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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.

Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea , but after over 6 years together and 5 years swinging together , it's the best time we've had

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thats a good start if you both enjoy the same things x

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Together 20 years, swinging for 10 of them and we're stronger than ever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So its added to your relationship, thats really what Im getting at, you seem less likely to separate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twenty nine years married next month, swinging for maybe seven or eight, still arguing, still happy.

Conversely, we've swung with loads of couples who divorced and remarried and who didn't swing in their previous marriage.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Been together 30yrs swinging last 7 just to add to our enjoyment and both still as happy as day one , you need to be a strong couple in strong relationship and this as enhanced ours , we have decided to keep having fun while we can ??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging has brought us closer together

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.

Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"

I don't know if there are any statistics. However I don't think that being more open and understanding your partner better is the sole preserve of swingers. I do think that swinging might occur as a result of being open and understanding in some cases but I don't think it's safe to assume that swingers have a lower divorce rate or better relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

If its a solid relationship swinging is fun, if its used to paint over problems & cracks in a marriage avoid.

We have been swinging & shooting films for 20 yrs & have literally gone through hundreds of people in that time between us & we are still best friends who trust each other 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody is different.I got chatting and quite close to a local swinging couple and she actually admited she only does it to keep him happy and feed his lust for other women.

They won't meet single guys and she's not bi but she said if she didn't agree to him wanting to use other women then she feared he would leave her.

Yet there's women on here that enjoy swinging too so I guess it's all about doing what makes you both happy and if you have trust and love then you will have the same chances of staying together as any other normal couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met while swinging alone. That was about 10 years ago. Been married almost 4 years.Still swinging and still together and very happy

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

We have just been discussing this. We have been married for nearly 35 years. Swinging for the last 3 years together. Together being the operative word. We discuss likes, dislikes, people we wish to meet. We agree when we should go out and when we need us time. We are open and honest with each other. We don't see the need and never will cheat on each other. We go out as a couple, we play with others in the same room. Then we leave together, and have some very happy memories. At this moment in time we are enjoying the fun we are having. Xxxxxx Suzi

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Hopefully works to keep us together; no need to cheat in this scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know about saving it but I do think that if my ex had given swinging more thoght n we had tryed it then we may of lasted longer. As it was we were togther 15 years. Xxx

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We've been together for 26 years (married for 24) and we started sharing over 20 years ago, so yes, couples who play together, stay together. Works for us anyway

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

Next year is our 40th wedding anniversary and we've been swinging for over 5 years.

We love each other to bits and love every minute together. He still gets the same buzz during an innocent cuddle with her as when we were first going out together as youngsters.

We treat swinging as purely physical recreation.

Now....

Look at so many couples who have unsatisfactory sex lives; there are several signs of unhappiness therein. Sneeking off, resentment, furtiveness,

to name but a few.

Much of happy swinging has to do with maturity and being able to handle sexual situations without envy, mistrust or jealousy.

It doesn't work for everyone,agreed, but for those that it does work for, then enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon swinging is helping many couples to stay together as they dont have to cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story. "

Did that include 1 on 1 meets for you or your ex?

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"I reckon swinging is helping many couples to stay together as they dont have to cheat."

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.

Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"

For some actual statistics see here:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging_(sexual_practice)

under the section "Prevalence".

Mr ddc

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Next year is our 40th wedding anniversary and we've been swinging for over 5 years.

We love each other to bits and love every minute together. He still gets the same buzz during an innocent cuddle with her as when we were first going out together as youngsters.

We treat swinging as purely physical recreation.

Now....

Look at so many couples who have unsatisfactory sex lives; there are several signs of unhappiness therein. Sneeking off, resentment, furtiveness,

to name but a few.

Much of happy swinging has to do with maturity and being able to handle sexual situations without envy, mistrust or jealousy.

It doesn't work for everyone,agreed, but for those that it does work for, then enjoy."

Very well written and I agree totally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates "

For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.

Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"

Been together 20 years, married 13 years in December and swinging almost 12 years. No idea if it's helped or not .

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? "

We have lots of male/female/couples as friends, we just happen to fuck some of them from time to time.

There's about as much chance as us running off with one of our vanilla friends as there is us doing it with our swinger friends.

One of us cheating indicates that there's something wrong with the relationship in the first place. If the relationship is good nobody is cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to a Norvegian study they do until they don't

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink


"For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?

We have lots of male/female/couples as friends, we just happen to fuck some of them from time to time.

There's about as much chance as us running off with one of our vanilla friends as there is us doing it with our swinger friends.

