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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No, I'm going to keep my healthy dose of pessimistic self realism and appreciate my lower league status and be pleasantly surprised whenever a higher gets in touch. This is sort of tongue in cheek. But sort of mot.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

People sometimes have an odd perception of others, I think it can be a lack of confidence or insecurity on their part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well there is Premier League and I would need a few promotions as I'm only Conference League but still hoping.

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By *ouncingboobs BBWWoman
over a year ago

North West

I sometimes feel some are way out now my league. I will say have you actually read my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes feel some are way out now my league. I will say have you actually read my profile! "

Wow. Nipples to die for xxx

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

This for me too. Also if someone is verified by people who are not like me or who are very attractive I'd be put off and feel too self conscious xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never judge anyone by leagues, everyone is beautiful and special in their own way. People have different preferences and perspectives that's all

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"No, I'm going to keep my healthy dose of pessimistic self realism and appreciate my lower league status and be pleasantly surprised whenever a higher gets in touch. This is sort of tongue in cheek. But sort of mot."

Tbh I thought twice before messaging you. Was nicely surprised by the response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

This for me too. Also if someone is verified by people who are not like me or who are very attractive I'd be put off and feel too self conscious xx "

Yes I look for that too! Xx

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

I know how you feel have been trying most days on here for nearly a year now. Never had meet yet or any interest in a possible one, imagine how it makes me fee about myself and others on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often tell people why not say hello instead of looking at me all the time on here.?

I'm aware I look a certain way but I might surprise them and please don't feel intimidated I'm not looking for my clone.

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By *ouncingboobs BBWWoman
over a year ago

North West

Thanks! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks! Xx"

No problem xx

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By *raladsCouple
over a year ago

athlone westmeath


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no such thing as a league..... only if you let it be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny how some people think .I have been out and married with some beautiful woman but beauty is only skin deep sometime. .

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By *raladsCouple
over a year ago

athlone westmeath

Why would you feel self conscious ?? Your beautiful X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

What league ?you inChampions league the rest of us in Championship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually turned people down on here who have approached us, because we think they are too hot for us and actually wouldn't be interested if they saw us IRL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm going to keep my healthy dose of pessimistic self realism and appreciate my lower league status and be pleasantly surprised whenever a higher gets in touch. This is sort of tongue in cheek. But sort of mot."

What I would have written only better

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Actually turned people down on here who have approached us, because we think they are too hot for us and actually wouldn't be interested if they saw us IRL "

This is sad. They've approached you for a reason - they think you're hot and want to meet you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play in my own league...

How much weirdness can I cram into an opening message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

Same.

However you're bonkers thinking it about yourself. You're beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm quite ugly so if I had this mindset we'd never meet anyone

I like some of my body but not much of it. I do get spells of random confidence and feel really flattered when someone really hot messages us. And would definitely go for it if I had the opportunity. I can't be all that bad if they are offering .

No point missing out on some fun just because you don't feel worth it. Just go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll happily admit that I've been messaged a few times by people I would never consider meeting as they seemed well out of my comfort zone.

It's nice they were interested though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually turned people down on here who have approached us, because we think they are too hot for us and actually wouldn't be interested if they saw us IRL

This is sad. They've approached you for a reason - they think you're hot and want to meet you!"

They only think we're hot in 2D

Real life might be much different... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?). "

That's just it....it's all in your own heads.....I'm not in any league....nor do I consider others to be. They either are, or are not for me....as I am for them. But you never know if you don't try!

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Ive played with quite a few people who I consider to be out of my league. But I dont mind, honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just makes me wonder what great times some of us have potentially missed out on now...

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

This for me too. Also if someone is verified by people who are not like me or who are very attractive I'd be put off and feel too self conscious xx "

I hear ya.

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

Many hot men message me I would feel they would laugh in my face if I met them . So far hasn't happened lol and had many a hot man , still lack confidence tho

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I once had a late 20's personal trainer with the looks and personality to match his very hot body messaging me. Before we met I had to say to him you're hot, why would you go for someone who's older and not a gym bunny. He said it's his preference. Doesn't like skinny or slim women. Just shows it's not all about the physical but the connection and that we had in spades. He's been a good friend and intermittent partner in crime for a couple of year now

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Ive played with quite a few people who I consider to be out of my league. But I dont mind, honest."

Your aftershave is out of my league

Changed my profile just for you

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By *jcmjcCouple
over a year ago

Newport

I get told quite often that I'm 'punching above my weight' with my own wife so I don't really believe in leagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is we all see ourselves differently to how others do. Once you notice an imperfection of your own it becomes more and more obvious to you and you become conscious of it.

Imperfections of others arent as noticable as our own because our mind hasn't had chance to obsess over it. Thus, putting yourself in a lesser league than everyone else. Not sure if that makes sense

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm well aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea but then I'm not attracted to everyone else on here either. I certainly don't think of anyone as being in a league

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I've been chatted up in swingers clubs by women that a few years ago I'd have been scared to even go talk to in a regular club.

Have confidence in yourself and just go for it! What's the worst that can happen?

