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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We often wonder if single guys get nervous when meeting a couple for the first time....would love to know your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I backed out of a meet with a couple partly due to nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as can never be sure if they will like you in person. But the nerves are all part of the fun

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By *carletcoupleCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I would think so for a lot of guys. We still get nervous meeting anybody, but it all adds to the excitement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I thought so ...that's why a couple of times I (female half) have met the guy for about 15 minutes alone so they are more comfortable by the time Mark joins us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought so ...that's why a couple of times I (female half) have met the guy for about 15 minutes alone so they are more comfortable by the time Mark joins us "

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I get nervous walking into pub socials.

But I like your approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get nervous walking into pub socials.

But I like your approach. "

We rarely do pub socials tbh but I suppose that breaks the ice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered if all single guys felt nervous or some were so horny they just needed to get into it....which diminish any nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered if all single guys felt nervous or some were so horny they just needed to get into it....which diminish any nerves "

As long as all happy straight in then social at halftime lol

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

When I first got involved in the swinging scene, it was more trepidation rather than nerves re first couple...it never happened, it would have meant a fair journey and probably a hotel overnight for me...felt a bit rushed/pushed by them...

Since then...I never get nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I first got involved in the swinging scene, it was more trepidation rather than nerves re first couple...it never happened, it would have meant a fair journey and probably a hotel overnight for me...felt a bit rushed/pushed by them...

Since then...I never get nervous"

So do you feel totally at ease playing in a mmf with a couple ie. Doing what you feel like in front of the male half to his partner

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By *inger SiMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

I have never gotten nervous before, I just get excited at the prospect of meeting new people I see it as a fun adventure.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"So do you feel totally at ease playing in a mmf with a couple ie. Doing what you feel like in front of the male half to his partner "

That part tends to come later, by which time the ice is broken, and the nerves are past!

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

The first time was down to pot luck

(On the back of a military truck.)

My anxiety state?

Twas a cruel twist of fate,

That I could only be...nervous as fuck.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We often wonder if single guys get nervous when meeting a couple for the first time....would love to know your thoughts "

Yes very daunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couple will have their own special dynamic. I can only imagine having to compete with that would be quite nerve racking, especially the first time. Like with everything though, the more you do it, the easier it probably gets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love the thought of a guy just letting go and going for it...no nerves ...just fun and playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I love the thought of a guy just letting go and going for it...no nerves ...just fun and playing

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That takes a lot of work, and some luck. Every couple has developed a series of shorthands, verbal and otherwise, and fitting in to that as an outsider isn't automatic. Five minutes chatting first can make such a difference - everybody gets more out of the experience that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was really nervous the first time but they both put me at ease and ended up having an amazing time. Now I still get a little nervous but its more excitement now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous for every meet I have

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We often wonder if single guys get nervous when meeting a couple for the first time....would love to know your thoughts "

I get nervous so I'm sure it's worse for guys.

They have the same concerns as me as well as performance anxiety.

I try to remember that and take it into account during meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great question SimplyClass . I do feel a mix of excitement and nerves. Meeting two new people who already have a close relationship is intimidating and makes meeting 2 far more nerve wracking than meeting one. However, I feel it is worth the nerves when the 3some works beautifully

You are truly thoughtful & classy to be sensitive to this and to meet 1-on-1 first! Bravo!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"We often wonder if single guys get nervous when meeting a couple for the first time....would love to know your thoughts "

I'm going to be shot for saying this op but I don't really feel nerves anymore over meets or sex its rather disconcerting if I'm being honest .

the only reason I can think of to explain why I don't feel nerves anymore is to say .I think its because ultimately I'm in control of the situation and the out come if that makes any sense xxx

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