FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies - would you require to have at least one social meet before having sex with someone?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"... taking the plunge?"

Haven't heard it called that before!

Sorry, carry on, I'll see myself out...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Social first for me, always. If I meet them again it would be for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... taking the plunge?

Haven't heard it called that before!

Sorry, carry on, I'll see myself out...

Ye, should have used another term, lol!

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Nope,my spare time is precious, if I want to go for a drink etc I have friends for that ?? I broke that 'rule' once and met someone for a coffee, he was a complete nutter and stalked me. I met him to be kind. I wouldn't have had sex with him even if I had been blind enough to arrange that type of meet. I can tell someone sorry but your photos are twenty years ut of date etc x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on my mood really and what vibes I get from them, how comfortable I am

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first then go away to decide if we want to see each other again. I handed out way too many pity shags in the beginning before deciding on my "Social First" rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met 3 men from here. 2 had sex with on the first meet and 1 on the second meet

but I had chatted to them for a week or so prior to meeting up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No rule....I have a social if I am not sure, if I am....well maybe not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally yes. But I have met someone on a previous site and after chatting for ages we met and I knew I had to have him then and there. He oozed sex. Utter filth.

So we booked a hotel room and that ''twas the start of a few months of hot fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes always a social in a public place for the first meet.

I'm the stupid woman who didn't do that when joining here and ended up in a difficult situation.

If the guy isn't happy with a social then he isn't worth me shaving my minky and legs for in the first place. Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a social as such but i do insist on meeting in public first only for my safty and to see if i want to shag them before i commit myself to it

But if we like each other i see no point in going home and arranging another meet, i want a shag now not a week on Thursday when we are both free again

I only really do one off meets so if we dont shag on the first meet the chances are we never will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick.

As a guy I have no problem meeting first. It works for us both! If you want to go ahead fine but it's possibly more enjoyable with a social!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

It's amazing how many men think meeting for a drink to see if you want to fuck is dating

If thats your idea of a date no wonder your single

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

When I met men alone I wasn't ever interested in a social as I wasn't looking forma relationship. Same think now when I meet with my partner. I dont have a problem meeting other women socially before sex .... if they need that, but again I am not looking for any relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely at least 1 social before the next step if it's gonna happen.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Social first for me, always. If I meet them again it would be for sex

That's exactly what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no. i am up for socials but i'm likely to have sex as well.

don't really see the point in holding off from having sex if i want sex with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the odd slip, my first meets have always been social meets. I like to gage the chemistry before jumping into the bed with them, if the chemistry is right, the next meet is really charged with the anticipation of the naughtiness to come.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

Exactly the same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social meet first, for both safety and to see if there is any chemistry.

I don't know how I'd handle meeting for sex straight away - what if we don't like each other in the flesh? Could be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet for a combination of friendship and sex, so even repeat meets will have some sort of social element to it. Happy to play on first meet though if all goes well.

Mrs

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Always a social meet with someone I've never met before.

Allows both of us to check there's chemistry there and also for me to gage what they are Like.

Since joining this site I've met single GUYS that have had very scary, violent meets that has forced them to back away from this lifestyle, so I'm well aware of the real dangers out there of meeting strangers off the Internet.

I'm very selective over who I meet and with new people I'm very cautious

Once I've met them and my full H & S checks completed, then the naughty and spontaneous me comes out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally do but it's not a hard and fast rule. If someone isn't local, for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I don't fuck about.

If I meet, I'm meeting for sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first. To check the chemistry and for a psycho check. I've arranged to meet in a club on first meeting but that's because the safety aspect is taken care of then.xx

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Always a social first to suss then out but if all is good then find a bed to do the deed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With the odd slip, my first meets have always been social meets. I like to gage the chemistry before jumping into the bed with them, if the chemistry is right, the next meet is really charged with the anticipation of the naughtiness to come.

