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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

There is an interface between swinging and the fet.

Just wondered if there should be a separate forum?

If the thread falls flat on its face... Then that's the answer.

If it doesn't, then we have something to talk to the site owners about,

Just wonder what people's thoughts are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you mean? a separate section within the current forum? Or a completely separate forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a good idea .

Perhaps subject matter could be in line with other fet sites too on the new forum ?

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Just an idea, the dynamic would be for all parties to agree.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think a separate forum within this current one - much like the politics. I think it will help people to more openly discuss BDSM issues without fear of judgement or ridicule which can and does happen.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes I think it's a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a hard mix. The parties I run are mixed as I think it does gel well as most kinksters and bdsm people like to play too. But the hardcore of each dont like to mix. So it is hard sometimes.

If people want to be just into swinging or just into bdsm is fine. I don't rub it in people's faces I do my thing in the dungeon, if your curious have a go. If not watch.

To answer the question, why not have a fet section might get more people curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a separate forum within this current one - much like the politics. I think it will help people to more openly discuss BDSM issues without fear of judgement or ridicule which can and does happen. "

Agreed. But I wonder if it would need a different style of moderation compared to the rest of the forums.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I could get roped in

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

This has been discussed loads before.

But I think the problem is discussing stuff that could potentially be seen as illegal. Our government is so up tight that female squirting is seen as an unnatural act, so many of the discussion in a BDSM forum could fall foul of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great idea

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

The site owner (I suspect) would like the site to grow.

From other sites I've seen, there is a lotof respect. The interface might work. If not shut it down

My theory is if it isn't fun don't do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has been discussed loads before.

But I think the problem is discussing stuff that could potentially be seen as illegal. Our government is so up tight that female squirting is seen as an unnatural act, so many of the discussion in a BDSM forum could fall foul of that. "

I posted a thread about this yesterday, in terms of the government banning certain sex acts from porn. But it turned into an argument about brexit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BDSM and pictures of this tend to fall foul of the mods on here (yes I am aware of current new legislation and law).

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"I think a separate forum within this current one - much like the politics. I think it will help people to more openly discuss BDSM issues without fear of judgement or ridicule which can and does happen. "

Trouble is this is predominantly a swingers website and its free. So even with a different forum or section you're still going to get that.

It has merit though I think it's definitely worth a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a separate forum within this current one - much like the politics. I think it will help people to more openly discuss BDSM issues without fear of judgement or ridicule which can and does happen. "

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"There is an interface between swinging and the fet.

Just wondered if there should be a separate forum?

If the thread falls flat on its face... Then that's the answer.

If it doesn't, then we have something to talk to the site owners about,

Just wonder what people's thoughts are?"
would be awesome..great idea xx

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"This has been discussed loads before.

But I think the problem is discussing stuff that could potentially be seen as illegal. Our government is so up tight that female squirting is seen as an unnatural act, so many of the discussion in a BDSM forum could fall foul of that. "

Mmm, true the moderation would have to be very tight, would need to be very process orientated more than content orientated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a good idea. Thumb (screws) up from us!

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"There is an interface between swinging and the fet.

Just wondered if there should be a separate forum?

If the thread falls flat on its face... Then that's the answer.

If it doesn't, then we have something to talk to the site owners about,

Just wonder what people's thoughts are?"

I wouldn't bother with a bdsm section. I'd go on the fet site for that. I don't feel I could openly discuss on here some of the kink stuff I do. You and I have discussed many times the reactions of some of the swingers regarding some of the Ds threads and that's over quite mild topics. I've had other times when I've had replies removed because they've contained stuff that mods have thought inappropriate. I do agree however that there is a crossover and more swingers and more swingers seem interested in fet.

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By *nSearchOf12Couple
over a year ago

London

This seems like a great idea.

We recognise - and to some extent understand the causes of - the Great Fet-Swing Schism, but think better mutual understanding is always a good thing.

H&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like a fetish forum. It would be nice to talk about somethings on here rather than have to use a different site.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"There is an interface between swinging and the fet.

Just wondered if there should be a separate forum?

If the thread falls flat on its face... Then that's the answer.

If it doesn't, then we have something to talk to the site owners about,

Just wonder what people's thoughts are?

I wouldn't bother with a bdsm section. I'd go on the fet site for that. I don't feel I could openly discuss on here some of the kink stuff I do. You and I have discussed many times the reactions of some of the swingers regarding some of the Ds threads and that's over quite mild topics. I've had other times when I've had replies removed because they've contained stuff that mods have thought inappropriate. I do agree however that there is a crossover and more swingers and more swingers seem interested in fet.

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Mmm, a lot of our discussions were about misconception, perhaps there could be a better understanding from a "toe in the water" type discussion area to de-demonise fet, I don't know.

What I do know is that forum discussions like this do give a more informed picture.

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Worth giving it a try !

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"There is an interface between swinging and the fet.

Just wondered if there should be a separate forum?

If the thread falls flat on its face... Then that's the answer.

If it doesn't, then we have something to talk to the site owners about,

Just wonder what people's thoughts are?

I wouldn't bother with a bdsm section. I'd go on the fet site for that. I don't feel I could openly discuss on here some of the kink stuff I do. You and I have discussed many times the reactions of some of the swingers regarding some of the Ds threads and that's over quite mild topics. I've had other times when I've had replies removed because they've contained stuff that mods have thought inappropriate. I do agree however that there is a crossover and more swingers and more swingers seem interested in fet.

Mmm, a lot of our discussions were about misconception, perhaps there could be a better understanding from a "toe in the water" type discussion area to de-demonise fet, I don't know.

What I do know is that forum discussions like this do give a more informed picture. "
thats why i feel a sub forum would be good, people starting threads who are actually interested in say asking questions about say terminology, which just get trashed in the main forum as you are battling people who have no interest in the subject apart from to trash it completely..at least then it could be moderated like the politics forum, if you arent interested you have the option to not join in x

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

A thread about BDSM?

(And swallowing your lovers phlegm.)

I'm all up for that

(And being drowned in goose fat)

Some look at me. And precondemn.

Adieu.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I'd be very interested im learning loads about my fet side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is an interface between swinging and the fet.

Just wondered if there should be a separate forum?

If the thread falls flat on its face... Then that's the answer.

If it doesn't, then we have something to talk to the site owners about,

Just wonder what people's thoughts are?"

Great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are new to Fab and can't really comment about how mainstream swingers regard fetishists.

However we have been members of a fetish site for quite a long time and know that a lot of the people on that site regard swingers as less discriminating ... and I'm being kind when I use the term 'less discriminating'.

It would be great to have a small corner of Fab for those of us whose tastes are whetted by D/s interactions.

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

Why not just go to fet or a similar site ?

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Why not just go to fet or a similar site ?"

I've not found the fet sites so useful for forum type chat.

Lots of kinksters enjoy the sex and swinging side too. The ones who are pure bdsm would probably not be on this site anyway, and outer Swingers won't be on the fet sites.

A section of the forum for kink would be great. And I don't see why it would have to be moderated any more robustly than any other threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm kink

There should be a kink section for sure

Ruby x

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Me too, love BDSM

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By *eanieMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"Me too, love BDSM"

Have you got a strap on?

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Pegging

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By *eanieMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"Pegging "

That's the one. Always fancied that too. X

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton

Great idea. Where us nutters will be treated as normal

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Does that mean I'll be able to hand my bell in?

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