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I once had a late 20's personal trainer with the looks and personality to match his very hot body messaging me. Before we met I had to say to him you're hot, why would you go for someone who's older and not a gym bunny. He said it's his preference. Doesn't like skinny or slim women. Just shows it's not all about the physical but the connection and that we had in spades. He's been a good friend and intermittent partner in crime for a couple of year now "

Ps I see women at clubs salivate when they look at him then look at me and you can see them think WTF is he doing with her. If they blank me and fawn all over him I take great pleasure in looking at her, then him and just saying no or shake my head. He walks away without question. They're in awe at the power I have over him but it's based on absolute loyalty and that they're showing both of us they're superficial and not particularly nice people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get it - I just see people I'm attracted to and people I'm not. I don't think I'll ever 'get' the whole league thing.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

I mentioned this on a different thread but...

If you took around a 100 men and women on fab, all blindfolded..and had to kiss, hug, take in each others scent/smell and say a couple of words....there would be some amazing mutual attractions that would usually be lost by the way we make assumptions on ourselves and others.....If you think you may like someone, a friendly comment re their profile needs to be no moe than a friendly comment

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I've found on Fab, it's not so much feeling that the other person is out of my league. I really can't be arsed with those thoughts. It's just more to do with the fact that the woman is going to get so many messages that there's just no point in contacting her. She'll never pick me over the hundreds of other guys in her inbox, so why bother. I'd be a fool to believe I have anything she needs...she's like the wind

I have been on the other side of that though. I've had women almost have to work up the courage to message me, then they're surprised that I want to talk to them, nevermind that I'm attracted to them as well. They think I'm something special. Something above them, when I'm most definitely not. I'm just little old me but they've obviously built up some other idea of me. I'm usually more in disbelief that this beautiful woman is talking to me!

In real life I never have those thoughts, and it's not like I'm the most confident guy either. If I'm stood before a woman I like then I'll give it my best shot. I may not be the best looking guy in the world but what have I got to lose. You never know what she might be looking for.

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley


"I mentioned this on a different thread but...

If you took around a 100 men and women on fab, all blindfolded..and had to kiss, hug, take in each others scent/smell and say a couple of words..."

Is this the format for Channel 4's next dating game show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

I know how you feel have been trying most days on here for nearly a year now. Never had meet yet or any interest in a possible one, imagine how it makes me fee about myself and others on here. "

Totally agree with you there mate

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"I mentioned this on a different thread but...

If you took around a 100 men and women on fab, all blindfolded..and had to kiss, hug, take in each others scent/smell and say a couple of words...

Is this the format for Channel 4's next dating game show? "

And you come to that conclusion because????

Profiles and sometimes photos rarely depict the real person, yet so many of us base so much on this....I rarely message people, but if I do, it is genuine interest not 'their photos and profile suggest a heavenly fuck!'

Sometimes updates make me laugh or profiles and comments on threads...then! I may message out of genuine interest to talk....oh! I'm getting bored now.....off to bed

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By *OOM696969Man
over a year ago

BRIDLINGTON

Only just formed , so reckon plenty of promotions required for me

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I've messaged people who I believe (according to my own subjective standards) are way out of my league. But occasionally, they're expressed an interest and we've met, which is always a nice treat for the ego :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy bairns get nowt at the end of the day.

They can say no or not reply. No harm done.

If they're abusive with their reply, you've just found out they're not nice people and you've also dodged a bullet.

Block and report to admin.

The only reason we're reluctant to contact gym bunnies is that we may not be able to keep up with them physically

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I know my place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is out of anybody league it's just that some people have high opinions of themselves.

No harm in being confident in your looks but in my opinion those that point out they are too hot for someone else are quite simply arrogant and narcasistic (I think that's a word)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

I feel exactly the same, although I am sexually very confident, I always doubt why a gym fit guy messages me..x

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Ive played with quite a few people who I consider to be out of my league. But I dont mind, honest.

Your aftershave is out of my league

Changed my profile just for you "

Aww sorry hun. If im lucky enough to catch you again sometime then tell me and Ill go wash it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First thing people - don't ever believe (or let anyone *make* you believe) that you are not as good as anyone else. We are all unique and we are all 'us' - strive to be the best person you can be within the boundaries of your own natural flaws and that's all you can do. There is no "better" - people may be different and have varying personal attributes and their own value sets. But none is "better" than than another - that's all very subjective!

However having said that, I do think I might not be somebody's *type* when I look at a profile.

They might be stunning looking and have a penchant for ripped, tattooed, bearded gym guys and also the pick of the site.

I'm just a simple average love-handled and moobed country boy and I'm never going to be that ripped, tattooed bearded gym guy so I do often think "there's no way I'm messaging them as I don't think I'll meet their criteria".

So I guess it all depends on how you define a 'league' - if it is defined as specific body types or looks then maybe I'm never going to meet their criteria or type. But if it is defined by 'worthiness' there's nobody better than YOU on this site - trust me!

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By *eaded_BazMan
over a year ago

Truro

As my fellow country boy, moobed & love handled Dan so eloquently put it, no one person should feel more entitled or on a higher pedestal just because of how they look.

