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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely I always get the "my wife is big curious she'd just like to be played with but won't touch in return" I'm not there to break your wife in and get you some new pictures for your profile xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i meet a lady with my male friend we make it more about them - make them the centre of attention and try to fulfill their fantasy if they have one - once the fun starts it just flows but we always have a chat first to find out boundaries and expectations xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely I always get the "my wife is big curious she'd just like to be played with but won't touch in return" I'm not there to break your wife in and get you some new pictures for your profile xxxx"

Exactly this...so self centred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find single bi females are quite common. But getting them interested in joining the couple dynamic is the very difficult part. Most couples make a couple mess of that side of it though.

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

As a couple we always like the lady that joins us to be the centre of both our attentions

It's the most fun when everybody plays together

Limits and wants are always discussed before hand. If anything it's the lady's pleasure if anything that we enjoy giving

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a couple we always like the lady that joins us to be the centre of both our attentions

It's the most fun when everybody plays together

Limits and wants are always discussed before hand. If anything it's the lady's pleasure if anything that we enjoy giving "

You need to move north

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a couple we always like the lady that joins us to be the centre of both our attentions

It's the most fun when everybody plays together

Limits and wants are always discussed before hand. If anything it's the lady's pleasure if anything that we enjoy giving

You need to move north "

AGREED!!!! lol I love playing with couples and granted not all are like I described x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing."

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It is a shame that some couples treat single ladies like that We have had a few FFM meets and everyone has had an equally good time, all joining in fully together. We think it is especially important to make sure the lady joining us feels completely at ease and feels fulfilled.

You can probably judge from their profile and any verifications from single ladies if they will be right for you.

Bun

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath


"As a couple we always like the lady that joins us to be the centre of both our attentions

It's the most fun when everybody plays together

Limits and wants are always discussed before hand. If anything it's the lady's pleasure if anything that we enjoy giving

You need to move north "

We are always excited by a weekend away xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a couple we always like the lady that joins us to be the centre of both our attentions

It's the most fun when everybody plays together

Limits and wants are always discussed before hand. If anything it's the lady's pleasure if anything that we enjoy giving "

Very much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing."

This is so true! Before me and MrP even joined the site we set our boundaries,, it's the same when we have spoke to couples it's clear that one of them is more keen then the other one! So that puts us off completely!

If we chat on kik then I always suggest a group chat with everyone involved, that way we can get to know each other

As a couple you have to remember that when your meeting a bi female it should be about making them feel comfortable with you, knowing her wants and her dislikes, then the fun can start.

(Don't even know if this makes sense lol late night last night

)

MrsP

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This is so true! Before me and MrP even joined the site we set our boundaries,, it's the same when we have spoke to couples it's clear that one of them is more keen then the other one! So that puts us off completely!

If we chat on kik then I always suggest a group chat with everyone involved, that way we can get to know each other

As a couple you have to remember that when your meeting a bi female it should be about making them feel comfortable with you, knowing her wants and her dislikes, then the fun can start.

(Don't even know if this makes sense lol late night last night

)

MrsP

Xxx"

That makes total sense. Fun for all involved surely has to be the main priority, but sadly not in a lot of couples cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a shame that some couples treat single ladies like that We have had a few FFM meets and everyone has had an equally good time, all joining in fully together. We think it is especially important to make sure the lady joining us feels completely at ease and feels fulfilled.

You can probably judge from their profile and any verifications from single ladies if they will be right for you.

Bun "
this is how we have always been but due to bad experiences with couples I wont ever meet a couple by myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

"
suppose you've just gotta get talking to people and if it dosent sound beneficial to everyone move on!! Some couples just think their fantasys matter but it's allways better to ask upfront and who knows you may find shared interests xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to be a common problem for single ladies on here. We hope our profile shows that we are not like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we wrote ours I really thought about how I would feel if I was the single woman. Xxx some of us do try as the couple above also have xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we wrote ours I really thought about how I would feel if I was the single woman. Xxx some of us do try as the couple above also have xx

"

We try to understand it from their point of view it must be so nerve wracking to meet a couple when you are a single female we try our best to make them feel at ease and are polite and never pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a common problem on here I think so many people think that a woman is a plaything for them to use (whether that's a couple or a single woman ) we get it so often someone will msg and basically tell my hubby "we want to play but not with you, if you like you can watch I guess"...the whole point is you all benefit from here it's for everyone's sexual wants and needs not for some bloke to brag to his mates that he had two women the night before or a couple that are just in for the hubby's 'thrills' it isn't fair and so many people seem to do it (not sure if I've worded it right hopefully you get what I mean lol)

