FabSwingers.com forum: You're the 3rd wheel

By *itmanAndHerr OP Couple
over a year ago

st helens

So what do you look for when choosing to join a couple?

Alot of profiles when mentioning couples talk about how they don't want boundaries and it should be a 3way thing. We personally don't understand how it would be comfortable or fun without it being a 3 way thing.

Restrictions like "no kissing" or "I don't want him fucking you" in our opinion make for a pretty drab and uncomfortable scenario. If it's going to be fun then we want all concerned to get the most out of it. sharing is caring.

So what do you look for when choosing to meet a couple? What do you want out of it?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"So what do you look for when choosing to join a couple?

So what do you look for when choosing to meet a couple? What do you want out of it?"

Is that directed at women?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We must admit, although we have a couple of boundaries ie no anal especially on first meet, we largely feel the same. Wouldn't be as fun with rules spinning around your head the whole time.

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By *itmanAndHerr OP Couple
over a year ago

st helens

"So what do you look for when choosing to join a couple?

So what do you look for when choosing to meet a couple? What do you want out of it?

Is that directed at women?"

From a personal perspective it's aimed at women but I've purposely worded it to be all inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont like setting rules and boundaries.

Its more about mutual comfort, respect and courtesy.

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

This is precisely why when meeting a single we try to allow her to set the boundaries (sorry single men). It's just easier than saying hi third wheel here's our list of what we want to do with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately it will come down to the communication between the third and the couple. Realistically there will be things you don't want to do. I can see why anyone coming in to that dynamic wouldn't be up for all those restrictions but then bear in mind the couple will need to have a say.

For us we don't really have any limits apart from no bareback but that is more sensible than anything else we'd like to think

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By *itmanAndHerr OP Couple
over a year ago

st helens

There's definitely quite a few couples out there that do set boundaries and I imagine most of the couples that would comment here would be against that. It would be interesting to hear from couples with boundaries but my main question was to the singles and what they look for in a couple.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

we have not got rules But we do know what we are looking for and maybe more important what we are not looking for so play by the couple woman group or man we are playing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't really have boundaries. The main issue that has at times been a problem is that when texting there is a tendency for single men to just want to chat to me and not my husband. So it's a case of the husband at risk of being the third wheel not the single man. This is why we go to considerable care to only choose men who understand and enjoy the dynamics of couple play. But we've had a number of men tell us that we treat them well compared to their other experiences with other couples. We been told that it's quite common for couples to have no kissing rules amongst other boundaries, making them feel like a sex toy purely for the couple's pleasure. At the end of the day, we feel a fulfilling threesome has to be a three-way relationship of which all parties are mutually benefitted.

Mrs

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Personally I want a mutually beneficial encounter for all involved. I understand that there are couples where penetrative sex is not going to happen - but if that's factored in with kissing only the woman and only playing with her whilst her husband watches? I'd much rather have a lady wank or meet a single female to avoid the dreaded show. No kissing is another thing I'm uncertain about me, if it's just within the couple that's understandable but if only allowed between the woman and I it's another filter for both myself and the couple. The dynamic involved can add further complications but well adjusted couples with clear understanding of their relationship and not treating me like a toy is always preferred.

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

Stunt penis? Bi fem? Or third wheel?

Isn't language just oh so genteel.

Boundaries? Rules?

Are for fops and for fools.

Play as one. Embrace sex appeal.

Adieu.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we meet a couple of simple rules, safe sex and the no pee pain or poo and no man love other than that let the good times role

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always want to know the ground rules and boundaries.

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