One of us cheating indicates that there's something wrong with the relationship in the first place. If the relationship is good nobody is cheating"

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By *allyandJonCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We would say its helped its made life far more interesting and fun we love each other to bits and sex is different from swinging its got passion, we've been together 23 years swinging for 11 of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates

For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? "

Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story.

Did that include 1 on 1 meets for you or your ex? "

That was the agreements we play together. So always was together and could see what each other was doing.

It was great fun while we played together.

20+ years married and a solid one, till one day it all changed.

That could of happened in a normal life.

So who knows ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its a solid relationship swinging is fun, if its used to paint over problems & cracks in a marriage avoid.

We have been swinging & shooting films for 20 yrs & have literally gone through hundreds of people in that time between us & we are still best friends who trust each other 100%."

How nice is that? We met on here 2 yrs ago and are having the fabbest time.. best relationship we have ever had.. we have our moments but who doesn't?

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By *poolfunswingcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We have been together for 26 years and have been swinging on and off for st least 11 years. We have such a solid relationship and feel that swinging has just helped keep the fun in our sex life. We took things slowly, taking a couple of years before we did full swap to ensure we were both happy. We use our swinging as an extra and not the be-all in our lives. We also ensure that we do things together as a family and keep an active social life with our own friends. Our single rule is that we never play alone. It has worked for us and we look forward to our adventures together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its a solid relationship swinging is fun, if its used to paint over problems & cracks in a marriage avoid.

We have been swinging & shooting films for 20 yrs & have literally gone through hundreds of people in that time between us & we are still best friends who trust each other 100%.

How nice is that? We met on here 2 yrs ago and are having the fabbest time.. best relationship we have ever had.. we have our moments but who doesn't? "

Starting to think it would be great to meet a like minded person on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging has brought us closer than ever before, as well as achieving alot of fantasy's we have wanted to play out.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.

Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"

We have stayed together.we don't have to shag behind each other's back, we do it in front of each other!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been together 45 years, married for 42 years, swinging for 30 years. Works for us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has brought us closer together "

Would you say you appreciate each other more due to swinging?

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By *ustaceSmithMan
over a year ago

Saxmundham


"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates

For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? "

I agree with the above. Part of the attraction of swinging for me is that I meet couples outside my usual circle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates

For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?

Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles? "

Anyone choosing a sex partner. The criteria for selection seems to be far higher than NSA sex would seem to require.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story.

Did that include 1 on 1 meets for you or your ex?

That was the agreements we play together. So always was together and could see what each other was doing.

It was great fun while we played together.

20+ years married and a solid one, till one day it all changed.

That could of happened in a normal life.

So who knows ?? "

Ok. Thanks. May i ask, was it infidelity or some other cause that ended it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really interesting points in this thread.

We have been swinging for just over 2 years, married for 10 years - swinging has brought us closer together because we have learnt more about what brings us sexual fulfilment and we have shared some amazing experiences. It has not all been easy but the main thing is we have communicated with each other rather than sneaking off to get sexual thrills without consent of spouse. m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been together 35 years married 31 swinging 14 years xxx

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We have been in the lifestyle for over 16 years and love one another as much as the day we got married so for us,it's fantastic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates

For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?

Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles?

Anyone choosing a sex partner. The criteria for selection seems to be far higher than NSA sex would seem to require. "

Ah yes I see what you mean now. It does seem to be the case that quite often people are blurring the lines between NSA and dating. It probably shouldn't be a concern for us if people are vulnerable and are potentially getting hurt, but it does if these are people we might cross paths with.

We've found swinging a bit of a minefield lately, it wasn't quite like this when we first got into it 12 years ago.

Probably sounds a bit callous - but I'm not, we're both actually quite emotional people, so we prefer to keep boundaries clear.

-Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates

For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.

I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?

They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?

Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles?

Anyone choosing a sex partner. The criteria for selection seems to be far higher than NSA sex would seem to require.

Ah yes I see what you mean now. It does seem to be the case that quite often people are blurring the lines between NSA and dating. It probably shouldn't be a concern for us if people are vulnerable and are potentially getting hurt, but it does if these are people we might cross paths with.

We've found swinging a bit of a minefield lately, it wasn't quite like this when we first got into it 12 years ago.

Probably sounds a bit callous - but I'm not, we're both actually quite emotional people, so we prefer to keep boundaries clear.

-Mr "

Exactly what I believe. I have seen posts where a woman in a couple meets the same man every week and spends the night with him alone. He wines and dines her before sex. For me that is just dangerously toying with emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"According to a Norvegian study they do until they don't "
are you really fabulous??

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