Unfortunately we find that when we do inbox a woman and sometimes another couple we get blanked most box time but it's swings and roundabouts it's all part of the site and it's a shame that so many people seem to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we wrote ours I really thought about how I would feel if I was the single woman. Xxx some of us do try as the couple above also have xx

We try to understand it from their point of view it must be so nerve wracking to meet a couple when you are a single female we try our best to make them feel at ease and are polite and never pushy. "
yep exactly!! Also always happy to prove who we are and exchange phone nbers when needed so it's clear we are who we are!! As you say it must quite intimidating suppose that's why alot only meet at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be very happy to meet a single bi fem ...... but they seem to just pass us by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a couple of very good meets with great ladies, no one person was or never intended to be the centre or attention all evening.

Having read others experiences on here we count ourselves lucky to even had two meets, but we are becoming increasingly frustrated by the amount of bi women who have a wasted our time. Agreed there are few women being chased by many couples, but some clearly can't go through with meeting up when they have agreed to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been trying for a while to find a bi female to join us for equal way play, but haven't had any luck yet.we don't want a performance put on in front of the male part of the couple but a equal three-way dynamic. Unfortunately it's so hard to find someone to join in.

PandMp

Xxx

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

"

Why do you care about the attitudes of people who you won't meet up with? If you've managed to have successful meets with couples, then you clearly know what you are looking for.

Also, the people you are talking about are unlikely to read this thread. Have you considered offering them your advice directly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

Why do you care about the attitudes of people who you won't meet up with? If you've managed to have successful meets with couples, then you clearly know what you are looking for.

Also, the people you are talking about are unlikely to read this thread. Have you considered offering them your advice directly?"

I was asking if other females had the same experience. Where did I mention that I actually care about the people who won't meet me ?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

Why do you care about the attitudes of people who you won't meet up with? If you've managed to have successful meets with couples, then you clearly know what you are looking for.

Also, the people you are talking about are unlikely to read this thread. Have you considered offering them your advice directly?

I was asking if other females had the same experience. Where did I mention that I actually care about the people who won't meet me ?"

Because when you write 'Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.', one would have to assume you are offering them advice.

They are far more likely to benefit from this advice if you offer it directly, rather than starting a thread about it. Of course, you are free to do both, or neither. But it seems a bit silly to expect people to change their behaviour towards you if you don't inform them of what you think they are doing wrong.

And you clearly think they are doing something wrong, or you wouldn't have made a thread about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

Why do you care about the attitudes of people who you won't meet up with? If you've managed to have successful meets with couples, then you clearly know what you are looking for.

Also, the people you are talking about are unlikely to read this thread. Have you considered offering them your advice directly?

I was asking if other females had the same experience. Where did I mention that I actually care about the people who won't meet me ?

Because when you write 'Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.', one would have to assume you are offering them advice.

They are far more likely to benefit from this advice if you offer it directly, rather than starting a thread about it. Of course, you are free to do both, or neither. But it seems a bit silly to expect people to change their behaviour towards you if you don't inform them of what you think they are doing wrong.

And you clearly think they are doing something wrong, or you wouldn't have made a thread about it."

I've often informed couples why i have refused to meet them. The forums are here for open discussion, surely that's the whole point. If you think my post is silly then you don't have to join in

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

But we did.

You also don't have to reply, don't forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we wrote ours I really thought about how I would feel if I was the single woman. Xxx some of us do try as the couple above also have xx

We try to understand it from their point of view it must be so nerve wracking to meet a couple when you are a single female we try our best to make them feel at ease and are polite and never pushy. yep exactly!! Also always happy to prove who we are and exchange phone nbers when needed so it's clear we are who we are!! As you say it must quite intimidating suppose that's why alot only meet at clubs "

We are always happy for them to choose where to meet and also if they want to bring someone else along so they feel comfortable. We hope our profile reflects this but are happy to take advice on it as you are always learning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Definitely. I have experienced this a few times and remember a lady messaging me saying it was hubby's birthday and she wanted to arrange a surprise threesome for him and could I come over to their hotel after they had had dinner!?

My answer to them was simple - ' 'if you buy a copy of Sport newspaper and go to the Escort column you can then arrange an escort who will come to your room for £150 an hour or so'.

They took the hint.

I don't have 'mug' written over my face.