I love your logic! That anticipation would be so exciting! Half of the pleasure would be even before the meet! It would be slow-burn excitement just like winding up a spring. Once you meet and let the spring go - oh baby!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

I like the sound of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I met away from clubs I always had a social, as there was no guarantee i would be attracted to them in person. I did meet one that I liked in person and we took things further the same day, but as there was only one I gave up on meets away from clubs. If I meet someone at a club there's always the chance I'll meet them away from the club though.

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

Social first if not in a club mainly due to safety etc if meeting in a club usually drink and chat downstairs then if we click can go upstairs and play.

Safety is more important than play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rea insisted on a social first, and I agreed and supported her on that matter.

It irons out any doubts and gives an idea of whether there is any chemistry and compatibility.

A social works both ways of course, after all we had some tell us sorry but you're not what I / We are looking for, and that is priceless.

The other thing a social helps to do us out the time wasters, if they can't turn up for a social then they're hardly likely to turn up for a sexy session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only meet in clubs now so if we fancy each other game on. Used to do coffee socials but too many fantasists waste your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet for a coffe in Costa first and if there's chemistry have her over the counter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to have a social first as no matter how much I chat to them online and think there's an attraction, it often isn't the case when I meet them in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

Same for me - with men and couples.

If I've decided to meet them, then I've pretty much decided that I'm ready to play with them.

No sex on the first meet means that there won't be a second one!

But when meeting another women, then anything is open as it may turn into a progressing friendship....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always want a social first, but we will play on the same meet if we click.

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By *otrockloverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Always a social first. If I'm not connecting with a brain and personality, then there's little chance of connecting physically. Meeting again for sex is always way hotter after having met a three-dimensional person first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am surprised at the number of women who like social meets as a precursor to sex. I have reached the point where, if the guy will not meet me in a public place, he just will never meet me. I have had some interesting reactions from men when asking for a social meet first. I like to grab a quick coffee, form an impression and go away to decide if it is going further. Thought I would be in the minority to be honest. Glad to see I am not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"

Not really... prefer to just meet random guys at clubs.. couples we have but its a sure fire way for me to go off the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet me guys at clubs - that way you can have a social at the club and then if you like each other, the facilities are all there to be enjoyed. And if you don't click, both can go off and find someone they are interested in, without there being any accusations of anyone being a "timewaster" for not wanting to shag them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested in social meets. Sex is all that matters

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

No never, we have limited time available and would not waste it on a social meet.

We meet for sex if others want to waste time talking about the weather move on you are not for us.

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

!! X

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

I will!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Mainly a social first. But it does depend on the person. I've met before in the hotel bar and then fucked within the hour. I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting someone I don't know without anyone around me in my hotel room due to there being a couple of times when the other person has been very far removed from how they were originally described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mainly a social first. But it does depend on the person. I've met before in the hotel bar and then fucked within the hour. I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting someone I don't know without anyone around me in my hotel room due to there being a couple of times when the other person has been very far removed from how they were originally described."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There always has to be a social, even if it's a drink and we go on to play after but couldn't just invite someone around and get straight to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer social meet 1st time because met couple of lads I really didn't like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do always insist a social be it at my house or a public place. If we connect then I don't rule out play straight after the social

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.

Another thumbs up from me. To take it further we never "meet" - we only play in clubs. That way I can have sex with strangers but have the advantage of seeing what they look like first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be a social first there has to be more things stimulated than my dick

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

Hi, We are a bit different we try to meet on the beach bit like the telly program "Naked.Attraction" Connie x

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

as a social but if happy will play if not happy then its been a social always the option have met for social and played and also the other way round

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I would imagine for a single lady, from a safety point of view, a social is good first. For us, we would play on first meeting if all were happy

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By *ose CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

If I were meeting someone without J then I would meet them somewhere public first (Costa/Pub etc) but that might lead to sex if we clicked and both wanted to. I would never go to someone's hotel room or home without having met them first - just from a safety perspective.

