FabSwingers.com forum: Seeing an ex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let them have that control over you, ignore they are there if u bump into them, have a great time and forget they exist

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By *aysmitMan
over a year ago

walsall

Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

Happened to me a couple of times - we just both nodded in acknowledgement and moved away. I wasn't going to let it spoil our evening. J (her)

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My theory... show them what they're missing

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward. "

Do you think you have moved on? If you haven't just give it a miss...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Do you think you have moved on? If you haven't just give it a miss...

Ive most definitely moved on, just not sure I want to give him the pleasure of seeing me naked lol

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By *aysmitMan
over a year ago

walsall

"My theory... show them what they're missing

Totally agree xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can only make you feel awkward if you allow it to. Walk in with the mindset that you are there to enjoy yourself rather than focusing on past events.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I saw my ex 2 weeks ago in a club I think he was more affected by it than I was as he has already moved on quickly to a "vanilla" relationship I think he was more surprised to see me than I was too see him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x"

oh dear! Must run in the family

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By *aysmitMan
over a year ago

walsall

"Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x

oh dear! Must run in the family

lol was awkward im telling you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x

oh dear! Must run in the family

lol was awkward im telling you x"

I'd of been mortified !!

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Do you think you have moved on? If you haven't just give it a miss...

Ive most definitely moved on, just not sure I want to give him the pleasure of seeing me naked lol"

That is inevitable, I am afraid...just do your thing, forget about what pleasure he may be getting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward. "

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Do you think you have moved on? If you haven't just give it a miss...

Ive most definitely moved on, just not sure I want to give him the pleasure of seeing me naked lol

That is inevitable, I am afraid...just do your thing, forget about what pleasure he may be getting.

I'm not bothered about the pleasure he's getting. I just don't really want him seeing me naked and standing watching. I just think the atmosphere would be awkward. But then I've never been to the club before either so I'm not sure what to expect anyway.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out."

I made a point of staying....his issue was that he couldn't handle that we met on the scene...he didn't think it was healthy...I thought fuck it and stayed and everybody was saying how good I looked...I saw his willy

as it had dropped out and he saw me in a see through dress so I can understand that you may feel a bit like he shouldn't have the pleasure of seeing you naked...however don't change and don't go because you might bump into him..I have the same issue going to the club I'm going to but then I think fuck it I'm the single one...

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward. "

Not sure how i would feel! Suppose it's the only good thing about not having any partners in the past, you never have that fear of bumping into one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out.

Good for you and you have a great attitude. Think I'd have to go with someone though to have that much confidence. Not sure I'm brave enough to go as a single fem . X

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"My theory... show them what they're missing

Definitely the best idea x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My theory... show them what they're missing

Definitely the best idea x"

I hate the idea of him stood watching though, complete turn off for me. He doesn't deserve to see me naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw my ex 2 weeks ago in a club I think he was more affected by it than I was as he has already moved on quickly to a "vanilla" relationship I think he was more surprised to see me than I was too see him "

Am I the only one wondering what he was doing there if he is now in a vanilla relationship

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out.

Good for you and you have a great attitude. Think I'd have to go with someone though to have that much confidence. Not sure I'm brave enough to go as a single fem . X"

Don't get me wrong my stomach was doing somersaults and like you it was ended rather strained...not my me, it was funny to see him in there but I had to do it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x

oh dear! Must run in the family

lol was awkward im telling you x"

As long as you didn't play together ....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Am I the only one wondering what he was doing there if he is now in a vanilla relationship

I asked him the same thing as he told me....I never got an answer

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Do you think you have moved on? If you haven't just give it a miss...

Ive most definitely moved on, just not sure I want to give him the pleasure of seeing me naked lol

That is inevitable, I am afraid...just do your thing, forget about what pleasure he may be getting.

Go with someone, it will help feel comfortable, and some clubs have private lockable rooms, where you can play in private, so he does not have to see you naked, unless if you are an exhibitionist...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Do you think you have moved on? If you haven't just give it a miss...

Ive most definitely moved on, just not sure I want to give him the pleasure of seeing me naked lol

That is inevitable, I am afraid...just do your thing, forget about what pleasure he may be getting.

Go with someone, it will help feel comfortable, and some clubs have private lockable rooms, where you can play in private, so he does not have to see you naked, unless if you are an exhibitionist...

Thank you for the advice. I may post a forum post one day about my club experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My theory... show them what they're missing

my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My theory... show them what they're missing

my thoughts exactly "

Wouldn't want him watching lol

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"My theory... show them what they're missing

my thoughts exactly

Wouldn't want him watching lol"

Then go to a lockable room- just enjoy yourself...

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By *aysmitMan
over a year ago

walsall

"My theory... show them what they're missing

my thoughts exactly

Wouldn't want him watching lol

Then go to a lockable room- just enjoy yourself...

lol just don't moan the wrong persons name. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good job it wasn't a masquerade evening haha

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward. "

Go to another club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to meet a couple but she wanted more than just fun meets with the hubby. We went to a club and they were there and the other couples male tried to get punchy. Hubby didn't touch him or raise a hand at all.

He showed he was the stronger person so just go and Sod him and enjoy yourself. Think of how jealous he will be seeing you having fun lol

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

Give him the pleasure of you get fucked look at him and say ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My theory... show them what they're missing

my thoughts exactly

Wouldn't want him watching lol

Then go to a lockable room- just enjoy yourself...

I don't feel that I should have to go and lock myself away though. I enjoy being watched and having others to play with x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Go to another club?"

There only is one club that's close to me, as I'm limited for time I'm unable to travel too far out of my area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x

oh dear! Must run in the family

lol was awkward im telling you x

I'd of been mortified !!

Why? Both there for same thing....obv not with each other but have a laugh about it?

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out."

Shame I am not closer I would be happy to accompany you to a club for a night. And he would not get a look in if he was there. trust me you would not notice if he was you would be having too much fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out.

Now that's the sort of man I need to take me to a club

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"My theory... show them what they're missing

Totally agree xx"

Not you! That's just wrong!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"Well last year I bumped into my sister at Chams that was awkward x"

Do you now have a schedule for who goes & when, so as to avoid further embarrassment?

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"I fancy going to a Club but would be worried about bumping into an ex who I had an affair with bit ended on "strained" terms. Has anyone experienced this and how did you deal with it?

I feel I'd have to leave as I would feel awkward.

Depends who I'm there with too I suppose. If I went on my own I'd just want to walk straight back out.

Now that's the sort of man I need to take me to a club

It would be my honour sexy lady. The logistics will take abit of working but its all possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My theory... show them what they're missing

This

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