answer will be given...other than to blame the other half........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must have been mistaken I could have sworn this was a site for Adults?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just face that youre in the wrong. If he found out, he'd be devestated. And you'll say nonsense like "he'll never find out." But in a hypothetical scenario where he does, he'd be raging. And if you found out he was cheating, you'd be raging too.

And you say you love "teasing" and that seducing the mind is essential. It's not even as if it's NSA and only a fuck, you're clearly getting emotionally involved which makes it even worse "

Actually, you're so wrong. If I found out my husband was cheating, I would take hold of him, give him a great big hug, and it would makes things a whole lot easier.

And exactly how do you work out that I get emotionally involved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I don't think I saw one post where she said she was right . She just stated what she does

But all this nonsense about being "strong"? Cheating on your partner and doing everything possible to cover it up is "strong"? Running from a problem, sneaking behind someone's back, how can this be labelled "strong"?

Doubt an honest answer will be given...other than to blame the other half........

I don't lay blame at people's doors. It's very complex, and I'm not here to discuss in detail.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you think he'd react in that way if he found out you were cheating?

Awk, come off it! Please don't try to say that emotions aren't involved when you want someone to seduce your mind. How can this be done without emotions?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I must have been mistaken I could have sworn this was a site for Adults?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And you think he'd react in that way if he found out you were cheating?

Awk, come off it! Please don't try to say that emotions aren't involved when you want someone to seduce your mind. How can this be done without emotions?"

If you don't understand, then I'm certainly not going to waste my time trying to explain. Figure it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must have been mistaken I could have sworn this was a site for Adults?"

Where I'm from adults are allowed give their opinion on things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, I just thought all emotions are mind based and are reactions of our Neuron movement, my mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

That works both ways....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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That's quite easy really

And at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that matters to you.

I think that's the problem. That's why it doesn't sit well. It doesn't fit in with the swinging ethic of sharing fun and adventure with a loved one. It's selfish fun. And "up yours" to a family who trust you.

Many people on here are swinging by themselves though, not with loved ones. So are you saying it's only loved up couples who are swinging the "right" way ?"

I think it's fine to seek selfish fun, if that fun isn't going hurt other people, especially those that love you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry, I just thought all emotions are mind based and are reactions of our Neuron movement, my mistake "

You're very young, you're new to swinging. You don't appreciate how my mind and body works. You have a lot to learn in life yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

That's quite easy really

And at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that matters to you.

I think that's the problem. That's why it doesn't sit well. It doesn't fit in with the swinging ethic of sharing fun and adventure with a loved one. It's selfish fun. And "up yours" to a family who trust you.

Many people on here are swinging by themselves though, not with loved ones. So are you saying it's only loved up couples who are swinging the "right" way ?

I think it's fine to seek selfish fun, if that fun isn't going hurt other people, especially those that love you. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch that Disney film "inside out" for an insight on how emotions work that even you might understand

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I have been seeing a married guy, the way I look at it is... If I don't have fun with him then someone else will!!

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over a year ago


"Sorry, I just thought all emotions are mind based and are reactions of our Neuron movement, my mistake "

That's okay you can be wrong

Here's an example that shows not all emotions are mind based, it's a complex subject.

emotions arise from stimuli (external or from within our own bodies), for example, if an animal or person perceives a threat, the emotion will be fear, it is instant and unconscious. What the mind then feels is horror.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Watch that Disney film "inside out" for an insight on how emotions work that even you might understand"

You're resorting to Disney....oh my days

Head versus heart. Head is for thinking logically, heart is for letting emotions in. It's simple to keep the 2 seperate in the swinging scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must have been mistaken I could have sworn this was a site for Adults?