I much prefer to message for a bit first though, you can get a sense of whether you will get on from messages so that's more likely to expedite the fun after the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

You go girl! My exact thoughts precisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got to be a social first there has to be more things stimulated than my dick"

This

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By *aughty neighboursWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Only ever had one social when meeting alone. Wasn't for me.

Prefer to message & get to know each other & see if we click.

Then meet & hope he's not a mad stalker/axe murderer!

It's worked so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was meeting no i just met for sex, would chat a bit on here just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time social first but I have had meets where its been spontanaeous and had sex as soon as we met, maybe the sexual attraction and chemistry was there but most of the time it is a social and if we get on a kiss. Usually by the 2nd meet I would expect to have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say hello is social enough for us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got to be a social first there has to be more things stimulated than my dick"

What makes you think that this is only achievable with a social meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try to have a social first but sometimes it just takes so long to meet in the first place that you just want the sex in there and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion I prefer meeting in person before anything happens, people can be a bit more forward over a keyboard so I like to chat usually over a coffee and see what we are like in real life together

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

In answer to the question: Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always meet socially 1st for saftey x Betty

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Social first always. And I go away and decide before a play date.

The time I broke that rule was the time I was fighting a guy off me in a hotel room and it scared the shit out of me.

Always, ALWAYS a social. And no guarantee of play after that (depends how the social goes.)

Plus I can't tell if I have chemistry with a guy without a social. I like chemistry.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Oh but in a club when my husband is there - no social required if I like him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"

Always meet in a public area have a coffee and a chat. If there is a spark of attraction then will go "all the way" on a 1st meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not big on socials if we arrange to meet someone from here its for one thing only and it's not to get know each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try for a social first unless they're travelling a fair distance

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Always a social but only one. If im unsure it means i cant be that interested.

Ive usually made up my mind within a couple of minute into a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Definitely a social initially .... maybe two ... I have standards and I wont lower them ...

Sex with a total stranger is simply out of the question ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah ...I'm a right slut! !...I always go with the thought there's going to be sex ...I do my ground work ..don't rush into meeting and I'm more or less sure we're going to get on..hence all my meets have been successful and we've ended up shagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social first for us every time as there needs to be some sort of spark to get our fire going .

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

If I could get someone round I certainly wouldn't waste time talking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

Always coffee/social meet first, my safety is my priority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

public social first and if we click then fantastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies for me. If we have been chatting for a while then no need for a social. Occasionally, if it's a new friend, I may say meet at mine for a chat first but I normally have my lingerie on under a dress ready for action.

I very very good with my choices now. I've had one total fuck-up since joining!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the look of someone and we click intellectually on here ....I enjoy meeting them for sex straight away ...find it such a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

In total agreement here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely a social initially .... maybe two ... I have standards and I wont lower them ...

Sex with a total stranger is simply out of the question ..."

Best way as far as I'm concerned x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you call a man who expects sex on the 3rd date?

Patient!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
If I've decided to meet somebody it would be for sex. Provided they make the first move. I'm not here to date after all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a social as such but i do insist on meeting in public first only for my safty and to see if i want to shag them before i commit myself to it

But if we like each other i see no point in going home and arranging another meet, i want a shag now not a week on Thursday when we are both free again

I only really do one off meets so if we dont shag on the first meet the chances are we never will"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "

My kinda woman lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We really thought we were in the minority here as we never do socials .

It's purely about the sex and one offs are perfect .

I would say if we did socials we would have only played with half the people we have , as the boredom and mundanity of sitting chatting about mindless drivel with someone you just want to have sex with is futile and pointless .

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope! Socials for friends, meets for sex!

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By *he Ginger PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yes always a social in a public place for the first meet.

I'm the stupid woman who didn't do that when joining here and ended up in a difficult situation.

If the guy isn't happy with a social then he isn't worth me shaving my minky and legs for in the first place. Ha ha "

Minky pmsl!!!!

I'm so using that expression lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.

