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By *irage899 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sunderland

You chat and get on great, even laugh at messages. You share the same outlooks and it's looking so promising.

THEN, do you have a photo? The photo dents the expectations.

Now I am not talking about looks which would break a mirror but just enough to make you think ohhh.

Would the personality win or a no down to looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think has to be a bit of both as there needs to be the attraction for play x

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"I think has to be a bit of both as there needs to be the attraction for play x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sadly I'm shallow need to feel a connection with the face as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope she isn't reading the forums

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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There sadly needs to be a physical attraction as well. I'm fairly flexible in terms of what I finx attractive but it doesn't mean I find everyone attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm i have always went for personality and for me good looks are just a bonus besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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By *BW star and DocCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I think a bit of both. I think there has to be some attraction to play with people but a great personality also helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I like to swap pics early on. If I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to want to have sex with them no matter how great their personality is.

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

Got to be either a bit of both, or personality. Looks don't do it for me if the person inside is a dick. I just see them as ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously both is ideal, and my requirements differ dependent on the circumstances.

Personality is more important by miles for me for anything more long term than a one off and I absolutely fall in love with the person and not what they look like.

Looks are important for me for a pre-planned one-off fuck organised on here, and definitely personality comes into play if we swap messages and get chatting. If they come across as a dick, even if gorgeous looking, then its game over for me.

That being said I'm not fussy at all when I'm horny as fuck and already getting fucked in a club, I just want cock and spunk. but then I don't have to chat to anyone and aren't usually looking at their faces at that point. Being brutally honest, I did either of those it would probably put me off a lot of people, the shit that comes out of people'a mouths in the social area can put me off them in an instant.

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a toughie OP. In that case I would probably suggest we meet for a social and take it from there.

Both play an equal factor in my choice on people I meet, I couldn't meet someone who had a personality of a wet fish, but nor could I meet someone who I didn't find physically appealing.

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By *irage899 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Got to be either a bit of both, or personality. Looks don't do it for me if the person inside is a dick. I just see them as ugly."

That is spot on. Reverse the question. Play only because of looks.

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By *irage899 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Obviously both is ideal, and my requirements differ dependent on the circumstances.

Personality is more important by miles for me for anything more long term than a one off and I absolutely fall in love with the person and not what they look like.

An honest reply. I think as you say clubs are a different set of circumstances.

Looks are important for me for a pre-planned one-off fuck organised on here, and definitely personality comes into play if we swap messages and get chatting. If they come across as a dick, even if gorgeous looking, then its game over for me.

That being said I'm not fussy at all when I'm horny as fuck and already getting fucked in a club, I just want cock and spunk. but then I don't have to chat to anyone and aren't usually looking at their faces at that point. Being brutally honest, I did either of those it would probably put me off a lot of people, the shit that comes out of people'a mouths in the social area can put me off them in an instant.

Ruby x"

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By *andDeeCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

What gets me is when a faceless couple or single ask for a face photo as having a nice general conversation, you do so at some risk of being recognised by someone who really wouldn't have wanted want them to know, but abruptly that convo stops. Yeah, we been on here long enough to know a match is not going to happen with everyone you talk to, but why do some just not even have the decency to say so? We fully understand it's a site for meeting but it's also a great lifestyle where you can socialise with others at clubs and have a great evening even if you have no desires to play with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a meet looks.

Long term both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a toughie for me and I make no apology. Looks are important especially in a no strings environment.

If I'm going to have prolonged conversation with you then it helps if I like your personality. If I'm going to have fulfilling sex with you then I need to fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm i have always went for personality and for me good looks are just a bonus besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder means that the specific person looking at you finds you beautiful.

I don't care if anybody else finds someone I choose to have sex with physically attractive, all that matters is that I as the beholder am visually physically attracted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a toughie for me and I make no apology. Looks are important especially in a no strings environment.

If I'm going to have prolonged conversation with you then it helps if I like your personality. If I'm going to have fulfilling sex with you then I need to fancy you."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality wins for.me every time. I've met some very good looking narcissistic men on here who obviously know they are good looking

I prefer interesting men instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality doesn't work for me. it helps me stay interested if i fancy the guy, or can put me off a guy i find physically attractive, but without looks i won't be interested in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks. I'm only gonna fuck them not marry them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt matter, it is just a fuck, not a marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said boys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope she isn't reading the forums "

I am

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I need both I'm afraid, though it is horrible when that happens, I've learnt to ask early on as you then feel awful saying sorry there is no attraction for me.