And certainly not on fab to be used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

"
For us it's totally different we don't want a fuck toy we want someone we click with on all levels and someone who likes both of us on levels then it's a social to see how we get along,it's not a case of doing it for mr or just someone to use for sex.Its a added extra to something which is already great so we're in no rush and we're more than happy just the two of us and if we do ever cross paths with someone who's right for us and we're right for her then that would be great! *MR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. Definitely. I have experienced this a few times and remember a lady messaging me saying it was hubby's birthday and she wanted to arrange a surprise threesome for him and could I come over to their hotel after they had had dinner!?

My answer to them was simple - ' 'if you buy a copy of Sport newspaper and go to the Escort column you can then arrange an escort who will come to your room for £150 an hour or so'.

They took the hint.

I don't have 'mug' written over my face.

And certainly not on fab to be used.

"

What an excellent response to them. Go girl...I may have to steal that reply for the next couple that just want to use me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x"

Good luck with that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

For us it's totally different we don't want a fuck toy we want someone we click with on all levels and someone who likes both of us on levels then it's a social to see how we get along,it's not a case of doing it for mr or just someone to use for sex.Its a added extra to something which is already great so we're in no rush and we're more than happy just the two of us and if we do ever cross paths with someone who's right for us and we're right for her then that would be great! *MR "

Now that's the attitude to have. I'm sure you will have success eventually as you have the completely right approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But we did.

You also don't have to reply, don't forget."

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x

Good luck with that one"
I no but a girl can dream lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

For us it's totally different we don't want a fuck toy we want someone we click with on all levels and someone who likes both of us on levels then it's a social to see how we get along,it's not a case of doing it for mr or just someone to use for sex.Its a added extra to something which is already great so we're in no rush and we're more than happy just the two of us and if we do ever cross paths with someone who's right for us and we're right for her then that would be great! *MR

Now that's the attitude to have. I'm sure you will have success eventually as you have the completely right approach. "
thank you very much! It's about the click allround it's kind of double the hard being a couple too because say Mrs likes a girl and I'll be like hmmm not really feeling it and vice Versa so we both need to like them and them to like us! She might fancy Mrs to bits and look at me and think no thanks haha! So it's not a easy thing plus location too and as I say it would be nice but won't be forced

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x

Good luck with that oneI no but a girl can dream lol x"

You can I'd be happy to do that scenario but Mr wouldn't be able to touch you either at that until I had left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Definitely. I have experienced this a few times and remember a lady messaging me saying it was hubby's birthday and she wanted to arrange a surprise threesome for him and could I come over to their hotel after they had had dinner!?

My answer to them was simple - ' 'if you buy a copy of Sport newspaper and go to the Escort column you can then arrange an escort who will come to your room for £150 an hour or so'.

They took the hint.

I don't have 'mug' written over my face.

And certainly not on fab to be used.

What an excellent response to them. Go girl...I may have to steal that reply for the next couple that just want to use me."

Hope you manage to meet that elusive couple! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

For us it's totally different we don't want a fuck toy we want someone we click with on all levels and someone who likes both of us on levels then it's a social to see how we get along,it's not a case of doing it for mr or just someone to use for sex.Its a added extra to something which is already great so we're in no rush and we're more than happy just the two of us and if we do ever cross paths with someone who's right for us and we're right for her then that would be great! *MR

Now that's the attitude to have. I'm sure you will have success eventually as you have the completely right approach. thank you very much! It's about the click allround it's kind of double the hard being a couple too because say Mrs likes a girl and I'll be like hmmm not really feeling it and vice Versa so we both need to like them and them to like us! She might fancy Mrs to bits and look at me and think no thanks haha! So it's not a easy thing plus location too and as I say it would be nice but won't be forced "

the 3 way attraction has to be a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

For us it's totally different we don't want a fuck toy we want someone we click with on all levels and someone who likes both of us on levels then it's a social to see how we get along,it's not a case of doing it for mr or just someone to use for sex.Its a added extra to something which is already great so we're in no rush and we're more than happy just the two of us and if we do ever cross paths with someone who's right for us and we're right for her then that would be great! *MR

Now that's the attitude to have. I'm sure you will have success eventually as you have the completely right approach. thank you very much! It's about the click allround it's kind of double the hard being a couple too because say Mrs likes a girl and I'll be like hmmm not really feeling it and vice Versa so we both need to like them and them to like us! She might fancy Mrs to bits and look at me and think no thanks haha! So it's not a easy thing plus location too and as I say it would be nice but won't be forced

the 3 way attraction has to be a must "
defo if your all into each other that's the only time it can happen,we all love good sex and for me especially with Mrs and I love seeing her get off and being happy so it will be a good experience should it happen for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x"

We would meet you and play like that , for us its only about fem to fem play or we could meet alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x

We would meet you and play like that , for us its only about fem to fem play or we could meet alone "
couldn't we jist borrow you and film it for your fella lol x

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By *hat the hellCouple
over a year ago

Down South

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! "
it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level "

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol"
It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha!