People have preferences and they are completely entitled to them, you could be missing a gem in the rough though.

I will differ from Dan slightly in opinion though, in that I would never not message someone because I don't match, I know they would never meet me and my messages are not designed for that, they could just be a message to compliment them on a profile or picture. If they message back that's up to them.

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

The beautiful thing about fab is the level playing field xxx

I think very few people believe they are in a different league x

Just check out everyone's verications x

It doesn't matter who or what you are x there are playmates who will match your requirements xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

If Fab has taught me anything (and the lesson was reiterated tonight, if I ever dared to doubt it), it's that people who I DON'T think are out of my league won't give me the time of day. So thanks, but I'll stick to not bothering the ones who clearly are on another level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol oh well in sure you get flooded with males messaging you so it's no big deal.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

I don't 'get' leagues - never have! Yes - I only fancy a small percentage of people enough to want to sleep with them - but they're not necessarily the people that everyone else is lusting over!

'League' implies that some people are better than others - when it's clearly just a matter of personal taste! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?). "

Agree .. ive done this also ever since joining fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?).

Agree .. ive done this also ever since joining fabs "
as have I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?). "

This is disappointing. I don't have a super fit body but I'm working to get one because I don't like my face and there's nothing that I can do about my cock. All I can do is at least get fit to try and attract partners. If I get to fit then am I going to put people off?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

If you feel like this as a woman OP on sites Ike this with all the attention you get in a average day you should try being on here as a man for a few days .

I can honestly say it took me years to get over the fact that as a guy on these kinds of sites I will be forever being judged in all I say as well as through my pictures and profile .

Just take a quick look at a few female profiles to see what exacting standards us guys have t measure up to at times .

Then have a quick look at profile advice threads posted by guys to see a shit storm of male bashing in action in them threads no one will tell the guy to be himself nearly all the advice will be about looking good putting over a persona designed to appeal to certain types .

Most of the advice will be based around trying to look good what about ugly guys well they will be told to not bother and yes I've seen posts saying that .

These types of sites are destroyers of the male ego for hose who don't have very very thick skin and raisers up of the female ego .

Us guys are given a bum rap on the whole on these sites I see guy after guy say something witty in a forum post for it to be ignored and then no disrespect op you come in and post about leagues because you feel that that great fit 9 out f 10 guy looking for nothing more than a shag is out of your league what a trivial thing to worry about I can count the number of times a 9 out of 10 girl has approached me on the fingers of one hand where's as for you its a daily or weekly occurrence.

Post like this really highlight the difference with the female experience of site life with your average never going to be brad Pitts mans experience of site life .

Oh well time to disappear back into my league of jumping up and down hoping to be noticed with the rest of us guys working our arse off on site just hoping to be noticed

while you go back to worrying about whether that hot 9 out of 10 guy out of your league who approached you even those you did nothing but post a profile on a site is out of your league what a hard time being on a site like this is hay .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

When you know your own worth, and comfortable in your own skin you don't look at others as being in leagues.

I met my other half on here three years ago. He's Dutch and lived in Paris for over a decade dating blonde, blue eyed, leggy, slim Scandinavian types. I'm fat, black, losing my hair and a couch potato.

My other half is 6ft 1, athletic, kick _oxes for relaxation and runs his own boiler repair company. He also looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis.

I think he's fallen on his feet with me, he says he's never had to work so hard to please anyone in his life...bless him.

If I thought he was "out of my league" I'd have blocked him after his initial message, missing out on a gorgeous man.

Next time that hottie contacts you go for it: what have you got to lose?!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

I don't 'get' leagues - never have! Yes - I only fancy a small percentage of people enough to want to sleep with them - but they're not necessarily the people that everyone else is lusting over!

'League' implies that some people are better than others - when it's clearly just a matter of personal taste! Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just makes me wonder what great times some of us have potentially missed out on now... "

I'd say go for it! There are a few people way out of my league on here but I messaged one of them and we had a really good meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

I feel like this also, I think it's natural to compare yourself to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I'd say - out of whose league exactly x

If someone makes that type of judgement then I'd prefer not to meet them xxx

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

some of the men i have met on here have been nice looking i wouldnt of contacted them first but after meeting them im glad they did contact me. its not always all about just looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was a rather rotten thing for that person to say. Your better off with out.

As for myself I don't judge others by leagues or any measurement. We are all wonderfully unique humans .

Rejoice in your own self and don't get hung up on what others say.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"That was a rather rotten thing for that person to say. Your better off with out.

As for myself I don't judge others by leagues or any measurement. We are all wonderfully unique humans .

Rejoice in your own self and don't get hung up on what others say. "

Welcome home lovely!

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By *limandtrim300Couple
over a year ago

Ely


"Never judge anyone by leagues, everyone is beautiful and special in their own way. People have different preferences and perspectives that's all"

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

This for me too. Also if someone is verified by people who are not like me or who are very attractive I'd be put off and feel too self conscious xx "

Why? Your so pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never judge anyone by leagues, everyone is beautiful and special in their own way. People have different preferences and perspectives that's all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a rather rotten thing for that person to say. Your better off with out.