Where I'm from adults are allowed give their opinion on things. "

Funnily enough - where I'm from too. But as adults we should be able to state our opinions without being rude

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over a year ago

And it all ends up with the mind feeling a descernible emotion. No matter what way you spin it, mind is ultimate master of emotions, and this poster wants her mind to lead her body. Don't see how you can wiggle out of this

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I have to hand it to the OP, and alot of the other posters this thread has tackled a difficult topic and it would appear that on the whole it is being done in a respectful manner. You would nearly swear that those posting were all adults and nit being childish as so often happens. Great thread everyone.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The heart is actually for pumping blood around your body love, just to let you know

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over a year ago


"And it all ends up with the mind feeling a descernible emotion. No matter what way you spin it, mind is ultimate master of emotions, and this poster wants her mind to lead her body. Don't see how you can wiggle out of this "

In your opinion, which you are of course entitled to on here.

I have no need to wiggle

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over a year ago


"The heart is actually for pumping blood around your body love, just to let you know "

Thank you for pointing that out, I've always wondered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you have a need to sprout nonsense about your heart controlling emotions? Which only makes sense if your a teenage girl, not a married mother

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to hand it to the OP, and alot of the other posters this thread has tackled a difficult topic and it would appear that on the whole it is being done in a respectful manner. You would nearly swear that those posting were all adults and nit being childish as so often happens. Great thread everyone. "

My sentiments exactly. It's been very interesting and the majority of people have been very respectful. I understand people don't agree with cheating, but it happens. Good to have a decent discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

That works both ways....."

Oh yes. I can't even really be arsed to post on these threads anymore because it's all same old same old. But I do like to observe them, and keep Ruby's list of hypocrites up to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must have been mistaken I could have sworn this was a site for Adults?

Where I'm from adults are allowed give their opinion on things.

Funnily enough - where I'm from too. But as adults we should be able to state our opinions without being rude "

I'd call it being honest, rather than rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But you have a need to sprout nonsense about your heart controlling emotions? Which only makes sense if your a teenage girl, not a married mother "

Google cognitive behavioural therapy. You may find it an interesting read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it all ends up with the mind feeling a descernible emotion. No matter what way you spin it, mind is ultimate master of emotions, and this poster wants her mind to lead her body. Don't see how you can wiggle out of this "

Looks like you're the one doing the wiggling

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

That works both ways.....

Oh yes. I can't even really be arsed to post on these threads anymore because it's all same old same old. But I do like to observe them, and keep Ruby's list of hypocrites up to date. "

See the irony you've done there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

That works both ways.....

Oh yes. I can't even really be arsed to post on these threads anymore because it's all same old same old. But I do like to observe them, and keep Ruby's list of hypocrites up to date. "

I'm pretty sure Ruby's & Roxi's lists would be the same....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you have a need to sprout nonsense about your heart controlling emotions? Which only makes sense if your a teenage girl, not a married mother

Google cognitive behavioural therapy. You may find it an interesting read "

Oh fuck me, you can't seriously now be defending this "let your heart be your guide" bullshit??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooooh I like these threads, all cheats are horrible people. There's no reason on this earth that justifies cheating on someone they're supposed to love.

So why do you like these threads then?

You get to fact out who the cunts are without having to waste much time getting to know them first?

That works both ways.....

Oh yes. I can't even really be arsed to post on these threads anymore because it's all same old same old. But I do like to observe them, and keep Ruby's list of hypocrites up to date.

I'm pretty sure Ruby's & Roxi's lists would be the same.... "

There may be some North/South variation but essentially I think they would be...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But you have a need to sprout nonsense about your heart controlling emotions? Which only makes sense if your a teenage girl, not a married mother

Google cognitive behavioural therapy. You may find it an interesting read

Oh fuck me, you can't seriously now be defending this "let your heart be your guide" bullshit??"

Please would you mind your language when you're aiming your comments at me. Please be grown up and keep it civil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just really ludicrious that someone can say 'the heart controls the emotions.' Something you'd hear a wee girl who watches twilight too much say

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"Just really ludicrious that someone can say 'the heart controls the emotions.' Something you'd hear a wee girl who watches twilight too much say "

Do you actually fully understand what CBT is about?

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over a year ago


"Just really ludicrious that someone can say 'the heart controls the emotions.' Something you'd hear a wee girl who watches twilight too much say "

You are verging on offensive with your comments to the OP.... There's no need to belittle, just because you have a different view point of view.

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