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over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha! "
*greet ooops!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha! "

What an excellent idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha! "

Or even a nice hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always been willing to travel to meets as long as not to long a journey or meet half way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha!

Or even a nice hotel "

It would be great fun I'm sure

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over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha!

Or even a nice hotel

It would be great fun I'm sure "

Just think of all the room hopping that could happen haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems tough a world out there for single bi females.

It looks like the moral of the story is that you should stick to single straight males OP.

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over a year ago


"Seems tough a world out there for single bi females.

It looks like the moral of the story is that you should stick to single straight males OP. "

Well you may have a valid point, but then women are just so sexy I'm always tempted back

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over a year ago


"Seems tough a world out there for single bi females.

It looks like the moral of the story is that you should stick to single straight males OP.

Well you may have a valid point, but then women are just so sexy I'm always tempted back "

Certainly can't argue with the women being so sexy point. You delicious creatures you.

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over a year ago


"Seems tough a world out there for single bi females.

It looks like the moral of the story is that you should stick to single straight males OP.

Well you may have a valid point, but then women are just so sexy I'm always tempted back "
well if you can have the best of both why not haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing.

This! it seems like there seems to be quite a fair few of us on this thread on the same level

Yes there does, just I seem to be miles away lol It looks like everyone is miles away from everyone haha! There must be a nice pub in the middle of all of us for a thread discussion meet and great haha!

What an excellent idea "
where do we sign up? Haha!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

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over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x"

to a lot of ladies that makes us feel like we are putting on a show for the fella - and always feel vulnerable having him there

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over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem "

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

"

Yes, all the time!!! Have blocked couples, no offence to anyone just feel like a toy they can disregard when bored with!

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over a year ago


"We are looking for one, but only me and the lady play the mr can't touch the other lady, now trying to find this is like trying to find rocking horse shit lol x but one can dream lol x"

Damn, my ideal date and so far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would "

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not single but want to try my bi side with just ff.... even finding a lovly ladie to play with just the 2 of us seams so hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x "

You probably live in a more popular area for swinging than me. Believe me I have searched x

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Yes. Definitely. I have experienced this a few times and remember a lady messaging me saying it was hubby's birthday and she wanted to arrange a surprise threesome for him and could I come over to their hotel after they had had dinner!?

My answer to them was simple - ' 'if you buy a copy of Sport newspaper and go to the Escort column you can then arrange an escort who will come to your room for £150 an hour or so'.

They took the hint.

I don't have 'mug' written over my face.

And certainly not on fab to be used.

"

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x

You probably live in a more popular area for swinging than me. Believe me I have searched x"

Yes I possibly do, but I have also travel fair distances to meet said girls ...you gotta go get them if you want them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x

You probably live in a more popular area for swinging than me. Believe me I have searched x

Yes I possibly do, but I have also travel fair distances to meet said girls ...you gotta go get them if you want them x "
maybe a bit of travelling and planning is needed for the right person/persons to make it possible and if you think it could be really good and there's a click there why not go for it! *MR

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x

You probably live in a more popular area for swinging than me. Believe me I have searched x

Yes I possibly do, but I have also travel fair distances to meet said girls ...you gotta go get them if you want them x "

I know that but my circumstances limit me somewhat. I do what I can under the circumstances

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x

You probably live in a more popular area for swinging than me. Believe me I have searched x

Yes I possibly do, but I have also travel fair distances to meet said girls ...you gotta go get them if you want them x maybe a bit of travelling and planning is needed for the right person/persons to make it possible and if you think it could be really good and there's a click there why not go for it! *MR "

That's exactly what I do

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over a year ago


"Why not just go for single Bi fems if you're attracted to them, totally takes away the feeling of being a fuck toy! There are plenty of females & couples on here that only play with the Bi fem to Bi fem

Not in my travelling distance there doesn't seem to be, otherwise I would

You may just not be looking hard enough, I know a few not a million miles ways x

You probably live in a more popular area for swinging than me. Believe me I have searched x