As for myself I don't judge others by leagues or any measurement. We are all wonderfully unique humans .

Rejoice in your own self and don't get hung up on what others say. "

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By *ixedblkinjectionMan
over a year ago

london


"I sometimes feel some are way out now my league. I will say have you actually read my profile!

Wow. Nipples to die for xxx"

Agree 100 %

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

I feel exactly the same, although I am sexually very confident, I always doubt why a gym fit guy messages me..x"

Can't speak for the other guys but you know I'm yours any time you want me! Such a sexy lady!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will still approach people who I think may be out of my league..if a meet happens from it then that's great..if not then then nothing ventured and all that, I know I may be pushing my luck!

I'm meeting a right hotty very soon!

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By *.TaylorMan
over a year ago

london


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

This."

Is this true for a lot of women

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I don't believe in leagues ... If I find the other person interesting and orattractive I'll message .. other folk may or not find me attractive,..

Leagues only exist if you put folk in one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them...

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By *.TaylorMan
over a year ago

london


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them..."

They may just find you genuinely attractive though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've enjoyed meeting lots of Fabbers way out of my perceived league and intend to continue to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them...

They may just find you genuinely attractive though "

This is true, just my own insecurities coming through!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them..."

I agree with this, I feel the same. I know it's my own insecurities and I am building up my confidence as I go. But it's still not easy. Miss T x

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By *.TaylorMan
over a year ago

london


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them...

They may just find you genuinely attractive though

This is true, just my own insecurities coming through! "

profiles quality anyways

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By *.TaylorMan
over a year ago

london


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them...

I agree with this, I feel the same. I know it's my own insecurities and I am building up my confidence as I go. But it's still not easy. Miss T x"

So how do we all build you ladies confidence

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them..."

People use the site for different things. Some want to sample all the flavours and genuinely don't care about age, sex, race etc...they want to have a good time.

Some want an "experience" be that interracial, bbw etc.

Others are looking for friends with benefits.

Seven years I've been on Fab and enjoyed it by meeting people with the same mindset as me. I've never initiated contact. I send a full body picture and meet socially.

One guy messaged me who had "gym" in his user name. I found it hilarious and met him. One of my favourite meets. His hard on as I wobbled to the bed was all I needed to know!

Sometimes we overthink this site: it's sex, enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing I do struggle with in here is who's contacting you because they're genuinely interested and who's contacting you for a fuck.

I feel there are a lot of single guys on here who will message anyone. Therefore, when someone who's way out of my league gets in touch, I straight away put them into this category and would never meet them...

People use the site for different things. Some want to sample all the flavours and genuinely don't care about age, sex, race etc...they want to have a good time.

Some want an "experience" be that interracial, bbw etc.

Others are looking for friends with benefits.

Seven years I've been on Fab and enjoyed it by meeting people with the same mindset as me. I've never initiated contact. I send a full body picture and meet socially.

One guy messaged me who had "gym" in his user name. I found it hilarious and met him. One of my favourite meets. His hard on as I wobbled to the bed was all I needed to know!

Sometimes we overthink this site: it's sex, enjoy! "

Haha... I'm completely taking this advice on board!

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Very true always give it ago if it goes down in flames then chin up and try again

I fully under stand not wanting to msg some one as you feel their out of your league as I do when I see some ladies in clubs and think they would never say hello to me but dive in have a go and if it goes wrong at lest you tryed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should at least try sure always going to be a better looking people on here and in clubs but end of the day we are all here to have fun you may get a surprise when a nice reply comes back I did a few weeks ago hot lady she's off fab now but we still keep in contact so you never know worst is you get blocked or rejected which most men are used too on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes we overthink this site: it's sex, enjoy! "

I think you're absolutely right, especially in our case, we probably do waaaaay overthink it

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By *.TaylorMan
over a year ago

london


"Sometimes we overthink this site: it's sex, enjoy!

I think you're absolutely right, especially in our case, we probably do waaaaay overthink it "

I overthink people knowing who I am as I prefer this to be a discreet thing.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I think the m in a league of my own and it's a non-league ??

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By *anmjmosesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?). "

No need to feel self conscious... Beauty appreciation is in different forms. If someone with a sort fit body winks at you... They like your lumps n bumps

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

I'm looking forward to being contacted by someone out of my league....it's bound to happen soon, there are so many!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had messages from guys who I think are out of my league but I still meet them and have a great time!

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By *tephenb001Man
over a year ago

stapleton

I agree there are loads of gorgeous people on here that id really have no chance of a meet, because theyre out of my league. Quite a few peeps dont want to meet a normalish looking guys in there forties anymore

It seems i may have work to get a six pack and gain a few inches somehow

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?). "

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Imo leagues in fab are different to a regular dating site or meeting people in a bar.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

I met a guy for a social who I thought was out of my league.

He was stunning, charming personality. But you could kinda tell he loved himself and thought he was a little bit special. It was offputting.

So I'm wary of ultra gorgeous people for that reason now. But you can often tell from messages if they love themselves that "little bit too much". I felt i was back at school again and I was the geeky kid talking to one of the popular clique. Yeah, not a nice feeling.

