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Being a nice guy a turnoff?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I am always what you call a nice guy, friendly, polite and respectful. I now seem to think this may be a turnoff for girls as I think girls may prefer a badboy rather than a nice guy.

Anyway I want to see what you girls think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's not a turn off. some people will like cheeky guys or bad guys, but most tend to want respectful.

other things factor into attractiveness also. but personality is one of the main things to keep people interested, sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice guys come last but bad boys don't last.

You have to be a man for all seasons. Passionate, Witty, Adventurous, Loving and Loyal, a little bit crazy and a little bit bad,,,,,,,,,, but hey don't you girls just love that!!!!!

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

I think nice guys often get a bad deal but I would rather be nice and treat everyone with respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm never sure what men mean by this.

Do you mean that all the men that are successful with women aren't very nice?

Or that women want to be treated badly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really want a woman who prefers a bad boy? I'd rather spend my evening with palm and her 5 sisters instead. I'd consider myself a nice person - kind, caring, empathic. These are traits I really admire about myself, I wouldn't ever change them for a woman, and certainly not for a woman who doesn't value them either.

Whatever you do, don't confuse confidence with badness or being an asshole. Women like confidence, work on that while also maintaining your good qualities and you'll do well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think "nice guys" actually describes spineless beta males these days. I think most women love nice guys, as long as they can remain a man whilst being nice. It's when men display cuck tendencies that women get turned off, I imagine.

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink


"Would you really want a woman who prefers a bad boy? I'd rather spend my evening with palm and her 5 sisters instead. I'd consider myself a nice person - kind, caring, empathic. These are traits I really admire about myself, I wouldn't ever change them for a woman, and certainly not for a woman who doesn't value them either.

Whatever you do, don't confuse confidence with badness or being an asshole. Women like confidence, work on that while also maintaining your good qualities and you'll do well. "

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"I think "nice guys" actually describes spineless beta males these days. I think most women love nice guys, as long as they can remain a man whilst being nice. It's when men display cuck tendencies that women get turned off, I imagine."

Yeah, they have to take charge and be a man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree,x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think about the archetypal woman who goes after bad boys, is that the kind of woman you want? Women who are confident, fun, interesting, and /or display other desirable qualities are attracted to decent, thinking, confident men. To me 'bad boy = complete cock'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you really want a woman who prefers a bad boy? I'd rather spend my evening with palm and her 5 sisters instead. I'd consider myself a nice person - kind, caring, empathic. These are traits I really admire about myself, I wouldn't ever change them for a woman, and certainly not for a woman who doesn't value them either.

Whatever you do, don't confuse confidence with badness or being an asshole. Women like confidence, work on that while also maintaining your good qualities and you'll do well. "

straight on my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you think about the archetypal woman who goes after bad boys, is that the kind of woman you want? Women who are confident, fun, interesting, and /or display other desirable qualities are attracted to decent, thinking, confident men. To me 'bad boy = complete cock'. "

sometimes people go after 'bad boys' coz they wanna fix them, feel sorry for them. i agree they are cocks but the women who like them don't see them that way.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"If you think about the archetypal woman who goes after bad boys, is that the kind of woman you want? Women who are confident, fun, interesting, and /or display other desirable qualities are attracted to decent, thinking, confident men. To me 'bad boy = complete cock'. "

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I think "nice guys" actually describes spineless beta males these days. I think most women love nice guys, as long as they can remain a man whilst being nice. It's when men display cuck tendencies that women get turned off, I imagine.

Yeah, they have to take charge and be a man lol"

Anyone tries to 'take charge' of me will get short shrift.

OP, are you nice, or 'nice'. Women can tell if you really want to get to know them and have a laugh, or are just pretending to be nice to get into their knickers. Try being honest instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you think about the archetypal woman who goes after bad boys, is that the kind of woman you want? Women who are confident, fun, interesting, and /or display other desirable qualities are attracted to decent, thinking, confident men. To me 'bad boy = complete cock'.

sometimes people go after 'bad boys' coz they wanna fix them, feel sorry for them. i agree they are cocks but the women who like them don't see them that way."

That's because some women like those who are a bit of a catch, but who are also a challenge.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I think "nice guys" actually describes spineless beta males these days. I think most women love nice guys, as long as they can remain a man whilst being nice. It's when men display cuck tendencies that women get turned off, I imagine.

Yeah, they have to take charge and be a man lol

Anyone tries to 'take charge' of me will get short shrift.

OP, are you nice, or 'nice'. Women can tell if you really want to get to know them and have a laugh, or are just pretending to be nice to get into their knickers. Try being honest instead."

I have to agree with this

no one is perfect unless its a put on .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Would you really want a woman who prefers a bad boy? I'd rather spend my evening with palm and her 5 sisters instead. I'd consider myself a nice person - kind, caring, empathic. These are traits I really admire about myself, I wouldn't ever change them for a woman, and certainly not for a woman who doesn't value them either.

Whatever you do, don't confuse confidence with badness or being an asshole. Women like confidence, work on that while also maintaining your good qualities and you'll do well. "
spot on

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

Be yourself...if you try and act differently , you'll eventually come unstuck,whether as nice trying to be bad or vice versa.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If you think about the archetypal woman who goes after bad boys, is that the kind of woman you want? Women who are confident, fun, interesting, and /or display other desirable qualities are attracted to decent, thinking, confident men. To me 'bad boy = complete cock'. "
spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you really want a woman who prefers a bad boy? I'd rather spend my evening with palm and her 5 sisters instead. I'd consider myself a nice person - kind, caring, empathic. These are traits I really admire about myself, I wouldn't ever change them for a woman, and certainly not for a woman who doesn't value them either.

Whatever you do, don't confuse confidence with badness or being an asshole. Women like confidence, work on that while also maintaining your good qualities and you'll do well.

straight on my hotlist"

This is spot on. You can be nice whilst still being confident and assertive. Have confidence yourself and your attractiveness, be yourself and you'll do fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you really want a woman who prefers a bad boy? I'd rather spend my evening with palm and her 5 sisters instead. I'd consider myself a nice person - kind, caring, empathic. These are traits I really admire about myself, I wouldn't ever change them for a woman, and certainly not for a woman who doesn't value them either.

Whatever you do, don't confuse confidence with badness or being an asshole. Women like confidence, work on that while also maintaining your good qualities and you'll do well. "

thanks, good advice

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