Yes I possibly do, but I have also travel fair distances to meet said girls ...you gotta go get them if you want them x maybe a bit of travelling and planning is needed for the right person/persons to make it possible and if you think it could be really good and there's a click there why not go for it! *MR

That's exactly what I do "
best way to be and it's about click and intrigue and that threeway attraction for us

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over a year ago

It's always complicated and what we have found best is for the three people to meet and have a drink and maybe a bite to eat and then we girls get together and talk ... and have a couple of drinks. S just disappears off to another pub. That way there is less pressure on the singleton and first and foremost we can decide if we like each other as people. Cxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we've found that other couples forget there would be four of us playing and Fred seems to get forgotten about when we start talking about likes dislikes, so I can only imagine how single women must feel.

I've only had limited experience with women but my desires lie more with pleasuring the other female than receiving; but happy to wait to find the right woman to take this further.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's always complicated and what we have found best is for the three people to meet and have a drink and maybe a bite to eat and then we girls get together and talk ... and have a couple of drinks. S just disappears off to another pub. That way there is less pressure on the singleton and first and foremost we can decide if we like each other as people. Cxx "

That's a good way of going about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's always complicated and what we have found best is for the three people to meet and have a drink and maybe a bite to eat and then we girls get together and talk ... and have a couple of drinks. S just disappears off to another pub. That way there is less pressure on the singleton and first and foremost we can decide if we like each other as people. Cxx "

This is good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's always complicated and what we have found best is for the three people to meet and have a drink and maybe a bite to eat and then we girls get together and talk ... and have a couple of drinks. S just disappears off to another pub. That way there is less pressure on the singleton and first and foremost we can decide if we like each other as people. Cxx "
that's how we would plan out things we think

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over a year ago

I know it's a bit like "We need to talk about Kevin" ... sort of behind his back but S understands that us two girls have to be comfortable with each other first and we may reach the decision to do nothing or if we do we may include or exclude him. He's cool with that and as we've been togetherish (long story) for nearly 30 years it's an approach that is respectful and works for all concerned.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Couples can be a nightmare for a single fem: the ones who just want a walking sex toy, the ones where the fem is being cohersed by her fella, the ones who haven't discussed boundaries and flip out, those that see the fem as 'their' property, the ones where they start messaging you behind each others backs ......I could go on....but when you find a couple that works it's amazing."

I totally agree with this which is why I dont meet couples. What is the most interesting thing though is most couples post about their perfect swinging marriage and the fact that they are both as into it as the other .... it never quite adds up to me. I do also have a couples account with my OH but I keep the accounts and the meets very separate as does he on his single account.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know it's a bit like "We need to talk about Kevin" ... sort of behind his back but S understands that us two girls have to be comfortable with each other first and we may reach the decision to do nothing or if we do we may include or exclude him. He's cool with that and as we've been togetherish (long story) for nearly 30 years it's an approach that is respectful and works for all concerned. "

It's a great approach. I'm sure you've been successful. You sound very level headed and like you have a great relationship. Respect to you both

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Thank you Minx ... it's really very simple in that we realised a long time ago that we like to be treated well and shown respect ... and that it therefore is only fitting that we treat the people (who we perform the most intimate acts with) in like fashion. Cxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem, apparently I'm as rare as goldust....a "unicorn".

I have had a few successful MFF, but just recently, when people message me looking for a fem to join them for a MFF, they just assume I would be happy to be their fuck toy, and it's all on their terms. Maybe if they considered the females feelings too they might actually succeed.

Any other females having the same problem?

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you Minx ... it's really very simple in that we realised a long time ago that we like to be treated well and shown respect ... and that it therefore is only fitting that we treat the people (who we perform the most intimate acts with) in like fashion. Cxx"

A few other people on here could learn a lot from you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just wish it wasn't so hard to meet a single bi female, but it seems most have had a dodgy encounter with a couple which has made them weary.

PandMp

Xxx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We've met one single female directly from here.

One we've met at a club.

The other we knew before we got into swinging.

We're happy to meet at a hotel or a club and have a social first.

We just want to have stress free fun. No attitude, no grief just fun. When someone is with us at that time they are in our sexual bubble, as we hope we are in theirs. We're happy to discuss desires and fantasies and don't really have any boundaries out of the ordinary with single ladies.

However, shockingly loads of ladies have had grief with couples they've met through this site and convincing them we are genuine and how we play is a whole other story.

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