I get the out of my league messages. I think it's just supposed to be a compliment? Everyone has a type they go for and a type they don't. And you don't know that without asking.

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I.must be in the bottom league where nobody sees me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get this league thing . To me it's more about whether I click with them as to what they look like tbh.

I have declined a few offers , not because I think they're too good for me . Mainly because the people they've played previously would make me feel very self conscious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never judge anyone by leagues, everyone is beautiful and special in their own way. People have different preferences and perspectives that's all

"

I second this not gym fit body but have had meets on here so go for it people message who you like

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

i feel like I am out pf most peoples Katie on here, if i don't meet their needs I dobt message them for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

used to but now i realise we are all the same -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't speculate you'll never accumulate

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"I sometimes feel some are way out now my league. I will say have you actually read my profile!

Wow. Nipples to die for xxx"

Hate that term " to die for "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just admire from afar

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really? "

If I had a message like that I'd worry which league they thought I was in. At the mo I seem to be out of everyone's league.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

Don't you often find some premier league players come across as arrogant and aloof. You quite often get a more honest performance from the other leagues.

Personally I like to talk to the person not the photograph, and if someone shows an interest and are pleasant it gets my attention.

You all look lovely so don't right a person off before you get to know them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are we all so terrified of rejection? Hands up anyone who has had a 100% success rate?

What's the worst that can happen? If you get a no thank you, be graceful about it, learn from it, move on. I'm constantly punching above my weight an have been lucky enough to get to know some amazing people.

Faint heart never won fair lady!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt a girl was out of my league years ago and never said anything to her... years later, both in a relationship with different people we got into a discussion about stuff and opened up to each other... She'd felt exactly the same way.

She is the only regret I've ever had in my life and I don't think I'll ever feel for anyone how I did for her

Don't consider yourself out of someone's league, if you like them just tell them. They'll be flattered but may say no, you'll be slightly embarrassed but it won't last forever...they may however say yes...

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"If you feel like this as a woman OP on sites Ike this with all the attention you get in a average day you should try being on here as a man for a few days .

I can honestly say it took me years to get over the fact that as a guy on these kinds of sites I will be forever being judged in all I say as well as through my pictures and profile .

Just take a quick look at a few female profiles to see what exacting standards us guys have t measure up to at times .

Then have a quick look at profile advice threads posted by guys to see a shit storm of male bashing in action in them threads no one will tell the guy to be himself nearly all the advice will be about looking good putting over a persona designed to appeal to certain types .

Most of the advice will be based around trying to look good what about ugly guys well they will be told to not bother and yes I've seen posts saying that .

These types of sites are destroyers of the male ego for hose who don't have very very thick skin and raisers up of the female ego .

Us guys are given a bum rap on the whole on these sites I see guy after guy say something witty in a forum post for it to be ignored and then no disrespect op you come in and post about leagues because you feel that that great fit 9 out f 10 guy looking for nothing more than a shag is out of your league what a trivial thing to worry about I can count the number of times a 9 out of 10 girl has approached me on the fingers of one hand where's as for you its a daily or weekly occurrence.

Post like this really highlight the difference with the female experience of site life with your average never going to be brad Pitts mans experience of site life .

Oh well time to disappear back into my league of jumping up and down hoping to be noticed with the rest of us guys working our arse off on site just hoping to be noticed

while you go back to worrying about whether that hot 9 out of 10 guy out of your league who approached you even those you did nothing but post a profile on a site is out of your league what a hard time being on a site like this is hay . "

I think I say some quite witty things on the forum and invariably get ignored. I don't have a list of standards on my profile other than I have to like someone as a person before I want to fuck them and that has nothing to with their appearance and everything to do with a mental connection. And yet possibly because I never, ever get approached by anyone IRL the concept of leagues of attractiveness on here never really occurs to me.

I like to think of fab as more like the FA cup than the league; where you can end up with all sorts of different teams who would never normally meet playing together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned 2 fellas down from here cos they were way out of my league. I Wudnt have felt comfy with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?).

This is disappointing. I don't have a super fit body but I'm working to get one because I don't like my face and there's nothing that I can do about my cock. All I can do is at least get fit to try and attract partners. If I get to fit then am I going to put people off?"

If you're going to get fit it's probably best you do it for your our own self worth and health,rather than just getting a fuck. IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had messages on here and frankly some of them have shocked me.

Pretty much all of them I'd have said would be likely to show next to no interest out there in vanilla land and there is still a part of me that doesn't quite believe it.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I like to think of fab as more like the FA cup than the league; where you can end up with all sorts of different teams who would never normally meet playing together."

[Easy punchline about elimination in the preliminary rounds]

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

What's with the human centipede pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Dont have a type. I play in all leagues because its about chemistry. I've meet people I thought would be well out of my league on here, but in real life they are ordinary people and like me, feel its about chemistry too. At the end of the day its only fear of rejection that makes us feel that there are leagues in the first place!

What's the worst that can happen? A block? A shitty message? An awkward meet?

All people are beautiful, don't let your insecurity stop you messaging peeps

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

What's with the human centipede pics?"