Exactly the same here

Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"

As I'm meeting in my home and I'm using restraints etc, it's important I feel comfortable and sexually attracted to the person.

The same applies to my meets. They are coming into my home and put in vulnerable positions, they need to feel safe with me.

I have dodged many a bullet having a social meet first!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.

Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "

You know I've never encountered that!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"When I met men alone I wasn't ever interested in a social as I wasn't looking forma relationship. Same think now when I meet with my partner. I dont have a problem meeting other women socially before sex .... if they need that, but again I am not looking for any relationship"

I don't see the correlation between meeting someone for a coffee to ascertain whether you want to invite them into your home for sex and dating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the correlation between meeting someone for a coffee to ascertain whether you want to invite them into your home for sex and dating!

It's because everything on the forum is one extreme or the other. If you want a social you're looking for a relationship, if you don't you'll fuck anyone and have no standards

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I always do a social meet first, for both safety and to see if there is any chemistry.

I don't know how I'd handle meeting for sex straight away - what if we don't like each other in the flesh? Could be awkward "

That's why I meet socially first. I met a man in an out of the way hotel when I first started...The less said about that encounter the better!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"

Not necessarily

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Always a social meet with someone I've never met before.

Allows both of us to check there's chemistry there and also for me to gage what they are Like.

I'm very selective over who I meet and with new people I'm very cautious

Once I've met them and my full H & S checks completed, then the naughty and spontaneous me comes out

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

For us it is always a social first to see if there is that vital "click" then if all are happy then we play on the 2nd meet.

Works for us. And saved us some considerable problems too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We really thought we were in the minority here as we never do socials .

It's purely about the sex and one offs are perfect .

Mrs

For me I've not wanted to have sex with them. One guy I didn't even sit down as he was a cunt from the off. Fantastic in messages and on the phone. I dodged a bullet not meeting in my home for sure.

I have a partner, not looking to date. He plays in clubs whilst I watch, I play alone.

Horses for courses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social for us as we learned early on here it doesn't matter how well you get on through messages, texts and phone calls are no substitute for face to face but if all goes well we are happy to play on first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the ladies here.

I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.

Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"

We only meet for sex. The 'social' is the time beforehand when we chat and see if we want to go further. Time is very precious and this works well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.

Exactly the same here

Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me. "

Personally I'm very picky about who I invite into my home and have sex with. No knitting and biscuits on my socials - it's more of a couple of drinks to see if the guy is sound enough to be brought back to where I live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.

Exactly the same here

Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me.

Welcome back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont meet single men and meet couples with a good long term friend of mine - so no social required for that - ladies only at clubs first usually - of but if any of that were to change i would have social first -

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I have no rules.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.

Exactly the same here

Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me.

Same for me. My socials are during my lunch break or in the evening after work before I get my train...so no long, drawn out protracted meet. Just long enough to ascertain chemistry etc.

Arranging a meet and just getting jiggy with a total stranger doesn't work for me, but unlike some on this thread I wouldn't be dismissive and condescending to those who play differently to me!

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Don't need a social first..i meet, talk, give it a short amount of time... Hint to head to the bedroom or head home...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have played on a 1st meet but that was because the chemistry between us was on fire and we just had too x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Social first for me, always. If I meet them again it would be for sex

Same here

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Social always I don't have sex with somebody unless there is chemistry. ...if there is then maybe yes

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"Nah ...I'm a right slut! !...I always go with the thought there's going to be sex ...I do my ground work ..don't rush into meeting and I'm more or less sure we're going to get on..hence all my meets have been successful and we've ended up shagging

Exactly this. I do my homework before we even meet. We chat on here to establish a vibe and if you are interesting and serious, then whatsapp so we see each other in real time. Then we arrange a meet and fuck. If we don't get past the first two stages, then what's the point of a social.

But I have done socials because I had nothing better to do and was curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im an ugly twat in real life (and in photos i guess) so socials first are a disadvantage to me hahaha

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always have a social meet first,if we all want to play then we usually arrange another time.

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