If that makes me shallow then so be it

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By *oneybee-vtyCouple
over a year ago

durham

I go for personality, they can be a good looker. but if no personality things are just going to be a gloomy meet, as fun and laughter make the world go round,

so lets all keep smiling and go with the personality,

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I always ask for a face picture upfront before any chatting starts. Call me shallow but I have to feel atttacted to the other person. That being said if I find them attractive but we have no banter/verbal connection I wouldn't meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, personality wins every time.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"You chat and get on great, even laugh at messages. You share the same outlooks and it's looking so promising.

THEN, do you have a photo? The photo dents the expectations.

Now I am not talking about looks which would break a mirror but just enough to make you think ohhh.

Would the personality win or a no down to looks. "

I hear Bella Emberg,had a lovely personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're here to fulfill sexual fantasies, and those would be with physically attractive people first and foremost. We will decide on looks before personality, but we can have quirky taste on what's attractive to us so it's not necessarily the 'prettiest' person. They might have something in their look that pique our interest.

Someone could have the most amazing personality ever bestowed upon them, but if we don't fancy them, it's sadly not gonna happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't put my dick in your personality.

Looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, no physical qualities can compensate for a shitty personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think on here it seems looks go a long way. However in clubs it can be very different, it may be heat of the moment but quite often I've (we've) played with people we wouldn't normally play with because their personality has interested us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not going to jump I. The sack if we don't fancy each other. How we all fancy each other is different in many ways.

Sometimes I find it hard to explain why I fancy a person. But I do.

So when the face pic is sent. I pray I fancy them enough to still want to meet, even if the guy before me didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply for sex ?.then looks everytime

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"That's why I like to swap pics early on. If I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to want to have sex with them no matter how great their personality is. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately we have to have both shallow I know but respect others who view us in same way , what is the point if you fail to find them a turn on.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Personality everyday, everyone is beautiful in their own way & what good would it be if you can't have a good chat & a laugh with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not both? I don't want to sleep with anyone I'm not physically attracted to, or whose personality turns me off. You shouldn't have to compromise to get laid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with that, is that some people are not always photogenic, and look much hotter than their picture in real life. If I got on with them that well, I would find it hard to just discard them based on what they looked like, and suggest a social meet, keeping my fingers crossed that we had physical chemistry, as well as a mental one .

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By *irage899 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sunderland

An honest answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality without a doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality for me, with my looks I cant be choosey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're here to fulfill sexual fantasies, and those would be with physically attractive people first and foremost. We will decide on looks before personality, but we can have quirky taste on what's attractive to us so it's not necessarily the 'prettiest' person. They might have something in their look that pique our interest.

Someone could have the most amazing personality ever bestowed upon them, but if we don't fancy them, it's sadly not gonna happen."

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

You can be an Adonis with a big dik ,but if there's a big dik on the end of it ,it's no fun,personality for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is some right mingers in here hiding behind there screen....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem with that, is that some people are not always photogenic, and look much hotter than their picture in real life. If I got on with them that well, I would find it hard to just discard them based on what they looked like, and suggest a social meet, keeping my fingers crossed that we had physical chemistry, as well as a mental one ."
totally agree lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my looks ( him ) have to say personality !! Lol

But think it's more of a connection? Think this is why a social is important to lots ?

You don't have to be the best lookers if as has been said the chemistry is right and a click with each other happens?

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull


"I think has to be a bit of both as there needs to be the attraction for play x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both but I do also believe that face pics on here can be miss leading in good or bad ways.

Getting to know someone for them can be more of an attraction then there appearance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both but I do also believe that face pics on here can be miss leading in good or bad ways.

Getting to know someone for them can be more of an attraction then there appearance "
preferences: us blondes ...reds have a mountain to climb as we are we are a nation in line. _(ISTS)

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Looks every time.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Don't chat unless I see a face pic first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it's both but personality trumps looks.

Also, i know that lots of people take a dreadful picture (me included) and a social is always worth it if you are getting on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both too, maybe im shallow but I need to be attracted in all ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need both too, maybe im shallow but I need to be attracted in all ways "
I'm not perfect.... but I have standards too!

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for looks. So it would be a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say personality can win you over if you haven't seen them before! But if you see them first and you are put off then I don't see any way back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go for looks. So it would be a no"

How you doin'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to let looks influence me too much or judge a book by its cover. I go dancing and find that the best dancers are not always the slim good looking ones and I am constantly surprised by ladies and look at them in a whole different light

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think I would meet regardless of looks for a drink and go from there

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

If I'm looking for a relationship personality all the way

For some NSA then I go for looks, has to be someone I wanna drop to my knees for

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