Not based on that lol. First one was the Manx/triskelion pic then I had a request from a lady who was upset she wasn't in it - and there 5 girls present so we just made it bigger

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

What's with the human centipede pics?

Not based on that lol. First one was the Manx/triskelion pic then I had a request from a lady who was upset she wasn't in it - and there 5 girls present so we just made it bigger "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those of you saying you would never meet those 'out of your league' - how do you think the people you have met or want to meet feel about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

If you feel like this as a woman OP on sites Ike this with all the attention you get in a average day you should try being on here as a man for a few days .

I can honestly say it took me years to get over the fact that as a guy on these kinds of sites I will be forever being judged in all I say as well as through my pictures and profile .

Just take a quick look at a few female profiles to see what exacting standards us guys have t measure up to at times .

Then have a quick look at profile advice threads posted by guys to see a shit storm of male bashing in action in them threads no one will tell the guy to be himself nearly all the advice will be about looking good putting over a persona designed to appeal to certain types .

Most of the advice will be based around trying to look good what about ugly guys well they will be told to not bother and yes I've seen posts saying that .

These types of sites are destroyers of the male ego for hose who don't have very very thick skin and raisers up of the female ego .

Us guys are given a bum rap on the whole on these sites I see guy after guy say something witty in a forum post for it to be ignored and then no disrespect op you come in and post about leagues because you feel that that great fit 9 out f 10 guy looking for nothing more than a shag is out of your league what a trivial thing to worry about I can count the number of times a 9 out of 10 girl has approached me on the fingers of one hand where's as for you its a daily or weekly occurrence.

Post like this really highlight the difference with the female experience of site life with your average never going to be brad Pitts mans experience of site life .

Oh well time to disappear back into my league of jumping up and down hoping to be noticed with the rest of us guys working our arse off on site just hoping to be noticed

while you go back to worrying about whether that hot 9 out of 10 guy out of your league who approached you even those you did nothing but post a profile on a site is out of your league what a hard time being on a site like this is hay . "

If you knew OP you wouldn't have written this.

Yes. Some of the ladies on here know what they want. Know they can get it and make no secret of it. I like them. Their honesty saves me from wasting my time and theirs.

Some ladies on here have the simple requirement that you are polite, friendly and respectful and can't even get that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner in crime never tried to get in my pants because he thought I was way out of his league. However I knew we were perfectly matched for filth and fun and that's all that matters to me. It's not about leagues it's about how fucking awesome it is when you're fucking! And not fucking!

I got in his pants instead and we've never looked back

Ruby x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I dunnow who's league i am I try to get on with people and if we click socially then sexually then play if not I am more than happy with social

It's funny how people first introduce me as mike as someone who loves football and yes I do but when people sit down with me I have a more interesting side

A lot of people say that if I was more assertive they would play with me. I know I am not everyone's play type and there are a few people that I have never asked to play as I think they only like me socilaly, where as there are people that have had soft situational play (oral and or touchinG)

Anyway I always say if I interest you then message me

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

If you feel like this as a woman OP on sites Ike this with all the attention you get in a average day you should try being on here as a man for a few days .

I can honestly say it took me years to get over the fact that as a guy on these kinds of sites I will be forever being judged in all I say as well as through my pictures and profile .

Just take a quick look at a few female profiles to see what exacting standards us guys have t measure up to at times .

Then have a quick look at profile advice threads posted by guys to see a shit storm of male bashing in action in them threads no one will tell the guy to be himself nearly all the advice will be about looking good putting over a persona designed to appeal to certain types .

Most of the advice will be based around trying to look good what about ugly guys well they will be told to not bother and yes I've seen posts saying that .

These types of sites are destroyers of the male ego for hose who don't have very very thick skin and raisers up of the female ego .

Us guys are given a bum rap on the whole on these sites I see guy after guy say something witty in a forum post for it to be ignored and then no disrespect op you come in and post about leagues because you feel that that great fit 9 out f 10 guy looking for nothing more than a shag is out of your league what a trivial thing to worry about I can count the number of times a 9 out of 10 girl has approached me on the fingers of one hand where's as for you its a daily or weekly occurrence.

Post like this really highlight the difference with the female experience of site life with your average never going to be brad Pitts mans experience of site life .

Oh well time to disappear back into my league of jumping up and down hoping to be noticed with the rest of us guys working our arse off on site just hoping to be noticed

while you go back to worrying about whether that hot 9 out of 10 guy out of your league who approached you even those you did nothing but post a profile on a site is out of your league what a hard time being on a site like this is hay .

If you knew OP you wouldn't have written this.

Yes. Some of the ladies on here know what they want. Know they can get it and make no secret of it. I like them. Their honesty saves me from wasting my time and theirs.

Some ladies on here have the simple requirement that you are polite, friendly and respectful and can't even get that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op I am not in most people's league being short and fugly with all my own hair and teeth slim and not muscle-bound and having no tattoos or piercings

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

OP your not in my league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

You are beautiful. Embrace it!

It's all in the eye of the beholder.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

This is all very interesting. I don't think I have ever thought that much when messaging someone or when I get a message from someone. Ok, I think they are hot but that makes me want to meet them not run the opposite way.

But I think it's sad and such a waste of a good opportunity to meet someone possibly amazing that just happened to look good.

People are funny, aren't they? They don't like you when you are fugly or hot. You can't win,

But I understand that people want to meet what makes them comfortable.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"This is all very interesting. I don't think I have ever thought that much when messaging someone or when I get a message from someone. Ok, I think they are hot but that makes me want to meet them not run the opposite way.

But I think it's sad and such a waste of a good opportunity to meet someone possibly amazing that just happened to look good.

People are funny, aren't they? They don't like you when you are fugly or hot. You can't win,

But I understand that people want to meet what makes them comfortable."

I dont think about it either, only one time. We were refused by a couple we messaged and when we saw them at a party we thought, phew, their profile implied they were something totally different and if we'd arranged a meet, we wouldn't have stayed, so they did us a favour. I dont think they remembered they had refused us, because they wanted to play there and then .... much prefer to make decisions after meeting people, although we certainly weren't disappointed by you, OP

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"This is all very interesting. I don't think I have ever thought that much when messaging someone or when I get a message from someone. Ok, I think they are hot but that makes me want to meet them not run the opposite way.

But I think it's sad and such a waste of a good opportunity to meet someone possibly amazing that just happened to look good.

People are funny, aren't they? They don't like you when you are fugly or hot. You can't win,

But I understand that people want to meet what makes them comfortable.

I dont think about it either, only one time. We were refused by a couple we messaged and when we saw them at a party we thought, phew, their profile implied they were something totally different and if we'd arranged a meet, we wouldn't have stayed, so they did us a favour. I dont think they remembered they had refused us, because they wanted to play there and then .... much prefer to make decisions after meeting people, although we certainly weren't disappointed by you, OP"

Yeah, definitely had that where I have messaged someone I thought was cracking and didn't get s reply back only to see them at a party or whatever and thought it was actually not so bad that they didn't reply or didn't see my message or whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is out of anyone's league on fab. Nor should they ever feel that way

As they say in Scotland..we are 'a Jock Tamsons' bairns'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've thought a few people on here are out of my league, I sometimes wonder if it's a joke or if I'd get stood up, but I'd still meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same with super fit bodies. Avoid them at all costs as I know I have lumps and bumps. I think it's natural we gravitate towards the ones who we feel will make not make us feel self conscious ( not that they would do that! I don't mean it in that way, I mean in my own head, if that makes sense?).

This is disappointing. I don't have a super fit body but I'm working to get one because I don't like my face and there's nothing that I can do about my cock. All I can do is at least get fit to try and attract partners. If I get to fit then am I going to put people off?"

Haha no. It's just my personal preference. Everybody goes for different things. It's just something that I tend to avoid,due to my own personal body issues. But that doesn't mean it's an issue for others

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"This is all very interesting. I don't think I have ever thought that much when messaging someone or when I get a message from someone. Ok, I think they are hot but that makes me want to meet them not run the opposite way.

But I think it's sad and such a waste of a good opportunity to meet someone possibly amazing that just happened to look good.

People are funny, aren't they? They don't like you when you are fugly or hot. You can't win,

But I understand that people want to meet what makes them comfortable.

I dont think about it either, only one time. We were refused by a couple we messaged and when we saw them at a party we thought, phew, their profile implied they were something totally different and if we'd arranged a meet, we wouldn't have stayed, so they did us a favour. I dont think they remembered they had refused us, because they wanted to play there and then .... much prefer to make decisions after meeting people, although we certainly weren't disappointed by you, OP"

Why thank you very much. I certainly wasn't either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I feel that, for whatever reason, I'm not going to feel comfortable or relaxed with someone then it's pointless me meeting them and their thoughts about me are basically irrelevant. If someone decides you're "out of their league" then I think just respect them and don't try to change their mind or tell them that what they think is wrong.

Having said that, messaging someone to tell them they're out of your league is a bit weird.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't have any of these 'league' feelings thankfully.

If I like someone I'll tell them. If I'm rejected I don't care.

I list my preferences on my profile and anyone who matches them is welcome to message me.

I have a lovely friend I met via the forums as I commented on a pic of his and he told me he'd wanted to message me but had been too nervous to.

The worst that can happen is you get a 'no' and if that's going to kill you you've got bigger issues to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those of you saying you would never meet those 'out of your league' - how do you think the people you have met or want to meet feel about that? "

Hopefully happy in the knowledge that not only are we attracted to them that we want to play with them, we're also comfortable enough with them to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "
you are beautiful and the most beautiful eyes,don't put yourself down there is no one better than you,just remember that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I have been told multiple times that I am below many people's leagues - with some even going out of their way to message me just because I looked at their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just makes me wonder what great times some of us have potentially missed out on now... "

Just be yourself,if they think your not for them when you meet there loss not yours, you're beautiful(k male)

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't get this at all.....

I get lots of messages saying 'wow, you are stunning' and they have never seen my face, for all they know I could look like an arse chewing a wasp, so if you like someone just bloody message them, the only thing you could regret is not acting upon your wants and desires as long as everyone is polite and respectful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has different taste but can understand the lack of confidence if you think they are out of league. Makes you be on your guard more think what they are after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those of you saying you would never meet those 'out of your league' - how do you think the people you have met or want to meet feel about that?

Hopefully happy in the knowledge that not only are we attracted to them that we want to play with them, we're also comfortable enough with them to do so. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First thing people - don't ever believe (or let anyone *make* you believe) that you are not as good as anyone else. We are all unique and we are all 'us' - strive to be the best person you can be within the boundaries of your own natural flaws and that's all you can do. There is no "better" - people may be different and have varying personal attributes and their own value sets. But none is "better" than than another - that's all very subjective!

However having said that, I do think I might not be somebody's *type* when I look at a profile.

They might be stunning looking and have a penchant for ripped, tattooed, bearded gym guys and also the pick of the site.

I'm just a simple average love-handled and moobed country boy and I'm never going to be that ripped, tattooed bearded gym guy so I do often think "there's no way I'm messaging them as I don't think I'll meet their criteria".

So I guess it all depends on how you define a 'league' - if it is defined as specific body types or looks then maybe I'm never going to meet their criteria or type. But if it is defined by 'worthiness' there's nobody better than YOU on this site - trust me! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

This for me too. Also if someone is verified by people who are not like me or who are very attractive I'd be put off and feel too self conscious xx "

Totally feel the same way, which has caused some 'discussions' in the past as the Mr seems to have no concept of this. He primarily wants to meet porn star types and those who admit/claim to be escorts and porn stars on their bio. Total turn off for me, would much rather meet down to earth people who look normal or more like me than a model xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get this at all.....

I get lots of messages saying 'wow, you are stunning' and they have never seen my face, for all they know I could look like an arse chewing a wasp, so if you like someone just bloody message them, the only thing you could regret is not acting upon your wants and desires as long as everyone is polite and respectful x"

"As long as...".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only League I'm interested in, is The Premier Football League.

Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior but nobody is equal either. People are simply Unique, incomparable. You are you, I am I......?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"The only League I'm interested in, is The Premier Football League.

Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior but nobody is equal either. People are simply Unique, incomparable. You are you, I am I......?

"

I agree whole heartily with this statement anyone who has met me in the flesh would tell you that. But sadly such sentiment is far from the normal on here I quick tour of couples and female profiles will show you that fact in seconds .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can say there's no 'league' all they want but Kendall Jenner still won't be interested in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often read women's profiles and they have such a long list of requirements that there is usually at least one that I don't meet so I won't message them. I wouldn't say I would consider many of them out of my league though, they just must just have a very very specific idea of what they want.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I often read women's profiles and they have such a long list of requirements that there is usually at least one that I don't meet so I won't message them. I wouldn't say I would consider many of them out of my league though, they just must just have a very very specific idea of what they want."

But many have a wish list and that is all it is, doesn't mean it is set is stone is all I am saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often read women's profiles and they have such a long list of requirements that there is usually at least one that I don't meet so I won't message them. I wouldn't say I would consider many of them out of my league though, they just must just have a very very specific idea of what they want."
Because the more requirements some have, the more insecure they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I was even in a league lol

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley


"I often read women's profiles and they have such a long list of requirements that there is usually at least one that I don't meet so I won't message them. I wouldn't say I would consider many of them out of my league though, they just must just have a very very specific idea of what they want."

If they have a list of 5 or 6 requirements and you're only short by one, then I'd still send a message if I were you. They can only say No.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't contact people because I often think they can do better than me and they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view "

This is true.

.....so message me.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious

I know how you feel have been trying most days on here for nearly a year now. Never had meet yet or any interest in a possible one, imagine how it makes me fee about myself and others on here. "

You look fine to me...I would of messaged you but ur under my age group

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I'm the same I look at somebodies profile and don't bother messaging them as they look too good for me...I do have a list but for me personality counts. ..

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We met on here. I messaged her on a Face Pic Friday thread. Didnt think I had a chance but got talking for a few weeks and we will have been a couple for a year next week. The worst they can say is no. Of f*ck off but you never know until you try. Jack.

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By *effrey45Man
over a year ago

Lytham

I've had a couple of great runs with girls who are totally out of my league. When people judged they thought I had loads of money etc but that is very wide of the mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately im not attracted to anyone whos league id be in

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

This is true.

.....so message me. "

With those pics...yum

Shame you just my north west club tour. Another time hottie

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Today I was told I was out of someone's league so they didn't ask for a meet. Really?

It quite shocked me as I've never been told that before and don't consider myself to be all that. I just go for nice people whoever they are.

So if you ever feel out of someone's league it might still be worth messaging because they may have a different view

This is true.

.....so message me.

With those pics...yum

Shame you just my north west club tour. Another time hottie "

You'll just have to come back missus

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I'm in the human league - I try and only meet humans

I sometimes fail

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton


"I'm in the human league - I try and only meet humans

I sometimes fail "

Does Saturday count for that

Me I'm more a Union than League man myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people are out of my league on here and I'm put off meeting them because I'd feel very self conscious "

Same as I just enjoy the hot photos

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